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No pains, no gain! You will overcome.

koladata:
List 10 reason why you wanted her to go , print it out boldly and put it under your pillow , when ever you want to start thinking about her just bring it out and read them to yourself

look for someone else to start a relationship with , search for it like its a job. Dress well every evening , go to an industrial area when people are about to close from work , talk to them , have a target of 20 rejection , before you talk to 20 ladies , one will be cool with you

Daaaammmmnnnnn!!
U're bad guy. This is what he needs to do. This is some hard-core move but it remains the best

Mordson:
If you have a well paying business or job, you won't be saying all of this.

Reading between the lines I can deduce the fact that you're very poor. I mean extremely broke. The fact that your wife goes to her mum at the slightest provocation points to that. If you're rich or financial okay, your wife won't dump you like this. Do you think Regina Daniels would ever leave Ned Nwoko, no matter the maltreatment she gets from him? Never.

And something tells me you couldn't satisfy her in za oza room as well. Cos even if you're poor, your wife would have consoled herself with the fact that you make her orgasm all the time in the bedroom. So I understand why you feel miserable.

I will just advise you to get another woman who would accept you the way you are, and you'd forget your ex wife in no time. Except it's extremely hard for you to chyke a woman. 🤨

This post is for serious minded adults pls

He needs to find himself first. or the problem will still persist! One thing My wife knows is that, anytime I have the opportunity to be left alone at home (Maybe she has to travel home for something, I have the best of time and will send her pictures. last time I went swimming, almost finished all the yoghurt in the house. lols! You need to be able to stand on your to legs as a human, that when you will appreciate relationship with others without loosing yourself. I can't leave without my wife and kid, or I don't want to leave without them, is not the same as I can't survive without anyone. Only God owns that authority!

I empathize with him, I wish he find himself. That might even be the real issue is marriage. Woman, want a firm man, Take or you leave.

Kdon2:
Find someone else bro. It's not that difficult. Leave the funk alone!

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

1. Seek a therapist to help you cope with your emotions
2. Find hobbies to fill up your free time. Eg Lego to the gym, take a class you could learn something like entrepreneurship, learn a skill Eg swimming, hair cutting, photography, playing a music instrument, dance lessons etc.
3. Join a support group. They have such groups on Facebook or other sites like zoom where people meet regularly to discuss their common issues.
4. Create a new budget as your spending habits have changed. Think whether to downsize to a smaller living space or keep things the same, how to co-parent if kids are involved. Etc.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Do you know there is a possibility you can get back your wife?

Let me tell you how. Your wife has to see and know that you have moved on and very happy without her.

Go get a sweet beautiful younger girl who can cook and dress to kill. Even if you dont drink, you can hang out, take your girlfriend and her friends out as much as you can.

In summary, do what your wife thinks you cannot do. Be happy and have a beautiful loving woman or women.

She will definitely know you are happy. Her family will hear you are living well and happy. It will mean their daughter was the reason you were not happy.

To them, you are a loser, prove them wrong.

wonder233:
As someone who has gone through what you're currently going through, I endorse this comment.

You're a man.

Good advise arr seldom adhered. You've made a valid point. It's left for the introvert to filter from what you say.

It may not be easy, but keeping with the said woman will be harder.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Good luck

My brother, I just had to learn how to run this town.

Pharaoh4rin:
Daaaammmmnnnnn!!
U're bad guy. This is what he needs to do. This is some hard-core move but it remains the best

Juliearth:
It's obvious that you loved and cared for this person. I also understand how betrayed you feel, seeing that the marriage didn't work out.

It is okay to grief. As a matter of fact, that is part of the healing process, but what will not be acceptable is allowing the grief eat you up.

First things first, I need you to reflect on this relationship. Figure out your flaws(if any) and also the lessons from it. Try to analyse where the relationship took a sour turn and the role you played in this (if any). This exercise is not to make yourself feel bad, but for you to learn.

You need to take care of yourself and your mental health. Register in a gym and create a routine. This would help you in two ways. First exercise has a way of releasing dopamine and other stress-relieving hormones, thereby making you feel better. Registering in a gym would also help you build a network of friends.

I understand that you do not have a social life. That is normal, but you need to build a support system whether physically or online.

What wre your hobbies and do you have a bucket list? Don't you think it's time to delve into them? If you don't have any, tour the 36 states in Nigeria (lol)


In all you do, please don't venture into another relationship until you have fully healed and still have the need for it.

You will be fine, just give it time. All the best!

You mean it is bad? And why?

i would have love to match make you,but divorcee are scary. are you base in lagos?

God has liberated you and you are still worried. Bro, everything is Working together for your good. The past is gone , develop a new you . Eat well, look good , stay fit and create new relationships.

Kaypols:
i would have love to match make you,but divorcee are scary. are you base in lagos?

If you can, go ahead and do it.

I have plenty ladies at hand looking for husbands, if you have "responsible men" too let's connect so that we can help these people.

