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This SIMP never understand 9ja girls!

9ja girls aren't marriageable for any reason. Kindly use and dump the fool B4 she mess with ur life. They are all the same.

But op, why are you then sending me an email request when you should be focusing on a way forward to mend things with your future wife?

You said you're planning on getting married to her by January, yet you're here sending an email request to another woman... If you want me to advise you on something, you're free to either quote me or mention me, but don't send me email requests.

Clearly both you and your girlfriend or fiancee have got issues.

Better you quit now or you regret it later

@Samantha125 I dont have financial issues. If you read well you would realize. I just added a few people. You can ignore.

I never said you have financial issues... Anyways, good luck.

skliz:
@Samantha125 I dont have financial issues. If you read well you would realize. I just added a few people. You can ignore.

skliz:
@Samantha125 I dont have financial issues. If you read well you would realize. I just added a few people. You can ignore.

Adding a few people (following) isn't the same as sending private messages which U did. No wonder Ur babe see U finish. U move like a worm instead of a man. Keep paying her bills 100% and eat the disrespect she serves u and marry her too

You carry 100% bills, you will carry 100% marriage expenses. Stop telling her to make a decision, cool off anything marriage talk from your end. Also your telling her every progress you make for Una five year plan is nonsense, tweak that progress report to "I" instead of "we". Take her out of it

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Samantha125:
Noted...🤣🤣🤣

be a good bebe!!!

skliz:
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Dude I'm ashamed for you, If you can bring up this yeye trival matter online, I just dey pity your marriage in advance.

I seriously have stopped advising people like you, it's sincerely a waste of time and space.

@Therock5555 check my profile I have never brought any issues online.

I have been on nairaland for probably 10 years.

If I bring an issue once in 10 years it just because I want to see things from another opinion. I already made my decisions on what to do.

God punish you, common breakup,mumu,ode. Stupid SIMP

advanceDNA:
If na true story......She's just trying to claim the leverage in the relationship by making it look like you need her more than she needs you ..hahahahah!! person wey nor dey pay bills....

This behavior ehnnn, is something btw pride and overestimating their value in a man's life..

See ehn..I have always noticed that when a man does everything for a woman when he's not obviously rich, instead of appreciating your kindness...they see it as their right, because in their head... they are doing u a favour by being with you so you are only compensating them for doing so...

Baba....adjust the leverage...when she shouts again..tell her u nor dey do again make she dey go her papa house...her brain go reset. she will realize she needs you... Why una dey fear to para for women wey u dey pay her bills ??

When she misbehave again, change it for her, within a week, if she didn't rethink & apologize. Forget about the marriage. There are better ladies and women out there, who need a responsible, good man like you. You pays all her bills? She supposed to be grateful, not ungrateful. Is like her beauty & sex is good and holding you back

The signs are obvious. She isn't willing to commit to you.

I will advice you to end the relationship and the marriage. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.

That lady has a back up plan and she's definitely cheating on you.

Don't regret later, throw her away now

skliz:
@ Lalami3232 hey man. I dont do public view honestly. I take decisions on my own. If you read my post. I always make it clear to her. This marriage thing is not by force. I have given her an open slate to take a decision. But the occurence is becoming too much. Any small argument. Let scatter everything. That got me wondering myself.

Don't wait for her to take the decision, break up with her.

By the way, why are you responsible for 100% of a lady's needs when she's working.

The highest thing a man want from his woman is respect, if she's not giving you that, leave her.

skliz:
So I am dating this lady and we intend getting married in January unfortunately there is this terrible signs I noticed.
Anytime there is any little misunderstanding she comes our ranting, "Let me know if this is not going to work so we scatter every thing". So I always ask a simple conversation that matured adults can seat down and resolve you end up shouting on me and telling me let scatter every thing. 99 percent of times I hear that statement, I always tell her that this is not a forced relationship or marriage. If you think you are not ok with this upcoming marriage. Kindly let me know and work away. Yesterday she came home arround 9pm which is far from close time. So I asked her when do you close in a polite way. This simple question ended up in me recieving alot of insults, shouting and let us scatter every thing, I am tired. You dont have time for me bla bla bla bla. This is someone that I am always indoor working from home 2 4 7. I run multiple jobs to ensure that I can provide and create a 5 year plan for the upcoming marriage. I explain everything to her as I make progress. Infact I am the one responsible for all her bills. I carry 100 percent financial responsibility. Honest I am just thinking.......

You and your partner need to have an I tense conversation. Her reaction could be due to trauma suffered in the past or perhaps behavioural. If it's trauma, she needs to get help and let go. Behavioural? Lay your chips on the table and let her know how that is affecting your relationship and what would happen if she doesnt turn a new leaf.

It is better to put an end to this now before you settle down.

skliz:
@ Lalami3232 hey man. I dont do public view honestly. I take decisions on my own. If you read my post. I always make it clear to her. This marriage thing is not by force. I have given her an open slate to take a decision. But the occurence is becoming too much. Any small argument. Let scatter everything. That got me wondering myself.

Don't be stupid...

You are the man.. Take the decision..

I broke up a long distance relationship because she has anger issue. She tried so many times to come over to my state and we settle things, I didn't agree..

Anger issue is a no for me

Juliearth:
You and your partner need to have an I tense conversation. Her reaction could be due to trauma suffered in the past or perhaps behavioural. If it's trauma, she needs to get help and let go. Behavioural? Lay your chips on the table and let her know how that is affecting your relationship and what would happen if she doesnt turn a new leaf.

It is better to put an end to this now before you settle down.

Trash.. Which fucking trauma.

She has anger issue.. Simple.....

The stupid guy is even responsible for the bills of a lady he has not married but she is working..

