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GloriousGbola:


A finger can never replace a glorious gbola

Oops. I didn't realize flakky had already posted her sfw born homework

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Onegai:
Hun

Check out adult stores in your location.

Also, go and date. Date, not for remarriage, but for physical pleasure. Meet a man you like, make sure he's safe and discreet and take care of business. Have a guy for chatting and gisting, several guys even. Keep one for business.

Keep serious dating on the back burner for now.

Keep them all from your kids.

That's what men do in your situation and that is what you should do, too.

Move on, m'dear.

And here is the truly beautiful thing (forget, I've seen this happen too many times, I can bet crypto on it sef):

Once you're dating and moving on with your life, that your ex is suddenly going to want to come back, stylishly.

Why?

Because you're peaceful, relaxed and busy. You're not fighting him anymore, you're not bitter, you're not keeping the kids from him. You don't care if he's trying to annoy you or flaunt his new gf in your presence, he is no longer important.

His Limerence and his Mid Life crisis is eventually slowing down. The brain fog in his head is clearing. You're looking good, smelling nice and he can see you through the eyes of other men, you look fu.ckable again.

You're comfortable yet excitingly new.

But please, don't take him back. Don't ever let him come back. If he was dumb enough to leave you, be smart enough to let him go.


And if you think that I'm making this up, that nobody wants a single mum of 3: Nne, go and baff up, do makeup, wear one lovely dress that announces your singleness (you know what I'm taking about, you need heels too) and snap a good pic and upload it to Facebook.

You're about to realise how many of your male uni and secondary school classmates always hoped for a chance with you. And they are usually an upgrade to your ex-man.

The same thing happens with men who were dumped by babes. They stop grieving and start taking care of themselves and suddenly their exes want to come back.

And one last thing: don't feel old.

Mature, rich guys (especially those in Abuja and Lagos) don't like small girls of 24 yrs, they're too young for them. All the big boys, bank MDs, Governonrs, Ministers and Oil big boys are carrying 35 years and older.

Why? Because you're discreet (you have kids, so you're not fighting their wives and aren't planning on trapping them with babies), you're secure in your skin and you're eager for se.x (no need to pretend like you no like am or act like a virgin). Those 20 yr old babes are busy doing Snapchat with him, you, OTOH, have been trained via marriage: you know you will ask him if he has taking his BP meds and listen to him complain about his son's marriage and admire his grandkids. You'll even Like his wife's inspirational posts on IG and be respectful to her. You are not planning on destroying his life, so they are very safe with you.

Na now your market go sell.

I have classmates that are 43, living in a nice flat in Chelsea (UK), being sponsored by people you read about in newspapers. The 25 yr old babes flaunting on IG are for immature Mid Life Crisis guys in their early 40s (who just started collecting N2m/month from an IOC), that want to feel young, all the girls can get is N400k and "thanks" from the serious big men.

Start dressing up and spending 2 hours every weekend on the island, in strategic bars. Something go click.

I am speaking from experience.

Trust me!

folake4u:
Kai, Buka.

We no longer use the term "masturbation" for females. The word is so heavy and old school.

We call it "DJ" or "DJing" now. You can search it online.

The old school one we all know is the traditional type, while the use of vibrators is the "modern" type.

I say make I tell you as GenZ education.

Konquest:
@Folake,

Oh wow! "DJing"... That's a new one for me.

It's getting really "hot" in here. lol.

The NJC and LPDC will have to get involved in this. *Smirk*

Konquest:
Whoa... I'm one of those men who knows full well that most women are NOT prudes. While I'm in sync with getting a "sex aid," or something to that effect if it's absolutely necessary for a woman to manage the raging monthly or cyclical hormones, I don't agree with the first paragraph of your post that I've highlighted above because of it's diminishing effect on a woman's image. You can't be jumping from one man to the other as a single mother and expect men to treat you with RESPECT. Some men share with their male club buddies, the wild sexual exploits they have had with the women that they do NOT love and RESPECT.

That can be societally diminishing for a woman because she is gonna be viewed as a "slut" and that hinders her chances of getting a genuine man whose gonna love and respect her as a single mother and eventually get married to her if that's what both of them really want. To each his own. Period.

folake4u:
Loool that word has been in existence since. I'm surprised you're just knowing. It is even in the Urban Dictionary.

Hahahaha I nor dey fear NJC and LPDC.

Konquest:
That's insightful. Right... So, since you say the word has been in existence "since" as a colloquial term... you should know that must have come into effect more recently in the 2000s or 2010s. But I've never heard of it used that way... It's pretty cool though.

You aren't afraid of those two bodies? Okay, maybe you have "big Gods" up there in the NJC and LPDC. lol.

