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So u carry ur big head come nairaland come dey post nonsense

Well u guys are immature sha

If you want that relationship to work u better find better ways to address bad behaviors rather than do me I do you

MeghaneMorgane:
How can it translate into nagging ?

The issue here is that, you are already proving to him that you don't like nonsense and he is returning it back to you that he too doesn't like nonsense

Good and fine, if you guys continues like this, he will see you as not being submissive and may start giving up with the relationship because you guys are not ready to tolerate each other

In Most successful relationship, there must be one person that will be willing to be the fool, just to have a successful relationship

So between both of you, I don't know who is willing to do so

Ibere oribu

MeghaneMorgane:
We are both in our late twenties. We’re not kids. Did you miss where I wrote that cheating and domestic violence is not part of this strategy

Did you also miss where I said when either of us does something that the other person doesn’t like

I will be more than excited if my boyfriend buys me a car. And I will not get pregnant for another man if my boyfriend impregnates another girl which he will not do 😌. My boyfriend is a good man 😌.

you know what, use the pettiness strategy ... Get him a car first, let him retaliate and get you yours after..

MeghaneMorgane:
Our response to cheating is that the cheated person will leave. We have discussed this. If I cheat, he will leave me and if he cheats, I will leave him. We don’t intend to sleep around to bring the other person to check. That is outside our boundaries.
We communicate a lot. It is when the other person refuses to change that they get the taste of their drug. So that they can understand better your grievances. Because sometimes it is hard for people to understand when they cannot relate. And we don’t do this from a bad place. We do it from a place of I want you to change.

Sorry to ask o, please how old are you n ur BF...?

Bongadu:
Both of you are forking childish

It's just like Aki n Popo movie

You did well my baby.
If he fvcks another lady, make sure you fvck his close friend and show him an evidence that you did.
Nor gree for any nonsense oh!

And how does this news solve Nigeria problems 🙄

MeghaneMorgane:
I’m currently in a relationship where both my guy and I are very petty. If my guy does something I don’t like, I tell him the first time, if he does the same thing the second time, I don’t talk too much and I just give him the exact taste of the same medicine. It works every time and he adjusts immediately. Same for him when he tells me he doesn’t like something if I don’t adjust, he will give me the exact taste of my medicine. So far, it’s been working for both of us because we both adjust accordingly.
My question is that I hope this petty behaviour from my guy and I is not a toxic one?
If it is not toxic that’s good. But at what point does this behaviour become toxic?
NB: So far, this petty behaviour has been working well for the both of us.

I’ll give an example of our petty behaviour. My boyfriend went to visit his mum. 24 hours after being at his mum’s place, he didn’t pick my call and he didn’t call me either, and he didn’t respond to the numerous messages I left on his phone. I was so worried, I had to call his mum and told his mum to give him the phone. His mum gave him the phone. His mum also confirmed to me that my boyfriend had arrived 24 hours before I called her so it wasn’t a case of him playing games with me. Obviously I was very angry and I asked him why he wasn’t picking my calls. His response was that he is busy. That he will call me when he is done with the job he was doing. I said ok. I didn’t call him again until he called me. He called me a day and half after speaking with him on his mum’s phone. All the while I was lamenting to his mum how her son has refused to call me or pick my calls. His mum kept consoling me that he will call me immediately he finished what was doing. Guess what?, when I went to visit my own parents, I did exactly the same thing to him. He was so angry. Since then he hasn’t tried that rubbish again. Then we had to promise each other to always pick each other’s call even if we are very busy. Since then we’ve been picking each other’s calls.

You wanna hear the hard truth? The sad truth is that this relationship will not work after marriage. Start making alternative plans. If you like believe me, if you dont like, that's your business. It's impossible for you to adjust but a man can... However, he will not adjust because of you... So, make alternate plans

What if he bleeps your friend, will you Bleep his friend too?

In any relationship understanding maters alot .

Its not a healthy relationship, you are already calling his mum to complain . Do you not have something to do to keep yourself happy apart from relationship . I may be wrong, you are the woman, be submmisive, respectful and if it is not working for you, you can leave the relationship without bitterness.

He is not your girl friend.

YoungLionken:
Na childishness dey worry una two..

But be careful so you don't lose him because no man wants a woman who's kind of involved in "do me I do you". So that, few months/years later, you will not come crying on social media of how your ex of how many left you for another woman, after your years of loyalty to him. E be things o...

This one is not my portion in Jesus name oo. He will not leave me don’t worry 😁

vastolord4:
Don't let all those negative comments get to you.. infact, it takes a committed mindset and great level of understanding to manage this type of relationship. If it works for you now, just make sure you both grow and evolve together because love might fallout but the understanding remains which will be hard for either of you to find another match..

