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Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Youre talking like a pu*sy slave. What exactly is so special about her thats making you to go and beg.

If you kpai yourself, its just one more foolish person off the surface of this earth. Instead of you to concentrate on making money and enjoying the money, you want to go AND BEG FOR LOVE.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Odafe,

There's no big here at this junction in your life. It's normal.

Your ex-wife's family has already belittled you to the extent that you don't have a say in their daughter's life. They don't regard you shi shi.

As you've divorced her, that's a clear pathway to you rediscovering your self worth as a man.

Right now, all you need to do, is to take a chill pill and clear your mind by purging all thoughts of her and her misdemeanors...I know it won't be easy, but you would definitely get over it gradually. I know how it feels.

Anyways, if you had any kids by her, no qualms, they would definitely come around you when the time comes.

Use this timeline to hustle and make more money for yourself and your blood family. In addition, visit your family often to feel a sense of belonging.

Odafe, within a short while, get yourself a sweet lady that would respect you for who you are...This time, make sure you study her family orientation before commitment.

You don't need to be too introvert, get out of your shell, and explore the world around. You deserve the best in life. Don't stress yourself anymore, as we all got one life to live, my brother from the same state.

You're supposed to pay me for my brotherhood advice or should I send you my account number in the spirit of this yuletide?

We can talk more on WhatsApp if you want to.

Cheers!

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

BECAUSE YOUR SOUL IS TRYING NOT TO GO TO HELL BUT YOUR MENTAL FACULTIES ARE SAYING IT'S ALRIGHT.
Ammend your marriage, no matter what anybody says, that's the devil's advice to ruin your life, your wife's and that of your kids. Don't give him this opportunity, follow your heart, it's your wife not a stranger, you can't be wrong, no matter how low you bring yourself.
And stop comparing yourself to what other men can take, that's one major problem that's bringing the reoccurrence.

AMMEND YOUR MARRIAGE AND LIVE GOOD LIFE, NO MATTER WHAT ANY BODY SAYS. DON'T GIVE SATAN A CHANCE TO RUIN YOUR LIFE. JUST FORFET ABOUT THAT WORD "DIVORCE"

AMMEND YOUR MARRIAGE OH, I WARN YOU.
AMMEND YOUR MARRIAGE AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE. HAVE YOU TALKED TO GOD ABOUT IT? PRAY FOR GOD TO HELP YOU, MAYBE 4 MINUTES PRAYER OR A FULL HEART OUT TO GOD AND MOVE OUT TO AMMEND YOUR MARRIAGE. LET THAT BE THE ONLY AIM ON YOUR MIND (very important) AND YOU WOULD SUCCEED. GOD BE WITH YOU.

Luke 16:18

You married a woman that does not prioritize, respect nor love you. But it's obvious that you love her.

So I believe the best thing has happened to you inform of a separation from her. Coz it's inevitable, and the earlier the better for you.

Please, open your mind and eyes to new ideas and new friends. Especially women.

Develop urself yourself especially in weak areas u have identified and perhaps funds if it's was an issue.

Be prayerful and God can heal and connect you to a right person in due time.

You just have to move on. Absolutely no point looking back at that lady. Pele. .

thesicilian:
A vacation would be nice. I can assure you you'll feel much better mentally by the time you return.

All these psychologically weak boys in town are the ones always talking about divorce and all that. When some men are marrying more than one wife and managing their home well.

These same boys that cant manage a woman are the ones that want to be leaders of tomorrow, LAUGHABLE.

Bro I was in this state not too long ago, well we all digest things differently,

If you've finalize the divorce process, take some time off to be with family to take ur mind off all that has happened

Then set ur priority and do things that makes you happy, what ever that you will derive Joy in doing

Get busy with things to take ur mind off her and then settle down and get another babe

This worked for me and now she is history

Best comment on this topic......... That is definitely how to know a wise person.....ur wisdom will continue to soar

incogni2o:
Have you ever prayed about this?

I assure you this is a time to let God into your life.

There is a good ending for everyone once we are with God.

Also engage yourself in other things, A Man shouldn't be idle even if you are being paid billions in your day Job, Find hobbies, projects you can nuture.

God is first interested in you, secondly your marriage, thirdly your children.

Start with yourself and God, you'll see a lot of things you need to settle out personally with yourself.

I've being alone for about 4 weeks now without my wife and I can tell you, while it's fleshly difficult, with time it is bringing me closer to God and also being like a spiritual exercise.

Imagine if you also travel abroad without your wife. Will you then condemn yourself to porn and maturbation or fornication?

Be a Man Bro, develop your will, engage yourself in extracurricular activities, get closer to God. Carry our some projects successfully.

Ignore your wife while praying for Her. Focus on your children's training instead being actively involved in teaching them.

With time, you'll see a great change in every aspect of your life.

Don't get stuck in the emotional maze.

May God help you through this tunnel phase successfully.

Listen to old time youtube messages.Pray every Morning, even if it's one liner, you'll improve with it in time. Live more holy and righteous.

