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pocohantas:
Get babies from where?
Because most women won't give you the child. I see young single mothers a lot these days. Financially impoverished and looking confused with kids they cannot train.

Except of course they want to do surrogate with donor egg. Then that is welcome.

did i tell you those men want the child? They will simply wait till the child has grown and try to sneak into their lives. You know a lot of Nigerian men believe “ the child will look for me”. 😩

jibsiddy456:
D way dem go milk u. U urself no go recognize urself again

Tlell am oo

ednut1:
did i tell you those men want the child? They will simply wait till the child has grown and try to sneak into their lives. You know a lot of Nigerian men believe “ the child will look for me”. 😩

So how exactly does that translate to them having children (and sex) easily? If they have to wait until the child is grown to sneak back into their lives. This younger generation are obviously not as family oriented as the millenials upwards. Nobody should be hoping they look for him/her.

Nigerian men should consider surrogate and stop looking for free womb to birth their kids. Use surrogates and stop wailing online.

mayDtolu:
The pressure on men to get married once they hit their 30s is honestly exhausting. In our society, the moment a man enters his 30s, people start acting like he’s overdue for marriage—throwing jabs, cracking jokes, or outright questioning his decisions.

But what many don’t talk about is the financial reality behind it all.

Marriage isn’t just about love; it’s a serious financial commitment. And let’s be real—it’s tough out here. Some men are earning as much as ₦500,000 a month and still don’t feel ready to marry, because even that amount barely sustains one person, let alone a family. When survival is the goal, the thought of taking on more responsibility can be downright scary.

Sometimes, it’s not even about unwillingness. It’s about survival. Stability. Peace of mind.

How do you handle the pressure?
If you’re a man in your 30s, have you felt this pressure too?
If you’re already married, did you feel financially and emotionally ready when you tied the knot?

Let’s talk. Share your thoughts in the comments.

while finance is key in marriage. I honestly know that even with the whole money in the world, a marriage will never last if the woman is disrespectful. I have been married for over 4yrs now but I feel like divorcing my wife because of disrespect.

pocohantas:
So how exactly does that translate to them having children (and sex) easily? If they have to wait until the child is grown to sneak back into their lives. This younger generation are obviously not as family oriented as the millenials upwards. Nobody should be hoping they look for him/her.

Nigerian men should consider surrogate and stop looking for free womb to birth their kids. Use surrogates and stop wailing online.

Surrogate ke.
I laugh
Who will take care of the child till adulthood?
Cos they won't.

Quickstar:
I am ready to settle down but the problem is that I need a lady that is business minded and respectful so we can build our family together.
I base in lagos state.

Lagos is full of ladies. Infact ladies are everywhere. My advice...pray before you embark on the journey.

I'm here to read comments.

Hayaoga1:
while finance is key in marriage. I honestly know that even with the whole money in the world, a marriage will never last if the woman is disrespectful. I have been married for over 4yrs now but I feel like divorcing my wife because of disrespect.

Your wife was disrespectful. Fine, divorce her.
But some respectful women have been punched to death by their husband.
Example is the late dunamis singer. She was a virtuous wife whom her husband manages her finance. Yet she endured physical abuse till death.
She was told to fast and pray. She did that. Even the pastor continued with his crusade somewhere when the news went viral as he don't care.


I used that incident so you will stop generalising

Celestialsword:
If you're good,you will see a good woman.

Not always...

descarado:
Surrogate ke.
I laugh
Who will take care of the child till adulthood?
Cos they won't.

Exactly! Yet they cry the loudest about not benefitting from marriage and wanting only kids. Pay 5 to 7m, you will get a child. You can even choose gender at an extra cost. They should embrace this option, let us hear word on this topic. Gosh!

pocohantas:
So how exactly does that translate to them having children (and sex) easily? If they have to wait until the child is grown to sneak back into their lives. This younger generation are obviously not as family oriented as the millenials upwards. Nobody should be hoping they look for him/her.

Nigerian men should consider surrogate and stop looking for free womb to birth their kids. Use surrogates and stop wailing online.

surrogacy is not cheap. And there are free wombs all around na 😩

pocohantas:
Exactly! Yet they cry the loudest about not benefitting from marriage and wanting only kids. Pay 5 to 7m, you will get a child. You can even choose gender at an extra cost. They should embrace this option, let us hear word on this topic. Gosh!

