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Negroid001:
It's a pity with all your baseless writeup you'll still submit to a man. Ranting on nairaland is one thing thing, facing reality is another.

Face your reality, let me face mine. Stop being pained!

BaddieFreak:
I know my worth and have standards and the things that I have achieved in my life, I bet you can only dream of.

No matter your achievements when it's time for sex you're the one who will be under...you gerrit

Na you talk am. I never see am.

BaddieFreak:
I hear you. It’s not about shaming men, everyone starts somewhere. But if I’m building my life towards a certain vision, I need a partner with that same energy. You don’t expect me to settle for less especially considering the fact that I worked so hard to get to where I am today. Strong, independent women set their standards, and yes, that includes choosing who they build with.

The Phrase "settle for less" is actually what men do. Women don't settle down. It's only men who settle down and 99% of the time, the men are more educated, wealthier and have better means of livelihood at the point where they marry.

So in essence it's actually men who settle for less. If a man lives in a face me I face you apartment, and he gets married to his wife there, it simply means that at the time of the marriage, the wife was living is a much less poor environment. It's almost impossible to see a woman who owns a duplex in Ikoyi get married to a man who lives in a face me I face you apartment in okokomiko. Women are actually the less men settle for.

Another word I want to dispute is " Standard". A woman's standard is only pegged at what she can do for herself. You standard is dependent on how much you earn legitimately and not how much you receive from men. Alot of women use iPhone which were bought by men. That is not actually their standard because they cannot afford it on their own. That is actually the man's standard because he gave it to you.

Lastly, the words "strong" and "opinionated" are very masculine words. You don't expect to be treated as a woman if you behave like a man. This is exactly the same way Women don't like men who look or act girlish. Women want masculine men and men want feminine women. Know this and know peace.

Shalom

BaddieFreak:
This is my response to all the threats and curses on this thread

Maybe it’s low self-esteem, or maybe they just can’t handle the fact that women aren’t here to play second fiddle anymore. Either way, it’s not our job to shrink ourselves to make them comfortable. If a man can’t handle a strong woman, that’s his problem not ours. The world has moved on, and so should they. Women are building empires, making their own money, and setting the terms for their lives. We’re not going back to the days of being seen as sex slaves or kitchen workers. So, to all the men out there feeling threatened step up or step aside. To my fellow women, keep standing strong in your truth. Don’t let anyone guilt you into settling for less just because it makes them feel better about themselves. Keep pushing, keep thriving, and let them catch up if they can.

Interestingly, even so-called opinionated women wish/desire to marry masculine men who can lead the home front. As I do opine on topics like this, let the strong and independent women marry fellow women. Make everybody rest.

Marry. A. Woman.

BaddieFreak:
I hear you. It’s not about shaming men, everyone starts somewhere. But if I’m building my life towards a certain vision, I need a partner with that same energy. You don’t expect me to settle for less especially considering the fact that I worked so hard to get to where I am today. Strong, independent women set their standards, and yes, that includes choosing who they build with.

It is this dishonesty that annoys me. Women ALL OVER THE WORLD are hypergamous, aka, they gravitate towards men who are higher than them. So which one is settling for less? It is men who actually settle for less in marriage. It is a universal phenomenon.

Sometimes, I wished Nigeria was rich so that everybody go make their choice without poverty beclouding their thoughts. I want a Nigeria where the marriage and birth rates have plunged as in the US, Japan, South Korea and elsewhere. Make everybody answer their papa name.

BaddieFreak:
This is my response to all the threats and curses on this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/8206379/marry-someone-lives-rooms-like


Have you ever noticed how some men seem to recoil at the sight of a woman who knows exactly what she wants? It's like they’re stuck in the 12th century, expecting us to be quiet, obedient, and ready to fit into their mold of what a woman should be. times have changed!

I’ve seen it firsthand, especially when I posted about not wanting to settle with a man in a one bedroom apartment. The backlash was real. But why? Why is it so threatening for a woman to have standards? Is it really about the apartment, or is it about men’s fragile egos?

