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Sucre6:
Don't underestimate the fury of a jilted woman in love. Don't fall, victim bro, no caps if u don't marry that first girl u will regret it, no woman is perfect, if she doesn't suit you as u want, make her so.

The second woman is the one you want but believe me, the first one is the one you actually need, don't be fooled, love isn't everything really, u will find that out Real soon

Hhhmmmm... Can't agree less. I'll come out of this victorious.

TheTundeMuniru:
My discussions with her made me discover we share almost the same life values and perspectives.

Moreover, she's rich and from a rich family. I know her family very well cos we are from the same town. According to my Mum, the lady's Mum is so excited about the idea of me marrying her only daughter, and I am the only son of my parents too.

You need some time to think this through. May God guide you through and choose the best woman for you. Good luck.

NEED and WANT are two different words. All the best

Crestaria:
You need some time to think this through. May God guide you through and choose the best woman for you. Good luck.

NEED and WANT are two different words. All the best

I definitely need time to decide. And thanks for your contribution, it is well appreciated, thanks.

Please I use your mama head beg you, free that first lady. You don't deserve true love, loyalty and firm support from a lady.

You think marriage is all about passion and lovey dovey? Will this new lady accept you when you were still a dispatch rider and struggling with life?

There is nothing like marrying a wife who gat your back, give her full support and always there.

Anyways sooner or later, your eyes go soon clear. You will understand that perseverance, understanding and loyalty serve a better role in marriage than ordinary love.

You even said your family didn't like the first lady? When this lady started helping your life, this same family can't advise you to stop collecting things from her?

Just be careful because you might be digging your future daughter's grave unknowingly.

The question is, would d second lady av shown interest had it been she met u at ur low just how d first lady?
Also, does she (second lady) has d potential of investing in u just as d first?

For a lady 2 meet u at ur low nd gracefully invest in ur ideas nd goals only prove hw much she love nd care. Women are wired 2 be receiver, regardless of whether or not they av more than men, so for one 2 go as far as giving only tells how much of an interest u are 2 her. From ur write-up, she made her interest clear from onset, since ur ideologies didn't align with hers, u could av just be open 2 her 4rm start so she knows what she is getting into nd decide whether it's something she wanna invest in.

Circumstances just av a way of shaping d way we acts. U never mentioned it 4rm ur original write-up that ur mum doesn't approve of her, but went on 2 mention it while replying 2 someone, that shows u've made up ur mind nd only trying 2 bring in excuses 2 justify ur act. All what u just demanded is validation, not advise based on ur submissions.

Anyway, whatever anyone says or tell u here, myself inclusive, are just available options that they want u 2 consider. At d end, regardless of what anyone says or advice, u still gonna do what u wanna go which is normal cos it's ur life, d decision lies with u.

One thing I'm just so sure about is, whatever decision u make at d end, regardless of ur choice, u will REGRET, but I will urge u 2 choose ur REGRET, wisely.

When you wake up from this dream, make sure to inform us.

I remember when I discovered nairaland in 2005. My favourite pastime was coming up with fairy tale stories to test my imagination and writing skills. You will learn eventually- look back and cringe.

SINisSIN:
Please I use your mama head beg you, free that first lady. You don't deserve true love, loyalty and firm support from a lady.

You think marriage is all about passion and lovey dovey? Will this new lady accept you when you were still a dispatch rider and struggling with life?

There is nothing like marrying a wife who gat your back, give her full support and always there.

Anyways sooner or later, your eyes go soon clear. You will understand that perseverance, understanding and loyalty serve a better role in marriage than ordinary love.

You even said your family didn't like the first lady? When this lady started helping your life, this same family can't advise you to stop collecting things from her?

Just be careful because you might digging your future daughter's grave unknowingly.

Your words might be harsh, but surely there are elements of truth in your comment.

oazeez1991:
The question is, would d second lady av shown interest had it been she met u at ur low just how d first lady?
Also, does she (second lady) has d potential of investing in u just as d first?

For a lady 2 meet u at ur low nd gracefully invest in ur ideas nd goals only prove hw much she love nd care. Women are wired 2 be receiver, regardless of whether or not they av more than men, so for one 2 go as far as giving only tells how much of an interest u are 2 her. From ur write-up, she made her interest clear from onset, since ur ideologies didn't align with hers, u could av just be open 2 her 4rm start so she knows what she is getting into nd decide whether it's something she wanna invest in.

