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Undilutedme:
Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏

santaclaws:
Does your room mate bring a girlfriend to the shared room? You shouldn't bring a woman to a room you're sharing with your friend.

I am pretty sure it's not a flat where you have your own personal room. You finished NYSC under 1 year, you never make money, you dey carry girlfriend matter for head. If you were my younger brother I would slap you! 😡

Work hard and get your own apartment before carrying woman up and down.

Undilutedme:
Honestly. Why telling my guest to sweep? She’s supposed to do it if she likes. It’s our room and we’re meant to take care of it, I’m not of the opinion that a girl I’m not married to should do chores I’m supposed to do for me. The fact that I’m not the only one using the room makes it worse.

dominique:
Too bad you had to learn the hard way that nairaland romance section is filled with bitter, toxic men who do not only bring women down, they also do same to men who have a little bit of stability in their lives. Ignore the losers and focus on the few sound advice given. Your friend had no rights to ask your girlfriend to sweep. He is not only disrespecting you and belittling her, he is also testing the grounds to see how low she can bend. Now that she has obliged, don't be shocked if he asks her to wash his clothes or go to the market, buy foodstuffs and cook. If you and your girlfriend know you will not be able to stand up to him, I suggest your girlfriend should stop coming to your room till you make alternate accomodation arrangements.

InvertedHammer:
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Did she sweep the room because it was dirty or they wanted to hide what they did before you came back?

Think.

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Undilutedme:
They're just blindly attacking me and not even handling the issue I brought. All I want to know is if I overrated or not.

hopexter:
Go read it again, he wasn’t home and the friend wasn’t home. The friend only came back and met his friend’s girl then left again. Why would your girlfriend come to the room you share with a friend at your working hrs? Does that make any sense to you? Except she lives there and own a key.

iamisibor:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with your friend telling your girlfriend to sweep. Was he suppose to sweep while your girlfriend is around?

You and your friend exist before your gf. I don't know how you guys relate. Any one I can share an apartment with is not just a friend but a brother.

I noticed you are quick to throw insult from your response to the first two people that commented. Control your emotions; with no disrespect I feel this is the new trend with GenZ and Alpha GenZ because una never see life. GenZ and AlphaGenZ throw insults and react recklessly in the name of been woke. You wan impress your babe? The same babe you are fighting for and throwing insult on people for can leave you the next minute for another man. How would you see yourself when that happens? Embarrassing right?

For the people saying woman shouldn't be his focus, sometimes you can't attract the right woman after you make it. You can't even tell who is real and who is fake. Also be reminded not to carry woman for head make sure you balance your emotions and don't get carried away.

Talk to your friend and make peace. Let him know you are sorry you allowed your emotions take over you. Move on from the issue and again don't let woman come between you and your friend. Women are very important but also very unpredictable. Apply wisdom be diplomatic in all your doings. Stay safe, don't take harsh decisions and be wise.

MuslimIgbo:
Go tell that drunkard old foól you call father to upgrade his compression.

santaclaws:
Follow the post nne, he modified it and you would have seen that if you read properly.

Karleb:
You did the right thing. Your girl is a guest and should be treated as such.

Why she sef oblige?

ChiefOkporghe:
You see most Nigerian men ba, ya all deserve the kind of adulterous, disloyal and gold digging women most of you lots complain about.

This girl stuck with the OP as a new graduate and as an NYSC member... He just finished his NYSC and they have been dating for about a year plus now.

You all are blasting the guy for having a girlfriend and telling him he is not serious with his life.
But this is a girl that has shown commitment to the guy even as he has little.

Same you lots will be quick to hail this type of lady as a wife material who can stick with her man through thick and thin.
This lady is the ideal wife material you all like to talk about.

If this guy dumps this girl now and she stops believing in love and instead goes after a rich guy, you will still be the same set of Nigerian men calling her a hoe and gold digger.

Ya all claim it is difficult to find a good woman after being rich and instead to find one when you're poor.... But you're blasting the guy for following the advices you all have littered this forum with.

This was how you guys lambasted the CEO of Imran Roofing here on nairaland when he got married in 2014 after NYSC.. Look at him today celebrating about 10 years in marriage.

No man. No body close to me will ever try to disrespect my woman. That person would have me to contend with. And it wouldn't be palatable.

The amount of respect people around you have for you will be shown in how they treat your spouse and kids.

This is how you lots turn your wives to house helps to family and friends but will never imagine that kind of life for your daughters.

Tueehhhh

Isokoson:
Mehn, this is beyond local man logistics

Bros op, your roommate no be real guy, a real guy go keep calm and see whether she go sweep am or not, when I squat with someone then, my roommate girlfriend go come, we go just gist talk small, then I go dey look whether she go do am or not, if she no do am, I go lock up... Asking your girlfriend to sweep looks more like a disrespect to me, dat kind person no dey happy say u get loyal girl, Omo I go advice you to get your own apartment as you talk.... Nothing good like having your privacy.. Even if is just single room....

Seriously your guy no try

My guy then know me nah, even if him girl no do am I go do am, nah so shame go dey catch the girl, before you know, nah she dey do am without bein told.

hopexter:
Na senseless people like you dem dey deceive with such lies. Try to dey use your head at times.

So tell me, the boyfriend is at work and the flatmate is not around. Why would my girlfriend come to my shared room at my working hours knowing fully well that I would be at work if she doesn’t already have a key to the room?
How did she get in when both boys are not even at home?

If she’s got a key to the apartment, she should be able to keep it clean when dirty, does she need to be reminded for that?

ChiefOkporghe:
No sir.
His friend wasn't around when he came back from work which implies that his friend was around when the girlfriend came around and called him to say she would wait for him.

Meaning she came when he would soon close from work that's in the evening since he closes by 5pm and sometimes 6pm.
If it wasn't so, he wouldn't have agreed to letting her wait for him since she would have had to wait for very long.

Again, read the OP again.

psucc:
It's shameful how some of us do not have shame. Op, it's so shameful!

So your girlfriend has to wait until it takes another person to tell her to sweep or do some house chores? And you still get the effrontery to tell the world this? No!
Too shameful!

Undilutedme:
Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏

ogascomax:
If you are wise you will stick to what the poster said instead of creating your assumptions of the girl having a spare key and both of them not at home when the girl came. Did you see that in his post. Answer based on what he said not based on what you presumed.

ZACHIE:
If as a young school leaver you throw abuses at people you hardly know, your journey is far, sir.

calm your ego veins down. Learn about shared responsibility and communal living. it will help you, sir.

hopexter:
You are only assuming that the friend was around to suit your narrative. So tell me, why would I tell my girlfriend to go meet my friend who is also my roommate at home when I am at work? Why would I ask your girlfriend to sweep if she’s not already someone I’m familiar with or someone that is part of the house.

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?