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pocohantas:
Thank you. They always speak from all sides of their mouths. As long as they are putting down the woman in the story, they switch sides.

I don't take them serious. No mature-minded man should either.

Leave them. They will be quick to label me a simp.

But while individuals can have their own issues, there is nothing compared to being in a relationship/marriage with someone who is as committed as you are to that union.

You become more than just lovers but partners. That's how anything worthwhile is built. Whether it be a business, relationship/marriage or a nation.

You can't fake commitment. Circumstances will put you to test.

If a man/woman finds a committed woman/man, omor stick with him/her.

There's joy in not being alone but sharing the beauty of this life and confronting the challenges of this life with someone who has got your back.

Kids with parental issues just litter this forum and be putting down people...

Virtuous lady don turn enemy of progress for man because she agreed to love and stick with him.

Undilutedme:
Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏

Yes,as an average guy like you that is still squatting, you are not supposed to have a girlfriend.You should be lynch for this

DonBenny77:
You be mumu, wetin you dey do with girlfriend when you no fit rent selfcon for yourself?
Dirty livestyle.
Why would your girlfriend wait for you in a shared house when you're not home, tomorrow it will be your roommate hitting on your girlfriend.
You lack proper orientation.
As for the matter at hand your roommate has every right to ask her to sweep.
You're the problem

The boy na mumu aswear. @op, your mumu no too much?

Instead of you to concentrate on hustle and how to make it, na babe wey sweep room be your problem. Na wa.

Kennatic:
I rarely comment on nairaland because I love to conserve energy but listen and listen good,

I do not care if you have dated for 10 years, she's your girlfriend and not wife. He did absolutely nothing wrong or were you expecting him to sweep the room for you and your "girlfriend". If she even see am dey sweep she suppose collect the broom from em hand.

Apply common sense in everything you do, this isn't a big deal for you to get lost in thoughts and emotional to seek for advice cos wtf.

Channel that energy into bettering your life. A friendly reminder that Tinubu is your President and things will get madder, girlfriend no be investment my Guy.

Squash that shit like it's nothing and let your guy continue to be your Guy. Enjoy your girlfriend. 5 years from now you will understand especially if una no come marry.

U conserved my energy bro, u said my mind the only difference is that I would have been harsh

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

Yes, your friend was very correct and not disrespectful. Do not be offended at my words.

You also can ask his girlfriend to clean the room, cook your food and generally help you young me out with your little household chores. Your girlfriend did not feel disrespected from your words. Except you are forming “big boy” or “ajebo”, there’s nothing to it. Your girl was there for you and to take care of you and your things. Tidying the room you share with your friend was a personal responsibility and she did it. If she was disrespected she’d have complained.

Except that the two of you were previously having issues, this is a matter that young men laugh over, with the ladies too. Infact young ladies are more than willing to do such things for their men.

If he gave her a box of chocolates or 10k, would you be here angry? Get back to your friend and make your friendship better and more pleasurable, especially as you live together in the shared space.

For me, you exhibited the traits of a “woman wrapper”. You felt unnecessarily humiliated. What if she leaves you for another man? Your relationship with her is not cast in stone, but your relationship with your friend can put you both in great positions in the future.

Listen up, guy! Your roommate has absolutely no business asking your girlfriend to sweep the room. And you, my friend, are in the same boat. Both of you need to grab a broom and handle your own mess. Leave the girlfriends out of this domestic drama.

Now, here's where you really slipped up. Instead of telling him off, you should've just asked his girlfriend to sweep the whole house too. Equal opportunity, right?

And if you want to be rolling in dough, forget about this girlfriend-boyfriend saga and focus on your career. Trust me, from what I've seen, guys who get tangled up in this end up either broke with a bunch of kids or just plain broke without the girlfriend.

Shalom!

Because of one random dirty street call up girl, make u wan dey keep beef with ur frd u know for years. Meaning u value ur 1 year gf more than ur frd u know for years. It also means u will pick offense if ur relations or parents correct ur wife one day.
Well i like the fact you said when u came back, everywhere was neat. Meaning u enjoyed the space at that moment. That also shows how dirty you and gf are. Well ur roommate na man him be. Kudos to him. Ur girl suppose clean the house not until she's been asked to do it. If u marry her, she won't do it, u can't discipline her, so let another man discipline her the right way. What are frds for? Better go and apologize to ur frd

It is 200% wrong for your friend to tell your girlfriend to sweep the floor ,...thank GOD she is a respectful lady ,...tell him next time he shouldn't try it,...what business does he have with her ?

Karleb:
You did the right thing. Your girl is a guest and should be treated as such.

Why she sef oblige?

Guess kee? For her to wait for him when he's not around shows she's comfortable with his roommate and she have been going to their house. The girl is just been lazy. Normally the guy no suppose ask her to sweep. But it seems he did it in a polite way for the girl not to have pick offense and leave or report to his mumu op

If your girlfriend entered the room and found it dirty and it did not occur to her as a wife material to clean the room, then your friend is helping you and also helping her.
When you entered the room and found it neat, you are happy. That's how your room should be at any time.
Thank your friend for helping your relationship.