You listen to them?
They want maid, slave, worshipper and mama in their wives. Once you don't meet that qualification, you are toast.

The only thing I usually tell ladies is if you set boundaries from the beginning, don't bend. After the initial lovey lovey, (it will pass) marriage should be seen and treated as business contract. That way, everybody should sit up and perform what the contract stipulates they should do.

If it's your duty to mawn the lawn and you don't do it,not to worry,I will call somebody to do it, pay the person and collect back my money immediately. I will even put consultation fee join
Did lots of that last year. The one that would have fetched me more profit, he quickly did it.
Even the kids have learnt to tax me too

ednut1:
surrogacy is not cheap. And there are free wombs all around na 😩

They claim money is not the problem. They have money, but Naija women are the problem. So tell your brothers to use surrogacy.

5 to 7m and they will get the child they want.

- Employ a nanny to look after the kids.
- Employ another call girl for regular sex.

This is cheaper and more beneficial to them than a wife that would reduce their life span.

They are the ones not marrying, they are still the ones threatening women with menopause and wailing online everyday. Tufia!

LoneSoldier:
This is the reason I tell men to focus on there self, marriage is a cage and a bondage, only one gender suffer it all, which is the male gender.....

Mind you am old enough to marry, but I choose not to marry, I don't know the hype they attach to this marriage of a thing, which favours a particular gender over the other....

I have choosen the bachelor's life, with my job nature... I always have time for myself so no pressure whatsoever....

BACHELOR FOR LIFE

Wow!!


You don't have a Girlfriend?

Don't bring innocent children to this world to suffer, in your quest to marry and please world people.

pocohantas:
But they claim money is not the problem. They have money, but Naija women are the problem. So tell your brothers to use surrogacy.

5 to 7am and they will get the child they want.

- Employ a nanny to look after the kids.
- Employ another call girl for regular sex.

This is cheaper and more beneficial to them than a wife that would reduce their life span.

They are the ones not marrying, they are still the ones threatening women with menopause and wailing online everyday. Tufia!

Those blaming here don't have up to 50k in their account. Real men marry. Just that they can't differentiate between a wife, mistress, maid and mother. The 4 are not the same and no wife should take the job of the other 3.

Unless they are ready to be sugar daddy, daddy, boyfriend and husband in one.

descarado:
Those blaming here don't have up to 50k in their account. Real men marry. Just that they can't differentiate between a wife, mistress, maid and mother. The 4 are not the same and no wife should take the job of the other 3.

Unless they are ready to be sugar daddy, daddy, boyfriend and husband in one.

They do o. They have money. High value males. Any woman they don't marry can never see better husband again. She would suffer till death.

descarado:
You listen to them?
They want maid, slave, worshipper and mama in their wives. Once you don't meet that qualification, you are toast.

The only thing I usually tell ladies is if you set boundaries from the beginning, don't bend. After the initial lovey lovey, (it will pass) marriage should be seen and treated as business contract. That way, everybody should sit up and perform what the contract stipulates they should do.

If it's your duty to mawn the lawn and you don't do it,not to worry,I will call somebody to do it, pay the person and collect back my money immediately. I will even put consultation fee join
Did lots of that last year. The one that would have fetched me more profit, he quickly did it.
Even the kids have learnt to tax me too

I hope ladies can get this. Don't mixup duties. don't slack in yours. You should drop more of these nuggets in your d****. Because if some of us say it, e go be like we are too young to talk on that abi na evil feminism. 😂😂😂

pocohantas:
They do o. They have money. High value males. Any woman they don't marry can never see better husband again. She would suffer till death.



I hope ladies can get this. Don't mixup duties. don't slack in yours. You should drop more of these nuggets in your d****. Because if some of us say it, e go be like we are too young to talk on that abi na evil feminism. 😂😂😂

You read that my ranting?
I'm even banned there. Lol.

I saw a post recently by someone online saying #2M isn't enough in this country.


As in, #2M? The economy is bad, though. But there are family men earning less than 100k and they're thriving.


Saying 500k isn't enough is somehow ridiculous ooo..

descarado:
You read that my ranting?
I'm even banned there. Lol.

