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MrBrownJay1:
it works with "some" women, and certainly doesnt with others. some women will simply believe that you are not interested and they will move on with their lives.

Yes if it's for relationship, she will certainly move on. But if she's sexual attracted to you, they hardly give up. Not in the next 10yrs.

He's saying the fact!.. rest

lacasera14:
So when a gurl tells you all these and sees a better guy who's giving her attention do you think she'll still come for you? She may even dump you and settle for less. You see why I said girls who do this don't have admirers. They're hardly chased after and that's why they cling unto guys who are clearly rejecting them. What caliber of women are you guys dealing with? I roll with women who believes they are the prize and any man that's too busy for them should be left alone to continue his busy life. We can do an experiment to end this argument once and for all. Who's game?

LawyerLomo:
Do you mean we guys who are short hold no water in the dating pool?

If you've got money and fame. Even men will worship you.

Leemzyy:
Hey calm down,i respect you with my words pls i will plead with you to do the same,will you?

I didn't intend to offend you in any way. I'm sorry if you understood my words in a way that hurts.

DaddyCoool:
Of course it works. Works with all humans not just women. That's human nature. If you suddenly start ignoring someone you were paying lots of attention...
Problem is after it works then what? Once you back talking to them again you're back to square one

It shows you are capable of backing out and thriving without her if she doesn't behave herself. It helps set boundaries and put her on check.

samuelson06:
I didn't intend to offend you in any way. I'm sorry if you understood my words in a way that hurts.

Ok thankx, so u were saying?i actually say that being in a relationship does not mean u must be intimate?like in my case as well

Sonnobax15:

Dey there dey look while pant dey wear you...

Bannies with brains know that responsible men are scarce these days....So when they luckily meet anyone,they prefer to rather die there by chasing after him than to sit down and be looking while another banny will steal him away.

Don't worry about posts like these chief. Imagine what the lacasea is saying?
...but what does a lacasea know outside helping those people in holdups?

Experience!

Leemzyy:
Only an ashewo dirty girl would be jumping her dirty body from one boy to another in the name of she is attractive,she has a fake brain,or he is not an attentive person...this and that,biko one boy is enough for me,u would be treated the way u present yourself

Let's chat on WhatsApp, I will keep it real with you.

professore:
Let's chat on WhatsApp, I will keep it real with you.

Owh sorry but 4 real i dont do whatsapp,i'm active on nairaland only

Leemzyy:
Owh sorry but 4 real i dont do whatsapp,i'm active on nairaland only

Understandable, I appreciate your reply.

professore:
Understandable, I appreciate your reply.

Biko dont mention

Wise up bro,she isn’t chasing you,she’s after the briefcase in your hand,run faster please.

LawyerLomo:
Do you mean we guys who are short hold no water in the dating pool?

Yes o. Before nko??
Expect you're her spec.

lacasera14:
Those women that want what other women want are semi-thieves. Why would you want something that's not yours because everyone wants it? And then, wanting someone that everyone wants shows she's unstable, she's easily triggered by public opinion and trends, the feeling to be among, no substance, no ingenuity, no sense. It means when she follows you and sees another man that's more successful and more wanted by other women, she'll jump ship because she wants the trend. That's a sign of a low resolution babe - no authenticity. You just want the man because he's rich and a high flyer. You don't want to know the stuff he's made up, just because of social acceptance you want him. Oh please. Women are bigger than that.

You have so much time to be replying these inexperienced kids on nairaland

You guys don't understand some things…
This is how people are being psychologically programmed.

It works only if a lady is invested in you emotionally and you ghost her. At first she's confused, then curiosity sets in .If she finally figures what a douchebag bag you are then she moves on.

Emphasis on "emotionally invested" o. Lol these days ladies don "kala" so it may not work on most anymore.

If it didn’t work, this topic would not exist. This is something I’ve seen asked here for the umpteenth time. Nothing new in this forum?