We wrestle not against flesh and blood but spiritual wickedness in high places. Make sure God is fighting for you in the background, working things out for your Good.

Pele

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

I always say this for my woman to hear, and I mean it, when we eventually get married, if she leaves our home because of a misunderstanding, I am not coming to bring her back, and there is a limit to how long I'll wait for her to return home.

The truth of the matter is, the pain never really ends. You just have to make up your mind and move on. For me, it's over 8 years and sometimes I still have some kind of nostalgia and wish things never went south but it was not in my power.
She will come back, question is, will you take her back. With the way you feel right now, if she comes back you will take her. The biggest mistake I made was accepting her back after she left for 8 months. She became worse. So, ask yourself this question. Once a woman taste outside, it's always very difficult to stay loyal again.
My advice is for you to continue to be
responsible , take care of the children's upkeep. Don't even wait to be reminded. With time your pain will ease up and you'd be a happy man.
In my own case, this is what I did.
Unfollowed her on every platform
Deleted her number( even though I still have it in my head, 😂) at least I won't be seeing her status because I know that's what she would want.
Erased every thought of her. Only
communication was sending school fees and other needs for the child.

When she heard I had gotten married and with a child, come and see cry. Me sef shock cos I didn't understand.
She wants a friendship but I'm not ready for that. I have two boys now from another woman and I'm happy.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?[/quote]

For your wife to be running to her family house at the slightest provocation means that she doesn't care about your feelings and is a sign of immaturity.

She's banking and using your weakness against you,since you are always running to beg her to come back.

take heart and bear it,you will still get use to it,be a man,learn to live alone,do not rush to bring in another woman,you will soon get use to it

I do not know if you already have kids,if there is, do not forget to send money for their upkeep

Women are necessary evil,

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Mordson:
If you have a well paying business or job, you won't be saying all of this.

Reading between the lines I can deduce the fact that you're very poor. I mean extremely broke. The fact that your wife goes to her mum at the slightest provocation points to that. If you're rich or financial okay, your wife won't dump you like this. Do you think Regina Daniels would ever leave Ned Nwoko, no matter the maltreatment she gets from him? Never.

And something tells me you couldn't satisfy her in za oza room as well. Cos even if you're poor, your wife would have consoled herself with the fact that you make her orgasm all the time in the bedroom. So I understand why you feel miserable.

I will just advise you to get another woman who would accept you the way you are, and you'd forget your ex wife in no time. Except it's extremely hard for you to chyke a woman. 🤨

Its not about the money. He's a WEAK MAN.
Psychologically STRONG men dont get pushed around by women.

These are the same set of guys that want to lead Nigeria, imagine a man that can't manage ONE WOMAN trying to manage a country.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Join a club or active community. Commit your time to doing something useful for humanity. Get a life.

obiekunie01:
your problem is poverty bro!

you are very poor that's why she leaves you at the slightest provocation to yash other guys!

take this time and go learn a skill that will make you comfortable in life. i didn't say make you rich cause that one fit hard you small, i am talking of comfortable.

YOU TAKE THIS TIME YOU ARE SPENDING ON CRYING OVER A HOE AND GO LEARN WELDING, OR TILING, OR EVEN MECHANIC OR MESON.

Women hate broke guys - no matter how sweet your gbola is, she will still leave you whn needs call.

Bill Gates' wife, Jeff Bezoz's wife, etc would not have sought for divorce then?
Don't you think so?

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Marry a second wife or get a gf and move on. Life is too short to live it in regret and anger

If you go back got beg…..e no go buy gourd for you

Take example from the guy who celebrated his divorce. It's on front page.

First host freedom party and invite us to come chop rice,then we go advice you..

On a serious note,if actually the woman was a pain on your neck, moving on won't be hard for you..

The bold statement really works!

ShenTeh:
Sorry about the situation sir. I take it there are no children involved.

As the divorce as been finalised, please accept it. Or you can go back to beg her and continue your lifestyle as was. However, if you do not want to go back to that lifestyle. I'll recommend 3 things.

First, do a 3-day retreat. Stay indoors. Take plenty of water. Mourn the relationship - cry your worst if you will. Stay off your phone for as much as possible. On the last day, write out 7 clear and simple things you'd like to do. These may include eating out, [/b]washing your car,[b] calling one particular XX sister of yours, visit a particular person, etc. make sure you write the to do list and mark them completed when they are.

2. Change your address if you can. Move elsewhere where little or nothing is known about you. We often underestimate the power of a changed environment.

3. Get busy with work, church/mosque/whatever religion activities, hobby, exercise/gym routine,etc. Be busy.

All the best.

Elusive001:
Bill Gates' wife, Jeff Bezoz's wife, etc would not have sought for divorce then?
Don't you think so?

You are wrong, money doesn't hold a bad wife

damoobaba:
All these psychologically weak boys in town are the ones always talking about divorce and all that. When some men are marrying more than one wife and managing their home well.

These same boys that cant manage a woman are the ones that want to be leaders of tomorrow, LAUGHABLE.

