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Hey Nairalanders! I need sincere views and genuine advice. Two years ago, I was on the street of Lagos working as a Dispatch Rider until I met a certain lady in Lekki who liked my person and wasn't shy to relate with me about how she felt about me. Before I knew it, the lady got me a Room & a Parlour Apartment in the Lekki phase 2 area.

Although, I always have a clear idea of what to do with my life and the resources needed to put my career on sail. As she found out about my lofty ideas, she liked me more and was proud to introduce me to her friends. She got me what I needed, a laptop, an iPhone XR, Wifi router and also credited my account with 300K, not forgetting, she stocked my new apartment with food stuffs, so I have nothing to worry about. I was fully empowered by the lady and I was happy to do what brings out the creativity in me.

I wouldn't say I fell in love with her, but I like and appreciate all she has done on me, and of course, she's head over hills with me. She's obsessed with me, my ways and my doings as I was already making my own money legitimately, earning in multiple streams both in Dollars and Euros. She always bring up the idea of marriage which didn't sit well with me cos the lady isn't the woman of my dreams but I always feel I gotta pay back her kindness in whatever ways possible.

Now, this is the thing. I am in my mid 30s and under crazy pressure from my parents especially my Dad to bring home a wife. Just last Sunday, my Mum called my line saying she found me a lady that I would like a lady who shares the same ideologies as mine and she promised me it will be hard for me to resist her. I laughed hard at her, telling her it won't be possible for her to choose a wife for me, she pleaded with me and assured me that I will like the lady. Okay, as my Mum, I hearken her demands, so I requested to see the lady's picture before having her contact. When she sent the picture, I was wowed by the looks of the lady cos she's so so cute. Well, being cute have never been a requisite for choosing a woman for me.

Furthermore, I requested for her contact to find out who she is and what she stands for, my people, I was blown away by the level of intelligence of the lady. Her mentality and ideas made me realize she's the woman I dreamt of all these years. We became so excited about each other. The lady also lives on the Island and her estate is just a few kilometers from mine. We went on a date last Friday and it is obvious from the look of things that we are gonna be together for long.

Here is my challenge, the first girl who gave me life and set me up for greatness have bigger expectation than what she currently get from our relationship. Although, I never promised her marriage, not even when am drunk. Although, she will make a good wife and probably do everything to satisfy me. But the challenge is she doesn't stand for the same philosophy as me. She knows little or nothing about my life call. As things stands right now, I am richer than her and have a few better connections than she does and she was the reason why I achieved all that I have today.

Now, how do I breakup with the first lady cos I can't stay in a relationship that leads nowhere. Neither do I want to waste her time cos I just wanna comeout plain. I feel some pity and sorriness in my spirit but I don't wanna succumb to it. I know she will be heart broken and I might be a reason why she become vile towards men. I am a bit confused and at the same time lucid about my wants in life.

How do I repay back the first lady? At this junction, I found the woman of my dreams, my parents have been so happy with me than ever before. I need your advice guys.

This is super story

Another tale from Uganda. Go and sleep jareh. Night don come.🥱🥱

Las las,not every Nigerian banny is a useless creature cuz it seems there are still good ones out there..

LIVINGICONREBOR:
Another tale from Uganda. Go and sleep jareh. Night don come.🥱🥱

Kids aren't welcomed here, only matured minds.

durentboi:
This is super story

You know nothing.

Sonnobax15:

Las las,not every Nigerian banny is a useless creature cuz it seems there are still good ones out there..

There are many top notch Nigerian ladies out there, don't be fooled by what you see and read only. Get to meet people in real life.

Try to meet rich kids with good morals, they are the best to date. They appreciate every little things you do for them neither do they have entitlement mentality.

TheTundeMuniru:
How do I repay back the first lady? At this junction, I found the woman of my dreams, my parents have been so happy with me than ever before. I need your advice guys.

.lol..u sure this story ma real.?? most Nigerian women too stingy for this kind levels.... but if na real........Ur egungun don nearly reach express

I don't even know what to tell you, but you will surely regret not marrying her.

You might even loss everything.

Never joke with emotional love

Don't leave that your first girlfriend, marry her if you want your life to remain same

A single Nigerian lady found you working as a dispatch rider, liked you, expressed her feelings for you, gave you an apartment, 300k, laptop, phone and router.

The things that happened in Star Wars and Matrix are more believable than this crap.

My instinct tells me this is a made up story for engagements.

My instinct don't lie!

advanceDNA:
.lol..u sure this story ma real.?? most Nigerian women too stingy for this kind levels.... but if na real........Ur egungun don nearly reach express

Nah man... I hate getting worried about anything, but I've been worried the past few days than I have ever.

I believe I'll get it right at the end.

Foodqueen:
I don't even know what to tell you, but you will surely regret not marrying her.

You might even loss everything.

I might regret not marrying her, yes I might cos it's hard and strange to imagine living life without her. Two sweet years of progress and joy with her can't be bought from anywhere in the world.

Lose everything? Nah, I doubt it. All my life, I win. No matter the temporary small defeats, I always end up victorious.

galantjoe:
Never joke with emotional love

Don't leave that your first girlfriend, marry her if you want your life to remain same

Hhhmmmm... The term "emotional love" made me have goosebumps.