Undilutedme:
Its only an untrained guy that would want a girl to be doing his chores for him. I wasn’t trained like that. Plus, I don’t want it to look like I’m taking advantage of her because she’s in love with me to start using her to do my chores. Well, every man his opinion though

Baba shut up. You that ur well trained why don't tidy up ur room b4 going to work? If u had keep the room clean always ur roommate wouldn't have ask ur lazy type of girl to sweep. When I was in school I always mop my room every day b4 going for lectures or leaving my house. My room was the neatest room in the whole of my lodge, note I also have a roommate back then. Learn to be clean if not u will learn the hard way. Teach ur callup girl to be clean, if not others will teach her.

Undilutedme:
But I should allow them insult me? Why’s Nairaland so toxic? If this question was to be asked on quora, you’ll only see mature responses and not useless comments like some of those above. I respect people and don’t tolerate disrespect in any form

Many of them are very young and stupid. And anything that has to do with women, you see them shouting SIMP while in real life them dey grin like idiots when they see women

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

You are still struggling and it's girlfriend matter that you're carrying on your head.
PATHETIC SIMP of a man!!!!
Not even a wife, but a girlfriend!

And what's wrong in telling your girlfriend to sweep the house?
That's how you guys elevate them to a platform and later on when they start misbehaving, you start crying.
Continue to spoil her and be having problems with your fellow man all because of a woman just because she spreads worthless pussy for you to fuvvck.
Nonsense!!!

imagrg:
You over-reacted.
The girls that patronize both of you are supposed to keep the home neat.
Go and discuss things over with your friend.

Exactly my bro. For the girl to even wait for him while he's not around shows she's free with both of them. My girl use to visit us back then in school cause i've a roommate, of course she dare not messed around with my room cause it's always well arranged, as time goes on, if she visits and the room is not okay she will tidy it up without me saying a word. If the op was neat he will clean the house b4 going to work. But he's the type that always feel big and leave things for the roommate. After all he said he love the way the room was neat. So why is he angry? Who for arrange am for am?

1. The roommate has a girl so when she comes you sef carry b room give her mk she sweep.shikena
2. never allow your friend alone with your woman...he may baltazar her
3.you and you friend as una be pig wey na girls go come de seep una slaughter house.or is it not the house you both use in fornicating?

This one is still crying cos they asked your babe to sweep room

Wait until another man with money go marry am for your very before.

I just pity young guys wey never stand in life, them dey do girl friend and boyfriend.

Make money bro, I mean real money wey get body odor, before carrying woman matter for head.

Bahamas95:
First of all your girlfriend isn't suppose to wait for anybody to tell her before doing the needful. I don't see anything wrong with what your roommate did, though I don't know the tone he used to tell her.

* Jane please sweep the room.

* Jane please sweep the room!


The first sentence is very
gentle and respectful while the second is a command/disrespectful and could provoke someone.

For the girl not call the mumu or complain when the mumu boy come back, shows the guy was polite. And the girl even clean the room well. The op said he noticed the room was neat. Meaning op left the room very dirty or the room is always dirty. I can't leave my room dirty and go out. He failed

jaxxy:
So u want u roommate or you to sweep the room for her? What kind of spoilt gfs do u keep?

She should even wash the dishes.

My gee. And if foodstuffs dey make she cook.

correctyourself:
Try settle with your RM and advice your girl when she's around and the place needs to be taken taken of just assist and once he sees your girl doing this I'm sure he will also ask his girlfriend to start as well and with time things will normalize.

It's a matter of time both of you would have your separate apartment and this would be one of the things you would use to funny each other.

Some of my relatives live like this then, but now one of them is a lecturer with University of benin and the other is working with First Bank in Benin as well both Married with Children.

you are a peaceful man, one will know from your comment.

Certain issues are corrected from the root, not the top.

If you go live under a tree and a monkey shit on your head, will you be vexing at the monkey? of course not. Leave the bush and go live in city as other civilized people.

Rent a room, have a privacy, then invite a girl there. Simple.

You are inconveniencing your room mate by bringing your girlfriend to your shared space. When he rented a room with you, he also paid for privacy, comfort, and no disturbance.

But if you must bring a girl in your room, do it with sense. Let her clean her mess and act like an esteemed visitor. ''Feel at home'' doesn't mean you should break my TV remote.

You and your girl must conduct yourself if she will come visiting again, and know that he is the one tolerating, not you guys.

pansophist:
Certain issues are corrected from the root, not the top.

If you go live under a tree and a monkey shit on your head, will you be vexing at the monkey? of course not. Leave the bush and go live in city as other civilized people.

Rent a room, have a privacy, then invite a girl there. Simple.

You are inconveniencing your room mate by bringing your girlfriend to your shared space. He didn't just rented a room with you, he also paid for privacy, comfort, and no disturbance.