It's not a laughing matter bro.
A man can be a general in the army commanding hundreds of thousands of hardened soldiers and still get taken for a ride by a little girl young enough to be his daughter, because of the soft spot men generally have for women, it's not about weakness per se.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

You need to build a good relationship with GOD Almighty through CHRIST JESUS. In this lies your healing, direction, understanding, and very purpose.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Been there, not a divorce, but a break up. Randomly chat up a girl on Facebook, one of those girls you've sent a friend request and never chatted up, someone mature, attractive, maybe out of your league. Tell her you are just looking for someone to talk to, tell her your story and watch a friendship blossom. At this time, you don't need a relationship but healthy friendships with the opposite sex.

Never been in your shoes so don't take my advice as a "been there, done that" senior. I think the feelings you are experiencing are normal after such ordeal. In marriage or any form of relationship that you're part of and invested in, should not give room for finger-pointing, who's right and who's wrong point scoring. Communication is very important, in a case like this, you should probably have relayed to her on how you feel about her not communicating her feelings and instead packing her stuffs to live with her parents. It looks like you both didn't set clear expectations, she wasn't communicating, you probably didn't do a good job at communicating either. She obviously manipulated you because, like you said, she knows you'll come running to her parents after a disagreement.

Personally, I give my 100 in any relationship, even when I've been wronged and my expectations downgraded below par. Before I part ways with friend, girlfriend, wife or whatever, I'll make sure I try. By trying, I don't mean been docile and being at the receiving end of manipulation and gaslighting but I sure will communicate how whatever you did to wrong me, affects my feelings or my self esteem etc and I'd always be ready to work with you to make sure we continue on the right path that benefits the relationship without degrading your own expectations, if nothing changes then I'll walk and the breakdown is on you but at least my conscience will be in the clear knowing I tried.

Contemplating suicide is unwise, because of what? you can't carry on? You think your "ex" wife won't carry on with her own life either you're dead or alive? You will be surprised by how fast she'll be back on the street. Who then is the loser? If you're going to lose, at least fight first, duh. Talk to people you trust, occupy your mind with other things that interest/matters to you and let time do the rest, for time is the ultimate healer.

Alaye , get angry ! There is a reason we have that emotion ! Use it to propel yourself to greatness . Get very angry and focus solely on yourself . Block them ALL ! If your parents talk anyhow , block them too ( temporarily sha )😁You only have this life to live and by God live it to the fullest

SamuraiXXX:
If you are making real money no woman will leave you in Nigeria especially going to the extent of packing out of the house every time you have a minor disagreement.

Every woman loves comfort therefore she will not want to jeopardize the relationship so that she will not loose the comfort and protection your money provides.

It is what it is!

Except perhaps you're impotent, but there is something you're not telling us

Bill Gates' wife, Jeff Bezoz's wife, etc would not have sought for divorce then?
Don't you think so?


Oh, I forgot. Their husbands made "fake" money and not "real" money.

..... N

coputa:
You are wrong, money doesn't hold a bad wife

You didn't understand my response.

I responded to the child who said that the poster's wife left because he was poor.

It's because you're still breathing, just let her be done on you the next time
Maybe dem born U togeda U know

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Do you still miss her?

samguru:
Which kain wahala be dis nah.

My wife is not aware but I hope to tell her someday but I have codedly told my eldest child that he has a brother somewhere

Lol which one be wahala for inside na?

Odafe360:
Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Find solace in beer parlors even if you don't drink, you can eat some pepper soup and listen to seasoned elders state how they overcame the same issue you are facing many years ago.

Beer parlors are a gem full of life lessons and advice that EVERY man should partake of to hear how other people dealt with toxic marriages.

100FIX1:
BECAUSE YOUR SOUL IS TRYING NOT TO GO TO HELL BUT YOUR MENTAL FACULTIES ARE SAYING IT'S ALRIGHT.
Ammend your marriage, no matter what anybody says, that's the devil's advice to ruin your life, your wife's and that of your kids. Don't give him this opportunity, follow your heart, it's your wife not a stranger, you can't be wrong, no matter how low you bring yourself.
And stop comparing yourself to what other men can take, that's one major problem that's bringing the reoccurrence.

AMMEND YOUR MARRIAGE AND LIVE GOOD LIFE, NO MATTER WHAT ANY BODY SAYS. DON'T GIVE SATAN A CHANCE TO RUIN YOUR LIFE. JUST FORFET ABOUT THAT WORD "DIVORCE"

AMMEND YOUR MARRIAGE OH, I WARN YOU.
AMMEND YOUR MARRIAGE AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE. HAVE YOU TALKED TO GOD ABOUT IT? PRAY FOR GOD TO HELP YOU, MAYBE 4 MINUTES PRAYER OR A FULL HEART OUT TO GOD AND MOVE OUT TO AMMEND YOUR MARRIAGE. LET THAT BE THE ONLY AIM ON YOUR MIND (very important) AND YOU WOULD SUCCEED. GOD BE WITH YOU.

Luke 16:18

^^^
Sometimes it just doesn't work out, perhaps because it was never meant to be in the first place.