No, I did not. It was gone when I came online. Please message the supermods via the homepage to unban you and put back the post. I will love to read it. Don't edit it after it is restored, lest you trigger the antispambot again.

pocohantas:
No, I did not. It was gone when I came online. Please message the supermods via the homepage to unban you and put back the post. I will love to read it. Don't edit it after it is restored.

You be aproko

I will do that.

LoneSoldier:
Nigga, like I said earlier on my first quote.... Am old enough to marry but I didn't, stop hyping marriage, marriage is pure suffering....

Am not following social media, I speak facts, I once created a thread called Life as a bachelor on romance section, it made FP, it's filled with insights....

can you please mention one area of human existence that is stress free.

Life is filled with struggles and challenges, weather as single or married even as a child.

So when you cowardly shy away from responsibilities , you are equally restricting your growth.

I need a business minded woman

Lamasta:
Who are the wealthy people that married while struggling and became wealthy after marriage

Are you minding the eediot

The Situation he is insinuating is always like 5% out of 100%. You will mostly find Religious Foools orchestrating this course.

This notion is one of the most valid reason why there is widespread and prevalent EXTREME POVERTY in the country

To be fair though, you don't need plenty of money to start a family. You start small and play the long game. Fine, the economy has been a major problem but the concept of marriage and other social issues have become common. For one, the concept of getting the milk for free without owning the cow can make a man remain single. Two, women now have economic power than never before and generally as with all humans, economic power begets assertiveness and independence. Two concepts many men are yet to come to terms with.

P.S. Provided they've fewer children
P.S. Baby mama is an irresponsible way to raise a family especially for the average person. Most people in the world are at best average.

silibaba:
How many wealthy men in the world needed a woman to build their business.
Some guys can't hang out without a woman among them. When ladies do "ladies night out", how many man you dey see in thier midst?
Insecure men everywhere.

Same toto wey zazu say cheap pass biscuit, nah him some low life guys dey pay 100k
Na Ona dey make women dey feel too important.

With your example, you already see why women are actually important to men than men to women. As women have gained economic power, they see less need of men in their lives. Men, on the other hand, still seek women because of their hormonal urge.

Myrepublic:
Nobody wan marry rubbish.. na rubbish full outside these days...

Na this one dey vex me pass..

The ladies will say they don't want to marry a broke guy..

They will now find a rich guy.. when the guy start having other women,she starts complaining.

Only you want riches,still want the man to be loyal to you.

When you only came to eat,and give birth.Pikin when be say na me and you still born o,you will start forming you did too much by giving birth. Guys say this prayer after me.
I will not marry rubbish..

The bold is where I've issues with most women - you can't seek for a financially stable man and expect him to have you as his only woman and/or sexual partner, especially in a country where there are few of such men and many willing women. Also, childbirth has its own way of making sex unpalatable for most women. Men need sex, then these women use the same sex to police man thereby with-holding it from them.

spiSeyi:
The truth is most guys are tired of Nigerian women and their mentality. And all these Nigerian men who are reluctant to marry at 30 will gladly marry ladies from other countries at any given opportunity .
Even the married one are tired they are just struggling with the pains from marrying an average woke and entitled Nigerian lady. That's why most married just like how most Nigerian male celebrities are currently doing

If na so e easy, why do many Nigerian men in the abroad still seek to marry Nigerian women?

Humans are tribal. Most people marry their kind. This talk about other African countries is infinitesimal. How many Nigerian men seek to marry Ghanaian, Beninouse and Cameroonian women?

xristos:
Lookout for an igala woman from a good family...thank me later

Are those people not notorious for diabolical acts aka juju?

YoungLionken:
The post made a lot of sense..

Make una forget prick and t0t0 matter fess, but whoever receives #500k monthly and it is not still enough for him/her to take care of himself/herself properly, is reckless/insensitive or too proud to know and cut his/her coat according to his/her size (I stand to be corrected though)...

Living standards differ, sir. Location also matters as well. 500K is big money in Jalingo, but small in Lekki.

tivhador:
Oga, do not impose your rubbish on others. Its like saying just cos you won a lottery, everyone will win it as well. You were lucky, so thank God for it and say no more.

You mean you want to hear only bad news or ill talk about marriage? You believe there aren't successful people who are enjoying their marriages?