Oga, no allow TV dey watch you ..it should be the other way round

lacasera14:
It's okay to assume but thankfully you don't know me. And I'm glad you mentioned men that are rare. So it means the man has special qualities no other man possesses and that's something that can make a woman go mad. Not an average Joe distancing himself from a woman when the woman can easily do away with him. But if the man is rare, how will the woman find out when the said rare man is barely available? Or the rare you're talking about is external qualities like 6feet, handsome and rich? In that case that is not rare. There are many of them all over the world and a beautiful woman who's being chased daily can pick anyone.

Not just the physical features but inclusive as well. And of course not the average joe. A guy that would play that kind of game with a lady must be the 1% of the 1%.

Leemzyy:
Ok thankx, so u were saying?i actually say that being in a relationship does not mean u must be intimate?like in my case as well

Intimacy boils down to understanding. But in most cases, the man will agree with that but his body language will suggest something else. Men that still want to be with you regardless will most likely have a side girl and let you be. But at the end of the day, it's all about what you want.

This is the most sensible post have read on this thread since. I fully agree with especially the hypothetical scenario you painted!

SuperOnyi:




I will be happy to go on this challenge but sadly, I'm currently working on a lot of things.

However, it is important to understand that humans are attracted to things that are scarce. Even in the market, you'd see how people automatically regard anything expensive as the best. But I digress...

You only have to partially ignore not totally, learn from online markets like Amazon and Jumia; they sell things for the full price but once in a while, they give the customers promos. You ignore her partially but when it's time to give her that attention, you give her what she wants 100%.

It took me a while to figure out I subconsciously do the "ignore thing" and I was surprised seeing red pill threads on Nairaland for the first time. I reflected on myself and found out that was 80% my default state. I'm still trying to figure out what makes people attracted to me...

So, what am I trying to say? You gotta have something they find valuable or mysterious to make the 'partial ignoring method' work. You have to understand how to make proper use of your silence and words. Communications between humans is deeper than just talking, sometimes silence pass a message.

Remember when your parents would look at you in a certain way and that's all you'd need to know you've fúcked up?

If you walk into a restaurant dressing and acting on a particular way, and you keep doing that for a week; all attention will be on you. When you disappear and appear a month later, you'd successfully create some kind of mystery in the mind of those who would remember you.

You gotta have something they think they've not seen in others but in reality, you're actually playing with their mind. Even if you're ugly, she'd still wonder why you keep acting that way—curiosity can also kill a monkey. Haha

samuelson06:
Intimacy boils down to understanding. But in most cases, the man will agree with that but his body language will suggest something else. Men that still want to be with you regardless will most likely have a side girl and let you be. But at the end of the day, it's all about what you want.

Then does it mean i'm wrong by not wanting anything intimacy b4 being legally married?

ME: *jotting some points in my notebook*

Akinpresident:
From experience it works, you just have to do it sparingly and effectively.
Women thrives on attention and when you starve them that, they go crazy. And it pushes them to find out what exactly that's making you not to have time for them and they pest your life with calls and texts.
You don't do this to a talking stage. She'll simply disappear. You do this to someone who just fell for you.
I think the whole thing is about ensuring the lady likes you as much as you like them.

Simple and basic principle

otherway:
When a high value man ignores a lady, she chases after him but when a low value man ignores a lady, she forgets him.

Interesting, factual and unapologetically blunt

DamnnNiggarr:



This is strictly for married men.

If she's not your wife yet, try this with her at your own peril.
Ignore a career woman, who's still just a "girlfriend" and watch her dump your ass for real.

At first, she'll try to find out what the problem is, but if she finds out that you're just being silly, she'll kick your ass out of her life.

It can only work with your wife, to an extent.
For instance, if I want to get my wife on her toes(which I wouldn't just start unnecessarily, unless something prompted it), I'll just reject her food, busy her calls and keep late hours. Then, come and watch her go gaga, but for the sake of your family, don't let it continue for a longer time, but I can't try this with "a girl friend". But do not suffocate her with your attention.

