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Good day, fellas. Marriage is not a Child's play, it's a responsibility. I red on FP where a so-called relation counsellor (a lady) said many ladies would get married 2025 because it would be an escape route for them to be free from the stress of paying bills. I laugh What she failed to realized is that:

1. Marriage in the past and now, are not the same. The responsibilities are now heavier and the wife has to support to ease the burden.

2. Most of the ladies getting married these days are neither idle nor jobless. As a matter of fact, to make the wedding/marriage a reality, they support their husbands financially.

3. If you are a lady and you are idle or financially dependent on men, men will use you and dump you. Nowadays, men are avoid liabilities.

4. Some men aren't interested in marriage that's why we have lots of baby mamas.

No go let person whine you ooo.

Still tying....

Only a fool would marry a jobless liability in this Tinubu's administration. Cos no matter how much you earn, you'll go bankrupt sooner or later.

It all depends on the financial muzzle of the man, some men don't want their wife to work, they even place her on monthly salary and allowance.

The man want her to take full charge of the home front, including taking proper care of the children

When you share responsibilities with your wife, you will surely loose her respect for you as a husband.

If you know you don't have the resources to take care and run a home, you better remain single until you are strong financially.

Celestialsword:
It all depends on the financial muzzle of the man, some men don't want their wife to work, they even place her on monthly salary and allowance.

The man want her to take full charge of the home front, including taking proper care of the children

When you share responsibilities with your wife, you will surely loose her respect for you as a husband.

If you know you don't have the resources to take care and run a home, you better remain single until you are strong financially.

Having a sit-at-home wife ended the day Tinubu became president.

What you're failing to understand is that when you marry a jobless woman from a struggling background, you're not just marrying her, you're marring her family members (your in-laws) as well.

Every financial responsibility in her home would be moved to you. If her younger sister gains admission, you would be expected to contribute something, if her parents are having accommodation problems, you have to bring money. If there is any event in her family, everyone would be looking up to you. Every month they would be expecting you to send them something for feeding no matter how small because the economy is bad.

And since your wife isn't working, the whole load would be on your head. And it's not even like she'll give you peace of mind. She'll frustrate you with nagging. How long do you think you can endure all that before succumbing to stroke or HBP?

With the way the economy is any man who marries a liability or tells his wife not to work, has shortened his life span by over 50%.

Nazgul:
Having a sit-at-home wife ended the day Tinubu became president.

What you're failing to understand is that when you marry a jobless woman from a struggling background, you're not just marrying her, you're marring her family members (your in-laws) as well.

Every financial responsibility in her home would be moved to you. If her younger sister gains admission, you would be expected to contribute something, if her parents are having accommodation problems, you have to bring money. If there is any event in her family, everyone would be looking up to you. Every month they would be expecting you to send them something for feeding no matter how small because the economy is bad.

And since your wife isn't working, the whole load would be on your head. And it's not even like she'll give you peace of mind. She'll frustrate you with nagging. How long do you think you can endure all that before succumbing to stroke or HBP?

With the way the economy is any man who marries a liability or tells his wife not to work, has shortened his life span by over 50%.

you deserve cold drink 🍷
Nigga you genius common , you too much

Celestialsword:
It all depends on the financial muzzle of the man, some men don't want their wife to work, they even place her on monthly salary and allowance.

The man want her to take full charge of the home front, including taking proper care of the children

When you share responsibilities with your wife, you will surely loose her respect for you as a husband.

If you know you don't have the resources to take care and run a home, you better remain single until you are strong financially.

I used to share the bolded part of your post until I realized that an idled mind is not just the devil's workshop, but the devil's factory where all sorts of manipulative doings and undoings are being manufactured.

I careless about her financial support and I could still place her on a monthly salary. But being moderately busy in a productive way is good and healthy for everyone in the home.

Nazgul:
Having a sit-at-home wife ended the day Tinubu became president.

What you're failing to understand is that when you marry a jobless woman from a struggling background, you're not just marrying her, you're marring her family members (your in-laws) as well.

Every financial responsibility in her home would be moved to you. If her younger sister gains admission, you would be expected to contribute something, if her parents are having accommodation problems, you have to bring money. If there is any event in her family, everyone would be looking up to you. Every month they would be expecting you to send them something for feeding no matter how small because the economy is bad.

