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HeavenShield:
Sir,
Marriage is not a scam. Without, you will not be born.

The problem these days is how we enter into marriages which plant wrong foundations and bitter experiences by both men and women.

Sir, Marriage has its own purpose and agenda in the creation and intention of the creator.
Marriage is to be enjoyed not endured.

Many people enter into marriages for wrong reasons, and are still entering till now.

Way out.
What is the purpose of marriage??
Marry within your circle and class. If are busy, marry someone that is busy.
Marry your friend.
Never marry because of sex o...I repeat Never. Else you will ever regret.
Never marry because of beauty....I repeat Never.
Marry someone you are fond of...
Never force yourself on someone. If person no like you, leave am o...
Never marry because of wealth o. Na one eye go remain for you o...and you deserve it.
If a woman no respect you, no marry am o...

If you are a village man, marry a village woman o...

You must not marry from your church o...
See Tinubu and Remi for eg.

Marriage is cultural!!! and not religious o...
In heaven marriage is not recognized o...it ends here on earth...

If you can't marry, leave am o...
Not everyone are meant for marriage o...

I rest my case...

without it ke ... You sabi how many people were born out of wedlock ...


Stop playing...

ChilliPepper:
Na nonsense you dey talk onye nzuzu

I just dey pity Ebele and Dumebi

Better start thinking of how you will go back to Chidis house after leaving your marriage and sleeping with several men yet non has agreed to keep you. See your 3 daughters learning prostitution from you by seeing you with different men always....and is already asking men for money like a prostitute.

ChilliPepper:
Na nonsense you dey talk onye nzuzu

I just dey pity Ebele and Dumebi

Nkita ala!! You no talk again? Local foul!!

Yemike:
I'm a bachelor but nah because I never make am. I don't have the mental strength to be seeing someone suffering or unhappy not to talk of the person being someone I love and care about.

There was a time a news was trending about a man whose skeleton was found on the bed with his hand trying to reach his phone after two years. It was when the people of the community see that the bushes in the compound poses a community hazard was when they thought of cutting the bushes not knowing the man didn't travel but was actually inside the house.

There are advantages and likewise disadvantages of being a bachelor but the greatest disadvantage comes at the latter end of a man's life.

I remember that sad story.

Truth is marriage has few pros but mostly cons.

One of the cons is .. *always having to explain were you are going to every second of the weekend, I really hate that nonsense*

Mind you, I'm married myself.

The statement that..... "You would be more responsible after marriage" is a mere statement.

A friend of mine back in school (hot babe) was willing to be my baby mama....and wondering if I made a wrong choice not taking up her offer.

Well as you said.... The latter part of a man's life after all said and done... After the continuous demand for fuc..king diminishes.. it would just be about companionship.

ChilliPepper:
Na nonsense you dey talk onye nzuzu

I just dey pity Ebele and Dumebi

Na Amara wey no sabi Chidi her papa we go pity pass...ewu Gambia!!

[quote author=Yemike post=133860580][b] I'm a bachelor but nah because I never make am. I don't have the mental strength to be seeing someone suffering or unhappy not to talk of the person being someone I love and care about.

There was a time a news was trending about a man whose skeleton was found on the bed with his hand trying to reach his phone after two years. It was when the people of the community see that the bushes in the compound poses a community hazard was when they thought of cutting the bushes not knowing the man didn't travel but was actually inside the house.

Yes I saw the post man, I was traumatised back then watching the video sef, even till now it still deh my head, it happens in Ibadan if I do remember quite well.

ChilliPepper:
Na nonsense you dey talk onye nzuzu

I just dey pity Ebele and Dumebi

with all y

Nnamdipapa:
My biggest regret was never living the bachelors life. I never lived alone all my life. Lol

I crave the bachelors life more than anything else.

i feel your pain man....you can still go back to it regardless..

treasurenat:
Actually when man disobeyed God in the garden of Eden.The purnishment for man is by suffering to get money and to use all the money to cater for his children and his wife. Likewise the purnishment for women is to find it not easy to give birth.
The benefits as bachelor is plenty you can safe money, worship and serve God anytime and anyday unless you are not interested.
But disadvantages is that people would not respect you in the society,at the place of work and in the church.
People married so that people can be honouring them
But being single makes people to disrespect you and even called you suspect whenever bad things happened around you.

Nigerian society fully described.

That Respect thing don cast and outdated.

Who Respect help these days lol.

You will be suffering and dying inside as a man while Fake People will be cheering you

Pls can you give some examples of these shenanigans? Just curious and open to learning. Thanks

parkervero:
The challenges are far more than the benefits.

My challenge is commitment. I find it difficult to commit to a woman with all her shenanigans. That's why I'm still single till now in my late 30.

So how do you plan on getting the child without the woman?

Love800:
False!

A child is what complete a man.

A wife is always a stranger!

In the long run, the woman does not have a say. She will even be controlled by the children later in life!
The child is the price!

Risingcash94:
So how do you plan on getting the child without the woman?

