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I've been thinking a lot about marriage lately, and I'm starting to wonder... is it an outdated institution that no longer serves a purpose? Should we just abolish it altogether?

With the rise of non-traditional relationships, increasing divorce rates, and changing social norms, I'm starting to question whether marriage is still relevant. Is it just a relic of the past, a societal expectation that we're all supposed to conform to?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that love and commitment are outdated. But is marriage really the best way to express those things? Or is it just a fancy piece of paper that's lost its meaning?

I'm genuinely curious to hear your thoughts on this. Should marriage be abolished, or is it still a relevant and important institution? Let's discuss!

That's an interesting perspective. I think marriage is still relevant for some people, but it's not the only way to express love and commitment. Maybe we can find a balance between traditional and non-traditional relationships.

In my view, marriage in Nigeria is still very relevant, but it’s also something that needs to evolve with the times. I see it as a deeply important institution because of how rooted it is in our culture, religion, and family values. For many Nigerians, including myself, marriage isn’t just about two people—it’s about families coming together, community ties, and fulfilling societal expectations. It’s also a way to gain respect and recognition in society, especially for women, who often face pressure to marry by a certain age.

At the same time, I can’t ignore the challenges that come with marriage in Nigeria. The gender inequalities, for example, really bother me. Women are often expected to take on traditional roles, and things like bride price, while cultural, can sometimes feel like women are being treated as property. I also think about the financial burden—weddings and traditional ceremonies can be so expensive that they leave couples and their families in debt before the marriage even starts. And let’s not forget the stigma around divorce or being unmarried, which can force people into marriages that aren’t right for them.

I believe marriage should be a choice, not something people feel forced into because of societal pressure. It should be about love, partnership, and mutual respect, not just fulfilling expectations. I also think we need to make space for other types of relationships and family structures, like cohabitation or single parenthood, without judging people for choosing those paths.

So, while I don’t think marriage should be abolished, I do think it needs to change. We need to address the inequalities, reduce the financial pressures, and create a society where people feel free to make the best decisions for themselves—whether that’s getting married, staying single, or choosing a different kind of partnership. Marriage can still be meaningful, but it shouldn’t be the only option or the only measure of success in life.

This is how I see it, based on the realities of Nigerian society and the need for balance between tradition and progress.

Rather than abolishment, I think the community feeding protocol should be curtailed. A gathering of not more than 20 people on a calm evening is marriage too.

Who’s the ‘we’ that want to abolish it? You mean the government should sign an executive order to put an end to marriage? It’s up to people to decide if they want to marry or not.

I think divorce should be abolished. If people know they can’t come out of a marriage, they will think thrice before getting into one.

In 9ja, yes! All our girls are either private or public olosho/hookup girls.

Don't be deceived, the married ones are seriously in the business too.

Aside children, what do men gain from marriage? After you must have answered my question, then I will answer yours. Funny enough, the children may not even be for the man if he conducts a DNA test.
As a married man, you have to put up with:
1. Feeding, providing and taking care of extra people who won't choose you as their first choice if they had their way.
2. Protecting yourself and extra people
3. Working harder than before, so as to be called "a good father/husband"
4. Assisting the family of your partner while yours is also there as your responsibility
5. In some cases, fathering children from other men.
If I continue listing, I go fit burst cry. So make una manage those 5 wey I list.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

Let's abolish wealth too?

The government is not forcing anyone to get married.

The thought of abolishing marriage originates from the devil. Resist such thought.

SpyMaster1:
I've been thinking a lot about marriage lately, and I'm starting to wonder... is it an outdated institution that no longer serves a purpose? Should we just abolish it altogether?

With the rise of non-traditional relationships, increasing divorce rates, and changing social norms, I'm starting to question whether marriage is still relevant. Is it just a relic of the past, a societal expectation that we're all supposed to conform to?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that love and commitment are outdated. But is marriage really the best way to express those things? Or is it just a fancy piece of paper that's lost its meaning?

I'm genuinely curious to hear your thoughts on this. Should marriage be abolished, or is it still a relevant and important institution? Let's discuss!

Marriage should be abolished and banned never to be created again, marriage is suffering and bondage....

PROUD BACHELOR

Who's forcing you to marry in the first place??
Society will only talk,society will accept you for you on the long run..

I sell herbs tho

WITHOUT MARRIAGE LIFESPAN WILL DRASTICALLY REDUCE.
IF WE DON'T HAVE CHALLENGES WE DECLINE FASTER
YOU MUST LIVE FOR SOMETHING

SOME MIGHT COME AND SAY YOU CAN BURY YOURSELF INTO RESEARCH AND DEVELOPMENT
THOSE DEVELOPMENTS ARE FOR WHO?

THE WEST RESEARCHES FOR A BETTER TOMORROW AND WHO OWNS TOMORROW CHILDREN FROM MARRIAGES.

IT HAS BEEN SHOWN TIME AND AGAIN THAT THE SOCIETY' IS BETTER IF THE YOUNGER GENERATION GREW UP IN AN INTACT HOME WHERE THE MOTHER AND FATHER ARE PRESENT, PLAYING ACTIVE ROLES.

FOR THERE TO BE COMMITMENT THERE MUST BE COVENANT, THE COVENANT IS THE MARRIAGE WITNESSED BY BOTH PARTIES RELATIONS, WHO SHOULD DO EVERYTHING POSSIBLE TO SEE THAT THE UNION WORKS.

THERE IS NO FASTER WAY TO END THE WORLD, THAN TO PAY LIPS SERVICE TO MARRIAGE