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With fleeting nature of woman's beauty and splendor my candid advice to ladies is if they see men who truly love them in their 20s they should waste no time in saying affirmative.Some social media commentators/ influencers' pieces of advice could be confusing.

SATANIC ADVICE!


I HATE PEOPLE THAT FEEL THE NEED TO GIVE UNSOLICITED ADVICE.



WE DID NOT ALL COME TO THE WORLD AT THE SAMETIME AND WILL NOT ALL LEAVE AT THE SAMETIME.


THEIR IS NO UNIFORM ONE SIZE FITS ALL.


WE WILL GET PREGNANT AT DIFFERENT TIMES.


MARRY AT DIFFERENT TIMES.


U ARE SUPPOSE TO DO U AND ALLOW OTHERS DO THEIR OWN.



GOD LOVE ABRAHAM AND SARAH AND THEY HAD THEIR FIRST CHILD IN THEIR 90s.


MARY HAD JESUS IN HER TEENS.


WEN IT IS YOUR TIME, IT IS YOUR TIME.

I married at the age of 23

no regrets

Which kind stupid talk is this one

Dumbass

IF U LIKE, IF U SEE HUSBAND OR WIFE IN YOUR 20s NO MARRY, THEY LISTEN TO WEREY ADVICE.


WEN YOUR TIME PASS, DEM NO DEY TELL PERSON.



YOUR TIME MIGHT BE 20s, ANOTHER TIME MIGHT BE 30s, SOME SEF FIT BE 40s.


EVERYBODY TIME WILL COME AND GO.

idahme:
After making the money iin your 30s you still look for a man to take care if your bills who are you deceiving? Yourself of course

How does that amount to deceit?

Mopeola:
For your accurate peace of mind and harmony, l recommend you do not marry but try have a kid or children, ask your self why

That only works with those who have transcended such things as religion/tradition and their manipulation.

I think a better advice would be to have a source of income or the ability to generate income when the need arises (i.e) graduate with good grades or learn a skill. Making money is relative and with the way Nigerian is against her youth, you may not make all that money in your 20s. Except you are one of the lucky few to have a good headstart.

The irony is...Men are looking for women in twenties not thirties hence the high number of unmarried women in their thirties

ItisWell22:
➜A financially strong female is a plus to the society at large. Beautiful!
In the prevention of childhood illnesses, girl child education is almost always number 1. Reason being that an educated female is expected to be viable, financially as well as make good decisions and contributions to the wellbeing of the family.
But then, there’s no age range or limit nor starting point for making wealth. It happens when it happens. Do what works for you, lady. For me, I’ll always advocate for early marriage. The benefits healthwise, are enormous. Your body will thank you. If you can’t do it early, make sure you position yourself well, especially financially, to make it less strenuous on your body. Your body will be grateful…

This suggestion of yours goes against common knowledge at this point, which is that the vast majority of women who marry earlier are more likely to not only remain poor but also guarantee their children remain mired in the very same. What this means is that these supposed benefits of early marriage that you claim are only in the minds of those who subscribe to such opinions.

Merry100:
I’ve advised you before to do proper research before making baseless claims. Did you visit marriage registries, churches, mosques, or other wedding venues to verify whether up to 70% of brides are in their 20s before declaring that men hardly marry women in their 30s? Or you just pulled your claim out of thin air?

You sound like someone who skimmed through a high school biology textbook and now thinks he's an expert.

Since you seem so eager to learn ‘biology,’ let me educate you: while women’s fertility declines at 35-40, men’s sperm quality also starts deteriorating around the same time.

Aging sperm leads to lower motility, higher DNA damage, and increased risks of autism, schizophrenia, and genetic disorders in children.

Instead of obsessing over women, maybe advice your fellow men to get their sperm checked because a lot of them have sperm that get a head start but can’t even swim, let alone make a baby.

Many women in their 30s conceive naturally. Menopause, which happens around 45-50, is the real cut-off, not some imaginary ‘30-year expiration date’ you made up.

Argue all you like women in there 20s easily conceive and give birth than women in their 30s, fool yourself all you like!

Ashawo girl advising christian ladies to abandon chastity and embrace oloshoism.
Wonders shall never cease.

