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You're partially right but when we say "ignore her," we do not mean you should keep ignoring her to appear strong — there should be a limit to how you give her attention. You don't keep texting and calling her all the time, the "mystery" that drew her to you will shatter.

It all depends on the kind of person you are, I'm very introverted but confident enough to face anyone, so there's actually this strange aura around me.

And yes, I remember how I started ignoring the first girl I asked her out, her father was strict and I was under him—I tried to play safe. I literally forgot she agreed to be my girl, she agreed to date another guy years later, and I went back to her. I wasn't jealous, humans will always be humans.

She still gave me her attention, love, and everything. If we had stayed for long, she would have left the other guy but she was scared I will break her heart again. Humans partially lose interest in what they feel they can't get but when they do, they grab it.

It was okay for me to flex around but not okay for the other guy. That's the power of mystery.

SuperOnyi:




You're partially right but when we say "ignore her," we do not mean you should keep ignoring her to appear strong — there should be a limit to how you give her attention. You don't keep texting and calling her all the time, the "mystery" that drew her to you will shatter.

It all depends on the kind of person you are, I'm very introverted but confident enough to face anyone, so there's actually this strange aura around me.

And yes, I remember how I started ignoring the first girl I asked her out, her father was strict and I was under him—I tried to play safe. I literally forgot she agreed to be my girl, she agreed to date another guy years later, and I went back to her. I wasn't jealous, humans will always be humans.

She still gave me her attention, love, and everything. If we had stayed for long, she would have left the other guy but she was scared I will break her heart again. Humans partially lose interest in what they feel they can't get but when they do, they grab it.

It was okay for me to flex around but not okay for the other guy. That's the power of mystery.

I like your perspective. Quite thoughtful. However, this reverse psychology hardly works for a couple of reasons.
1. Women have ego, especially the beautiful ones with a ton of admirers.
2. Unless they love you to a fault and that's because of something you possess that none of her courters have. Even at that, the ego in her won't allow her return the attention you didn't give.
3. I believe a woman can love you and crave you after she's known you for who you are not what you're not by distancing yourself from her. You only create an aura of mystery and if she's interested in you because of that, it's because of curiosity not attraction. When she eventually finds out there's nothing special about you she'd leave.
4. If you must roll by the scarcity and ignoring principle, then you have something special about you that when she draws close she gets glued.
5. Also, you have to be lucky that while you're creating scarcity another guy doesn't emerge from the blues and sweeps her away.
6. This theory of ignoring is brazenly dumb and doesn't worth even the sheet of the paper it's written on. I've put out a challenge let's try it. We create a WhatsApp group and share our results let's end this sharade and deception once and for all. It'll be fun while it lasts.

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FahBuLous:
chief of the SIMPson community don drop quote..

Share your story of how the beautiful girl you ignored kept running back to you and begging. She has to be beautiful, classy, working, and have a ton of admirers before you share. Non simpson rolling with village girls who would die for a guy that speaks English.

lacasera14:
Share your story of how the beautiful girl you ignored kept running back to you and begging. She has to be beautiful, classy, working, and have a ton of admirers before you share. Non simpson rolling with village girls who would die for a guy that speaks English.

E plenty die.
It works everytime unless you dont have value for yourself.

lacasera14:
Then she's insecure and battling low self esteem. Period. Ignoring a woman can't be a pathway to make her crave you more. If you say something like improve yourself, your speech, your dress sense, look groomed and stuff like that, it's understandable. But ignoring a woman? You sef try it. Once the girl calls you twice in one week and you didn't return it, she may never call again because girls always have this mentality that I don't want to disturb him. If she even texts you it's to let you know that she's gone since you don't have her time. Only a jobless, broke and insecure girl will chase me n.

It's either you are broke, ugly and short or you are 2 of the three.
I guess you've never experienced how high class women with high self esteem lose their steeze and went cuckoo for some guys.
You see, women only have self esteem around guys that are common.

Some guys are so rare that when a woman ever get the privilege to be with them. They begin to act like a baby , like a teenager in love.

Though you will never experience this if you're any of the aforementioned.

FRANCISTOWN:
It's either you are broke, ugly and short or you are 2 of the three.
I guess you've been experienced how high class women with high self esteem lose their steeze and went cuckoo for some guys.
You see, women only have self esteem around guys that are common.