Circumstances just av a way of shaping d way we acts. U never mentioned it 4rm ur original write-up that ur mum doesn't approve of her, but went on 2 mention it while replying 2 someone, that shows u've made up ur mind nd only trying 2 bring in excuses 2 justify ur act. All what u just demanded is validation, not advise based on ur submissions.

Anyway, whatever anyone says or tell u here, myself inclusive, are just available options that they want u 2 consider. At d end, regardless of what anyone says or advice, u still gonna do what u wanna go which is normal cos it's ur life, d decision lies with u.

One thing I'm just so sure about is, whatever decision u make at d end, regardless of ur choice, u will REGRET, but I will urge u 2 choose ur REGRET, wisely.

This pill can be hard to swallow 😢

zed7:
I remember when I discovered nairaland in 2005. My favourite pastime was coming up with fairy tale stories to test my imagination and writing skills. You will learn eventually- look back and cringe.

You still lack the skills to discern between fictional and nonfiction stories.

You're labeling my current life experience as fairy tale?

TheTundeMuniru:
You still lack the skills to discern between fictional and nonfiction stories.

You're labeling my current life experience as fairy tale?

Wake up from your dream, son!

TheTundeMuniru:
Hhhmmmm... Omo, una dey make me dey fear like this.

There is a reason d statement exist for women

"hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"

Just be careful how u discharge her.. if ur story is true

Btw....the truth is....wateva u feel for this new lady is just lust.... Why u nor just try open ur mind to the idea of dating the first lady....?? Is she ugly? She dey smell?? Too old?? Has bad character?? She's not fvckable??

get to know her .....kiss her first, if there is fire works...that's enough to start with

we need to stop all this marrying a woman just becos she make ur testosterone go haywire. It just lust..

Marry for kindness, team playing, respect, peace of mind cos that's what we need in marriage at the end of the day...

advanceDNA:
There is a reason d statement exist for women

"hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"

Just be careful how u discharge her.. if ur story is true

Btw....the truth is....wateva u feel for this new lady is just lust.... Why u nor just try open ur mind to the idea of dating the first lady....?? Is she ugly? She dey smell?? Too old?? Has bad character?? She's not fvckable??

get to know her .....kiss her first, if there is fire works...that's enough to start with

we need to stop all this marrying a woman just becos she make ur testosterone go haywire. It just lust..

Marry for kindness, team playing, respect, peace of mind cos that's what we need in marriage at the end of the day...

I believed you read my story. I still live in the apartment the first lady got me even though I paid the last rent.

Moreover, the first lady is definitely good looking and of course we had sex multiple times and I enjoyed it. My only issue here is the demands of my parents and my life mission for she doesn't stand for the same thing as me.

I told her how I intend to retire, she is against that. She want us to live a normal life like others. But the urge in me wants more than a normal life, I always felt the needs to give to my society the best possible ways. She founds those ideas as stressful and dangerous.

TheTundeMuniru:
I believed you read my story. I still live in the apartment the first lady got me even though I paid the last rent.

Moreover, the first lady is definitely good looking and of course we had sex multiple times and I enjoyed it. My only issue here is the demands of my parents and my life mission for she doesn't stand for the same thing as me.

I told her how I intend to retire, she is against that. She want us to live a normal life like others. But the urge in me wants more than a normal life, I always felt the needs to give to my society the best possible ways. She founds those ideas as stressful and dangerous.

Then u have a way out naaa...tell her ur long term goals to align that it feels kike u are wasting time with each other ....then hope she accepts and walk away

advanceDNA:
Then u have a way out naaa...tell her ur long term goals to align that it feels kike u are wasting time with each other ....then hope she accepts and walk away

The thing is I've had this discussions with her many times, but she always shut down the idea.

I always feels my life mission is greater than anything else in life, even marriage. For I believe we are not in this life to just make a family and die, I believe in impactations that affects generations.

I feel using my idealistic intelligence to better my society as a greater calling. That is where we have differences.