The truth is, many men still aren’t used to women who assert themselves and have clear goals. It messes with their sense of control. They want us to stay in our place, but guess what? Our place is wherever we decide it is.

What’s even more telling is how defensive they get. The second a woman says she wants more out of life, suddenly we’re too demanding or difficult. But it’s not us who need to change it’s their outdated mindset.

Maybe it’s low self-esteem, or maybe they just can’t handle the fact that women aren’t here to play second fiddle anymore. Either way, it’s not our job to shrink ourselves to make them comfortable. If a man can’t handle a strong woman, that’s his problem not ours.

The world has moved on, and so should they. Women are building empires, making their own money, and setting the terms for their lives. We’re not going back to the days of being seen as sex slaves or kitchen workers. So, to all the men out there feeling threatened step up or step aside.

To my fellow women, keep standing strong in your truth. Don’t let anyone guilt you into settling for less just because it makes them feel better about themselves. Keep pushing, keep thriving, and let them catch up if they can.

I wonder why women are intimidated by broke clueless men.
You notice how these women recoil at the site of a broke guy .....

BaddieFreak:
I know my worth and have standards and the things that I have achieved in my life, I bet you can only dream of.

Lol..... Not everyman is as broke as your dad. Get that deep into ur head

"Strong opinionated" Lmao. This one thinks the world revolves around her.

Namaster:
"The second a woman says she wants more out of life, suddenly we’re too demanding or difficult.

There is NOTHING wrong with wanting more out of life. NOBODY will criticise, sham or condemn anybody for wanting more out of life.

Problem ONLY arises when women who want more out of life DEMAND that men give it to them.

You CANNOT claim to be a strong independent woman and RELY on your BF/husband to buy you that bone-straight you long for.

You CANNOT be a strong independent woman and still expect your fiancee to fork out 90% of the cost of financing YOUR dream wedding.

You are NOT a strong independent woman just because you can make increasingly FORCEFUL and AGGRESSIVE demands from men.

NOBODY will bat an eye if a lady with her OWN house, or even a well-furnished 2-bedroom, says she'd NEVER date/marry a man that lives in a self-contain apartment.

Nobody!

But trying to shame men who live in a well-furnished self-contain apartment when you still live with your parents at their ANCIENT family house is MADNESS!

WORDS ON MARBLE!

Broke ass women from broke ass families wanting more out of life from someone else’s sweat and hard work.. pathetic..

No be small thing bro, na peace of mind we dey find and nothing else. That category of women brings nothing but headache and unending drama.

Leonyluiz:
We’re not intimidated, those women you’re referring to are often a headache to be with and I don’t know about you but no sane person wants to wake up next to a headache for the rest of his life.

Thanks for educating her ignorance, you have said it all.

AlphaHakimi:
The Phrase "settle for less" is actually what men do. Women don't settle down. It's only men who settle down and 99% of the time, the men are more educated, wealthier and have better means of livelihood at the point where they marry.

So in essence it's actually men who settle for less. If a man lives in a face me I face you apartment, and he gets married to his wife there, it simply means that at the time of the marriage, the wife was living is a much less poor environment. It's almost impossible to see a woman who owns a duplex in Ikoyi get married to a man who lives in a face me I face you apartment in okokomiko. Women are actually the less men settle for.

Another word I want to dispute is " Standard". A woman's standard is only pegged at what she can do for herself. You standard is dependent on how much you earn legitimately and not how much you receive from men. Alot of women use iPhone which were bought by men. That is not actually their standard because they cannot afford it on their own. That is actually the man's standard because he gave it to you.

Lastly, the words "strong" and "opinionated" are very masculine words. You don't expect to be treated as a woman if you behave like a man. This is exactly the same way Women don't like men who look or act girlish. Women want masculine men and men want feminine women. Know this and know peace.

