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Okay I noticed ever since I intentionally stopped dating and picking girls for the sole intent of sex, It's really been hard to meet a quality girl who honestly seek a non sexual healthy relationship. Must relationship always come with sex? What happened to the culture of fidelity and no sex till marriae that used to be a pride of our culture and conscience
Women complain all men want is sex, but my experience tells me that women believe it's the sex that validates a relationship, so they play the sex card and seem to project sex as the biggest game they bring to the table.

I'm currently not interested in sex, and it's not money thing, it's just change of perspective about life and sex and women. But then I realized it's yet hard to meet ladies who align with this perspective. All I see are beautiful ladies who plays the sex card, and loose ladies whose relationship mindset is transactional using sex as the product. Haba. I'm no longer interested in those life. It's not worth it.

Question is where are young vibrant ladies who truly live by the no sex policy, whose life or relationship philosophy still encompass chastity and are honest about it, and not some pretenders who say no sex to their boyfriend but have strings of friends with benefits lurking in different streets.
Honestly, everything makes me really disillusioned and aloof about sex and relationship thing

It takes two to tango. Men often pester women to have sex and sometimes even claim that lack of sex causes them back pain.

Try to be realistic: what percentage of men are actually willing to wait? And among those who are, what are the odds that every woman will find a man who aligns with her preferences?

Most women are not to be blamed. The 'no sex' policy is no longer for the weak. Sex in relationships has become widely accepted in the society and is now considered the norm.

No sex before marriage is virtue

Goodlady:
No sex before marriage is virtue

The virtue seems to have lost

Merry100:
It takes two to tango. Men often pester women to have sex and sometimes even claim that lack of sex causes them back pain.

Try to be realistic: what percentage of men are actually willing to wait? And among those who are, what are the odds that every woman will find a man who aligns with her preferences?

Most women are not to be blamed. The 'no sex' policy is no longer for the weak. Sex in relationships has become widely accepted in the society and is now considered the norm.

If sex in relationship is now generally accepted can we now agree infidelity in marriage is now a general thing.
I do not believe a lady who wasn't faithful in relationship can be faithful in marriage

FreeSpirited:
If sex in relationship is now generally accepted can we now agree infidelity in marriage is now a general thing.
I do not believe a lady who wasn't faithful in relationship can be faithful in marriage

Infidelity is not defined as unmarried people having sex in a relationship; that is simply premarital sex.

Premarital sex and infidelity are not the same, so how does premarital sex being the societal norm equate to infidelity in marriage becoming a general thing?

By your logic, I could also suggest that a man who had sex before marriage will definitely be unfaithful after marriage.

Sex is not a one-sided act, so don’t point fingers at women alone. If you want to advice or criticize, make it general.

I have learned not to judge others by my own standards. Just because a certain pattern works for you doesn’t mean it will work for everyone. Not all men feel the way you do, some men even prefer experienced women.

FreeSpirited:
Okay I noticed ever since I intentionally stopped dating and picking girls for the sole intent of sex, It's really been hard to meet a quality girl who honestly seek a non sexual healthy relationship. Must relationship always come with sex? What happened to the culture of fidelity and no sex till marriae that used to be a pride of our culture and conscience
Women complain all men want is sex, but my experience tells me that women believe it's the sex that validates a relationship, so they play the sex card and seem to project sex as the biggest game they bring to the table.

I'm currently not interested in sex, and it's not money thing, it's just change of perspective about life and sex and women. But then I realized it's yet hard to meet ladies who align with this perspective. All I see are beautiful ladies who plays the sex card, and loose ladies whose relationship mindset is transactional using sex as the product. Haba. I'm no longer interested in those life. It's not worth it.

Question is where are young vibrant ladies who truly live by the no sex policy, whose life or relationship philosophy still encompass chastity and are honest about it, and not some pretenders who say no sex to their boyfriend but have strings of friends with benefits lurking in different streets.
Honestly, everything makes me really disillusioned and aloof about sex and relationship thing

you have finished your looose life and are now looking for chaste girl.
you lieee, brother you lie.
God must have forgiven you to not give you a pretender, who will be having sex with the your whole group but form chaste for you.