Some guys are so rare that when a woman ever get the privilege to be with them. They begin to act like a baby , like a teenager in love.

Though you will never experience this if you're any of the aforementioned.

It's okay to assume but thankfully you don't know me. And I'm glad you mentioned men that are rare. So it means the man has special qualities no other man possesses and that's something that can make a woman go mad. Not an average Joe distancing himself from a woman when the woman can easily do away with him. But if the man is rare, how will the woman find out when the said rare man is barely available? Or the rare you're talking about is external qualities like 6feet, handsome and rich? In that case that is not rare. There are many of them all over the world and a beautiful woman who's being chased daily can pick anyone.

FahBuLous:
E plenty die.
It works everytime unless you dont have value for yourself.

I see you have a comprehension problem. Enjoy your village girls.

lacasera14:
I like your perspective. Quite thoughtful. However, this reverse psychology hardly works for a couple of reasons.
1. Women have ego, especially the beautiful ones with a ton of admirers.
2. Unless they love you to a fault and that's because of something you possess that none of her courters have. Even at that, the ego in her won't allow her return the attention you didn't give.
3. I believe a woman can love you and crave you after she's known you for who you are not what you're not by distancing yourself from her. You only create an aura of mystery and if she's interested in you because of that, it's because of curiosity not attraction. When she eventually finds out there's nothing special about you she'd leave.
4. If you must roll by the scarcity and ignoring principle, then you have something special about you that when she draws close she gets glued.
5. Also, you have to be lucky that while you're creating scarcity another guy doesn't emerge from the blues and sweeps her away.
6. This theory of ignoring is brazenly dumb and doesn't worth even the sheet of the paper it's written on. I've put out a challenge let's try it. We create a WhatsApp group and share our results let's end this sharade and deception once and for all. It'll be fun while it lasts.

I will be happy to go on this challenge but sadly, I'm currently working on a lot of things.

However, it is important to understand that humans are attracted to things that are scarce. Even in the market, you'd see how people automatically regard anything expensive as the best. But I digress...

You only have to partially ignore not totally, learn from online markets like Amazon and Jumia; they sell things for the full price but once in a while, they give the customers promos. You ignore her partially but when it's time to give her that attention, you give her what she wants 100%.

It took me a while to figure out I subconsciously do the "ignore thing" and I was surprised seeing red pill threads on Nairaland for the first time. I reflected on myself and found out that was 80% my default state. I'm still trying to figure out what makes people attracted to me...

So, what am I trying to say? You gotta have something they find valuable or mysterious to make the 'partial ignoring method' work. You have to understand how to make proper use of your silence and words. Communications between humans is deeper than just talking, sometimes silence pass a message.

Remember when your parents would look at you in a certain way and that's all you'd need to know you've fúcked up?

If you walk into a restaurant dressing and acting on a particular way, and you keep doing that for a week; all attention will be on you. When you disappear and appear a month later, you'd successfully create some kind of mystery in the mind of those who would remember you.

You gotta have something they think they've not seen in others but in reality, you're actually playing with their mind. Even if you're ugly, she'd still wonder why you keep acting that way—curiosity can also kill a monkey. Haha

SuperOnyi:




I will be happy to go on this challenge but sadly, I'm currently working on a lot of things.

However, it is important to understand that humans are attracted to things that are scarce. Even in the market, you'd see how people automatically regard anything expensive as the best. But I digress...

You only have to partially ignore not totally, learn from online markets like Amazon and Jumia; they sell things for the full price but once in a while, they give the customers promos. You ignore her partially but when it's time to give her that attention, you give her what she wants 100%.

It took me a while to figure out I subconsciously do the "ignore thing" and I was surprised seeing red pill threads on Nairaland for the first time. I reflected on myself and found out that was 80% my default state. I'm still trying to figure out what makes people attracted to me...

So, what am I trying to say? You gotta have something they find valuable or mysterious to make the 'partial ignoring method' work. You have to understand how to make proper use of your silence and words. Communications between humans is deeper than just talking, sometimes silence pass a message.

Remember when your parents would look at you in a certain way and that's all you'd need to know you've fúcked up?

