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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Dancebreaker: 4:44pm On Mar 26, 2025

Lalami3232:

The list is 20!!! Why did you remove the last 2?
Anyways for those of you who didn't get the full list, let me add the last 2. And they are:
19. Marrying a non-virgin aka borehole and not going for a DNA test
20. Believing that your non-virgin wife a.k.a borehole is different from others who did paternity fraud.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, Oga go for DNA test oooooooo because non-virgins aka boreholes can't be trusted atall atall

Dude, nothing anybarry go tell me, you obtained your PhD from Yaba Left with distinction. grin

Look at her long list. Most men who meet these criteria are raising kids fathered by other men in their house.

The better a hubby you are, the more bastards you are raising in your house. Nor be only 18, she for make am 318. shocked

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by NaijaNaWaa: 4:45pm On Mar 26, 2025

Sunnyshinylight:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1AJyhEifCw/

Apart from numbers 17 and 18 I’m happy to make most these mistakes. Take a woman serious at your own peril.

ADDENDUM: Ok, it depends. If your wife is worth it, by all means; give her your all. Otherwise, just fashy and live your life. As they say. “YOLO”.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by ItisWell22(f): 4:49pm On Mar 26, 2025

FreeStuffsNG:
18 Costly Mistakes Women Make In Marriages too
Each of them can go both ways

True.

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by sprints1: 4:51pm On Mar 26, 2025

Sunnyshinylight:
You were born by someone, what if you dad and mum decided to stay single and decided to be happy staying single.

Just realise that most of the ideas in head are demonic. What's your happiness in life. So in other words anything that doesn't stress you is your happiness.

What a lazy generations.

In smart working we find complete joy. After all the HOLY GHOST said the sleep of a labouring man is sweet.

What gives you good sleep? To lazy around doing nothing?

In raising generations of your own children should add super excitement to your life!

see analogy who beg them to born us... Guy I work a miserable job, can barely save. Who is sleeping. I don't even sleep well... I hustle day and night. Raising kids in western civilization is a scam I bet if I lived in 1800s I should have nothing less than 15 children and 7 wives who will love me. See this one school fees, baby food, bills, and the rest. Children are meant to be source of joy. But these ones we have now are starring to look like liabilities they don't listen, they don't care, they can't even clean. I won't mind living in stone age. There is good food anymore. All we have is food that affects the genome and spike hormonal imbalances. We are now older than our age. Mr man u have a point but to born pikin in this era come add entitlement and snooping wife join is a a future terminal cancer if you struggling to survive

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by tunapawizzy: 4:56pm On Mar 26, 2025*

no 6 you can find other people more admirable, what keeps u in your marriage, devoted to your partner is your charcater- your ability and decision to stay true to ur vows/words or whatever it is u have given to ur partner as assurance. There are definitely people u will find more admirable than ur wife and husband except u want to be whining yourself(and I am not talking about admiration of physical attributes alone, even character, values). In the first place, most people did not get married to the most admirable man/woman they have ever come across.

no. 9 your wife is not your junior, or subordinate BUT it is not being the head that makes u a dictator. A lot of women yearn for women that will lead the home and be the head and give direction, does that mean they are looking for dictator. Stop using any attempt to make masculinity look bad or dangerous.

All the other points enter well well

BONUS POINT:
- Forgetting to take care of yourself as a man, Forgetting to nurture your soul and mind and body. Not Preparing for eventualities in old age, incase of abandonment by the ones u have used your youthful years and energy and resources to nurture and build

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by DADAYO5: 5:00pm On Mar 26, 2025

Sunnyshinylight:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1AJyhEifCw/

I KNOW MY HUSAND IS ALWAYS ON NAIRALAND AS MUCH AS HE FROLICS WITH DIFFERENT GIRLS. GOD PLEASE MINISTER TO HIM.

GOD BLESS THIS WRITER, AMEN.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Slytiger: 5:00pm On Mar 26, 2025

Women's wahala are too much. For peace of mind, most guys would rather just stay single.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by ezugegere(m): 5:02pm On Mar 26, 2025

95% of the advice that a woman would give you are for her own selfish interest. She would not even consider your own interest.

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by TemmyT002(m): 5:09pm On Mar 26, 2025

This is best I have ever read on Nairaland.
May God bless the writer.
Superb.
Thanks.

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Bimpe29(m): 5:27pm On Mar 26, 2025

May Allah bless us with the set of righteous characters as husbands and fathers in our respective relationships Aameen.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Nweike1: 5:29pm On Mar 26, 2025

givedemwotowoto:
One of the Most Costly Mistakes you make as a husband is choosing the wrong woman as your wife.

Marry a woman who was raised to be a wife, or at least one who is learning to become one (she must accept her role). If nobody taught her at home, society and experience should've taught her.

