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dreamxhaser:
I don't think I can even trust women again.

You lost the game before you even began.

@bolded, what men that have been used by women say/men that don't understand women.

All I can say to you bro is that oneitis is a bitch,go out and explore in order to cure your ailment .

Karlifate:
Dear [young] men,

Everything in this world is achievable.

It's not a question of whether it's possible or not.

It's a question of whether you're ready to do what's required.

"It's impossible" are the words of lazy cowards.

Be like Nike & just do it!

You are on point,

but...

Many “gurus” claim that you can achieve anything in life, but this is sometimes not true.

Dr Duke an American successful business woman who was profiled in Entrepreneur Magazine said: “In order to succeed, you are going to have to stick to hard things. But also, to succeed, you’re going to have to quit the things that aren’t worth pursuing.”


The truth is, Not everything in this world is achievable. Or better say, Not everything is worth pursuing.

This is not a matter of “limiting beliefs”. The Idea is to look at life from a realistic stand point, brutally look at your odds, and focus on the things you are most likely to succeed in.


Using women for example, the best way to improve your odds with women isn't to try to pursue any girl, but instead to go for the girls you are most likely to get to get with...

For example if you pursue a girl who's married, or happily engaged or obsessed with another guy, you most likely to fail in getting in her. It's not because you lack game. It's just that the odds are stacked against you.

Same in career and business in general , to improve your odds,

#1. realistically looking at where the world is going to.

For example, if you pursue a career in newspaper production, then you are more likely to fail in the long run, NOT because you are not hard working or determined enough, It's because Printed newspapers are less appealing because with the rise of the internet, digital platform and social media, people now have instant access to news from various sources at their fingertips.


#2. Identifying your strength and weakness...

For example, if you are short by nature as a man, then you more likely to fail if you try to pursue a career in basketball. It doesn't matter how much “hard work” and determination you puts in. It's just common sense.

Life is not fair, but God being a kind and compassionate being install different talent, strength or potential in each every creature on earth in order ensure the survival.

For example, The Cheeter speed allows it hunt its prey quickly... The eagle eyes allows it to see it's prey from a very far distance...and so on.

Just like the idea is to identify a girl who's somehow ALREADY ATTRACTED to you and go for her....

The idea is to identify the strength and potentials that you ALREADY HAVE and work hard on that.

For example, if you're pretty above average in mathematics and you pursue a career in programming, then you are more likely to succeed if you put in the effort. Or if you are naturally creatively funny and good in making people laugh, then a career in stand up comedy might favour you. Or if you have a thing for animals and you go into poultry business, then you are more likely to go ahead.

The take away from this is: working hard is a good thing, as long as it’s on the right thing....

Why do you guys hide your wedding and engagement from your fellow redpillers, does it make you feel less of a redpiller?

Martinez39s wedding is slated for December, Introduction done and dusted. This message is from a reliable nairalander and my secret redpiller friend.

Pukkalolo:
When you said,

"Some people will tell you not to "think with your díck" OR not to "Focus on her pùssy"


I know you're indirectly referring to me, because we know already I often say, "stop being pussy focused, instead be attention focused"



I'm not surprised that some guys will disagree with me on this, because back in the days, I would also disagree with myself.


But when I got to a level of confidence, sexual experience and maturity, I understood that---

A true powerful guy doesn't think with his dick.

A true confident guy is not pussy focused.

A true dominant guy doesn't have a goal of fucking her, he has a different goal entirely.

You'll find out what that goal is in a moment....Read on.



When I tell some guys to stop being pussy focused and to stop thinking with their dicks, their emotions get triggered and they try to disagree with me just like you are doing now.


Well, it's not your fault, it's the society fault. The media and society have brain washed men to believe that a woman's pussy is a highly valuable commodity that must be chased and acquired. This is why most men think with their dicks.




Thinking with your díck" OR being "Focus on her pùssy happens to be the biggest roadblock preventing most guys from even getting the pussy.


Here's how....


If you've read Stephen R. Covey's The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. He talked about something which really resonate with this issue.


Covey says that the more you concentrate on factors out of your control, the more your degree of "influence" is going to decrease. And Covey says that the more you concentrate on factors that are within your direct control, the greater your degree of influence increases.


As man, having access to a woman's pussy is totally out your control because it's the woman that "decide" if you'll get the sex or not. Anything that a woman has to "agree to" or has some degree of decision-making power is NOT in your direct control.


When you focus on something(pussy) which is out of your control, that thing(pussy) controls you.


So if you're thinking with your díck OR you're focus on her pùssy, then she controls you.


If you've read the "THE POWER OF PUSSY" by Kathy.


In that book, she literally said "most guys are pussy focused, so if you want exploit, manipulate and control men, you have to leverage the power of your pussy. The tactics in that book is so devilish. The idea in the book is to get the man to think with his dick and focus on the pussy, because that's the only way the woman can manipulate and control him.


Isn't it funny how these generation of men is the weakest and least respected by women. One reason for that is because these generation of men think with their dicks and they value the pussy more than their time and self-respect.


One thing I discovered is that most times, the guy who is struggling to get the girl is struggling because he has the desperate goal of fùcking her. Because, to him fucking her is the prize to win, so he view getting the pussy as winning and he view NOT getting the pussy as losing.


To define winning by getting the pussy is putting your power and self-worth in the hands of the woman.


If a woman has the POWER to make you a winner or loser by simply giving you the pussy or NOT giving you, then she will use that power against you to toy with your emotions and manipulate you.



If you want to be truly POWERFUL with women and get them follow your lead as the leader, then you need to eradicate low value mindset.


Thinking with your dick or focusing on the pussy is a low value mindset.


You are not supposed be worried about getting the pussy. The woman should be the one worrying if she should give you the pussy or not.


Your job is to be at your most powerful behavior. Her job is to seduce and mate with the powerful guy.


As a guy, if you have to be the one to seduce her, then you're doing something fundamentally wrong.