If you work into a restaurant dressing and acting on a particular way, and you keep doing that for a week; all attention will be on you. When you disappear and appear a month later, you'd successfully create some kind of mystery in the mind of those who would remember you.

You gotta have something they think they've not seen in others but in reality, you're actually playing with their mind. Even if you're ugly, she'd still wonder why you keep acting that way—curiosity can also kill a monkey. Haha

Until the challenge is accepted which doesn't have to be time tasking since you'll be ignoring and not focusing your attention, the only place we'll find a common ground is if you say it's subjective. It can work for some low self esteemed women and you have to be extremely attractive and irresistible for it to work. There's no mystery behind an ugly face that's easy to forget. You ignore and be ignored forever. However, I'm not a proponent of choking a woman with love unless you both are officially partners and there can't be enough choking. But completely ignoring a woman with the hopes that it cause her to be attracted to you is laughable and delusional but I can accept that it's subjective - works for some women, some category of women. Peace bro.

lacasera14:
Honestly, I need to find the originator of this theory that ignoring women will make them chase you.

How does that even work?

They say you'll ignore her, don't reply her texts, don't call her often, even when she calls you form busy and promise to call back but don't call back, keep yourself busy with other women, pretend like you can thrive without her and see her chasing after you like her life depends on you.

Really?

In what world is that?

The truth is, a woman that loves you or is attracted to you can easily lose interest when she notices you don't have her time or starve her attention. Women thrives on attention, they do everything to get it, and when they don't get it, they find it elsewhere. So, even if the woman loves you to your poo, and you starve her attention, you cause her interest in you to decline. She feels "okay great, this guy doesn't like me and I don't want to disturb him, let me focus on this one that has my time".

Secondly, if the woman doesn't even like you, she'll be glad you stopped calling and texting and you gave zero chance of winning her back if you like surround yourself with multiple women to create the illusion that you're highly sought after. She'll only wonder how dumb these women are that they're flocking after you.

I conducted this survey on about 30 different women and all gave the same reply

"If a guy keeps ignoring me and starves me attention, I feel he doesn't really want me and I'll move on because I'm beautiful and there are other men who want me too, so why chase after one that shows disinterest?"

Lastly, I think the only girls that will chase a guy who ignores them are low self esteemed, insecure, less attractive, broke, without-a-life, sociopaths, and mentally unstable girls.

No real girl with beauty, brains, steeze, curves, charms, small money and high self esteem will chase a guy or crave a guy that is showing lack of interest in her. She believes she's the prize and should be chased, not the other way round.

So, I wonder again, who thought men this?

Modified.

If you hold unto this fallacious theory so strong you're willing to experiment with it, then I'm game. It will be fun while it lasts. We create a WhatsApp group to share our screenshots of chats.

We approach beautiful women online or offline, chat them up, inspire some vibes and ghost them, then see how many will chat back or call and become interested. 10 girls each. We can finally put this theory to rest and dispel the deception.

how much you get for account?

lacasera14:
Honestly, I need to find the originator of this theory that ignoring women will make them chase you.

How does that even work?

They say you'll ignore her, don't reply her texts, don't call her often, even when she calls you form busy and promise to call back but don't call back, keep yourself busy with other women, pretend like you can thrive without her and see her chasing after you like her life depends on you.

Really?

In what world is that?

The truth is, a woman that loves you or is attracted to you can easily lose interest when she notices you don't have her time or starve her attention. Women thrives on attention, they do everything to get it, and when they don't get it, they find it elsewhere. So, even if the woman loves you to your poo, and you starve her attention, you cause her interest in you to decline. She feels "okay great, this guy doesn't like me and I don't want to disturb him, let me focus on this one that has my time".

Secondly, if the woman doesn't even like you, she'll be glad you stopped calling and texting and you gave zero chance of winning her back if you like surround yourself with multiple women to create the illusion that you're highly sought after. She'll only wonder how dumb these women are that they're flocking after you.

I conducted this survey on about 30 different women and all gave the same reply

"If a guy keeps ignoring me and starves me attention, I feel he doesn't really want me and I'll move on because I'm beautiful and there are other men who want me too, so why chase after one that shows disinterest?"

Lastly, I think the only girls that will chase a guy who ignores them are low self esteemed, insecure, less attractive, broke, without-a-life, sociopaths, and mentally unstable girls.