A woman raised to be a wife knows from Day 1 that your goal is to protect and provide for your family, and her role is to support you to do that. This is a quality/role that most feminists and ladies raised by single mothers (with no support from close male relatives) hardly bring to your home. They're usually in competition with you or in other cases, unaware of how to help, rather than be supportive of you. What they bring is chaos rather than peace.

Be careful out there. The woman you spend most hours of your life every day with can make or break your home, career, and life.

Very true!!! Goes for good women marrying bad men

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by negaiyke: 5:36pm On Mar 26, 2025

Sunnyshinylight:
You were born by someone, what if you dad and mum decided to stay single and decided to be happy staying single.

Just realise that most of the ideas in head are demonic. What's your happiness in life. So in other words anything that doesn't stress you is your happiness.

What a lazy generations.

In smart working we find complete joy. After all the HOLY GHOST said the sleep of a labouring man is sweet.

What gives you good sleep? To lazy around doing nothing?

In raising generations of your own children should add super excitement to your life!

Listen.... What You just said up here is even more demonic, manipulative and narcissistic.

Even Paul the Apostle in the Bible suggested singlehood in the Bible (Read 1 Corinthians chapters 7: emphasis on verse 28)

Listen you manipulative female beings: Marriages are Optional: Quit cajoling and shaming men into marriages- using that ancient blackmailing statement you lots always use (saying "We were born by someone, what our your dad and mum decided to stay single and decided to be happy staying single".... That is an ancient manipulative statement women have used for ages to make men enter marriages when they don't feel like it.

Truth is women benefit the most from marriage arrangement - hence the cajole men into it.

I dare you to name just 1 benefit in Marriage that someone cannot enjoy outside marriage (I dare You to name)

Like I said even the Bible okays Marriage as a choice..... It is Good to Marry, But if You decide Not, then it adviced that you can stay single.

make sure you read and re-read the chapter I quoted you above before you think to reply me.

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Lumig: 5:41pm On Mar 26, 2025

All these on top one man shocked

Men dey try ó 🤔

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by APOPTOSIS: 6:23pm On Mar 26, 2025

Sunnyshinylight:
You were born by someone, what if you dad and mum decided to stay single and decided to be happy staying single.

Just realise that most of the ideas in head are demonic. What's your happiness in life. So in other words anything that doesn't stress you is your happiness.

What a lazy generations.

In smart working we find complete joy. After all the HOLY GHOST said the sleep of a labouring man is sweet.

What gives you good sleep? To lazy around doing nothing?

In raising generations of your own children should add super excitement to your life!

I just made my submission which I am entitled to. And I expect you to make yours. I don't know when it became a crime for someone to sample his or her opinion. Why would I be insulted and disrespected for making my contribution?
I can remember I didn't insult you.

Topics are created for opinion sampling.
Your comment lacks maturity.
IF you're a Christian as purported and I'm of another Religion, by your conduct you will never win a single soul for christ. U lack Religious tolerance and comprehension of passages.
U need to undergo a reorientation of thought process for yours is still juvenile.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Onewazobia(m): 6:25pm On Mar 26, 2025

This must be written by a woman

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by FORWARDEVERLY: 6:40pm On Mar 26, 2025

Number 9 10 and 18 are rubbish.....
I agree with the rest...

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Mike008(m): 8:02pm On Mar 26, 2025

1 COSTLY MISTAKE WOMEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE

1. Disrespecting your husband.
This can come in very many ways.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Starz825(m): 8:21pm On Mar 26, 2025

Sunnyshinylight:
You were born by someone, what if you dad and mum decided to stay single and decided to be happy staying single.

Just realise that most of the ideas in head are demonic. What's your happiness in life. So in other words anything that doesn't stress you is your happiness.

What a lazy generations.

In smart working we find complete joy. After all the HOLY GHOST said the sleep of a labouring man is sweet.

What gives you good sleep? To lazy around doing nothing?

In raising generations of your own children should add super excitement to your life!

You are right

The person you quoted is right too

If you no ready for marriage....do not go there...

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by alezzy13: 8:36pm On Mar 26, 2025

Sunnyshinylight:
You were born by someone, what if you dad and mum decided to stay single and decided to be happy staying single.

Just realise that most of the ideas in head are demonic. What's your happiness in life. So in other words anything that doesn't stress you is your happiness.

What a lazy generations.

In smart working we find complete joy. After all the HOLY GHOST said the sleep of a labouring man is sweet.

What gives you good sleep? To lazy around doing nothing?

In raising generations of your own children should add super excitement to your life!

Sorry, but what does the bolded mean?? if my dad hadn't met my mum? Simple, I wouldn't have been born. And so what? 🙄

And yes my happiness is paramount, and if it means staying single, so be it. Absolutely no apologies.