A powerful guy doesn't seduce the woman because he's the GREAT CATCH to be won over. Instead he gives the woman the opportunity and chance to seduce him. It's the woman's job to seduce you.


Women are the ultimate seducers. But Women are not seducing because men are pussy focused, trying to seduce the women.


Look, the true Power lies with the one who is being seduced not the one seducing. In that case, True game is the ability to get the woman to be the seducer and chaser. She has to be the one craving for your attention; NOT you craving for her pussy.



Just yesterday, this dark cute lady literally told me, "if you make me your girlfriend, you are gonna enjoy me..." (I guess I have talked about how I met her somewhere on this thread where I was asked about the topic relating to "engaging in small talks vs having deep conversations with a good girl"


The other day another girl was telling me, "you this big head, I gave you my phone number but you never cared to even call me."


Again, Last week another lady was telling me, "you don't want me to come to your house, right?... A fine girl like me wants to visit you, you are doing shakara."



Now, the reason why these ladies are craving for my attention is because I'm not focus on their pussy. I treat their pussies like it worthless to me. This literally drives them crazy and get them confused because they rarely see a guy who's not thinking with his dick and doesn't give a fuvk flying about getting their pussies.





To wrap it up,


To win with women, the pussy has to naturally come to you; NOT you being focused on it or trying to calculatedly seduce your way to get it.


This is very important.


Treat women like humans, and not like some "pussy prize" or trophy to be won.


The GOAL is NOT to Bleep her. That's a childish goal. That kind of goal will make you feel WEAK and insecure because fucking her is not in your direct control.


Rather THE GOAL is to simply find out if she's truly interested you and if she's even worth your attention. That kind of goal will make you come across as mature, assertive and confident. Because you are treating your attention as the prize to be won, not her pussy.




Now, most guys won't quickly or easily grab all this concept have just written because they are not socially conditioned to think this way; instead they've been socially programmed to be focused on the pussy and to think with their dicks.


This is way deeper, and It will take some experience and paradigm shift before a guy can truly apply this mindset.


But just bookmark or save this page because I believe I have planted a seed in your mind; one day the seed with germinate and you'll experience a mindset shift and you will look back for this post and say, "Wow! Pukka was right all this while, a guy shouldn't be pussy focused."


Stay blessed.

Pukkalolo . I understand you are trying to help men with dating issues . But you haven't said anything different from what dating coaches on this public site have said in the past .
What I mean is that , you are trying too hard to sound different.

And again. Focusing on the pussy or not, all leads to getting laid. Not focusing on it makes no difference. Strategies differ . It all depends on the one that works good for individual.

Not focusing on pussy is classified under the indirect game .
Focusing on it , is classified under the direct game .

Both direct game ( being upfront with your sexual intentions) and indirect game ( hiding your sexual intentions) , both work effectively, depending on the individual and context.

Smartb0y:
You lost the game before you even began.

@bolded, what men that have been used by women say/men that don't understand women.

All I can say to you bro is that oneitis is a bitch,go out and explore in order to cure your ailment .

Thanks man

It really hurts but how we go do. I have myself to blame

Just look at that Davido clip if that crap is even real.

Man simps are a disgrace

Nasri100:
Just look at that Davido clip if that crap is even real.

You find it hard to believe cos it's "Davido" in the clip

We all saw what Will Smith that has more class than him turned out to be.

Money doesn't make you automatically immune to female shenanigans. 💯

Man simps are a disgrace

When we say "death to simps", knights in shining armors begin to unsheath their swords from their armory

Men full here doing the best.. greeting to everyone here..

Karlifate:
You find it hard to believe cos it's "Davido" in the clip

We all saw what Will Smith that has more class than him turned out to be.

Money doesn't make you automatically immune to female shenanigans. 💯




When we say "death to simps", knights in shining armors begin to unsheath their swords from their armory

You will also beg for it, this is how you guys form hard in public but becomes something more than weak when begging for sex. If David is kneeling for sex I'm sure you and your cohorts will lay flat to beg for sex. Keep deceiving yourselves, only women can tell you who is truly a hard man and not the hype and forming you write here.

I still remember when I was ordering a high ranking army officer up and down this Abuja till I finally cut him off kos I don't do married people and not up for all those things. I'm sure he's much more than a redpiller. Keep deceiving yourselves.

EreluRoz:
You will also beg for it, this is how you guys form hard in public but becomes something more than weak when begging for sex. If David is kneeling for sex I'm sure you and your cohorts will lay flat to beg for sex. Keep deceiving yourselves, only women can tell you who is truly a hard man and not the hype and forming you write here.

I still remember when I was ordering a high ranking army officer up and down this Abuja till I finally cut him off kos I don't do married people and not up for all those things. I'm sure he's much more than a redpiller. Keep deceiving yourselves.

Brighter Grammar will do a lot for your life walahi

Perfectskills01:
Pukkalolo . I understand you are trying to help men with dating issues . But you haven't said anything different from what dating coaches on this public site have said in the past .
What I mean is that , you are trying too hard to sound different.

And again. Focusing on the pussy or not, all leads to getting laid. Not focusing on it makes no difference. Strategies differ . It all depends on the one that works good for individual.

Not focusing on pussy is classified under the indirect game .
Focusing on it , is classified under the direct game .

Both direct game ( being upfront with your sexual intentions) and indirect game ( hiding your sexual intentions) , both work effectively, depending on the individual and context.

First off, my concept of Not being pussy focused has nothing to do with direct/indirect game crap. It's more of mindset.

Perfectskills01, Let me ask you:

Have you ever encounter this with a girl:

You're alone with her for the first time and you are trying to get sexual with her, but she's resisting your touch and pushing you away....

Many guys have write me about experiencing that with women...

But let me brutally honest with you: I hardly experience this(since I got experience with women). When I'm alone with a girl for the first time, the physical escalation often go smoothly towards sex. Infact sometimes I'm the one telling the females, "take it slow baby girl, why are you so in a rush to get this dick."

This is because the girls feel very comfortable about the idea of going sexual with me.