Shalom

Catch up if they can? Who dey chase una? Who get that kind time? We gat better shit to do than chase all these unloyal hoes with lots of time on their hands..... Ain't nobody afraid of nobody... We just don't want YOOOUUUURR STRONG and OPINIONATED Ass which has probably been overused by thousands, LOL

BaddieFreak:
This is my response to all the threats and curses on this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/8206379/marry-someone-lives-rooms-like


Have you ever noticed how some men seem to recoil at the sight of a woman who knows exactly what she wants? It's like they’re stuck in the 12th century, expecting us to be quiet, obedient, and ready to fit into their mold of what a woman should be. times have changed!

I’ve seen it firsthand, especially when I posted about not wanting to settle with a man in a one bedroom apartment. The backlash was real. But why? Why is it so threatening for a woman to have standards? Is it really about the apartment, or is it about men’s fragile egos?

The truth is, many men still aren’t used to women who assert themselves and have clear goals. It messes with their sense of control. They want us to stay in our place, but guess what? Our place is wherever we decide it is.

What’s even more telling is how defensive they get. The second a woman says she wants more out of life, suddenly we’re too demanding or difficult. But it’s not us who need to change it’s their outdated mindset.

Maybe it’s low self-esteem, or maybe they just can’t handle the fact that women aren’t here to play second fiddle anymore. Either way, it’s not our job to shrink ourselves to make them comfortable. If a man can’t handle a strong woman, that’s his problem not ours.

The world has moved on, and so should they. Women are building empires, making their own money, and setting the terms for their lives. We’re not going back to the days of being seen as sex slaves or kitchen workers. So, to all the men out there feeling threatened step up or step aside.

To my fellow women, keep standing strong in your truth. Don’t let anyone guilt you into settling for less just because it makes them feel better about themselves. Keep pushing, keep thriving, and let them catch up if they can.

AlphaHakimi:
The Phrase "settle for less" is actually what men do. Women don't settle down. It's only men who settle down and 99% of the time, the men are more educated, wealthier and have better means of livelihood at the point where they marry.

So in essence it's actually men who settle for less. If a man lives in a face me I face you apartment, and he gets married to his wife there, it simply means that at the time of the marriage, the wife was living is a much less poor environment. It's almost impossible to see a woman who owns a duplex in Ikoyi get married to a man who lives in a face me I face you apartment in okokomiko. Women are actually the less men settle for.

Another word I want to dispute is " Standard". A woman's standard is only pegged at what she can do for herself. You standard is dependent on how much you earn legitimately and not how much you receive from men. Alot of women use iPhone which were bought by men. That is not actually their standard because they cannot afford it on their own. That is actually the man's standard because he gave it to you.

Lastly, the words "strong" and "opinionated" are very masculine words. You don't expect to be treated as a woman if you behave like a man. This is exactly the same way Women don't like men who look or act girlish. Women want masculine men and men want feminine women. Know this and know peace.

Shalom

The words of our elders are words of wisdom.

Strong and independent" But when you're with me, you suddenly becomes an orphan. Can't pay for anything and feel entitled on top because you can speak English Lol

Nonsense

The truth is, some men have phobia for women who are financial okay.

It's not that they are afraid of talking to them or dating them, the thing is like tribalism but for financially independent women.

We can deny it all we want but it's true.

I wasn't 100 percent sure of this until like 2 weeks ago.

You are complaining about men not liking opinionated women and at thesame time you are talking of standards men should respect when you are not respecting men having the right to detest the personality you exude, how do we reconcile that.

BaddieFreak:
I hear you. It’s not about shaming men, everyone starts somewhere. But if I’m building my life towards a certain vision, I need a partner with that same energy. You don’t expect me to settle for less especially considering the fact that I worked so hard to get to where I am today. Strong, independent women set their standards, and yes, that includes choosing who they build with.

Someone who is strong and independent shouldn't need another, independent means been on your pwn without someone coming in between.

When you hear strong and independent, its independent of who? Men of course, such persons need no man ro cohabit with her. Everyone who needs a partner depends on the partner in one way or the other, in other words interdependent.