No real girl with beauty, brains, steeze, curves, charms, small money and high self esteem will chase a guy or crave a guy that is showing lack of interest in her. She believes she's the prize and should be chased, not the other way round.

So, I wonder again, who thought men this?

Modified.

If you hold unto this fallacious theory so strong you're willing to experiment with it, then I'm game. It will be fun while it lasts. We create a WhatsApp group to share our screenshots of chats.

We approach beautiful women online or offline, chat them up, inspire some vibes and ghost them, then see how many will chat back or call and become interested. 10 girls each. We can finally put this theory to rest and dispel the deception.

I knew this MuMu Topic will make frontpage.

For this hard time you still dey think to chase woman.

Na to sue you remain like this.

From experience it works, you just have to do it sparingly and effectively.
Women thrives on attention and when you starve them that, they go crazy. And it pushes them to find out what exactly that's making you not to have time for them and they pest your life with calls and texts.
You don't do this to a talking stage. She'll simply disappear. You do this to someone who just fell for you.
I think the whole thing is about ensuring the lady likes you as much as you like them.

lacasera14:
Honestly, I need to find the originator of this theory that ignoring women will make them chase you.

How does that even work?

You should have asked whether there are men who are living testimony of the this theory?
I think the one who loves you will chase. The only thing is that the chase will eventually stop when all the hope is lost.

Op, you don’t understand women. Their philosophy is ‘less is more’. Majority of women don’t like nice guys. And your idea is the ‘nice guy’ idea.

Women are curious and will easily go to bed with men that give them less attention and friend zone the one always calling and texting.

Why would you conduct a survey? You think women will tell you of even know that this is what happens psychologically?
These are experiments you carry out for the fun of it.
The secret is getting her to like you though. Then know when to be scarce and unavailable if you want the attraction to be sustained. Get a life. Hang out with friends. Go to the gym. Focus on work. Then when you are truly free, treat her like a queen. Tell me if she won’t be hooked.

When a high value man ignores a lady, she chases after him but when a low value man ignores a lady, she forgets him.

All these women hiding under male monikers to put up simping threads..una well done oo



I pity fr d man dat will listen to dis op

Leemzyy:
Well i would be honest with my life,i have dated only one person in my life,who i am still dating now,am bethroted to him tho

I pray you both end up together, how old are you?

lacasera14:
Honestly, I need to find the originator of this theory that ignoring women will make them chase you.

How does that even work?

They say you'll ignore her, don't reply her texts, don't call her often, even when she calls you form busy and promise to call back but don't call back, keep yourself busy with other women, pretend like you can thrive without her and see her chasing after you like her life depends on you.

Really?

In what world is that?

The truth is, a woman that loves you or is attracted to you can easily lose interest when she notices you don't have her time or starve her attention. Women thrives on attention, they do everything to get it, and when they don't get it, they find it elsewhere. So, even if the woman loves you to your poo, and you starve her attention, you cause her interest in you to decline. She feels "okay great, this guy doesn't like me and I don't want to disturb him, let me focus on this one that has my time".

Secondly, if the woman doesn't even like you, she'll be glad you stopped calling and texting and you gave zero chance of winning her back if you like surround yourself with multiple women to create the illusion that you're highly sought after. She'll only wonder how dumb these women are that they're flocking after you.

I conducted this survey on about 30 different women and all gave the same reply

"If a guy keeps ignoring me and starves me attention, I feel he doesn't really want me and I'll move on because I'm beautiful and there are other men who want me too, so why chase after one that shows disinterest?"

Lastly, I think the only girls that will chase a guy who ignores them are low self esteemed, insecure, less attractive, broke, without-a-life, sociopaths, and mentally unstable girls.

No real girl with beauty, brains, steeze, curves, charms, small money and high self esteem will chase a guy or crave a guy that is showing lack of interest in her. She believes she's the prize and should be chased, not the other way round.

So, I wonder again, who thought men this?

Modified.

If you hold unto this fallacious theory so strong you're willing to experiment with it, then I'm game. It will be fun while it lasts. We create a WhatsApp group to share our screenshots of chats.