By the way, a family lawyer by the name of Olumide Omosebi should be on air by now. If you are interested in his 2-hour radio program "Relationship 360" from 7am to 9am Nigerian time on the hugely popular NigeriaInfo 99.3 FM radio station which is located on Victoria Island, Lagos, then you can tune in right now on your mobile phone or radio. I used to listen to it a lot on their mobile app during the COVID lockdowns but I'll tune in right now via their online app. A lot of Diasporans listen to the program as well which shows the good quality of the program.

Talk to you later.

Ciao.

Onegai:
Good morning,

Let's try some comprehension, shall we?

I said this in my comment, which you highlighted:

"Have a guy for chatting and gisting, several guys even. Keep one for business."

What does the above sentence imply please?

A. Sleep with several men
OR
B. Have friendly, casual relationships with different men, but keep only one for se.xual needs

What do you think, please? A or B?

Thanks.

folake4u:
Yeah, the colloquial term has been used for a while now. That's true sef, you're Gen X so it is understandable.

Loool. I don't have "big god's" there. I'm just saying I didn't do anything that would warrant me appearing before the two bodies.

Oh yeah. I'm currently listening on my phone too. To be honest, Narcissists are a no no for me. Can't deal.

Konquest:
I know baby lawyer... just teasing you.
Ah! let me tune in online as well.

Ciao.

folake4u:
Lol. Wahala for baby lawyer.

Onegai:
Rich men cheating is really about buying a product. The poorer the society, the less morals its people can afford. Which is what infidelity is in Nigeria: poverty-alleviation program. It's only daft immature guys who believe their Affair Partner loves them seriously.

Which is why I'm always irritated when I see Yul Edochie and Rude Boy (P-Square). I've spoken to my male relatives their age and older and they're all in unison:

"God forbid I impregnate any girl or start raising any baby at age 40+, when I should be getting ready to finally enjoy my money".

Especially that Yul Edochie. Man is going to one corner of his neighbourhood to weep silently.

You always know when they're full of regret but their ego won't let them go back (so that they don't become laughing-stock): that's when the public show of love with the new babe will be plenty. Serious flaunting. just know the tears cried into their pillows are hot. The babe herself will be doing extra to cover up the growing feeling that she messed up but is now stuck with an older man and if the ex-wife doesn't give a shi.t anymore, then she has nothing to motivate her and feed her own ego.

You think I'm lying? Look at Bianca Ojukwu or any other woman in that setting. They know that not only are they wasting their prime with an older man, but the minute he croaks, his older kids are coming for even her pots and cutlery that he bought her. Wounded cubs turn into vicious adult lions.


Go to countries like Russia and Eastern European countries, those babes are not marrying for love, they're hardened. Same with Asians.

Iceland and Greenland have the lowest infidelity rates, because they're countries where opportunities for men and women are somewhat equal. So as your man dey step out, you too are following suit.

PS: thanks for the kind words.

Proserpina:
I was shaking my head for Folake. That child haff spoil finish

folake4u:
We no longer use the term "masturbation" for females. The word is so heavy and old school.

We call it "DJ" or "DJing" now. You can search it online.

The old school one we all know is the traditional type, while the use of vibrators is the "modern" type.

I say make I tell you as GenZ education.

Farfalla:
***Jots down crucial points on notebook.

Farfalla:
***Jots down crucial points on notebook.

Klass99:
You are a very silly girl but consider me educated I had no idea.

GloriousGbola:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6oeoQ0RbTd0?si=2b6uY9ykCmHyNsf5

Folake4u, your ministry of self service is growing

Klass99:
Yeah, something new of no value at all. But mehn I had a good laugh from reading that post so it had value for me in a different way.

Farfalla:
I'm telling you.
Has she ever mentioned to you that she likes slapping men's buttöcks, despite the fact that I've warned her to stay away from men?

folake4u:
I've abstained from men nau. But if I ever have a man, I will touch his bum. Non-negotiable.

Farfalla:
Understood.

Farfalla:
I'm telling you.
Has she ever mentioned to you that she likes slapping men's buttöcks, despite the fact that I've warned her to stay away from men?

folake4u:
I've abstained from men nau. But if I ever have a man, I will touch his bum. Non-negotiable.

Proserpina:
That's Cray Cray

Proserpina:
Folake does post some crazy weird preference Never have I imagined someone enjoying slapping men's buttocks

Sounds bdsmwxzy

Proserpina:
Folaké does post some crazy weird preference Never have I imagined someone enjoying slapping men's buttocks

Sounds bdsmwxzy

GloriousGbola:
Special delivery for folake

I heard you like men with cake