What's my secret?

This relate to the Idea of not being pussy focused...


Okay, let's begin proper.

Let's meet John...

John ask a girl to be his girlfriend, but after he ask her out, she started giving him attitude and misbehaving...

So John comes to the redpill/pua guys. They tell John that the mistake he made was that he asked her out. They tell him, "never ask a girl out; never try to go into relationship first... Instead first Bleep her...once you Bleep her, you'll hold the power, then she will now be the person chasing you."

So John start going about trying to Bleep first, in order to hold the power.

But unfortunately what John didn't realize is that by trying to Bleep her first, he's also giving her the power, regardless.

This is the reason why the typical young girl feels so saucy and entitled nowadays...

Why?

Because every guy she meet seem to be so concern about get her pussy, as if there's some gold or treasure in there....

Now, John initially failed with women because he's putting relationship first before sex... So John decided to put sex first before relationship, but despite that John is still failing with women.

That's because putting the pussy first is not really also the solution...

So what's the solution?

Good question!


The typical woman have different mental barriers that prevents her from going sexual with you. Those mental barriers in her head are what makes her feel cheap/guilty/ashamed/unexcited about going sexual with you.

If a girl isn't allowing you go sexual with her, then it's because you have not break down those mental barriers in her head.

Have you heard of the idiom: "putting the Cart before the horse." This means putting the wrong thing first.

The horse is what move the cart, so If you want the cart to move, then put the horse first (forward).

With women, the cart is getting the pussy, while the horse is breaking down her mental barriers.


When you're focused on the pussy you are putting the cart before the horse. This Is why guys always end up somehow losing the girl they have a chance with.

But your game with women will change when you put less important on getting the pussy, because you understand that once you break down those mental barrier in her head, the pussy naturally take care of itself.

When you break down those mental barrier, she'll feels excited/comfortable about getting sexual with you.

I hope you get the idea...

If you want learn more on this idea, feel free to check out my stuff...

Pukkalolo:
First off, my concept of Not being pussy focused has nothing to do with direct/indirect game crap. It's more of mindset.

Perfectskills01, Let me ask you:

Have you ever encounter this with a girl:

You're alone with her for the first time and you are trying to get sexual with her, but she's resisting your touch and pushing you away....

Many guys have write me about experiencing that with women...

But let me brutally honest with you: I hardly experience this(since I got experience with women). When I'm alone with a girl for the first time, the physical escalation often go smoothly towards sex. Infact sometimes I'm the one telling the females, "take it slow baby girl, why are you so in a rush to get this dick."

This is because the girls feel very comfortable about the idea of going sexual with me.

What's my secret?

This relate to the Idea of not being pussy focused...


Okay, let's begin proper.

Let's meet John...

John ask a girl to be his girlfriend, but after he ask her out, she started giving him attitude and misbehaving...

So John comes to the redpill/pua guys. They tell John that the mistake he made was that he asked her out. They tell him, "never ask a girl out; never try to go into relationship first... Instead first Bleep her...once you Bleep her, you'll hold the power, then she will now be the person chasing you."

So John start going about trying to Bleep first, in order to hold the power.

But unfortunately what John didn't realize is that by trying to Bleep her first, he's also giving her the power, regardless.

This is the reason why the typical young girl feels so saucy and entitled nowadays...

Why?

Because every guy she meet seem to be so concern about get her pussy, as if there's some gold or treasure in there....

Now, John initially failed with women because he's putting relationship first before sex... So John decided to put sex first before relationship, but despite that John is still failing with women.

That's because putting the pussy first is not really also the solution...

So what's the solution?

Good question!


The typical woman have different mental barriers that prevents her from going sexual with you. Those mental barriers in her head are what makes her feel cheap/guilty/ashamed/unexcited about going sexual with you.

If a girl isn't allowing you go sexual with her, then it's because you have not break down those mental barriers in her head.

Have you heard of the idiom: "putting the Cart before the horse." This means putting the wrong thing first.

The horse is what move the cart, so If you want the cart to move, then put the horse first (forward).

With women, the cart is getting the pussy, while the horse is breaking down her mental barriers.


When you're focused on the pussy you are putting the cart before the horse. This Is why guys always end up somehow losing the girl they have a chance with.

But your game with women will change when you put less important on getting the pussy, because you understand that once you break down those mental barrier in her head, the pussy naturally take care of itself.

When you break down those mental barrier, she'll feels excited/comfortable about getting sexual with you.

I hope you get the idea...

If you want learn more on this idea, feel free to check out my stuff...

Said a lot but somehow still ended up saying nothing. It could be anything. Every life scenario isn't a game of chess

What will make girls likely to tell you I have a boyfriend, not necessarily directly but somehow they Interject into the play...


I experienced it twice from two different girls today, going home, it hit me and I was like what was that?

First girl;

Say something naughty in a chat with her
while saying she's ganna pay before I did that nauthy stuff and she said, "I weak self, make my boyfriend no just read this chat"

Of course I replied back with, "when he does find out,send him my location"



Second one, I was rough handling her because she playfully threw a piece of paper my way ...to get my attention I guess, I held her hand and she was acting ajebo like, that I am hurting her, if my boyfriend catch you...I laugh and squeeze her more and end the play...I flirt alot with this girls and touch them and they don't object.


I have ego too, may see them and act as if they mean nothing self...

The first gal have to come out and meet me when I hail some home boys and left to a quiet place, she was like, watin dey worry u self... although I actually didn't see her...


I want to understand why this trying to Interject "I have a boyfriend talk"

Both have tested me with marriage talk and I always gear towards no marriage for now



Rizzputing

Pukkalolo

I wanna hear you two out

Pukkalolo:
First off, my concept of Not being pussy focused has nothing to do with direct/indirect game crap. It's more of mindset.

Perfectskills01, Let me ask you:

Have you ever encounter this with a girl:

You're alone with her for the first time and you are trying to get sexual with her, but she's resisting your touch and pushing you away....

Many guys have write me about experiencing that with women...

