₦airaland Forum

Kobicove:
It is very expensive to take care of a family these days so I understand why most young men are hesitant to get married

Any bachelor that is managing shouldn't get hooked by marriage o.

Na serious matter now.

Many Nigerians now are superly suffering and smiling.

Dem no dey telli person.


Suffering raised to the power of 2.

It also isn't helping that a lot of women want a man to be a sole provider.

It will balance at the end...... Most men are chronic womanizers and the reality to settle haven't dawn on them..... While those earning well still some amongst them tht want to live a life of just fvckkk and be on your own vibes..... Let me not even start with the women....

You as a man your prayers should be an understanding woman.... Me when don go far are blessed with understanding wife

Omo every mallam with him kettle oh, people must just find something to talk about regardless.
Folks like us don't give two 4ucks

marriage



long thing

3kay945:
I might have a good lady for you.
She is a Muslim and not endowed front and back. hope you get?

I hope you're not womaniser like some peeps here too

yinmu

Marriage is not about money but about two minds that are ready to become one. Provisons comes from God. Don't allow your bank account to determine your future because nobody nows tomorrow.

InfernoNig:
Honestly, this hit home. People act like turning 30 automatically means you should be ready for marriage, but life doesn’t always work that way. It’s not just about finding "the one"—it’s also about affording the life that comes with it. ₦500k sounds like a lot until rent, bills, food, and transport humble you real quick. The pressure is real, but so is the struggle. Peace of mind > societal timelines, any day.

Ogbeni it's just life and general globally..... You youth is meant for training your kids.... What I can advice is if you have the capabilities to run businesses successful to an extent you good..... Because salary earners dy loose job.... Me don go far with my children and the rhythm is awesome

G

Handwork of APC

mayDtolu:
The pressure on men to get married once they hit their 30s is honestly exhausting. In our society, the moment a man enters his 30s, people start acting like he’s overdue for marriage—throwing jabs, cracking jokes, or outright questioning his decisions.

But what many don’t talk about is the financial reality behind it all.

Marriage isn’t just about love; it’s a serious financial commitment. And let’s be real—it’s tough out here. Some men are earning as much as ₦500,000 a month and still don’t feel ready to marry, because even that amount barely sustains one person, let alone a family. When survival is the goal, the thought of taking on more responsibility can be downright scary.

Sometimes, it’s not even about unwillingness. It’s about survival. Stability. Peace of mind.

How do you handle the pressure?
If you’re a man in your 30s, have you felt this pressure too?
If you’re already married, did you feel financially and emotionally ready when you tied the knot?

Let’s talk. Share your thoughts in the comments.

You got it all wrong, firstly, you said 500,000 naira can barely sustain someone in a month,I must say you have fallen prey to societal deceit and lies,of which you will not be able to achieve anything in life, until you change your mindset.

Having said that,I want you to know that in life, you don't wait for everything to be one hundred percent before you embark on any venture, marriage inclusive.

If you are already having income that can averagely sustain you, then you can as well start a family.

With time, you will be surprised the way things will improve, because you are now working with the mindset that you have a family to take care of and other bills to pay.

Some of these wealthy people you see and admire, startled small,some of them started from a one room apartment.

Quickstar:
I am ready to settle down but the problem is that I need a lady that is business minded and respectful so we can build our family together.
I base in lagos state.

Na Igbo girl you go marry be dat. They are very industrious

Dexy4yah:
Tinubu has destroyed this kwantri

Even B4 Tinubu, how many youths dey do proper marriage??

No b mistake most people do, wey force dem to marry??

RGRNetwork:
Marriage is not about money but about two minds that are ready to become one. Provisons comes from God. Don't allow your bank account to determine your future because nobody nows tomorrow.

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idahme:
I'm average financially but loathe any semblance of laziness combined with entitlement and selfishness, many ladies fall into this category I don't want to be the answer of ladies in this group praying for a millionaire as a husband this is why I'm taking my time. Mine has no reason to do with finance....

U never ready

I got married with last 3m, after the wedding I was left with only 600k, the blessings that comes with marriage bought me a car, House and a cute son.....all glory be to God

columbus007:
Do you think it's easy feeding your sg alone before joining another? I don't find time to think about women, inshort God help me.

Amin

id4sho:
Ladies are orphans, no shishi

Including your sisters

Men can get sex and babies for next to nothing these days. Why marry

kpankpangolo:
This topic, for the 8,000th time.

n yet u read it 8000 times

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Antichristian2:
Marriage is not by force!

It's not all of us that will be married!
It's not all of us that will be rich!
It's not all of us that will be poor!
It's not all of us that will be with kids!
It's not all of us that will be with house or any other properties!

Stop believing these lies,

You create whatever you want in life for yourself, you have to be purposeful or else life will give you whatever it pleases, which in most cases are undesirable things.

So, those things you wrote up there are the national anthem of lazy folks,who can't work hard and make good and right choices in life

The truth is most guys are tired of Nigerian women and their mentality. And all these Nigerian men who are reluctant to marry at 30 will gladly marry ladies from other countries at any given opportunity .
Even the married one are tired they are just struggling with the pains from marrying an average woke and entitled Nigerian lady. That's why most married Nigerian men die b4 their time.
My take is this make enough money in your 20s or early 30s then look for a babe from other African countries to marry just like how most Nigerian male celebrities are currently doing

I am in my mid thirties and unmarried. Finance being the main reason. I can't add another mouth to mine when what I have can barely care for my expenses.

idahme:
I'm average financially but loathe any semblance of laziness combined with entitlement and selfishness, many ladies fall into this category I don't want to be the answer of ladies in this group praying for a millionaire as a husband this is why I'm taking my time. Mine has no reason to do with finance....

Lookout for an igala woman from a good family...thank me later

True but scary submission.
May we not be unfortunate in life

Antichristian2:
Marriage is not by force!

It's not all of us that will be married!
It's not all of us that will be rich!
It's not all of us that will be poor!
It's not all of us that will be with kids!
It's not all of us that will be with house or any other properties!

Celestialsword:
You got it all wrong, firstly, you said 500,000 can barely sustain someone in a month,I must say you have fallen prey to societal deceit and lies,of which you will not be able to achieve anything in life, until you change your mindset.

Having said that,I want you to know that in life, you don't wait for everything to be one hundred percent before you embark on any venture, marriage inclusive.

If you are already having income that can averagely sustain you, then you can as well start a family.

With time, you will be surprised the way things will improve, because you are now working with the mindset that you have a family to take care of and other bills to pay.

Some of these wealthy people you see and admire, startled small,some of them started from a one room apartment.

Who are the wealthy people that married while struggling and became wealthy after marriage

Fvck Nigeria
Fvck Tinubu

Lamasta:
Who are the wealthy people that married while struggling and became wealthy after marriage

You won't know until they tell you their story.

Don't be deceived by the glory,there are stories behind

Celestialsword:
You won't know until they tell you their story.

Don't be deceived by the glory,there are stories behind

You no know and you dey motivate us for here to marry in this difficult times of T-Pain