But if you must bring a girl in your room, do it with sense. Let her clean her mess and act like an esteemed visitor. Please feel at home doesn't mean say you will break my TV remote.

the girl did not make any mess.

you in obodo oyibo where you live can you even consider ordering a roomies gf or bf to clean up? she is a guest

in university we shared spaces and had female visitors. i have never seen anyone pull off this s**t before - ordering a roomates gf to clean the room

my future inlaws [2001-2006] all hung out in a flat their parents had moved out of. all of them had their gfs come in one time or another . no one ever asked anyones gf to clean the house. no one even thought of it.

the only thing i can agree with is it is better not to share a room. just as it is better not to share a flat or a compound or space with neighbours. but that all comes down to money.

best not to share space with assholes but you cant tell until after the fact

not sure where breaking a tv remote comes into this

U should be shameless to have such a woman that until she is told , she won't sweep and be proud of her .

For your friend to ask her to do so means many occasions she came in the past , she does nothing in that house apart of giving u pussy to fu$ck
Get rid of such a girl men

Bcs why? its a shared room why make your guest clean after the both of you?GF or not as long as your not hope he should even keep the interaction with her to a minimum but to the point of telling her to sweep tomorrow he'd bring out cloths for her to wash or send her to the market to cook.There are boundaries you just dont cross

Iseoluwani:
he is wrong for doing that, he would have told you, you alone is having d autonomy to do that not him. he is actually rude.

Undilutedme:
Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏

to be honest you are so annoying.
that your girl is a bad bitch
that's how she has ended up separating u and ur homie.
I know ur type. u need no advice u know everything.

This matter na small children own. Our brains too full to accommodate this kain trivial issue.

Your room mate, your girlfriend and you all have a high level of deficiency.

I will excuse your room mate because you brought it upon yourself, there is such a thing as couple's secret which will never be visible to outsider because they are not part of your immediate space.
But you dey share room with one mumu wey nor know him boundaries, thank God for your girl if na some other girls na half head your friend go done get by now.

I think you owe your girl an apology, plus you need to move out.

Undilutedme:
Hello, Nairalanders. Good morning, I’m going to be short.

I stay in Ondo and I just finished my youth service and currently, I’m staying with long time friend(We’re splitting the rent) till we are able to find our way. Something happened last week Friday that has brought a little misunderstanding (We don’t flow like before) and I want your opinion.

Okay, so I went to my work, I work from 8-5, sometimes 6 and that day, my girlfriend called me and said she was around the house and wanted to wait and see me, I told her it was fine that I would be back soon. I went back later to the house and I met her, my friend wasn’t around then. The house was very neat, but I knew she was the one who swept it, so I didn’t ask. But one talk led to another and she told me it was that my friend that told her to get broom and sweep the room. When she said it, I wasn’t so cool with it because I felt he didn’t have that right to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room. Even if she wanted to sleep it, I should be the one to tell her and not my room mate. I told him and he didn’t see anything wrong with it and insisted that I didn’t like it and he shouldn’t do it next time, because I found it a bit disrespectful to myself and my girlfriend. Since then, he hasn’t been so cool, we talk but not like before. Did I overreact? Do you think it’s okay or wrong for my roommate to tell my girlfriend to sweep the room?

NB; I do not tell my girlfriend to sweep the room when my roommate is around, so it doesn’t bring “see finish “ so, she’s never swept in his presence before, but she does it when he’s not around.

Also, he has his girlfriend that comes to the house too and I have never told her to do anything like that before. So, what do you guys think?

Next time him go ask ur babe to off pant
she go off am but this time she no go tell u

olarent:
Their is nothing wrong in asking ur friend girl to do such, the way she was asked to do it is was what will suppose to analyse.

There is EVERYTHING wrong with asking your female guest to sweep your room, if you see nothing wrong with it then it shows how low you rate women. No matter how he asked, it absolutely disrespectful to ask someone that come visiting to come and clean your space. If your daughter is being subjected to that level of debasement, will you be ok with it?

pansophist:
Certain issues are corrected from the root, not the top.

If you go live under a tree and a monkey shit on your head, will you be vexing at the monkey? of course not. Leave the bush and go live in city as other civilized people.

Rent a room, have a privacy, then invite a girl there. Simple.

You are inconveniencing your room mate by bringing your girlfriend to your shared space. When he rented a room with you, he also paid for privacy, comfort, and no disturbance.

But if you must bring a girl in your room, do it with sense. Let her clean her mess and act like an esteemed visitor. ''Feel at home'' doesn't mean you should break my TV remote.

You and your girl must conduct yourself if she will come visiting again, and know that he is the one tolerating, not you guys.

Did this one read the Op correctly? What kind of comment is this?

The question is nah your guy or just roommate?

The answer is the reply to your post..

santaclaws:
Does your room mate bring a girlfriend to the shared room? You shouldn't bring a woman to a room you're sharing with your friend.

I am pretty sure it's not a flat where you have your own personal room. You finished NYSC under 1 year, you never make money, you dey carry girlfriend matter for head. If you were my younger brother I would slap you! 😡

Work hard and get your own apartment before carrying woman up and down.

You be Fool, a very big one

Wetin dey pain me be say op is a recent graduate but his English is gbas gbos, what's the education system turning into.