But let me brutally honest with you: I hardly experience this(since I got experience with women). When I'm alone with a girl for the first time, the physical escalation often go smoothly towards sex. Infact sometimes I'm the one telling the females, "take it slow baby girl, why are you so in a rush to get this dick."

This is because the girls feel very comfortable about the idea of going sexual with me.

What's my secret?

This relate to the Idea of not being pussy focused...


Okay, let's begin proper.

Let's meet John...

John ask a girl to be his girlfriend, but after he ask her out, she started giving him attitude and misbehaving...

So John comes to the redpill/pua guys. They tell John that the mistake he made was that he asked her out. They tell him, "never ask a girl out; never try to go into relationship first... Instead first Bleep her...once you Bleep her, you'll hold the power, then she will now be the person chasing you."

So John start going about trying to Bleep first, in order to hold the power.

But unfortunately what John didn't realize is that by trying to Bleep her first, he's also giving her the power, regardless.

This is the reason why the typical young girl feels so saucy and entitled nowadays...

Why?

Because every guy she meet seem to be so concern about get her pussy, as if there's some gold or treasure in there....

Now, John initially failed with women because he's putting relationship first before sex... So John decided to put sex first before relationship, but despite that John is still failing with women.

That's because putting the pussy first is not really also the solution...

So what's the solution?

Good question!


The typical woman have different mental barriers that prevents her from going sexual with you. Those mental barriers in her head are what makes her feel cheap/guilty/ashamed/unexcited about going sexual with you.

If a girl isn't allowing you go sexual with her, then it's because you have not break down those mental barriers in her head.

Have you heard of the idiom: "putting the Cart before the horse." This means putting the wrong thing first.

The horse is what move the cart, so If you want the cart to move, then put the horse first (forward).

With women, the cart is getting the pussy, while the horse is breaking down her mental barriers.


When you're focused on the pussy you are putting the cart before the horse. This Is why guys always end up somehow losing the girl they have a chance with.

But your game with women will change when you put less important on getting the pussy, because you understand that once you break down those mental barrier in her head, the pussy naturally take care of itself.

When you break down those mental barrier, she'll feels excited/comfortable about getting sexual with you.

I hope you get the idea...

If you want learn more on this idea, feel free to check out my stuff...

No be only stuff. Na puff. So you dey write all these meaningless epistles to promote book? Hungry man like you. Yamayama fall on that your thin neck wey long like tolotolo own

Tranquility2345:
Brighter Grammar will do a lot for your life walahi

Stop quoting me please. You are not my target here

EreluRoz:
Stop quoting me please. You are not my target here

STFU! I don’t care who your target is but I must let you know that your grammar is bad. You must be a very raz okpo that wears fake smelly wigs 🤢🤮

Interesting 😆. iPhone sellers must be seeing a lot 🤦‍♂️😆

A redpiller on a group chat came to share with other redpillers his billing encounter with a daughter of zion. Your thoughts?

Martinez39s:
A redpiller on a group chat came to share with other redpillers his billing encounter with a daughter of zion.

WTF is wrong with a girl asking for a mere 200 naira airtime? You and your friends must be a bunch of broke ass negroes. As in 200 naira? What will your type now do when you meet those slay queens that are asking for 200k from men? Na wa o…

heartofcity12:
Interesting 😆. iPhone sellers must be seeing a lot 🤦‍♂️😆

Only an idiot will believe this nonsense. What kind of hopeless people are these lazy youths wey person dey jam for here sef?

Adasun:
What will make girls likely to tell you I have a boyfriend, not necessarily directly but somehow they Interject into the play...


I experienced it twice from two different girls today, going home, it hit me and I was like what was that?

First girl;

Say something naughty in a chat with her
while saying she's ganna pay before I did that nauthy stuff and she said, "I weak self, make my boyfriend no just read this chat"

Of course I replied back with, "when he does find out,send him my location"



Second one, I was rough handling her because she playfully threw a piece of paper my way ...to get my attention I guess, I held her hand and she was acting ajebo like, that I am hurting her, if my boyfriend catch you...I laugh and squeeze her more and end the play...I flirt alot with this girls and touch them and they don't object.


I have ego too, may see them and act as if they mean nothing self...

The first gal have to come out and meet me when I hail some home boys and left to a quiet place, she was like, watin dey worry u self... although I actually didn't see her...


I want to understand why this trying to Interject "I have a boyfriend talk"

Both have tested me with marriage talk and I always gear towards no marriage for now



Rizzputing

Pukkalolo

I wanna hear you two out

This is an interesting question... And I hope guys learn from this.

Let's begin...

Most times, if I meet a girl and she seriously let me know she has a husband, fiance or serious boyfriend, I generally often tend to end my conversations with her immediately and move on. This is because I hate going after another man's woman. Some guys enjoy fucking other men's wife or girlfriend, but that's bullshit. I don't do that.


Anyways... Beyond that,


One might say: the "I have a boyfriend" line is just a shit test. Or she's just pretending.

Well...

Here's something I've noticed over the years:

In many occasions when a girl has real interest in me, she rarely tells me she has a boyfriend. Infact, there many times a girl would have a boyfriend but she would hide that information from me because she scared of losing me.

I sometimes label the "I Have A Boyfriend," line as a sign that she doesn't really fancy me...

So she's not worth the pursuit; because If she's interested enough, she won't even bring up the boyfriend talk...

Okay wait...But what if she's interested but she just shit testing me?

So what should I do? Pass her shit test?

Hell fucking No!

In and of itself, trying to pass a woman's shit test is an act of submission. God test Abraham. Teacher test student. Employer test job candidate.

The person giving out the test holds more authority than the person trying to pass the test.

So by trying to pass a woman shit test, you are automatically affirming that she has more authority than you. To demonstrate that you are in charge, you shouldn't be trying to pass a woman's shit test.... Instead you should be punishing her shit test.

Ok, let's play:

Jake the pua/game junkie meets Sarah the entitled bitch.