When they make the money, THEY BECOME RANDY ORTON GIVING RKO ANYTIME AND ANYWHERE

Too reach their own but u can find or have the man in ur 20's and plan ur marriage to each other in ur 30"s.


Girls do not search for a man or partner in ur 30's if u can avoid it. A good man is harder to find in ur 30's.

She is using money as ger excuse but not thought about having sense, better character development and mentally mature and prepared for the life time journey.

cr7lomo:
➜Men hardly marry women in their 30s ...did she consider the biological factor ?? At 30 women loose 90% of their eggs and at 35yrs she could have serious problems conceiving

. It is high time women avoid such foolish men altogether.

id4sho:
This is also the beginning of generational porverty also if things don't pan out well 🤷

how is getting married early the beginning of generational poverty if things dont pan out well?

at what point in a persons life is it guaranteed that things will pan out well?

The problem is that men do not care about womens money because men do not even get to enjoy it anyway...

There is no manual to this thing called life. Some people married in their 20s when they were not financially stable and they grew with their partners and are doing well, others married in their 20s and are still struggling after many years.

Some other people who decided to be rich before they get married are still struggling and have not been able to find their feet even in their 30s. For some that chose this path, they have been able to get valuable assets and investments before going into marriage.

In essence what works for A may not work for B, and works for B, may not work for C.

If you're a believer, allow God to lead you in making critical life decisions, and you will not miss it in life.

Kobojunkie:
This suggestion of yours goes against common knowledge at this point, which is that the vast majority of women who marry earlier are more likely to not only remain poor but also guarantee their children remain mired in the very same. What this means is that these supposed benefits of early marriage that you claim are only in the minds of those who subscribe to such opinions.

where did you do your research to have arrived at this "common knowledge"?

What works for you may not work for others so its advices in the end not definite statement of instruction.


Marriage is not bad for young girls. Making money is not the female role but the male. The female is the support. If you spend your twenties making money, you may find yourself way too competitive or assertive to recoil or summit to a man. Other times you on the aging side to attract the right kind of man. Other times again too picky because of your conscious statues.

Kobojunkie:
This suggestion of yours goes against common knowledge at this point, which is that the vast majority of women who marry earlier are more likely to not only remain poor but also guarantee their children remain mired in the very same. What this means is that these supposed benefits of early marriage that you claim are only in the minds of those who subscribe to such opinions.

E.g omotola jalade, regina Daniel, etc abi?

Merry100:
Disagreeing with your baseless claims doesn’t mean I’m being emotional. I’m simply trying to educate you so you don’t keep spreading misinformation and blindly Googling things without actually understanding them.

If you recall, you started by falsely claiming that men rarely marry women in their 30s.

By the way, why is your focus often on women's issues? Why haven’t you ever advised your fellow men to cut down on sugar? Excessive sugar consumption negatively affects male fertility and sexual performance.

Stop acting like women reach menopause in their 30s or that all women in their 30s struggle with fertility issues.

While women do experience a gradual decline in egg count, fertility issues are less common in the early 30s.

Yes, fertility issues become more prevalent in the late 30s, but many women still conceive naturally at this stage.

Let me cite some examples, just as you did:

Rihanna gave birth to her second child at 35 with no issues.

My cousin gave birth at 37 with no issues.

Nicki Minaj gave birth at 37 with no issues.

I have friends who gave birth in their late 30s with no issues, some were even 38 or 39.


Though aging can lead to reduced sperm quality in some men over 60, some remain capable of fathering children. Similarly, although women's fertility declines after 35, with a more pronounced decrease after 40, some women in this age group can still conceive naturally. Everybody's biological clock is unique.

Susan Sarandon had her children between the ages of 39 and 45 with no issues.

Halle Berry gave birth at 47 with no issues.

Up to twenty of my acquaintances were over forty, and some were even up to fifty, and they gave birth without issues.

My grandma was over sixty when she gave birth to my dad without issues.

Keep fooling yourself... no face reality yeye!

DyshApp:
A young lady who identifies as a Christian woman has advised her fellow women to make enough money and desist from getting married in their 20s

In the video she posted, Faithful Femininity advised Christian women to stay away from early marriage especially when they can’t cater for themselves.

The young lady advised Christian women in their 20s to desist from getting married when they make enough money.