And since your wife isn't working, the whole load would be on your head. And it's not even like she'll give you peace of mind. She'll frustrate you with nagging. How long do you think you can endure all that before succumbing to stroke or HBP?

With the way the economy is any man who marries a liability or tells his wife not to work, has shortened his life span by over 50%.

Succumbing to stroke....lols

You don't have to marry, do not succumb to societal pressures.

YouandiAllofus:
I used to share the bolded part of your post until I realized that an idled mind is not just the devil's workshop, but the devil's factory where all sorts of manipulative doings and undoings are being manufactured.

I careless about her financial support and I could still place her on a monthly salary. But being moderately busy in a productive way is good and healthy for everyone in the home.

yes she will

Those ladies that are jobless, no skill and finally lazy, men will continue using them. They're nothing but liabilities, they use their beauty to achieve sharwama, bone straight, shoes and hand bags. Mtcheew...

Who get time for marriage

Nazgul:
Having a sit-at-home wife ended the day Tinubu became president.

What you're failing to understand is that when you marry a jobless woman from a struggling background, you're not just marrying her, you're marring her family members (your in-laws) as well.

Every financial responsibility in her home would be moved to you. If her younger sister gains admission, you would be expected to contribute something, if her parents are having accommodation problems, you have to bring money. If there is any event in her family, everyone would be looking up to you. Every month they would be expecting you to send them something for feeding no matter how small because the economy is bad.

And since your wife isn't working, the whole load would be on your head. And it's not even like she'll give you peace of mind. She'll frustrate you with nagging. How long do you think you can endure all that before succumbing to stroke or HBP?

With the way the economy is any man who marries a liability or tells his wife not to work, has shortened his life span by over 50%.

I..I..I think this guy is a genius.

Not everyone wants his wife to work. Some people actually prefer to pay 100% of the bills, because they can. Some people are actually rich enough, not to consider paying every bill as a burden.

Single men actually act like they know about marriage when they don't. A man who can afford to payi 100% of the bills is a king. When your woman starts paying equal bills like you, then you have lost your right to be called the head. It's never fun to share bills equally with women.

The original role of man is to be provider and protector and the head of the home. Now that the woman has also turned provider, she might as well battle for the right of head of the home.

Even if you're poor, do not allow your woman do 50/50. It's the fastest way to lose your respect.

LordIsaac:
Succumbing to stroke....lols

It's sounds funny but this is true, I had an uncle who died because aof as stress from the family, he was an academic in a higher institution while his wife is an academic in a government secondary School. The dude died of high blood pressure issues while in the process of doing one of his side gigs running from one city to another to argument his pay. His wife knew he had developed high blood pressure after catering for his family for 2 decades without any financial contributions from the wife even while she was a government employee for this two decades.

How did we know about this? The guy told my mum of his struggles with high blood pressure and my mum advised him to slow down on his side gigs and take rest after his lectures for the day but the dude complained that his wife doesn't assist him that did he slows down his income won't take care of his family's monthly expenditure. 3 months later he died, now it has dawned on her that the money she refused to bring out to assist her husband she has no option this time around.

Any man in this time and age who isn't oppotuned to steal like wike and Tinubu and thinks he can carry all load on his head is sure to die very early.

zed7:
Not everyone wants his wife to work. Some people actually prefer to pay 100% of the bills, because they can. Some people are actually rich enough, not to consider paying every bill as a burden.

Single men actually act like they know about marriage when they don't. A man who can afford to payi 100% of the bills is a king. When your woman starts paying equal bills like you, then you have lost your right to be called the head. It's never fun to share bills equally with women.

The original role of man is to be provider and protector and the head of the home. Now that the woman has also turned provider, she might as well battle for the right of head of the home.

Even if you're poor, do not allow your woman do 50/50. It's the fastest way to lose your respect.

You are talking about 1%, that's an exception not the rule. If any of the 99% think this way it's a recipe to death sentence.

idahme:
You are talking about 1%, that's an exception not the rule. If any of the 99% think this way it's a recipe to death sentence.

That's why the 99% are online crying of disrespect. Men are no longer men.

When dating, don't give a woman money, she's not your responsibility. Marriage is a different ball game, provide for your family and let your wife's contributions be little if any. Let her money be for herself and the kids.