Sarah makes some saucy entitled statement... Jake thinks, "Wow! that's a shit test, I gotta pass it so I can get laid."

Sarah see that he's trying to vibe with her despite her sauciness. He's rewarding her for being a saucy brat. This energized her more, so she keeps throwing out more shit test, and Jake keeps making a fool out of himself just because he needs pussy.

But at the end of the day, Jake still didn't get the pussy. Jake got mad.

Let's meet Tony, he has low tolerance for bullshit and silly mind games.. Tony meet Sarah the saucy entitled bitch.

Sarah makes some saucy entitled statement.... Tony thinks, "That's bullshit ! I gotta purnish her so this doesn't repeat itself again."

Sarah sees that Tony doesn't seemed really impressed with her bullshit. He seemed to be withdrawing his attention. Tony doesn't give a flying Bleep about her overrated pussy.

Sarah thinks, "Wow, this dude is totally different from this other pussy focused losers(Jake) in my DM."

So she's forced to adjust and act right.... Days later, Tony bleeped Sarah. While Jake is still busy somewhere trying to come up with a better technique to pass her shit test.


Look, Adasun. The reason while these ladies keep playfully interjecting the boyfriend talk is because you've not yet demonstrate to them that you are a no-nonsense guy that highly value his time....

By punishing her shit test, you are demonstrating to her that you are a No-nonsense guy that highly value his time.

I have couple of personal real life examples on this issue with women...

I could remember this one time I was chatting with this lady. Along the line she said she's experiencing a minor pain somewhere on her back or joint because she lifted a heavy box or something like that... So I told her, later I'm gonna give her sexy massage to ease her off the pain....

Adasun, Just like your experience, she immediately interjected the boyfriend talk, she said, "Ah massage me? let my boyfriends not catch you ."

Immediately, I knew I must purnish her for that statement so it doesn't repeat itself again.

My response was, "hmmm... So you are one of those girls"

Then I totally started ignoring the rest of her chat...

She drop the message... "One of those girls as how" I read but ignored her message.

She drop another message.. "Hey... Can't you talk." I ignored it again.

She dropped the third message: "Haba! Are you angry because of what I said... so one can't joke with you again."

From the third message she sent, I can tell she was only just fronting with the initial boyfriend line.. and the way I respond after the boyfriend line quickly made her sit up and started behaving right towards me...

After that little dramatic saga between us, she started behaving right... Our interaction sail smoothly towards a sexual one...

She could sees that I've got low tolerance for bullshit: my worth and value immediately increase in her eyes...



In summary, As a Man, it's important you demonstrate to the woman that you highly value your time and you got low tolerance for her bullshit.

Stay blessed.

Pukkalolo:
This is an interesting question... And I hope guys learn from this.

Let's begin...

Most times, if I meet a girl and she seriously let me know she has a husband, fiance or serious boyfriend, I generally often tend to end my conversations with her immediately and move on. This is because I hate going after another man's woman. Some guys enjoy fucking other men's wife or girlfriend, but that's bullshit. I don't do that.


Anyways... Beyond that,


One might say: the "I have a boyfriend" line is just a shit test. Or she's just pretending.

Well...

Here's something I've noticed over the years:

In many occasions when a girl has real interest in me, she rarely tells me she has a boyfriend. Infact, there many times a girl would have a boyfriend but she would hide that information from me because she scared of losing me.

I sometimes label the "I Have A Boyfriend," line as a sign that she doesn't really fancy me...

So she's not worth the pursuit; because If she's interested enough, she won't even bring up the boyfriend talk...

Okay wait...But what if she's interested but she just shit testing me?

So what should I do? Pass her shit test?

Hell fucking No!

In and of itself, trying to pass a woman's shit test is an act of submission. God test Abraham. Teacher test student. Employer test job candidate.

The person giving out the test holds more authority than the person trying to pass the test.

So by trying to pass a woman shit test, you are automatically affirming that she has more authority than you. To demonstrate that you are in charge, you shouldn't be trying to pass a woman's shit test.... Instead you should be punishing her shit test.

Ok, let's play:

Jake the pua/game junkie meets Sarah the entitled bitch.

Sarah makes some saucy entitled statement... Jake thinks, "Wow! that's a shit test, I gotta pass it so I can get laid."

Sarah see that he's trying to vibe with her despite her sauciness. He's rewarding her for being a saucy brat. This energized her more, so she keeps throwing out more shit test, and Jake keeps making a fool out of himself just because he needs pussy.

But at the end of the day, Jake still didn't get the pussy. Jake got mad.

Let's meet Tony, he has low tolerance for bullshit and silly mind games.. Tony meet Sarah the saucy entitled bitch.

Sarah makes some saucy entitled statement.... Tony thinks, "That's bullshit ! I gotta purnish her so this doesn't repeat itself again."

Sarah sees that Tony doesn't seemed really impressed with her bullshit. He seemed to be withdrawing his attention. Tony doesn't give a flying Bleep about her overrated pussy.

Sarah thinks, "Wow, this dude is totally different from this other pussy focused losers(Jake) in my DM."

So she's forced to adjust and act right.... Days later, Tony bleeped Sarah. While Jake is still busy somewhere trying to come up with a better technique to pass her shit test.


Look, Adasun. The reason while these ladies keep playfully interjecting the boyfriend talk is because you've not yet demonstrate to them that you are a no-nonsense guy that highly value his time....

By punishing her shit test, you are demonstrating to her that you are a No-nonsense guy that highly value his time.

I have couple of personal real life examples on this issue with women...

I could remember this one time I was chatting with this lady. Along the line she said she's experiencing a minor pain somewhere on her back or joint because she lifted a heavy box or something like that... So I told her, later I'm gonna give her sexy massage to ease her off the pain....

Adasun, Just like your experience, she immediately interjected the boyfriend talk, she said, "Ah massage me? let my boyfriends not catch you ."

Immediately, I knew I must purnish her for that statement so it doesn't repeat itself again.

My response was, "hmmm... So you are one of those girls"

Then I totally started ignoring the rest of her chat...