What a fulisssh mán

Samantha125:
Nigerians and their English... Go ahead and scatter everything...🤣🤣🤣🤣

Your post really made my morning...🤣🤣🤣

And have a good day...🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

I don’t know where you are from , but I hope it is not S.A or Ghana, because as far as communicating in English goes, you guys are very bad communicators with foreigners, no offence . Only you guys will say something like this…..” One day, I was coming back from the market and Ugolo wen boho shushu wenkoloma before I alighted from the bus, enuku boge sina wenbisala “ God abeg o, wetin be this

You're right, my English is not as good and I'm not even ashamed of it... I'm more fluent in other African languages than English and I'm proud of it...💃💃💃

And I don't get offended when someone tells me that my English is bad.

DeltaBachelor:
I don’t know where you are from , but I hope it is not S.A or Ghana, because as far as communicating in English goes, you guys are very bad communicators with foreigners, no offence . Only you guys will say something like this…..” One day, I was coming back from the market and Ugolo wen boho shushu wenkoloma before I alighted from the bus, enuku boge sina wenbisala “ God abeg o, wetin be this

DeltaBachelor:
I don’t know where you are from , but I hope it is not S.A or Ghana, because as far as communicating in English goes, you guys are very bad communicators with foreigners, no offence . Only you guys will say something like this…..” One day, I was coming back from the market and Ugolo wen boho shushu wenkoloma before I alighted from the bus, enuku boge sina wenbisala “ God abeg o, wetin be this

I watch alot of them of Facebook as i follow most of their content creators and stuff ..

tbvfh, SAns accent to English is very bad ... I most times struggle to hear the words they speak ..

There is yile ncasa titok live streamer ...


You'd need earphones to hear that guy clearly ..

advanceDNA:
If na true story......She's just trying to claim the leverage in the relationship by making it look like you need her more than she needs you ..hahahahah!! person wey nor dey pay bills....

This behavior ehnnn, is something btw pride and overestimating their value in a man's life..

See ehn..I have always noticed that when a man does everything for a woman when he's not obviously rich, instead of appreciating your kindness...they see it as their right, because in their head... they are doing u a favour by being with you so you are only compensating them for doing so...

Baba....adjust the leverage...when she shouts again..tell her u nor dey do again make she dey go her papa house...her brain go reset. she will realize she needs you... Why una dey fear to para for women wey u dey pay her bills ??

i dont know what he has to lose ..

pussy,

he'd get the in split seconds ..

maybe he's one of those guys that has done that much heavy spending on the girl and he's not ready to cut his losses..

DeeScan:
i dont know what he has to lose ..

pussy,

he'd get the in split seconds ..

maybe he's one of those guys that has done that much heavy spending on the girl and he's not ready to cut his losses..

Baba...that her statement na mind manipulation statement....over time, he has come to accept he needs her more... Someone that not adding any value to his life....

That's why I tell guys to stop marrying for lust or love or wateva the fvcK they call it....it doesn't make you see or reason clearly....

Samantha125:
But op, why are you then sending me an email request when you should be focusing on a way forward to mend things with your future wife?

You said you're planning on getting married to her by January, yet you're here sending an email request to another woman... If you want me to advise you on something, you're free to either quote me or mention me, but don't send me email requests.

Clearly both you and your girlfriend or fiancee have got issues.

Touchè

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theophorus:
Once two people begin cohabite na regular Sxx be Dat ooo.
And Sxx has a way of messing up the mind such that you can't take rational decisions as per the relationship.

E.g: Girl get attitude problems but she dey give you Great Sxx instead make you pursue am the Sxx go dey worry your judgment.
Or
Guy wen be NFA wen still dey beat and take money from girl, instead make the girl leave am she go dey reason all the Sxx styles.

There are things that are suppose to be divided of marriage, if we can get outside marriage, then there is no need for commitment.

You're very correct!!..Boss abeg I for like that your counselling oo, if you no mind.

Fifty fifty! Life na dice..
Yourr gf fit be person WIFE!

Let me get this straight, you're using your hard earned money to take care of a scatter scatter human being that doesn't regard & respect you, and you still want to marry such person, is she the only girl in the world? Why do you want to throw away your respect and settle with someone that shouts at you? Is it because of her physical attributes? Why do you guys love over looking red flag, then get married, hopping she'll change, then come online and start crying.
With all the red flag staring at you, what i expected you to post was: How i ended a toxic relationship with a trash bag full of pig shit that almost lead to marriage.

dkidd:
Adding a few people (following) isn't the same as sending private messages which U did. No wonder Ur babe see U finish. U move like a worm instead of a man. Keep paying her bills 100% and eat the disrespect she serves u and marry her too

Bros, no tear my belle with laughter nau.

After reading through his post, I was asking myself what would cause a woman whom he's presently housing, feeding, fvcking and paying her bills to be treating him with such contempt.

Shouting at him at the slightest provocation. Threatening to break off the relationship. Not informing him of her movement. Perhaps self she has been denying him s3x.

Then, I read further and saw where he was sliding into SAMANTHA125 DM. Bros is a SIMP!

No reasonable woman respects a SIMP! To Naija women, SIMPS are like helpless 10 month old babies who can't do without their mothers' care and attention. I just hope and pray this guy marries the lady, by then, even the devil will automatically leave him alone.

Go and do better thanksgiving. Thank God or whatever you believe in for revealing to you what you are about to jump into. You saw boiling water and want to put your head inside it.

It will burn you

Let her scatter everything. Remember that marraige only benefits women. Why do you even want to get married?

Silentgroper:
I watch alot of them of Facebook as i follow most of their content creators and stuff ..

tbvfh, SAns accent to English is very bad ... I most times struggle to hear the words they speak ..

There is yile ncasa titok live streamer ...


You'd need earphones to hear that guy clearly ..

lol