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Lol. The guy is a fool if he accepts

No wahala. Side chick will fill the vacuum.

Both her and her papa dey craze for head

Over to man to decide

Mikespecialone:
That shows the kind of wife you are

She's not a wife.

It may interest you to know that this type of girls only rant online, if you see the way they run errands for their boyfriends you'll marvel.
You'll wonder if it's this same folks forming feminists online.

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

Show me your mother and I will tell you the Genesis of this statement.

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

It's your bold audacity for me.

Na simps you dey talk to sha. I will proud to divorce you

Context is everything. This clip is too short and I believe it is deliberate to misconstrue the message. From his opening statement, "you don't sit, frown your face...", I want to believe he is referring to days when she is overwhelmed and the man is still angrily expecting cooked food. Such days are many and any understanding empathetic husband should know.

But then, to each his own. This cook and clean arguments are not for responsible adults.

1Sharon:
Poor people in Nigeria don't get it. Rich people hardly cook.
Don't be suprised to find out that DJ Cuppy can't cook. They have assistants that do everything for them.

Very true. Go to TikTok, there is a video of less than 2wks old. Temi Otedola is learning to fry eggs in 2025 . In between attending meetings, vacations, creating more wealth and resting, they outsource a lot. There are arguments that money and common sense makes you exclude yourself from.

If the wife is a career woman, she may not always be available to cook for him. and if they can afford a house help or cook, then problem solved. I think what matters most is mutual understanding between the couple. And I believe that's what the bride's father was exposing the groom to understand.
Most society or career women don't always cook for their homes. And the home is still peaceful and beautiful.

GistMedia0:
A bride’s father stirred controversy at a wedding by telling the groom, “YOUR WIFE MUST NOT COOK FOR YOU.” His remark immediately ignited heated discussions both at the event and on social media.

Many critics argued that such a statement undermines traditional marriage roles, with some insisting that it weakens the groom’s authority and disrupts household harmony. “The foundation of marriage should be based on mutual roles, and cooking has always been a part of a wife's duty,” one person commented. Others expressed concerns that this could lead to a power imbalance, making the groom feel less in control in his own home.

On the other hand, some defended the father’s perspective, emphasizing that modern marriages are about mutual understanding rather than rigid roles. “The husband and wife should determine what works for them,” a supporter remarked, arguing that every marriage is unique. Others suggested that when a woman isn’t pressured to cook, she may actually enjoy doing it more willingly. “If a man doesn’t impose expectations, she’ll likely cook for him out of love and not obligation.”


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-987RYe_ff4

Wahala, wahala, wahala.

I'm guessing the girls father is richer than the grooms entire family.

Foolish father. Home breaker

Malory:
No wonder. We now know you better.

She is a frustrated single mom

motymop:
Majority of the guys here didn't read what he said

The man made lot of sense.

It is not an obligation for your wife to cook for you, when you make it an obligation, then it brings lot of stress.

The woman should cook out of love and respect for you not out of obligation

Lies.

Is it a man's obligation to provide ?
Yes or no

emperor4love:
Wen u hv spoilt brat ur kid ,tell us ur daughter can cook, this wat happen wen u marry from rich family without moral standards,oga u don hear am

I guess the lady might not be cooking at home, hence she doesn't know how to cook.

Must be a Yoruba man. Marry their daughter at your own peril.

She's not even a wife

Mikespecialone:
That shows the kind of wife you are

Wonder wonder.But I've seen these news over 2weeks ago,how come it's just making it here?nairaland,Una need to upgrade o

The girl cannot cook, the father just dey let d man know.

Reminds me of a Nairalander whose father in-law summoned him and questioned him about why he is asking his daughter to use the mouth she uses to pray to suck his deek.

Tallesty1:
If we embrace 50/50 in all aspects of marriage, you online noise makers will run with your tails between your legs. To begin with, 50/50 doesn't start after marriage—it should start from day one. I come to your place to get a list, and we split the bill 50/50, or you go to mine and get your list. Your sisters will stop planning their dream weddings with a ₦100k bank account.