We approach beautiful women online or offline, chat them up, inspire some vibes and ghost them, then see how many will chat back or call and become interested. 10 girls each. We can finally put this theory to rest and dispel the deception.

This is an OG theory. Tried and tested. It is not the norm but rather a below average percentage.
Back in the day before social media and Internet cafe and feminism . When I say back in the day I am talking before 1998. When there were no mobile phones and over population . The air was cleaner and you thought Naija had a chance.

To be honest it still happens now - but on much a lower percentage.

lacasera14:
Until the challenge is accepted which doesn't have to be time tasking since you'll be ignoring and not focusing your attention, the only place we'll find a common ground is if you say it's subjective. It can work for some low self esteemed women and you have to be extremely attractive and irresistible for it to work. There's no mystery behind an ugly face that's easy to forget. You ignore and be ignored forever. However, I'm not a proponent of choking a woman with love unless you both are officially partners and there can't be enough choking. But completely ignoring a woman with the hopes that it cause her to be attracted to you is laughable and delusional but I can accept that it's subjective - works for some women, some category of women. Peace bro.

That's why I said partially not fully — I think that's where you're misunderstanding this whole concept. Remember "too much of everything is bad," this is why you should start in the middle.

And why would anyone especially a woman want you when you have nothing to offer?

Women want men other women want. Understand that, understand life. They love a challenge, they love competition. They love a high flyer not a low lifer. You can't be a high flyer and not have women chase you. That is who they want. Give them attention as a high flyer and they would drool after you until you cross that line of chasing them. They don't want to be chased. They want to chase, catch, tame and domesticate what they've caught until their catch loses relevance and they are on turned by the next high flyer. Because they are married to a high flyer doesn't mean they don't get aroused by the next high flyer.

Uniquekriss:
I pray you both end up together, how old are you?

Awwn thank you sir well i am 19 to be precise

One thing with me is that I hardly talk to strangers irrespective of who you're. Women crave for attention and if they notice you don't give a damn about them they get irritated.

Whenever I find myself in the midst of guys and pretty girl(s) I am always the last person to talk to the girl(s), most times they talk to me first.....If a girl truly finds you attractive she would do anything within her power to get your attention.

I have NEVER chased any woman in my life and I dated many pretty girls before I finally got married. What I discovered about women is that the pretty ones are easier to get, just be smart.

Do whatever works for you.

Women want men other women want. Understand that, understand life. Some women are bold & predatory. They love a challenge, they love competition. They love a high flyer not a low lifer. You can't be a high flyer and not have women chase you. That is who they want. Give them attention as a high flyer and they would drool after you until you cross that line of chasing them. They don't want to be chased. They want to chase, catch, tame and domesticate what they've caught until their catch loses relevance and they are on turned by the next high flyer. Because they are married to a high flyer doesn't mean they don't get aroused by the next high flyer.

FRANCISTOWN:
It's either you are broke, ugly and short or you are 2 of the three.
I guess you've been experienced how high class women with high self esteem lose their steeze and went cuckoo for some guys.
You see, women only have self esteem around guys that are common.

Some guys are so rare that when a woman ever get the privilege to be with them. They begin to act like a baby , like a teenager in love.

Though you will never experience this if you're any of the aforementioned.

Do you mean we guys who are short hold no water in the dating pool?

Leemzyy:
Well i would be honest with my life,i have dated only one person in my life,who i am still dating now,am bethroted to him tho

Gr8, I love that. Your kind is so scarce nowadays. Keep it up pls

What's your definition of attention?

E get this Girl wey we been dey start getting to know each other and date.
Her idea of relationship was for me to keep checking on her via chats and calls.

On weekends when we bought off work she expects us to spend the whole day chatting, it became a huge chore like I had no other things to do that chat all day.

Whenever I try to pause the chats she starts claiming I am trying to ignore her. She keeps complaining I do not call her, Why do I have to call you when there is nothing important to say is chat not enough to check up on you.

This became a usual theme and we just had to cut each other off.

phemray:
Gr8, I love that. Your kind is so scarce nowadays. Keep it up pls

Biko stop am blushing

That is how they whine themselves.
Next the girl gets married to another man and they will come online to bash Naija girls.

High value males indeed. Every man is high value on Nairaland . Which high value man has time for games? Y'all think we are in 200L or something.