NB: I am not by any means downplaying marriage. It's a wonderful institution and should be encouraged for as many of those who are ready for it. Otherwise stay on your own.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Lifestone(m): 8:36pm On Mar 26, 2025

2cato:
thier will be no need for these bull shit if women would stop nagging and stop denying their husband sex

I have been married for over 20years, I have never experienced this

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by longleg(m): 10:04pm On Mar 26, 2025

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Arlee: 10:14pm On Mar 26, 2025

Sunnyshinylight:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1AJyhEifCw/

At number 15,sorry,my parents above my wife biko

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Spinflow: 5:35am On Mar 27, 2025

What if a woman is doing all these because she thinks that men are interested in her? Hiding money, lying in any and every situation,,,,,

Sunnyshinylight:
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1AJyhEifCw/

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by koladata(m): 5:55am On Mar 27, 2025

Tribalism has eaten too deep into your life. I'm shocked to see anything obedient on this post, you are beyond redemption

keymatt:
I don't know for urchiins but most obidient men are good husbands and fathers at home.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Eberex(m): 7:20am On Mar 27, 2025

APOPTOSIS:
There is no crime in staying single.
People should start prioritizing their happiness over anything on earth.
If getting married would make you happy & fulfilled, then go 4 it, else keep off.
If you can't listen to someone else, have shared opinion, can't stand someone advising you on pertinent issues, or even detest the opposite gender, please stay away from marriage. Never enter such with a preconceived hatred for the other gender.
It would be dead on arrival.
Never allow societal or religious pressure get you into such.
Life is once and should be lived to its fullest.
My humble opinion.

And if you get in and find out you are not happy, you should get out of it

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by AfDapone: 7:21am On Mar 27, 2025

Good talk mixed with rubbish talk.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by ScarletBrace(m): 9:40am On Mar 27, 2025

iLegendd:
I stopped at number 2. Also realizing a woman wrote it or a SIMP using a female handle worsened it.

Rule 1: Never take dating advice from women, but if it's a business advice that'll make you a Dollar millionaire, take it. When you finally want to upscale to a billionaire, listen to only men, they're the ones who merited the billionaire status from scratch.

Rule 2: Every rich man deserves 4 or more wives, be you an atheist, a Christian or a Muslim.

Rule 3: If your lifestyle, as a man, doesn't match with real African and real Asian tradition, you're living a fake life (Western life).

Watch as SIMPs Association of Nigeria (SAON) will start worshipping what she wrote since a woman posted it.

I'm amazed.
...amazed at your confidence level in talking nonsense.
Arrogant dunce.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by smartangel001(m): 10:10am On Mar 27, 2025

Also tell us and the general public too the 18 costly mistakes a wife/woman will done on her MARRIAGE.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by smartangel001(m): 10:11am On Mar 27, 2025

Also tell us and the general public too the 18 costly mistakes a wife/woman makes in MARRIAGE.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by Merry100: 12:46pm On Mar 27, 2025*

givedemwotowoto:
One of the Most Costly Mistakes you make as a husband is choosing the wrong woman as your wife.

Marry a woman who was raised to be a wife, or at least one who is learning to become one (she must accept her role). If nobody taught her at home, society and experience should've taught her.

A woman raised to be a wife knows from Day 1 that your goal is to protect and provide for your family, and her role is to support you to do that. This is a quality/role that most feminists and ladies raised by single mothers (with no support from close male relatives) hardly bring to your home. They're usually in competition with you or in other cases, unaware of how to help, rather than be supportive of you. What they bring is chaos rather than peace.

Be careful out there. The woman you spend most hours of your life every day with can make or break your home, career, and life.

One of the most costly mistakes you can make as a wife is choosing the wrong man as your husband.

Marry a man who was raised to be a husband, or at least one who is learning to become one (he must accept his role). If nobody taught him at home, society and experience should've taught him.

A man raised to be a husband knows from day 1 that his goal is to protect and provide for his family, and his role is to support you in doing that. This is a quality/role that most misogynists and men raised by abusive men (with little support from close female relatives) often lack. They are usually dictators, see you as competition, or, in other cases, are unaware of how to help rather than being supportive of you. What they bring is chaos rather than peace.

Be careful out there. The man you spend most hours of your life with every day can make or break your home, career, and life.

Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by iLegendd(m): 2:05pm On Mar 27, 2025

ScarletBrace:
I'm amazed.
...amazed at your confidence level in talking nonsense.
Arrogant dunce.

You're welcome, dear.

Glad you're gradually learning. Keep it up.

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Re: 18 Costly Mistakes That Husbands Make by professore(m): 3:42pm On Mar 27, 2025

Nice

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