@op,To be candid with you,you need to thread careful with the first lady before a woman take you out of poverty is not an easy task and sacrifice.
You sound as if you have made up your mind in going after the second girl but I pray you don't regret this because someone that met you on your low and still sticks around and saw potentials in you,l think it's the greatest asset and value.Men like you make it difficult for girls to share their resources with a man in order to be successful due to the fears of complaining later by the man about one issues or the other.

TheTundeMuniru:
The thing is I've had this discussions with her many times, but she always shut down the idea.

I always feels my life mission is greater than anything else in life, even marriage. For I believe we are not in this life to just make a family and die, I believe in impactations that affects generations.

I feel using my idealistic intelligence to better my society as a greater calling. That is where we have differences.

It's a long term goals right...may be you are not articulating it well to her...you don't talk about it often for her to hear so she'll know how Important it is to you....
mayb she just thinks it's one of those by the way things and doesn't see it as a deal breaker .....
For someone that probably see herself as someone that changed ur life...you haven't put yourself up there for her to look up to and actually take ur goals serious( which could be ur loop hole to break up)

Right now..u just sound like a child doing well in secondary school now telling her mum he wants to become and astronaut yet the mum just feels like weeeeeellllll.....that feeling will pass

Xbox2005:
@op,To be candid with you,you need to thread careful with the first lady before a woman take you out of poverty is not an easy task and sacrifice.
You sound as if you have made up your mind in going after the second girl but I pray you don't regret this because someone that met you on your low and still sticks around and saw potentials in you,l think it's the greatest asset and value.Men like you make it difficult for girls to share their resources with a man in order to be successful due to the fears of complaining later by the man about one issues or the other.

I haven't make my decision about who to settle down with, reason why I brought this here so as to gain a broader view about the subject matter.

Neither do I want to be a reason why woman sees men as scum. And in all of this situation of mine, my life mission and purpose is the reason why am stocked.

I only want to be with someone who shares the same passion and values as me. That is where myself and my first girl have differences, but letting her go just like that is a very tough decision for me to make.

advanceDNA:
It's a long term goals right...may be you are not articulating it well to her...you don't talk about it often for her to hear so she'll know how Important it is to you....
mayb she just thinks it's one of those by the way things and doesn't see it as a deal breaker .....
For someone that probably see herself as someone that changed ur life...you haven't put yourself up there for her to look up to and actually take ur goals serious( which could be ur loop hole to break up)

Right now..u just sound like a child doing well in secondary school now telling her mum he wants to become and astronaut yet the mum just feels like weeeeeellllll.....that feeling will pass

I did and made practical examples. She felt it will be too stressful and we'll have little time to enjoy what we gathered.

All she wanted is a normal life, locate to the abroad and start a family. But I love this country with all my soul and always feel my talents and intelligence is meant to contribute something valuable for the society to enjoy. She felt I'll make too many enemies for myself towing that path.

I love challenges, especially the ones that brings out the creativity in me. I love taking on tough tasks, I derive a lot of pleasure takling what many see as impossible.

TheTundeMuniru:
I did and made practical examples. She felt it will be too stressful and we'll have little time to enjoy what we gathered.

All she wanted is a normal life, locate to the abroad and start a family. But I love this country with all my soul and always feel my talents and intelligence is meant to contribute something valuable for the society to enjoy. She felt I'll make too many enemies for myself towing that path.

I love challenges, especially the ones that brings out the creativity in me. I love taking on tough tasks, I derive a lot of pleasure takling what many see as impossible.

All these your so called goal...have u made any tangible move towards it for her to see say no be play play or hobby..as a man if u dreams, calling are big enough and u are pursuing it ..the woman amd even others around you go naturally fall in line without being told or forced.....

advanceDNA:
All these your so called goal...have u made any tangible move towards it for her to see say no be play play or hobby..as a man if u dreams, calling are big enough and u are pursuing it ..the woman amd even others around you go naturally fall in line without being told or forced.....

I did and made practical examples. She felt it will be too stressful and we'll have little time to enjoy what we gathered.

All she wanted is a normal life, locate to the abroad and start a family. But I love this country with all my soul and always feel my talents and intelligence is meant to contribute something valuable for the society to enjoy. She felt I'll make too many enemies for myself towing that path.

I love challenges, especially the ones that brings out the creativity in me. I love taking on tough tasks, I derive a lot of pleasure takling what many see as impossible.
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Lol... You can't describe big dreams, for no one will see it the same way as you.