Imagine w man saying he is independent and strong and coming to woo you , most of you should make life easier by just been on your own as you so say independent so no one disturbs your state of being but no you are independent and still need a man what a contradiction.

BaddieFreak:
Real men who are understanding will understand that a woman with standards isn't a threat but an equal. Being opinionated doesn’t mean being a habitual critic it means having a voice and using it. And if that makes some men uncomfortable, it’s simply a matter of the man’s fragile ego, low self esteem or mismatched expectations, not a fault in the woman herself.

There is no such thing as real men, that term is usually used by women to massage the ego of fuulish men into doing their bidding. A man is a man, you don't expect every to think alike.

Karleb:
The truth is, some men have phobia for women who are financial okay.

It's not that they are afraid of talking to them or dating them, the thing is like tribalism but for financially independent women.

We can deny it all we want but it's true.

I wasn't 100 percent sure of this until like 2 weeks ago.

Financially stable women not independent because these women will beg atge hell out of you when you start dating them. All these ladies dating you think they ain't working, they do but still pester their boyfriends for money so i ask what are they independent of?


The teal story behind financially stable women is that they make their own dating pool smaller by still remaining hypergamous even with their financial stability,no man is afraid of them. Those men are eliminated by same ladies while they seek top 1% of men who actually don't seek them because in most situations men look out for youthfulness, naiveness, chastity, fertility making these ladies who are already 30+ out of the radar of top tier men. The only people they can date is usually those they are more economically stable than but they won't.

idahme:
Financially stable women not independent because these women will beg atge hell out of you when you start dating them. All these ladies dating you think they ain't working, they do but still pester their boyfriends for money so i ask what are they independent of?


The teal story behind financially stable women is that they make their own dating pool smaller by still remaining hypergamous even with their financial stability,no man is afraid of them. Those men are eliminated by same ladies while they seek top 1% of men who actually don't seek them because in most situations men look out for youthfulness, naiveness, chastity, fertility making these ladies who are already 30+ out of the radar of top tier men. The only people they can date is usually those they are more economically stable than but they won't.

All these predetermined Red pill answers.

Top 1 percent? Already 30+. Like say we don't have lots of ladies below 30 doing well financially.


We find it easy to blame women but truth is, majority of men in Nigeria are so poor the only thing they have to offer in a relationship is money and when the woman has it, she's not appealing to him.

No be for this Nigeria men dey pay monthly salary inside relationships.

If we as men cannot sit down, introspect and change our ways. Then no wahala.

Keep blaming hypergamy. Like say na only Nigeria hypergamy dey.

Karleb:
All these predetermined Red pill answers.

Top 1 percent? Already 30+. Like say we don't have lots of ladies below 30 doing well financially.


We find it easy to blame women but truth is, majority of men in Nigeria are so poor the only thing they have to offer in a relationship is money and when the woman has it, she's not appealing to him.

No be for this Nigeria men dey pay monthly salary inside relationships.

If we as men cannot sit down, introspect and change our ways. Then no wahala.

Keep blaming hypergamy. Like say na only Nigeria hypergamy dey.

Who is talking of redpill? Have you ever seen me commenting on issues about redpil Black pill or a orange pill? I don't do herd mentality whatsoever i deem fit is what i apply..

Yiu are s bit delusional not to know that a large chunk if women doing well for themselves are 30+ of years, check out the data around you, you can even lookup to millionaires around your family, community, universities alumni and confirm this. Only a small percentage if women in their 20s ate actually doing so well especially in the environments we find ourselves

You are talking of majority if men been so poor and the last time i check men are still way more wealthier than women in Nigeria so what are you talking about?

Go and have that check on yourself, a society where you aren't rated by your personality but by how you can raise someone out of poverty is bound to have so many issues.

pansophist:
Strong and independent" But when you're with me, you suddenly becomes an orphan. Can't pay for anything and feel entitled on top because you can speak English Lol

Nonsense

You expect me to foot your bill when we are in a relationship? You are not supposed to be called a man then, what you have under you is a peanut!