Ajmoziz:
you have finished your looose life and are now looking for chaste girl.
you lieee, brother you lie.
God must have forgiven you to not give you a pretender, who will be having sex with the your whole group but form chaste for you.

There's room for becoming born again.. Living a new life

Even the ladies want the sex too,you think ladies too don't get konjified? Women of this generation are the most open in sexual matters infact an average genz lady does not consider you her partner if you never had sex with her.

FreeSpirited:
There's room for becoming born again.. Living a new life

It’s good to know that you have repented, but bear in mind that every sin is equal in the sight of God. Neglecting complete righteousness in your message while focusing solely on abstinence from premarital sex is not balanced.

Culture can sometimes be biased. Instead of criticizing premarital sex based on cultural values, just focus on the Biblical principles you wish to uphold.

Unfortunately, relationship has become more transactional.

Guys give money to get sex
Girls give sex to get money.

No money, no sex
No sex, no money.



Sad reality

Merry100:
It’s good to know that you have repented, but bear in mind that every sin is equal in the sight of God. Neglecting complete righteousness in your message while focusing solely on abstinence from premarital sex is not balanced.

Culture can sometimes be biased. Instead of criticizing premarital sex based on cultural values, just focus on the Biblical principles you wish to uphold.

I'm also not in support of premarital marital sex , except you guys must have done introduction and officially bethroted.

Bookhub:
Even the ladies want the sex too,you think ladies too don't get konjified? Women of this generation are the most open in sexual matters infact an average genz lady does not consider you her partner if you never had sex with her.

That's the mentality... It's really crazy..... I don't want to live according to that mindset anymore.. I choose to follow godly standard without duress or any pressure

FreeSpirited:
I'm also not in support of premarital marital sex , except you guys must have done introduction and officially bethroted.

What you support or oppose is a personal choice, but personal rules and beliefs cannot be imposed in a public forum that includes people from different religions, backgrounds, and perspectives. I hope you are not mistaking this for spreading the word of God.

I am not endorsing premarital sex either; I am simply stating the obvious.

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Each time I see this No Sex before marriage rubbish, I just see it as eith one or both adults deceiving themselves based on an encounter I had.

Guys NEVER accept no sex before marriage from any woman. Its a lie. I think I want to create a thread about my encounter.

BUSINESSARENAA:
Each time I see this No Sex before marriage rubbish, I just see it as eith one or both adults deceiving themselves based on an encounter I had.

Guys NEVER accept no sex before marriage from any woman. Its a lie. I think I want to create a thread about my encounter.

I'm not asking anyone to be naive and accept any ashawo or anyhow woman as a fiancee/girlfriend in a no sex relationship. It's a dangerous thing to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.... Your experience will be a result of dating a dishonest person or a fake person... That's not the lady I'm looking for, and I'm not naive O...

Listen to this powerful sermon from Pastor Emmanuel Iren

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7473409268180421943/

Goodlady:
No sex before marriage is virtue

Its a virtue for virgins and not for those who have had plethora of sexual partners and then want to decieve a particular one so that marriage plans are hastened.

I totally get it I'm facing the exact same challenge. It's tough to find people who genuinely want a deep connection and not just something physical.

Mebaby:
I totally get it I'm facing the exact same challenge. It's tough to find people who genuinely want a deep connection and not just something physical.

Big challenge. Even the ones who think they want something deep aren't even ready to make it exclusive, you see them compromise at any given opportunity, or going back to their vomit

FreeSpirited:
There's room for becoming born again.. Living a new life

Yeahh i agree, do you stay in abuja, let me give you some directions so you can also give them this information

Ajmoziz:
Yeahh i agree, do you stay in abuja, let me give you some directions so you can also give them this information

Direction to where