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eazzzy1:
No amount of money is enough. Even Dangote’s $23B net worth isn’t enough, that’s why he’s still working. If you are waiting to have enough before you marry, you will never get married.

Your young and sheltered girlfriend is planning the family income based on her lifestyle. In the real world, people plan their lives around their income, not the other way around.

Don't tell me his girlfriend is planning base on her lifestyle .... lifestyle of 50k to taunt 500k haha now .... if the girlfriend is earning like 350k or 400k now I will say she know what she's saying l, 50k is just 10% of 500k bro ..... she will just stress the guy life with unnecessary billing if the guy clock 60 before kicking bucket naa by connection.... I earn 250k with 3 kids also my site is on lintel level depend on what you can sacrifice......

Red flag if someone that has never earn 300k a month saying that earning 500k is a peanut ....

Acidosis:
You are about to marry your enemy.

KobomatPhones:
I was arguing with my girlfriend as we were making plans to further our relationship, and she randomly made this statement “that 500k monthly salary is not even enough to survive”

Bro, we don’t even have kids yet. And her calculations were based off children school fees, sending family money and vacations.

I send my family of 5, 200k monthly and they never starve till month end.

I even tried telling her that some of the biggest occupations in nigeria, they don't see up to 500k a month and she says that “they all have a backup income”

This girl has never earned more than 50k per month her whole life. She still lives with her parents, so why would she make this statement?

Abegi, advice from experienced fellas

No frugal Nigerian is thinking of vacation now, so talk her out of that reality. 500k is enough to run a home and even have a reasonable monthly savings plan. Shop in bulk, cut down unnecessary expenses and you would be good

I believe when the economy crunches harder than this, your income would have improved.

Have you taken time to weigh your compatibility with your significant half to be? I mean in terms of lifestyle, beliefs, orientation and so on.

emmaodet:

It's not just that someone earning less than 50k has the audacity to mock and belittle their partner's 500k salary. The problem is that the instant that woman earns even a single kobo more than her man, that marriage ends and never to be revived again.

Holluwhakemmy:
With 500k salary you can still live a comfortable life nothing wrong with that. Some people are not even see up to that and they are enjoying and managing themselves.
Your girlfriend is delusional that means she can't manage 500k per month Kilode

She can manage 50k salary that comes from her pocket but can't manage 500k that comes from someone else's pocket , tell these type of poor ladies how they intend to help their husbands financially and see the rubbish the man us dating , delusional is an understatement

This dude better run, he can never satisfy a woman like this. Talking about vacation and all whatnot when she can't even afford a motorcycle with her annual salary of 600k people dey date sha

kings59:
I'm the kind of guy who likes looking at the bright side and avoid criticism or negativity.

You have to be happy with what she told you because she is making you elevate your life and motivating you to increase your hustle.

Take what she said as an advise because that's the typical truth.


When you finally double your hustle and earn more, you would still praise her.

Forget about the poople bringing negativity here, they won't tell you the truth but would be quick to judge.


I apply wisdom in anything I do and say before spitting it out.

Life is not only the positives you can also see positives in negativity. Lets assume he doubles his hustle will it quench her desires to satisfy herself through someone else and not herself? That desires will never end, if you say double hustle for him to meet tla contented woman i will agree but ro double hustle for someone that isn't contented? That's ridiculous.

If doubling hustle is interesting and easy why is she earning less than 50k? Humans are crazy, using standards for others but not herself, if she is the type hustling and earning as much as the guy will she make that statement? Lazy people will always see relationship and marriage as a poverty eradication scheme for women and when you meet one be careful before you enter a rat race. The dudes earning already placed him in a comfortable place in the Nigeria of today and is bound to make more as he gets more experience and training im his field but can't say of the woman who earns less than 50k.


Many men die because they want to please women and conform to women's statement which is against their personal health, i have seen this happen in real time for a man who earned 300plus but got pushed by a wife who earns 100plus but never contributed a dime to the family welfare, now she is a widow that hrr salary will now be put for the family since the man is no more.

There are certain stress men should avoid, stress within it doesn't always end well

skillmyman:
I have seen someone earning 1.5m per month as far back as 2012 in a bank got sacked and went to start a job of 150k per month. He had to restructure his life and dat of his family. Life does not always go smoothly. Your girlfriend has told you the kind of person she is. Get urself some brain.

He was earning 10k dollars monthly in 2012, what w salary. That must really be w crazy scenario, dude never kept a reserve for himself for rainy days?

eazzzy1:
No amount of money is enough. Even Dangote’s $23B net worth isn’t enough, that’s why he’s still working. If you are waiting to have enough before you marry, you will never get married.

Your young and sheltered girlfriend is planning the family income based on her lifestyle. In the real world, people plan their lives around their income, not the other way around.

Apt

idahme:
Life is not only the positives you can also see positives in negativity. Lets assume he doubles his hustle will it quench her desires to satisfy herself through someone else and not herself? That desires will never end, if you say double hustle for him to meet tla contented woman i will agree but ro double hustle for someone that isn't contented? That's ridiculous.