ADDENDUM:

On the other hand, when you're always available, it also scares women away, to them(women), it can mean many things like joblessness, broke etc, just as I have carefully compiled a list of them below through my research.


Over availability and attention from men to women can lead to;

1. Loss of challenge: When a man becomes too available or eager, the thrill of the chase is over, and the woman may feel less motivated to pursue the relationship.

2. Fear of suffocation: Excessive attention can feel overwhelming or suffocating, leading the woman to pull away and seek space.

3. Decreased sense of autonomy: When a man is too attentive, a woman may feel like she's losing her independence or freedom.

4. Perceived lack of mystery: When a man reveals too much too soon, the mystery and intrigue are gone, making the relationship less captivating.

5. Overemphasis on validation: If a man's attention is solely focused on validating the woman's worth, she may feel like she's only valued for her appearance or charm, rather than her substance.

6. Different attachment styles: Women with anxious or avoidant attachment styles may feel uncomfortable with intense attention, while men with secure attachment styles may not understand this discomfort.

7. Fear of intimacy: Some women may struggle with intimacy issues and pull away when a man gets too close or attentive.

Leemzyy:
Then does it mean i'm wrong by not wanting anything intimacy b4 being legally married?

No, you're not. I encourage you push for it if that's what you want. In fact, that should be the norm. However, everything comes with a price. The problem may not be you but on the side of the man. You'd have to let him go if he wants to and you wouldn't also have to tolerate double-dating because you don't want him to touch you for now.

Again, you must also ensure it's not going to be rush thing to get married simply because you want to have legal sex, then regret the marriage later. So, you'll have to look at the situation very closely and not shoot yourself on the foot in the long term.

Your first paragraph is not only right but tested and trusted!

Bahamas95:
One thing with me is that I hardly talk to strangers irrespective of who you're. Women crave for attention and if they notice you don't give a damn about them they get irritated.

Whenever I find myself in the midst of guys and pretty girl(s) I am always the last person to talk to the girl(s), most times they talk to me first.....If a girl truly finds you attractive she would do anything within her power to get your attention.

I have NEVER chased any woman in my life and I dated many pretty girls before I finally got married. What I discovered about women is that the pretty ones are easier to get, just be smart.

Do whatever works for you.

samuelson06:
No, you're not. I encourage you push for it if that's what you want. In fact, that should be the norm. However, everything comes with a price. The problem may not be you but on the side of the man. You'd have to let him go if he wants to and you wouldn't also have to tolerate double-dating because you don't want him to touch you for now.

Again, you must also ensure it's not going to be rush thing to get married simply because you want to have legal sex, then regret the marriage later. So, you'll have to look at the situation very closely and not shoot yourself on the foot in the long term.

Hmm we both have agree abt that,not like he even ever ask me for intimate stuffs like that,thats why i prefer him alone,i feel other guys will ask me for those stuffs,i shall heed to your points and advice

Leemzyy:
Hmm we both have agree abt that,not like he even ever ask me for intimate stuffs like that,thats why i prefer him alone,i feel other guys will ask me for those stuffs,i shall heed to your points and advice

Sounds good. But he may choose not to ask because he knows you wouldn't say yes to him. Now, check if he's got only you. Does he allow you have access to his phone? By the way, how long do you want this to last before you finally settle down with him?

Lol I always wonder where they got their mentality to generalise all women like that, if you check out the kind of girls those guys with that delusion date, you'd notice that they date mostly students and unemployed ladies and even at that, it doesn't apply to all of them, ladies that are attention needy regardless of it being one sided simply have low self esteem and lack self respect.

samuelson06:
Sounds good. But he may choose not to ask because he knows you wouldn't say yes to him. Now, check if he's got only you. Does he allow you have access to his phone? By the way, how long do you want this to last before you finally settle down with him?

Auhm for phone am not someone who like the idea of using or checking her man's phone,and as for settling down,we both are still schooling tho,he still schools at police academy so we dont meet much tho