You live dreams for others to see.

TheTundeMuniru:
Lol... You can't describe big dreams, for no one will see it the same way as you.

You live dreams for others to see.

U are not doing enough for her to believe...ur woman supposed be ur number one fan...

Oyedepo said he will build thousands of churches fly in the air, and people in far will hear him speak far back as 1980s when he was in kaduna needing 78 naira for rent of church premises, driving a car that needed pushing to start.....of course some wont believe... But people wey align still align because he won't shut up about it and kept making moves

advanceDNA:
U are not doing enough for her to believe...ur woman supposed be ur number one fan...

Oyedepo said he will build thousands of churches fly in the air, and people in far will hear him speak far back as 1980s when he was in kaduna needing 78 naira for rent of church premises, driving a car that needed pushing to start.....of course some wont believe... But people wey align still align because he won't shut up about it and kept making moves

Of course, she strongly believe it is something I can do, but she does not want it. After all, I told her about my dreams of being a Freelancer, she believed and I succeed in my Freelancing jobs.

That is why the new girl appeal to me, I dont need to convince her to support my life mission, it is her natural dream to live for the same ideology as mine. It is something she have practiced several times.

Her life adventure resonates with mine.

Marry the first one...
I wish I could have a lady like that....

Marry who loves you more than you love her....
Don't make the first lady cry....

See love now.... when you nor get anything, she still dey for you....

Use and abandon both of them.

MONEY247:
Marry the first one...
I wish I could have a lady like that....

Marry who loves you more than you love her....
Don't make the first lady cry....

See love now.... when you nor get anything, she still dey for you....

No be lie... I acknowledge her efforts gan, God dey. I'll win again. Thanks for the contribution.

Nicepoker:
Use and abandon both of them.

Nah! I'm not that bad, my conscience is active.

You see,no women came for you, now you want to leave her for some bitch. That's why women don't like to chase men. Now I know why. God punish you. Witch.🤬😡🤨😖

She is from a rich family but the 2nd woman is she rich herself or she is relying on her parents money? I will go with 1st woman who saw you when you were a dispatch rider. Many babes no go even look you when you were adispatch rider. They go look you and laugh and call you broke or poor.
Rich family dey abuse well if you marry the rich woman. Anything you do , let say you make a lot of money in the future on your own. They will say it is because her and her family that you make it. Rich women are used to certain life. So word like make we manage till things get better is noise
If 1st woman is not fine at all and you are not attracted to her .then do not mary her.

TheTundeMuniru:
I haven't make my decision about who to settle down with, reason why I brought this here so as to gain a broader view about the subject matter.

Neither do I want to be a reason why woman sees men as scum. And in all of this situation of mine, my life mission and purpose is the reason why am stocked.

I only want to be with someone who shares the same passion and values as me. That is where myself and my first girl have differences, but letting her go just like that is a very tough decision for me to make.

what I will just say is that you need to thread carefuly with letting go of her.l have seen were woman go extreme just to deal with her man in a similar situation like yours.women are more emotional.
I just wished you can make her to resonate with your ideas and values and stay together to build a family cos it's better for a woman to love you more than the way you love her mostly when we are talking about marriage.l wish you the best in your decision

TheTundeMuniru:
Of course, she strongly believe it is something I can do, but she does not want it. After all, I told her about my dreams of being a Freelancer, she believed and I succeed in my Freelancing jobs.

That is why the new girl appeal to me, I dont need to convince her to support my life mission, it is her natural dream to live for the same ideology as mine. It is something she have practiced several times.

Her life adventure resonates with mine.

U just met the other lady...u don't even know how far she will ride or die with you yet.....how does she support your dream?? How does she resonate with your goals?? Nor be mouth them dey use support goals oooo..

There are many women who married pastors yet frustrating their calling and dreams... U see woman wey dey do 5&6 with you yet you dey say she's not supporting you goals...are u saying if u start pursuing thia ur dream that u haven't started she will stop you or divorce you?? oga na u sabi oooo

TheTundeMuniru:
Kids aren't welcomed here, only matured minds.

I am waiting for the part 2 of this your tale from Uganda. Try put curry and thyme this time to release nice aroma. Mumuboy.🥱