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I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

you force yourself into the relationship tho

Superstory!!

You didn't expressly state if the infections are sexually transmitted or not.
Well, just because you were the first person to tick a box doesn't mean other pen can't tick.

Your mindset will never change...

I am always the last to advise a divorce but It's best if both of you stop frustrating each other in a loveless union. Especially now kids aren't involved. I think this is the first time I will do if infidelity isn't the case. But it's better than getting to the extent of ridiculing your own wife in public as an "ugly village woman". You go don frustrate her tire.

As for the infection there could be underlying health issues since you are sure both of you are faithful partners. And presumably you both treat yourselves together when infected so as not to experience re-infection from the other untreated person?

na graduate with masters you calling village girl? Guy mind yourself oo. Carry that lady to the hospital for proper treatment jare. Your eyes still dey outside Ashawo man

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

@bold:

One man's food is definitely another man's poison.

Your mom 'forced' you to marry a lady is not an excuse sha.

This is 2025, please sit up and work with your wife to make your marriage work.

Also go for joint comprehensive checkup to know what is actually wrong.

Happy new year and goodluck!

How dare you call a graduate with even Master degree a village girl, this is a crime. I assume you have a doctorate degree

The point here is that you don't love the girl from onset she was imposed to you and your capability of standing as a man was not there , now you are reaping the fruits of your incapability

For the infection, Mr man visit a good hospital with your wife for a test and treat whichever comes out once and for all. I doubt where two faithful partners transmit std to each other and beside, how did you conclude that it is your wife that gives you these infections? I think your mind is playing tricks on you here based on your misconception over choosing this girl

From your write up the girl does cooking, washing etc showing that she is wifable to some an extent, you did not tell us that the girl is disrespectful, nagging, lazy, cheating, fetish so I don't understand your reasons in particular

I wonder what does being a Village girl has to do with being a good wife, if many married men can open up and tell you what they are passing through in the hands of their wife, my dear you will embrace that Village girl and mould her to your taste. You married her a virgin from the village meaning that she is a novice it's now left for you to put her through and place her to your standard of woman

A graduate with masters degree? Yet a virgin? That girl need to be rewarded because her type is very rare. In this century, for a girl to pass through secondary education, University and masters level without messing up her life? I beg oo respect what God has ordained

How can she be a graduate with a master's degree and a village girl at the same time?

madone:
na graduate with masters you calling village girl? Guy mind yourself oo. Carry that lady to the hospital for proper treatment jare. Your eyes still dey outside Ashawo man

Education na learning ground
Education no guarantee u say u go civilized to be honest
The guy no just like the gal na why he dey complain always
If it's not sexual infection why accusing the village girl Abeg leave am mak she Dey go back he village
She might also feel trapped same as u

If u are peeing blood pls,treat this as an emergency.

For the relationship.

That one,na family wahala.

and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

I never knew you are alpha and omega, Omniscient and omnipresent. You follow her about every minute to be sure of this or what?

BTW, STI are also gotten from toilets and fairly used or stolen pants too.

She has a serious STI that she hasn't treated properly for a long time and if you leave her untreated, it doesn't matter the uncountable times you treat yourself, you will always collect from her afresh wotowoto. So treat yourself and treat her too. In fact, overhaul her to avoid damage of some reproductive organs

So this is an annual ritual

Your last topic was December 2023 and now part 2 skipped December 2024 to enter the first day of January 2025. Hmmm


How old are you again? Maybe this is part of you growing but I refuse to hear a single-sided story. E get why. From time, we know that only a foolish elder hears one side and judges. Your story has looss ends. You are in the hospital for what? Were you sick, did you have an accident or was it due to the infection? Where is she now? Isn't your life more important to you than danger? What did the doctors say about your infection or are you just suspecting her without evidence? Can you marry another woman? Why is your mom so involved in your family/love life? You sound like you take orders and this is someone who has seen your weakness. You are not your own man.

I only see women here. Your mom and the lady. Be a man and take charge of your house. Men fix the house, they don't advertise the problems of the house. You decide how you want to see your house ran. Women like men who remind them of their fathers? You know why? They love security, structure and order so you need to tell yourself what you want to see in the mother of your children and Prime Minister of your house.

madone:
na graduate with masters you calling village girl? Guy mind yourself oo. Carry that lady to the hospital for proper treatment jare. Your eyes still dey outside Ashawo man

I tire o. Graduate with masters come be village girl? You sure say dem no rub alum for puna on that first day give am make him knack?

U better carry your cross

Since u fell for your mother's emotional blackmail n u couldn't scatter everything then that means u must cooperate till the end with carrying your cross

What u don't understand is that many ladies have accumulated untreated infections n their body can hide it but a man's body can't hide it.

The best option is to take her to the hospital n u both treat yourself cos without it u might not give birth, no b curse

I have seen situations where infections blocked d fallopian tube, take this from a married man.

Oga go n learn to love your wife

Ask any married person around u, no perfect partner anywhere. We all have our flaws.

Human n home management matters a lot in marriage coupled with maturity

Are you treating the infections individually? Like many have suggested, take her to the hospital for both of you to be comprehensively tested and treated.
As for the no ambition, do you try to encourage her to work? One thing about our women, particularly those who grew up in the hinterland, is that they don't have much inertia but once you help them start, you will see how determined they are to succeed. How often do you seat down to talk about what she would like to do or what options are available for her? Get more involved in her life than sex as you both should be working on building a successful home together.

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infec

tion for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

How old are you? You sound like a spoilt child. Or this should be a made up story.

🤔

All these stories una dey cook up and down

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This your matter tie wrapper

But how can a graduate with masters just be a stay-at-home wife?

How did she get her master's degree?


And you called her dull in your description...how can she be dull and have a Masters?

Is it proper to address a masters degree holder as a village girl?

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

You need to treat yourself with potent polyherbal approach using correct raw herbs of barks,leaves and roots to cure reoccurring stubborn Infections permanently,not just you alone,you need to treat her too... Check my signature to reach me on Whatsapp

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

You married your mother spiritual leader.
That was exactly what the spirit told Me now.

Your wife is your mother's mother spiritually.
If you like listen,if you like keep whinning, you are in the fattening room.

You think that married means you are given a finished product? Sorry for you. This advise is not for you. Please any sane person that marries a lady and don't fancy her should package her well. Fitness, work, business, etc. That's your wife, mother to be, and friend. If you near my place, I don't care where you come from, you will want to stay and forget we are not family. Not human is given as wife as a finished material . Work on your partner

I assume you're referring to yourself by "A masters graduate".

There is limited insight to this story. Why does your mother feel so strongly about her?

So you now call her "The Ugly village Girl" ?

The infection might be the reason she hasn't conceived.