She drop the message... "One of those girls as how" I read but ignored her message.

She drop another message.. "Hey... Can't you talk." I ignored it again.

She dropped the third message: "Haba! Are you angry because of what I said... so one can't joke with you again."

From the third message she sent, I can tell she was only just fronting with the initial boyfriend line.. and the way I respond after the boyfriend line quickly made her sit up and started behaving right towards me...

After that little dramatic saga between us, she started behaving right... Our interaction sail smoothly towards a sexual one...

She could sees that I've got low tolerance for bullshit: my worth and value immediately increase in her eyes...



In summary, As a Man, it's important you demonstrate to the woman that you highly value your time and you got low tolerance for her bullshit.

Stay blessed.

How can an able bodied man just sit down and be writing fictitious epistles about women if he didn’t have a motive? Now I know your motive. To make money from stupid gullible youths. Anyway, I wont knock your hustle. Afterall, man must chop. But you and I know that you no dey get women as you claim. You know you are a chronic masturbator and porn addict. You know it…

Pukkalolo:
This is an interesting question... And I hope guys learn from this.

Let's begin...

Most times, if I meet a girl and she seriously let me know she has a husband, fiance or serious boyfriend, I generally often tend to end my conversations with her immediately and move on. This is because I hate going after another man's woman. Some guys enjoy fucking other men's wife or girlfriend, but that's bullshit. I don't do that.


Anyways... Beyond that,


One might say: the "I have a boyfriend" line is just a shit test. Or she's just pretending.

Well...

Here's something I've noticed over the years:

In many occasions when a girl has real interest in me, she rarely tells me she has a boyfriend. Infact, there many times a girl would have a boyfriend but she would hide that information from me because she scared of losing me.

I sometimes label the "I Have A Boyfriend," line as a sign that she doesn't really fancy me...

So she's not worth the pursuit; because If she's interested enough, she won't even bring up the boyfriend talk...

Okay wait...But what if she's interested but she just shit testing me?

So what should I do? Pass her shit test?

Hell fucking No!

In and of itself, trying to pass a woman's shit test is an act of submission. God test Abraham. Teacher test student. Employer test job candidate.

The person giving out the test holds more authority than the person trying to pass the test.

So by trying to pass a woman shit test, you are automatically affirming that she has more authority than you. To demonstrate that you are in charge, you shouldn't be trying to pass a woman's shit test.... Instead you should be punishing her shit test.

Ok, let's play:

Jake the pua/game junkie meets Sarah the entitled bitch.

Sarah makes some saucy entitled statement... Jake thinks, "Wow! that's a shit test, I gotta pass it so I can get laid."

Sarah see that he's trying to vibe with her despite her sauciness. He's rewarding her for being a saucy brat. This energized her more, so she keeps throwing out more shit test, and Jake keeps making a fool out of himself just because he needs pussy.

But at the end of the day, Jake still didn't get the pussy. Jake got mad.

Let's meet Tony, he has low tolerance for bullshit and silly mind games.. Tony meet Sarah the saucy entitled bitch.

Sarah makes some saucy entitled statement.... Tony thinks, "That's bullshit ! I gotta purnish her so this doesn't repeat itself again."

Sarah sees that Tony doesn't seemed really impressed with her bullshit. He seemed to be withdrawing his attention. Tony doesn't give a flying Bleep about her overrated pussy.

Sarah thinks, "Wow, this dude is totally different from this other pussy focused losers(Jake) in my DM."

So she's forced to adjust and act right.... Days later, Tony bleeped Sarah. While Jake is still busy somewhere trying to come up with a better technique to pass her shit test.


Look, Adasun. The reason while these ladies keep playfully interjecting the boyfriend talk is because you've not yet demonstrate to them that you are a no-nonsense guy that highly value his time....

By punishing her shit test, you are demonstrating to her that you are a No-nonsense guy that highly value his time.

I have couple of personal real life examples on this issue with women...

I could remember this one time I was chatting with this lady. Along the line she said she's experiencing a minor pain somewhere on her back or joint because she lifted a heavy box or something like that... So I told her, later I'm gonna give her sexy massage to ease her off the pain....

Adasun, Just like your experience, she immediately interjected the boyfriend talk, she said, "Ah massage me? let my boyfriends not catch you ."

Immediately, I knew I must purnish her for that statement so it doesn't repeat itself again.

My response was, "hmmm... So you are one of those girls"

Then I totally started ignoring the rest of her chat...

She drop the message... "One of those girls as how" I read but ignored her message.

She drop another message.. "Hey... Can't you talk." I ignored it again.

She dropped the third message: "Haba! Are you angry because of what I said... so one can't joke with you again."

From the third message she sent, I can tell she was only just fronting with the initial boyfriend line.. and the way I respond after the boyfriend line quickly made her sit up and started behaving right towards me...

After that little dramatic saga between us, she started behaving right... Our interaction sail smoothly towards a sexual one...

She could sees that I've got low tolerance for bullshit: my worth and value immediately increase in her eyes...



In summary, As a Man, it's important you demonstrate to the woman that you highly value your time and you got low tolerance for her bullshit.

Stay blessed.

thank you...


I will analyse the whole situation once more...

This Tranquility guy sha....you really need to get a life. Smh

dreamxhaser:
Guys!

Forgive my typos, no time to edit.

If you remeber that giril i told you guys about. Well, she don fvk me up.


Well, what happened is about a month ago, i noticed i cant acess her instagram account. I asked her and she told me, she deactivated the account.

Well, yesterday i found out the instagram account was still active.


Now before we started dating, she used to get alot of comments and repost on IG (from mostly men) and she will also repost them and reply the the comments. but once we started, she stopped. But when she blocked me she continued reposting replying the men and all that.

Now, i confronted her and asked her why she blocked me and started giving silly excuses, when she realized i wasnt falling for the lies, she started gaslighting me, so i just snubbed the chat (last night).