Thanks. We understand ourselves and we know when to stop 😁.

Michelle55:
What kind of relationship is that? Are you saying if he cheats you would likely cheat to keep him in order?

Omo, just prepare your kpekus for gwo gwo gwo gwo cos na you go hear am.
Why not communicate how you feel rather than being vindictive each time he offends you?

Can you keep up with this petty behavior if it escalates?

Are you ready to sleep with his friends as well if he
decides to cross the line with yours?

To what extent are you willing to go with this pettiness?

These and many more questions you need to ask yourself and if you can keep up then happy dating to you.
In this time and age, I prioritize peace of mind and happiness over anything else.
Light and love 👌

You dey use gwo gwo gwo threatened kpekus? Na you go dig tire

BigIyanga:
You’re already nagging your BF and his mom.. His mom is likely going to warn him to be careful .. If you guys get married, he would need his mom’s doc’s report in order to visit her🤷🏿‍♂️😂😂

His mum loves me. You have no idea how much she does love me😊.

1x2x3:
Do you both also reciprocate good deeds or you only find the need to reciprocate bad ones?

Yes we do. I remember I got my guy a surprise gift one time, he was so happy he asked me what I needed because he knows I don’t like surprises. I told him and he got it for me. I was very happy too 😊.

Boat of you are childrens, that's why you're boat behaving a childrens





Some people always
write TV just because they can't spell Telefushion Nii fa 🤷🤷
🤣🤣

seem you are insecure and have a need to monitor his movements. Therefore, you are becomming like a male energy, you should watch your mannerism carefully. And your mannerism are due to your insecurity, which could drive him away, if you keep this up. Its mostly the man that have the need to monitor the woman not the other way around. You a use the cover of love and care to create the need for constant monitoring of his absence.

But he may like your insecurity, it depends on the individual.

MeghaneMorgane:
I’m currently in a relationship where both my guy and I are very petty. If my guy does something I don’t like, I tell him the first time, if he does the same thing the second time, I don’t talk too much and I just give him the exact taste of the same medicine. It works every time and he adjusts immediately. Same for him when he tells me he doesn’t like something if I don’t adjust, he will give me the exact taste of my medicine. So far, it’s been working for both of us because we both adjust accordingly.
My question is that I hope this petty behaviour from my guy and I is not a toxic one?
If it is not toxic that’s good. But at what point does this behaviour become toxic?
NB: So far, this petty behaviour has been working well for the both of us.

I’ll give an example of our petty behaviour. My boyfriend went to visit his mum. 24 hours after being at his mum’s place, he didn’t pick my call and he didn’t call me either, and he didn’t respond to the numerous messages I left on his phone. I was so worried, I had to call his mum and told his mum to give him the phone. His mum gave him the phone. His mum also confirmed to me that my boyfriend had arrived 24 hours before I called her so it wasn’t a case of him playing games with me. Obviously I was very angry and I asked him why he wasn’t picking my calls. His response was that he is busy. That he will call me when he is done with the job he was doing. I said ok. I didn’t call him again until he called me. He called me a day and half after speaking with him on his mum’s phone. All the while I was lamenting to his mum how her son has refused to call me or pick my calls. His mum kept consoling me that he will call me immediately he finished what was doing. Guess what?, when I went to visit my own parents, I did exactly the same thing to him. He was so angry. Since then he hasn’t tried that rubbish again. Then we had to promise each other to always pick each other’s call even if we are very busy. Since then we’ve been picking each other’s calls.

That's a very unhealthy relationship

If you guys are real friends (before being lovers) you'd have known exactly what kept him that busy

Incrediblekutty:
This is childishness, it won't end well. One of you will one day make an assumption in your head and retaliate then the other party will get offended and nag till it becomes complicated. You can adjust your wrongs without waiting for your partner to retaliate. That's my own cent

Our first action is not to be petty. Our first action is to discuss. It is after several discussions and the person is not changing that we become petty to help the other party understand better. It works everytime for now.

Eraddray:
Don't of u are acting very childish...and If u two will eventually marry una sef ...I pity u two...70% chance that it will end in disaster...the rest of the 30 is left to God

Nothing will end in disaster in Jesus name. Amen. We are happy people 😁. We suit ourselves.

bixton:
It seems like a kind of fun game between the two of you. I guess you're still in dating.

Have you fellas asked yourself if thats how you intend to live if you eventually get married and probably raise children through this method and knowing that your children will learn such from you as well?