Once we're done with the marriage and she moves into my house, she will start paying rent based on the value of the house. We’ll also split every other responsibility 50/50—down to who turns on the generator and fixes the lights. And if we're unlucky enough to have criminals break in, both of us will be walking side by side to open that door.

If the government and police fail, and men on the street have to keep watch, you all are coming out too. Now, on having kids, we will take turns—I’ll get you pregnant, and then it’s your turn to get me pregnant. If you fail within two years, then it’s my turn again.

Do you really think cooking and cleaning are problems for men today? How much is a washing machine? You're here supporting a foolish man just because your son isn’t the groom. Nonsense.

Men shouldered responsibilities for years, no problem but the moment some of you started bringing nonsense N30 support, we will not hear words again.

Bless U for telling that thing.... This comment sweet me like say I dey down criminally cold Trophy larger beer with hot sauced BBQ 😁

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

Off point!!

The father said she mustn’t cook at all.
He should have as well said the groom shouldn’t provide money at all.

Lastly, an average Nigerian woman won’t agree to 50/50 finances.

Am very sure what this man say he will never collect it at all imagine this man go all out to since morning the mother of this same girl is not prepare his food wahala ma shele in that house and hope his wife don't cook for him at home or it maybe him that prepare every meal they eat at home

Philipmoon2:
She's not even a wife

It's impossible for such to be one. Except she's pretending online to deceive gullible young girls so they can become old and bitter like her

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

Don’t worry yourself, there are tens of other ladies out there that are ready to assist you with the cooking. Just make sure you continue to focus on your work ok!

Ojagun:
Naija men don dey too accept alot of nonsense from their wives and family members

Make any bastard so-called father-in-law talk this kain nonsense to me & i go leave im daughter for am make e marry

I go collect mic reply the meddling father in law in front of everyone and walk out of the venue. If his daughter still wants the marriage, she knows where to find me but her father is not welcome in our home.

Sonnobax15:

As a young man who's willing and praying to find a responsible wife in this era where stupidity is thriving among our women,you should also endeavor to pray and fast vehemently not to end up having a capital letter WEREY as a father in-law

I have always told men to behave like men. Talk to the men in her family before going through because when you speak to the men in her life, you will know the orientation she has been given. If you have problems in the future, you know how to manage it.

Tallesty1:
If we embrace 50/50 in all aspects of marriage, you online noise makers will run with your tails between your legs. To begin with, 50/50 doesn't start after marriage—it should start from day one. I come to your place to get a list, and we split the bill 50/50, or you go to mine and get your list. Your sisters will stop planning their dream weddings with a ₦100k bank account.

Once we're done with the marriage and she moves into my house, she will start paying rent based on the value of the house. We’ll also split every other responsibility 50/50—down to who turns on the generator and fixes the lights. And if we're unlucky enough to have criminals break in, both of us will be walking side by side to open that door.

If the government and police fail, and men on the street have to keep watch, you all are coming out too. Now, on having kids, we will take turns—I’ll get you pregnant, and then it’s your turn to get me pregnant. If you fail within two years, then it’s my turn again.

Do you really think cooking and cleaning are problems for men today? How much is a washing machine? You're here supporting a foolish man just because your son isn’t the groom. Nonsense.

Men shouldered responsibilities for years, no problem but the moment some of you started bringing nonsense N30 support, we will not hear words again.

I need to print this comment, frame it, and hang it in my house 😂😂🤣

I have seen that we have allowed western values confuse us that we now argue with our own values.

When u go marry girl because of him father money....waiting you wan talk...na house boy you go be .....that is the father is telling the man that his wife can Bleep another man.....don't talk.you no bring one naira for dis marriage

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

Madam, gbenu buruku e soun joor! Hear dis werey! 🤬🤬🤬

dominique:
Nigerian men expect women to contribute 50% financial upkeep and 100% domestic upkeep. Bunch of lousy scammers! If she's working and contributing to the family finances and she's unable or unavailable to cook all the time, you arrange your own damn meals. Heaven won't fall!

Which Nigerian men? It's a man's responsibility to provide. But, yeah, modern world, both parties working, etc. So things are changing.