Now, the real issue is, there is this guy she has been telling me not to worry about. His a military guy in the NDA, according to her, she says, she rejected his proposal to date her before we started dating, which i think bruised his ego (you know those guys with pride)

but from the look things that guy is not giving up, especially when he discoverd she is currntly dating someone. The guy i still pushing and i think she is entertaining his efforts. All this one no pain me but the fact that my instincts are telling that guy wants to prove a point with her, i think he wants to play with her head if possible smash her (my thoughts though). Now if that should happen, i dont want to have anything to do with her, because i will proberbly be a laughing stock to him. Hence, i am thinking of letting go.

I went back and read your story again. And I remember coming across it some time back.

I wanted to respond back then but it skipped my mind. However, the tips people gave you back then were solid. And were enough to set you on the right path if you listened. Unfortunately, you did NOT listen. So here you are living the self fulfilling prophesy.

So what is a self fulfilling prophesy?

It's when you fear something might happen so you start acting insecure and in other ways like it as already happened. Soon, those insecure ways will eventually make what you afraid of to finally happen.

You see, when you're afraid to lose a girl, you act insecure. She can sense it. Like you're not the man she thought you were. Your insecurities will then make her doubt your value and she'll leave you or start looking for someone else.

As you can see from your relationship, it played out that way. At first, she wasn't giving guys attention. Then, you started wondering and getting scared about losing her. All of sudden, she blocked you and is now giving guys attention.

Everything you've done shows that she's the prize NOT you. With every girl you date, she must see you as the prize. She should be the one wondering how NOT to lose you.

In my life, girls usually often ask me "why me?" Meaning why did I choose to be with them. It's almost like they can't believe it

Because they see me with other girls which shows my abundance. Then my IDGAF attitude towards women in general... so they're wondering why this man would want them. And then they start finding ways to have me to themselves.

This is what the prize mentality is all about. Most guys just go about talking about being the prize. But women don't see your words or epistles you write on nairaland and telegram books. Women see your actions.

Are you actually behaving like you're the prize to be won? Or are you making her feel like the prize

In your case it's the latter... you want the relationship(and her) more than she does you.


You already rushed to blame girls and say how you won't trust women( typical trash red pill mindset)

When in actuality, you're the one who messed up the whole thing. And she is just responding as a natural woman to a guy who isn't sure of the value he hers or provides (AKA... being the prize)

>>>>>Your next moves


● Tbh, this relationship is on its last legs. If she's as fine as you claim, you should know hot girls give little room for error


And 4 -6 months is not enough dating time to cement her investment in you. Plus the blocking you thing is a very bad sign


● Raise your value. Find a purpose bigger than her and focus on it


● Meet new girls and interact with them. Flirt with them but don't over do it

Give her the impression that girls want you too. Never be too scared to give your girl some competition. Girls love competing over a man


● Have it at the back of your mind "The moment you're scared of losing a girl... you've already lost"


● Stop worrying about that army guy or whatever. Your ego is what sent you down this path. Don't let it drag you further.

Besides, girls can use one guy as a distraction by showing you while hiding the real side nigga...


● Find subtle and interesting ways to display that you have other girls


In summary:

Don't talk about being the prize. Actually become it and women will treat you that way

Martinez39s:
A redpiller on a group chat came to share with other redpillers his billing encounter with a daughter of zion. Your thoughts?

If he has been fùcking her, and he's naturally a generous person then why not.

If he hasn't fùcked her then the part she says "I didn't have airtime to call you" Is a LIE.

Personally, I don't know what a guy will be doing with a girl that bills airtime. Talk more of #200.

Girls should be scared to do this type of cheap billing. So either the guy has some weakness in his frame OR he's going after the wrong kind of women

Adasun:
What will make girls likely to tell you I have a boyfriend, not necessarily directly but somehow they Interject into the play...


I experienced it twice from two different girls today, going home, it hit me and I was like what was that?

First girl;

Say something naughty in a chat with her
while saying she's ganna pay before I did that nauthy stuff and she said, "I weak self, make my boyfriend no just read this chat"

Of course I replied back with, "when he does find out,send him my location"



Second one, I was rough handling her because she playfully threw a piece of paper my way ...to get my attention I guess, I held her hand and she was acting ajebo like, that I am hurting her, if my boyfriend catch you...I laugh and squeeze her more and end the play...I flirt alot with this girls and touch them and they don't object.


I have ego too, may see them and act as if they mean nothing self...

The first gal have to come out and meet me when I hail some home boys and left to a quiet place, she was like, watin dey worry u self... although I actually didn't see her...


I want to understand why this trying to Interject "I have a boyfriend talk"

Both have tested me with marriage talk and I always gear towards no marriage for now



Rizzputing

Pukkalolo

I wanna hear you two out

The short version of what I want to tell you is: Both girls are attracted to you and possibly want to fùck you


Now, let's dive into the long version....

When a girl hits you with a "I have a boyfriend" it boils down to three things:

1) when she said it
2) how she said it
3) And what you did or say before she said it

If you approach a girl and tells you "I have a boyfriend" quite early then she's rejecting you. And it doesn't matter is she actually has a bf or not. She's basically saying "You revealed all your cards to me so soon. There's no mystery and I'm not interested "


Now, how about when she does it much later in your case?

There are many scenarios but I won't talk about them here. Rather, I'll focus on your situation and tell you what both mean.


Before that let me start out by saying, I like your approach. Because you are letting the girl know your sexual desire for her.

I always tell guys NEVER to hide the fact that they find a girl sexually attractive or want to fùck her. Girls love desire and get turned on by it.

If a girl walked up to you and told you she'll fùck you so hard you'll pass out... whether you found her attractive at first or not... you'll feel a bit of sexual tension. That's the same thing that happens when you channel your sexual energy towards her in a smooth way.

The problem with this move is that most guys don't do it. Most guys prefer to patient or act as a friend or disguise till she gets very comfortable with them.

Attempting to be ballsy and fast the way you're doing is not something normal guys do. It's something men with confidence and charm do. Only an experienced seducer would do something like that.