Actually not. It’s between us and our kids don’t have to get involved.

learnedJAMES:
In a relationship partner A should prioritise the needs and feelings of partner B and vice versa. Retaliation should be on rare occasion with a good motive

Exactly. This is us.

Greenfusion:
Sorry to ask o, please how old are you n ur BF...?

We’re adults 😁.

But you wrote, you retaliate a lot.

Somehow seems you like it, in a way. I'm not sure why, you may like that constant retaliation.

MeghaneMorgane:
Exactly. This is us.

SeriouslySense:
But you wrote, you retaliate a lot.

Somehow seems you like it, in a way. I'm not sure why, you may like that constant retaliation.

Well alot was to make it catchy. But yes, we are petty sometimes.

It could also be a sign of a healthy relationship, if you two are able to understand and learn from it. But dont get stuck in a cycle of back and forth.

MeghaneMorgane:
Well alot was to make it catchy. But yes, we are petty sometimes.

SeriouslySense:
It could also be a sign of a healthy relationship, if you two are able to understand and learn from it. But dont get stuck in a cycle of back and forth.

Yeah. Noted. Thanks 😉.

MeghaneMorgane:
No no. Cheating is not involved and violence is not involved too.
I’ll give an example of our petty behaviour. My boyfriend went to visit his mum. 24 hours after being at his mum’s place, he didn’t pick my call and he didn’t call me either, and he didn’t respond to the numerous messages I left on his phone. I was so worried, I had to call his mum and told his mum to give him the phone. His mum gave him the phone. His mum also confirmed to me that my boyfriend had arrived 24 hours before I called her so it wasn’t a case of him playing games with me. Obviously I was very angry and I asked him why he wasn’t picking my calls. His response was that he is busy. That he will call me when he is done with the job he was doing. I said ok. I didn’t call him again until he called me. He called me a day and half after speaking with him on his mum’s phone. All the while I was lamenting to his mum how her son has refused to call me or pick my calls. His mum kept consoling me that he will call me immediately he finished what was doing. Guess what?, when I went to visit my own parents, I did exactly the same thing to him. He was so angry. Since then he hasn’t tried that rubbish again. Then we had to promise each other to always pick each other’s call even if we are very busy. Since then we’ve been picking each other’s calls.

You gave an example of his own "rubbish" , why not give us an example of your own "rubbish" as well.?

You tried to sound neutral in the beginning but eventually finished by making him out to look like the troublemaker 😏

Dear Nigerian child, you don't pick up calls but rather you answer calls. A phone is an object, so you pick it up and then answer your call.

As for the rest of the story, nothing concern me.

MeghaneMorgane:
I’m currently in a relationship where both my guy and I are very petty. If my guy does something I don’t like, I tell him the first time, if he does the same thing the second time, I don’t talk too much and I just give him the exact taste of the same medicine. It works every time and he adjusts immediately. Same for him when he tells me he doesn’t like something if I don’t adjust, he will give me the exact taste of my medicine. So far, it’s been working for both of us because we both adjust accordingly.
My question is that I hope this petty behaviour from my guy and I is not a toxic one?
If it is not toxic that’s good. But at what point does this behaviour become toxic?
NB: So far, this petty behaviour has been working well for the both of us.

I’ll give an example of our petty behaviour. My boyfriend went to visit his mum. 24 hours after being at his mum’s place, he didn’t pick my call and he didn’t call me either, and he didn’t respond to the numerous messages I left on his phone. I was so worried, I had to call his mum and told his mum to give him the phone. His mum gave him the phone. His mum also confirmed to me that my boyfriend had arrived 24 hours before I called her so it wasn’t a case of him playing games with me. Obviously I was very angry and I asked him why he wasn’t picking my calls. His response was that he is busy. That he will call me when he is done with the job he was doing. I said ok. I didn’t call him again until he called me. He called me a day and half after speaking with him on his mum’s phone. All the while I was lamenting to his mum how her son has refused to call me or pick my calls. His mum kept consoling me that he will call me immediately he finished what was doing. Guess what?, when I went to visit my own parents, I did exactly the same thing to him. He was so angry. Since then he hasn’t tried that rubbish again. Then we had to promise each other to always pick each other’s call even if we are very busy. Since then we’ve been picking each other’s calls.

OgaRico:
Dear Nigerian child, you don't pick up calls but rather you answer calls. A phone is an object, so you pick it up and then answer your call.

As for the rest of the story, nothing concern me.

Actually b4 the advent of GSM and smartphones we did literally pick up analogue fones yo answer them and that's where the term pick/pickup the call emanates from unless ure an indomie generation.