I can only say you're not in charge of your marriage as you supposed to be, you are the man of the house and needed to be in charge oga, you don't need to be harsh on your wife but also little strictness upon her will do a lot good.

In marriage, you need to apply caution and be little strict to your woman for her to respect you more. With this post, I have this feelings that you still want her back but truth is that if she comes back and you're still this soft with her, nothing will change.

Like why on earth will she pack and go on the first place and you will be the one to go and plead, and she will come back and start again without you doing something about it, it will only give her room to continue.

Sometimes it might not be ordinary, you might need to pray seriously for her and watch what God can do, atleast BTW the both of you, your sanity is still intact, she's the one devil is using! So do your best to safe your marriage!
No marriage is a bed of roses!

Pharaoh4rin:
You mean it is bad? And why?

You shouldn't venture into a relationship when you are heartbroken or going through trauma.

ForexPay:
To defeat a woman use another woman.

Changing of location or going on vacation is a waste of money.

How to get a girl easily as an introvert: Patronize a sales girl you like and always tip her,she will likely give you the green light.

Most sales girls are not neat at all

akpunda86:
Good morning I have read positive and negative advices from people , as a victim and one of the oldest members here 50 years is not easy mostly when family members don't wanna hear u out assuming u are guilty cos their daughter painted u black. It di not easy even if you find another love mostly when kids are involved , mine left the kids for me similar to yours Everytime walks away till one day went for burial but decided to move to Abuja . People saying poverty is NO NO cos if I'm poor I'll say maybe is poverty , is all about her family bound and upbringing. I fought for my marriage still collapsed , so bros getting a new relation will help u but be careful cos at this stage every woman u see u think is the right one , be careful with another love u will forget but in lonely moments the good old times flood ur mind. Be strong as it traumatically and psychologically hurts we can private chat if u permit

I'll appreciate a private chat sir

Kaypols:
i would have love to match make you,but divorcee are scary. are you base in lagos?

Pls match make me I need seriously

Kaypols:
i would have love to match make you,but divorcee are scary. are you base in lagos?

I'll really appreciate, but the problem is that I'm not in Lagos

BlackfireX:
I will first insult you with the truth to awaken your introvert mind, because quiet people are very strong once they have a purpose.

1. Your so called wife was f.c.uc.ki.ng someone else while she was under your roof and her mom knew about it.
2. Because you tolerated her , she Banks on it and misbehave more... oh while his di.ck came out she put it back in.
3. You deserved to be flogged mercilessly, boy dust yourself up, see it as a bad chapter in your life . The guy banging her will enjoy and throw her away after 6 months by next year. No man trust a woman that betrays her husband.
4.your healing starts when you go and apologise to those whom have been warning ⚠ you concerning your simp nature .
5.... let me stop here

You've said it all, no man trust a woman who betrayed her husband


We rise by lifting others

Ogbeni, life is too short to allow a woman take over your happiness and joy.... Life is too short!

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

You really messed up your life by handing your authority over to your manipulative wife on a platter. I recommend you flow these two accounts on Facebook. They will rewire you and get you schooled on the right methodology of handling women. You will be glad you did.
1. Pearl Solution
2. Chi Umeti

Play all their videos on relationship and discover where you missed it.

I wish you good luck

Odafe360:
you think I'm broke? Lolss... You're pathetic

You are manifesting all the signs of a broke man. No offences

tommy589:
He is in a dilemma of not wanting someone in his life anymore and at the same time feeling the pain of missing her to the extent of contemplating suicide. I was in this Catch-22 situation and did what helped me in moving on quick

Bro, if the wife leaving was his fault he can find ways to mend things with her. But if the girl is narcissistic, my brother best once she leaves let her go...

Baba list the positives of her leaving you, get someone to clean up after you...
Don't rush into dating for now, bleep all you can, single mothers are looking for bleepers. Be truthful go straight to the point with them, most will let you smash. Get your confidence back and move on...

Make sure you born again B4 you enter another marriage sha... Because na God dey help man with marriage oh...

frozen70:
At this point, you have to come out of your introvert life style

You may end up feeling depressed if you don't do what is good for you

If you feel you have ended the relationship with her, start another one soon to fill in the gap and prevent you from falling into depression and loneliness

If you you still want her back, go as usual and do the needful

But it's best you decide what you want and take a new step

Start mixing up with people and adjust yourself quickly

This lady 😎😎😎

Happy new year 🎊 omo e don tey o 😂

The worst thing you can do is to go back and beg a woman who willingly left you...the more you go chasing her the farther she will try to escape from you..try the no contact from minimum of 45days to 90 days .she will reach out only if you stop begging, crying and pleading ..women don't want a needy man

BankyGee:
This lady 😎😎😎

Happy new year 🎊 omo e don tey o 😂

😂 😂, wetin I do

Happy new year to you

frozen70:
😂 😂, wetin I do

Happy new year to you

You remember me so?

BankyGee:
You remember me so?

I think so

frozen70:
I think so

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Ohhh ok, good

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