Because of that, she'll test you or throw an obstacle to see how you handle it. If you handle it well, she gets even more attracted and is more eager to sleep with you.

Now, back to your specific situation:


● The first girl likes you. She's sneaky af. Your story is very familiar to me because I encounter it often myself.

So you guys chatted naughty then she says "I hope my boyfriend doesn't read this chat" This is womanese for two things. Meaning, it has two meanings

"I want this to be low key so don't be too naughty just in case"

AND

"I have a boyfriend and I'm telling you this so you'll know how to seduce me smoothly and not make me feel bad about cheating. Also, I'm telling you so in my mind I can blame you for making me cheat"


You see, when women want to cheat... they might feel a sense of guilt or shame and in order to get rid of it... they'll find something to blame. That is why lots of girls cheat at parties so they can blame "alcohol" or "being a drunk"

However, when those things aren't available they'll just blame the guy and convince themselves in their mind by saying "he made me do it" Telling you about their bf is a way to make themselves feel better by shifting the blame

I've slept with so many girlfriends and wives that I usually just smirk whenever I hear "omo my bf shouldn't see this" because I know what she's trying to communicate.

● The second girl is like the first ... if you held her hand in public she's probably telling you that you should be more low key with things that people might be watching...

Or possibly her crush might be watching. But that isn't any of your business tho, your own is to fùck her not be her crush or husband or bf


● Next, stop getting hung up on these reactions: girls flirting, girls chasing, girls showing green light.

Those are reactions not results. Only one result matters: you fùcking her or some sort of sexual stuff like blow jòb or anal etc

Why? Because if you've been seducing women long enough, you'd know a girl can give you green light today or seem interested today and flip the next time you see her.

But a girl you've slept with has hooked and invested something tangible.

Also some girls are just attention diggers (like gold diggers) They want your gold but they want to use your attention to feed their ego.

That's why you want to focus on what really matters, her fùcking you


● Lastly, game these girls like you normally would... But be chill and laid back about it.

They're attracted and want to fùck you. But be smooth, chill, laid back and charming about it.

Remember you're still the prize

SonOfHercules:
Promised to keep everyone updated.

Today, she started ranting about the Dubai guy again and I downplayed it. Told her to live her life so she doesn't get heartbroken. She brought the I like him card and I also downplayed it. Guess it was a shit test all along. Now she wants me to ask her out but she's on my bed eating suya.

Kinda happy I'm outta commitment for now. To Mr tranquility2345 , your line of thoughts has created lotta simps in the past. While women were learning male dynamics, we were fighting war and then that created lack of understanding of the female nature thereby creating men of today.

So I think every male child should learn a bit about female dynamics so he doesn't become a sissy.

Boys should take time out so they don't become simps and started worshipping vigina.

Selah

Good work. Nice that you focused on what's important

She'll still try to test you again in future tho with another guy or the same dubai guy

But as usual... don't fall for it

Adasun:
What will make girls likely to tell you I have a boyfriend, not necessarily directly but somehow they Interject into the play...


I experienced it twice from two different girls today, going home, it hit me and I was like what was that?

First girl;

Say something naughty in a chat with her
while saying she's ganna pay before I did that nauthy stuff and she said, "I weak self, make my boyfriend no just read this chat"

Of course I replied back with, "when he does find out,send him my location"



Second one, I was rough handling her because she playfully threw a piece of paper my way ...to get my attention I guess, I held her hand and she was acting ajebo like, that I am hurting her, if my boyfriend catch you...I laugh and squeeze her more and end the play...I flirt alot with this girls and touch them and they don't object.


I have ego too, may see them and act as if they mean nothing self...

The first gal have to come out and meet me when I hail some home boys and left to a quiet place, she was like, watin dey worry u self... although I actually didn't see her...


I want to understand why this trying to Interject "I have a boyfriend talk"

Both have tested me with marriage talk and I always gear towards no marriage for now



Rizzputing

Pukkalolo

I wanna hear you two out

I doubt if you guys know, man and woman go through almost the same physiological needs (water,food, air,sex, attractions, companionship etc).

The same way, when you see a beautiful lady, which you would go for her, even though you are into another relationship, that woman would fall weak, if she sees a man that he is being attracted to .

It's only our culture from time immemorial, that preventing women to express such psychological needs. Nonetheless,the culture is fast fading away going forward.

When you are handsome guy/man, the way you gets women is completely different from average or ugly guys.

While handsome guys/men "be on their lane" and women flock them, the average and ugly guys are struggling hard to get women. This is hard reality! (Though, money is also a factor)

Back to the topic, those two ladies found you attractive and they were unable to put their bodies in check when they met you, hence " seeing them falling yakata for you",..... If you press their mumu buttons deeper.

Fiscus105:
I doubt if you guys know that ,man and woman go through almost the same physiological needs (water,food, air,sex, attractions, companionship etc).

The same way when you see a beautiful lady, that a man would go for her even though he is in another relationship,that woman would fall weak too, if she sees man that attracted to her.

It's only culture from time immemorial that preventing women to express such needs whenever they come across it. Nonetheless,the culture is fast fading away going forward.

When you are handsome guy/man, the way you gets women is complete different from average or ugly guys. While handsome guys/men "be on their lane" and women flock them, the average and ugly guys struggling hard to get women, that's hard reality.(Though money is also a factor)

Back to the topic, those two ladies found you attractive and they were unable to put their body in check when they met you, hence falling yakata for you if u press the buttons harder.

Guy, have you ever heard of a book called Brighter Grammar?

Tranquility2345:
Guy, have you ever heard of a book called Brighter Grammar?

Abi ooo, Seun must be paying you for correcting errors and blunders on a faceless forum!

I won't be surprised if you are planning for next WAEC exam. Perhaps, a 100 level student in university that still struggling to have good grade in Use of English.

Whenever a teenage too crazy about errors in English language, he belongs to the two categories.(I was like that several years ago.)

O boy, wishing you success in your exams!