This will only be doable when you marry a woman whom you earn more than. Of course, what we have now are simps, looking for women financially better off, so they can leech on her.

idahme:
It's sounds funny but this is true, I had an uncle who died because aof as stress from the family, he was an academic in a higher institution while his wife is an academic in a government secondary School. The dude died of high blood pressure issues while in the process of doing one of his side gigs running from one city to another to argument his pay. His wife knew he had developed high blood pressure after catering for his family for 2 decades without any financial contributions from the wife even while she was a government employee for this two decades.

How did we know about this? The guy told my mum of his struggles with high blood pressure and my mum advised him to slow down on his side gigs and take rest after his lectures for the day but the dude complained that his wife doesn't assist him that did he slows down his income won't take care of his family's monthly expenditure. 3 months later he died, now it has dawned on her that the money she refused to bring out to assist her husband she has no option this time around.

Any man in this time and age who isn't oppotuned to steal like wike and Tinubu and thinks he can carry all load on his head is sure to die very early.

Hmmmm...I understand. God will sever us from self-destructive choices.

Dependants are getting too much for men in this part of the world......

Dependants of average man

Parents
Siblings
Self
Wife
Children
and even.... In-laws


A man value is his ability to provide.
A wife should be a support not an addition to the list of dependants.


A woman should at least be able to take care of herself for her husband without adding her personal bills to his dependant-burden.


Unfortunately, many modern women target men and marriage as a transfer of burden from woman to man. If you know the kind of life an average girl is dreaming for herself in her head.....

Bottomline: The hardship is on the shoulders of men, women should lighten the load.


God bless all men.


Some marriages

Celestialsword:
It all depends on the financial muzzle of the man, some men don't want their wife to work, they even place her on monthly salary and allowance.

The man want her to take full charge of the home front, including taking proper care of the children

When you share responsibilities with your wife, you will surely loose her respect for you as a husband.

If you know you don't have the resources to take care and run a home, you better remain single until you are strong financially.

Thank you my brother

zed7:
Not everyone wants his wife to work. Some people actually prefer to pay 100% of the bills, because they can. Some people are actually rich enough, not to consider paying every bill as a burden.

Single men actually act like they know about marriage when they don't. A man who can afford to payi 100% of the bills is a king. When your woman starts paying equal bills like you, then you have lost your right to be called the head. It's never fun to share bills equally with women.

The original role of man is to be provider and protector and the head of the home. Now that the woman has also turned provider, she might as well battle for the right of head of the home.

Even if you're poor, do not allow your woman do 50/50. It's the fastest way to lose your respect.

Your head they there

Celestialsword:
It all depends on the financial muzzle of the man, some men don't want their wife to work, they even place her on monthly salary and allowance.

The man want her to take full charge of the home front, including taking proper care of the children

When you share responsibilities with your wife, you will surely loose her respect for you as a husband.

If you know you don't have the resources to take care and run a home, you better remain single until you are strong financially.

If you take full responsibility as a man and you can't meet up the needs in the home, she would still disrespect you. Whether you take full charge or not, it depends on the kind of wife you get married to. Women who are well brought up and mentally mature won't do such. These women may cover up some lapses in the home and no one would know. It's those baby wives that behaves such way. Like i said, it depends on the kind of wife you get married to.

zed7:
That's why the 99% are online crying of disrespect. Men are no longer men.

When dating, don't give a woman money, she's not your responsibility. Marriage is a different ball game, provide for your family and let your wife's contributions be little if any. Let her money be for herself and the kids.

This will only be doable when you marry a woman whom you earn more than. Of course, what we have now are simps, looking for women financially better off, so they can leech on her.

Sir, permit me to send 2 cartons of Fayrouz Soft drink to your residence. This is spot on. Yes, we all know that the economy is harsh and unfriendly. However, the default mindset of every man (with a good wife) should be to strive to be able to fully shoulder the bills at home.

One should not go into marriage with the expectation that she should take half of the bills. If a man has this as his default mindset, then he should also be ready to do a substantial part of the house chores and also be ready to tolerate some occasional disrespect.

Though it is very important to marry a woman of like-mind for it to effectively work.

Reason it's meant for adults