What's this simp simp simp y'all throw carelessly at people. Because someone wants or has a different desire and opinion from yours you resort to bullying. Are you ok? That's antisocial behavior. Is this what you can teach your own child that to go about bullying people who have different wants and opinions from theirs. Well I won't be surprised it's sociopaths like you who were bullies from childhood, never changed and whose children are likely to be the next generation of bullies. Learn to argue maturely like the educated logical being I'm sure you imagine yourself to be. Fking INCEL

Ohraykon:
simp go and sit down

You wan knack all the bruhs abi? No be everybody be agege like you. Rest

Ohraykon:
sharap you are just a simp!!!

Risingcash94:
What's this simp simp simp y'all throw carelessly at people. Because someone wants or has a different desire and opinion from yours you resort to bullying. Are you ok? That's antisocial behavior. Is this what you can teach your own child that to go about bullying people who have different wants and opinions from theirs. Well I won't be surprised it's sociopaths like you who were bullies from childhood, never changed and whose children are likely to be the next generation of bullies. Learn to argue maturely like the educated logical being I'm sure you imagine yourself to be. Fking INCEL

simp pro maxx and towtow worshipper, get sense now! Women no even send ya papa.

Nyascobar1414:
Naturally, vvomen have inherent hatred for men,so I wonder why a man will give up his friends,money and freedom for his subconscious enemy😹..
✌️

E be like say na one chance we men dey o.

Nyascobar1414:
If man has not,no one will be with him..
So why have something and be with people..
If you fall,you fall alone,so therefore rise and rise alone🚶
Peace ✌️

Profound.

Batman2412:
I like you man. I retired in 2017. I'm into mutual funds. So I spend most of my time in my 3 bedroom flat alone playing video games, listening to music and watching movies. I warn my babes that I'm not interested in marriage. They have reduced to 2. They are matured and just want knacking. My neighbors rarely see me except by mistake. I go night shopping so I won't have to relate with my neighbors. I have disowned my relatives that try to pressure me to marry. I can't imagine leaving this soft life to take care of a woman, listen to her and have her little friends disturb my peace

LoneSoldier:
Dear Esteemed men, please share your experience of how you became a bachelor, and also share the benefits and challenges that comes with it...
I will start with mine, years ago when I was little I thought marriage was a thing of blessing and doesn't require a man to suffer, but little did I know that marriage is a bondage, so fast forward to when I was a teenager (Am a grown ass man now, that was then!) I started seeing things more clearly, let's take Nigeria for instance.... 90% of married men across Nigeria as a whole are suffering and smiling, why because marriage wasn't what they thought it was, some where even forced to marry by family members, some just wanted to try marriage out thinking is a thing of joy ride not knowing it is an everlasting torture.....

A country where everything is left for the man to do, and to worsen it more, economy is not smiling and men are dropping dead everyday due to high BP of so many budgets in a man's mind, a wife you think is a blessing is just a load of suffering, a liability that leaves the man to cater for everything, even though she also brings little by little it doesn't change the fact that she is a burden of suffering on the man's shoulders....


Well let me conclude here, there are more to write but let me conclude with the benefits and challenges I faced as a bachelor.....

BENEFITS AS A BACHELOR:

I always have time for myself, I do whatever I want whenever I want to do it.... No liability as a wife to dictate how my life should go, I eat whatever I want to eat, no kidding am a good cook... So I don't need a woman for that, when am Hørny.... I masturbate myself to stupor, I have a decent job (Remotely) so I have time for myself indoors, the only time I go out, is when I want to get food items......

CHALLENGES AS A BACHELOR:
Not so much tho, but it came to some point I got pressured by my stupid family (father and mother excluded) to get a wife, I boldly told them NO!

Planning on disowning them very soon, but that is a topic for another day...!

So esteemed men, this is my experience.... Share yours!

What about Old age?
Who will care so much to take care of your struggling legs, weak hands, not-so-good sight? What about the meals you prefer? Who will care so much about preparing them for you? A stranger? Who will care enough to have the patience to talk to you when you need someone to talk to?

In as much as all the things you said are valid, I guess you didn’t consider the later part of life. Money can’t buy everything, the lives you produced and raised with love will be there to take care of you when you get old.

BigDickProblems:
What about Old age?
Who will care so much to take care of your struggling legs, weak hands, not-so-good sight? What about the meals you prefer? Who will care so much about preparing them for you? A stranger? Who will care enough to have the patience to talk to you when you need someone to talk to?

In as much as all the things you said are valid, I guess you didn’t consider the later part of life. Money can’t buy everything, the lives you produced and raised with love will be there to take care of you when you get old.

LOL … it’s when you grow old and weak - that’s the only time you know you married well.

One of the benefits of polygamy nobody can argue especially when you are well to do is .. you can never die lonely. I took this from northerners vs southerners. Southerner men go through hell in polygamous marriages and even in old age those with bad wives suffer because the kids ignore the papa.

Imagine having two wives, on almost twenty years younger than you - by the time you are 70, you may still have a 10 year old kid maybe more.

You can argue to blizzards but northern men die enjoy old age and die well. They even live longer

You called your dad and mum stupid
What a wasteful son
Your own kids will called you a useless father one day