But my family doesn't like her, especially my Mum.

eazzzy1:
A single Nigerian lady found you working as a dispatch rider, liked you, expressed her feelings for you, gave you an apartment, 300k, laptop, phone and router.

The things that happened in Star Wars and Matrix are more believable than this crap.

Lol... It is people like you who are suspicious of success because of the limitations of your mind. Can't help you, you gotta help yourself.

ObalendeCMS:
My instinct tells me this is a made up story for engagements.

My instinct don't lie!

Your instinct needs upgrade, it doesn't know jack.

If this is true then you dont deserve a good life sorry to say so when she dey turn your life around you no remember now money don come better marry her cause watin she go use your eyes see you sef go tire

Psychopatheko:
If this is true then you dont deserve a good life sorry to say so when she dey turn your life around you no remember now money don come better marry her cause watin she go use your eyes see you sef go tire

Omo! I'm still with her though and I deserve every good things in life.

I brought the issue here so you guys can help me view things from your perspectives.

Marry the helper of a woman because women like that are not common especially nowadays. I wonder what is philosophy because i am not understanding. A woman is helping and showing wife materal behaviour and you are asking questions. Except she is very ugly and you are not attracted to her in aby way, shape and form. Then I see no reason why you should not marry her.

atoliman:
Marry the helper of a woman because women like that are not common especially nowadays. Asset over

No lie, woman like her is very rare.

I know I'll end up making the right decision.

TheTundeMuniru:
No lie, woman like her is very rare.

I know I'll end up making the right decision.

I wonder what is your philosophy because i am not understanding. A woman is helping and showing wife materal behaviour and you are asking questions. Except she is very ugly and you are not attracted to her in any way, shape and form. Then I see no reason why you should not marry her.

atoliman:
I wonder what is your philosophy because i am not understanding. A woman is helping and showing wife materal behaviour and you are asking questions. Except she is very ugly and you are not attracted to her in any way, shape and form. Then I see no reason why you should not marry her.

Mehn... I'm overwhelmed with emotions😢

Your contribution is well appreciated.

TheTundeMuniru:
Nah man... I hate getting worried about anything, but I've been worried the past few days than I have ever.

I believe I'll get it right at the end.

U had better be worried...women don't like getting a taste of their own medicine

advanceDNA:
U had better be worried...women don't like getting a taste of their own medicine

Hhhmmmm... Omo, una dey make me dey fear like this.

TheTundeMuniru:
I might regret not marrying her, yes I might cos it's hard and strange to imagine living life without her. Two sweet years of progress and joy with her can't be bought from anywhere in the world.

Lose everything? Nah, I doubt it. All my life, I win. No matter the temporary small defeats, I always end up victorious.

Hehehe... I find your last statement very funny and amusing. Ok o

Crestaria:
Hehehe... I find your last statement very funny and amusing. Ok o

Yup! I win always, no matter the odds.

TheTundeMuniru:
Yup! I win always, no matter the odds.

The lady your mum introduced to you,how well do you know her? Do you know if she's pretending because she has seen a ready made guy? Do you know if she's willing to be with you because of your money and assets? Is she making her own money?

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atoliman:
Marry the helper of a woman because women like that are not common especially nowadays. I wonder what is philosophy because i am not understanding. A woman is helping and showing wife materal behaviour and you are asking questions. Except she is very ugly and you are not attracted to her in aby way, shape and form. Then I see no reason why you should not marry her.

Don't underestimate the fury of a jilted woman in love. Don't fall, victim bro, no caps if u don't marry that first girl u will regret it, no woman is perfect, if she doesn't suit you as u want, make her so.

The second woman is the one you want but believe me, the first one is the one you actually need, don't be fooled, love isn't everything really, u will find that out Real soon

LandMann:
Never play with a woman who was able to lift you out of potential poverty and give you life and hope again in a country where people like Tinubu are ready to make every youth a nonentity and nobody.

That first lady is truly a fertile ground that will make you and your children prosper. If she could go all out to support your dream and fund it to become reality, she can do much more.

So, what do you want in life? To be successful? To have successful children? To have a woman who can build your children even when you're absent? What do you want and between the two of them who can help you fulfill your dream? Who is truly a "helper" as defined by God?

Well, for you to be having second thoughts or even entertaining the thoughts of another woman in your life, you're disloyal and a very terrible and ungrateful person and I fear you'll come crumbling down if you make the wrong choice here.

You'd even be a worse human if you hide under the excuse of pressure/suggestion from your mother to abandon a woman that helped and supported you to become what you are today for one that is coming to reap where she did not sow simply because your values align with hers...

Like what are your values and why can't you help the first lady understand them just like she understood your dreams and helped you fulfill them?

There's more to tell you but I can't say it without being brutally honest and showing everyone you're a despicable ungrateful person.

It's your life. Go for the second lady and see how your life turns out 10-20 years from now.

Jeez... Life sucks🥺

Crestaria:
The lady your mum introduced to you,how well do you know her? Do you know if she's pretending because she has seen a ready made guy? Do you know if she's willing to be with you because of your money and assets? Is she making her own money?

My discussions with her made me discover we share almost the same life values and perspectives.

Moreover, she's rich and from a rich family. I know her family very well cos we are from the same town. According to my Mum, the lady's Mum is so excited about the idea of me marrying her only daughter, and I am the only son of my parents too.