Her words: “As a Christian woman, I have decided that my 20s are not for marriage. My 20s are to make money. Christian women stop entering into marriage so early.”

”Go and make money. You don’t have a dime in your account. God and find a way to make money. In 20s, in your 30s, go and make money. Stop following men around. Some of you are doing Hallelujah Challenge and wearing bridal gowns.


“Have you made money? Like, I will not enter a marriage without money. And I’m talking about multiple sources of steady income. I’m not that kind of Christian woman that will enter her husband’s house with nothing in her account. God forbid. My 20s now na to work hard. My 20s is to make wealth.”

I hope this lady will not use her 20s to drive men away and return to social media 10years from now crying that she is still single?

Hellisreal70:
➜E.g omotola jalade, regina Daniel, etc abi?

Against that handful of cases you mention, I play for you the over 50 million married Nigerians(North and South) who are living on the lowest rungs of poverty, many of whom also started families early and are— with at least one generation later — mired in poverty.

cr7lomo:
Men hardly marry women in their 30s ...did she consider the biological factor ?? At 30 women loose 90% of their eggs and at 35yrs she could have serious problems conceiving

😂 I'm amazed at the confidence you gathered to type your false ideas.
Please, research properly next time before you come online to exhibit ignorance.

This one don watch odogwu film finish come dey advise us on already made man...

Thank you oo

Adakintroy:
➜What works for you may not work for others so its advices in the end not definite statement of instruction.
Marriage is not bad for young girls. Making money is not the female role but the male. The female is the support. If you spend your twenties making money, you may find yourself way too competitive or assertive to recoil or summit to a man. Other times you on the aging side to attract the right kind of man. Other times again too picky because of your conscious statues.

This isn't about marriage being bad for young girls but the fact that the majority of said young girls are from a poverty background at this point in history and should not have any business with raising children of their own until after they have conquered the poverty issue first. Either that or risk cursing their family and children with poverty for generations to come.

Marriage is a poverty alleviation scheme / money maker for many 9ja women lol. No guarantees that if they hustle they will make money

talented321:
There is one thing I realized some years ago and many people are just making a big mistake, you don't have to be rich before you can start a family.. Why I'm saying this is, I have seen many people who always brag around that they can't marry until they are rich, and while waiting for this wealth age and time wait for nobody...
My uncle was victim of what I'm saying and he is regretting his actions today...
All what I'm trying to say is, if you are managing with your life then just look for a sensible Man or woman and plan things together.. many things you have never achieved when you was alone with a sensible man or woman you might be able to achieve some..
YOU JUST NEED THE RIGHT PARTNER...

Foolish people think money has gauge.. There is nothing like enough money... Just find your size of partner and continue the hustle... Your own difinition of wealth may be another man definition of poverty.

The problem people have is not cutting there coats accordingly. How can you be a salary earner and be dating a Brazilian wig marshal?

The more money you make the more your taste board increases. E no get gauge unless you contend with yourself.

My own be say, try to be a better person everyday or learn new things everyday. Make sure where you are today is not where you are tomorrow.

Men should get married in their 40s to women in their 20s.

At 40, a man is mentally and financially stable, and at that age, he already owns and decorates his home and have farmlands to grow organic food in the suburbs.

At 20, a woman is young, naive, fertile and sexually active for a 40 years old husband who has got a stable life.

That way, their kids will be in their 20s, when their mother is in her 40s and their Dad in his 60s.

Wise men in their 70s, with their wives in their 50s are ready to transfer wealth and family legacies in the their kids in their 30s and whose female children have given them 10 years old grandkid(s).

At 70s, men are playing around with Soul Travel and OBEs preparing for their next incarnation and if they take care of their health will live to their 90s.

This is a template that works for those who are self-made, but if you have generational wealth and trustee of some wealth, as a man, you can get married in your 30s. No man should be married in his 20s, there is such much inexperience and causes divorces.

Smilleydr:
I just pray it work for me, because comont girl friend self e hard to keep for me, and I don dey old faaaa

If you know that you're the responsible type and got a well paying job, you should try and settle down. But if you know you don't want to be responsible and is the stingy type and jobless, please don't marry, because a lot of sacrifice and compromise have to be made