If doubling hustle is interesting and easy why is she earning less than 50k? Humans are crazy, using standards for others but not herself, if she is the type hustling and earning as much as the guy will she make that statement? Lazy people will always see relationship and marriage as a poverty eradication scheme for women and when you meet one be careful before you enter a rat race. The dudes earning already placed him in a comfortable place in the Nigeria of today and is bound to make more as he gets more experience and training im his field but can't say of the woman who earns less than 50k.


Many men die because they want to please women and conform to women's statement which is against their personal health, i have seen this happen in real time for a man who earned 300plus but got pushed by a wife who earns 100plus but never contributed a dime to the family welfare, now she is a widow that hrr salary will now be put for the family since the man is no more.

There are certain stress men should avoid, stress within it doesn't always end well

I was very shocked to hear that from her. I thought of it as ignorance as per a lady in her early 20’s wey never really see life.

When I check her banks monthly statement, 90% of the monthly inflow there na from me. When she comes around and I check her dad’s sms (cause she uses his sim too), his dad still doesn’t see up to 100k a month.

I just dey wonder, maybe she don see ajebo lifestyle before na wetin dey make am talk like that

Cause im finding it very difficult to understand how a lady from a low-class family (no disrespect here), will say that 500k is not even enough to survive a month, for a family with no children. Maybe na her past experiences?

KobomatPhones:
I was very shocked to hear that from her. I thought of it as ignorance as per a lady in her early 20’s wey never really see life.

When I check her banks monthly statement, 90% of the monthly inflow there na from me. When she comes around and I check her dad’s sms (cause she uses his sim too), his dad still doesn’t see up to 100k a month.

I just dey wonder, maybe she don see ajebo lifestyle before na wetin dey make am talk like that

Cause im finding it very difficult to understand how a lady from a low-class family (no disrespect here), will say that 500k is not even enough to survive a month, for a family with no children. Maybe na her past experiences?

funny but not funny. It's very pathetic to see people placing others in a position they would never want to be

Acidosis:
It's not just that someone earning less than 50k has the audacity to mock and belittle their partner's 500k salary. The problem is that the instant that woman earns even a single kobo more than her man, that marriage ends and never to be revived again.

Hmmmm
So true

idahme:
She can manage 50k salary that comes from her pocket but can't manage 500k that comes from someone else's pocket , tell these type of poor ladies how they intend to help their husbands financially and see the rubbish the man us dating , delusional is an understatement

This dude better run, he can never satisfy a woman like this. Talking about vacation and all whatnot when she can't even afford a motorcycle with her annual salary of 600k people dey date sha

don't mind her 500k is not a small amount of money now.

Acidosis:
It's not just that someone earning less than 50k has the audacity to mock and belittle their partner's 500k salary. The problem is that the instant that woman earns even a single kobo more than her man, that marriage ends and never to be revived again.

Why do you think so sir?

kings59:
I'm the kind of guy who likes looking at the bright side and avoid criticism or negativity.

You have to be happy with what she told you because she is making you elevate your life and motivating you to increase your hustle.

Take what she said as an advise because that's the typical truth.


When you finally double your hustle and earn more, you would still praise her.

Forget about the poople bringing negativity here, they won't tell you the truth but would be quick to judge.


I apply wisdom in anything I do and say before spitting it out.

Bro ..I understand you very well

But that's not the way to advice your man

500k is not enough...to start a family...o wrong now

Even if she wan encourage the guy to do more...no be by pressure...

Especially when you are not adding to the income

Most men are living with HBP due to their never satisfied wives ..

Make men use their sense oo

Esthered:
Why do you think so sir?

Hmm, I think so because a jobless woman speaking low of #500k salary of a single man can never be satisfied. The ideal thing would have been to talk about her own joblessness and how she hope to get a job as quickly as possible to support her man's 500k salary.

Her inability to see her own joblessness as a bigger issue than her man’s 500k salary is deeply troubling. Now picture her audacity/confrontations if she lands a 1m job while he’s still at 500k. Trust me, you don’t want to picture it, my dear. 😀

Acidosis:
Hmm, I think so because a jobless woman speaking low of #500k salary of a single man can never be satisfied. The ideal thing would have been to talk about her own joblessness and how she hope to get a job as quickly as possible to support her man's 500k salary.

Her inability to see her own joblessness as a bigger issue than her man’s 500k salary is deeply troubling. Now picture her audacity/confrontations if she lands a 1m job while he’s still at 500k. Trust me, you don’t want to picture it, my dear. 😀

I understand your point.
With due respect to the OP, most ladies like his don't aspire to earn significantly as they believe in a man footing the bills. They may end up becoming a non earning SAHM.

Esthered:
I understand your point.
With due respect to the OP, most ladies like his don't aspire to earn significantly as they believe in a man footing the bills. They may end up becoming a non earning SAHM.

Oh yeah, I see your point, but that makes it even worse, by the way. Many SAHMs are very contented. I mean, that's the very essence of being a SAHM. It takes a very patient, understanding, and contented person to want to become a SAHM. Not seeing any good in #500k while still trying to be a SAHM might just send her to the streets.

Acidosis:
Oh yeah, I see your point, but that makes it even worse, by the way. Many SAHMs are very contented. I mean, that's the very essence of being a SAHM. It takes a very patient, understanding, and contented person to want to become a SAHM. Not seeing any good in #500k while still trying to be a SAHM might just send her to the streets.

Streets
I hope he listens to the advise here and do the needful.