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Marriage is a waste of time and resources.
Know this and have peace

I always tell people don't plan on other people's pocket. Plan based on whatever you have.

You better don't expect anyone for financial support towards your struggle for marriage ceremony. Will u still look for support to bring it family up?

ibechris:
If u don't have regular income pls,avoid marriage ooh.

Don't marry a lady that isn't working,or have no skill.

Na beg I dey beg u oooh.

i really learn from this your quote bro

nairalanda1:
That is because many of you think of love in terms of eros only...and many of you also look down on women or are angry with the minority of women that are femminists and too woke.

To truly love a woman, there has to also be agape and philos as well. That is what keeps the marriage going when the going gets tough.

If you marry as business, eventually it will break down by the time the children are old enough. And you will have your kids despise you. No, it is not because their mother caused it, it is because they have had their idea of the world around them damaged, and yes, they will also despise their mother.

Besides, you won't like it if your inlaw says he married your sister as a business thing.

The wise take marriage as business. Body go soon tell una

Better listen to your mum and put that 1.5m in whatever gave you the 1.5m.

Abi na so body dey scratch you reach?

Summary is no jump into financial crisis. You are about to make the biggest mistake of your life. Pls listen to your mom

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Why do you want to marry?

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Your mom may not be happy with your choice of as wife which she believes time will tell.

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Sir,

Don’t try it!

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Go on with your plans, but do a lowkey ceremony. Let your inlaws be considerate with the list. Satisfy all traditional rites and proceed to do a court weeding. The traditional wedding should be a parlour event with only those who matter in attendance. After that opt for court wedding instead of church wedding.

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.
?

NO!

Please don't. Save this message, in case you still go ahead with it...so you can remember I counselled you!
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AfahaAbia:
Oga use your head. I wonder why you are such in a hurry to marry when your income is not steady or sufficient. Rememeber day to day living with a woman under the same roof is not childs play

The bold statement is very deep

ibechris:
If u don't have regular income pls,avoid marriage ooh.

Don't marry a lady that isn't working,or have no skill.

Na beg I dey beg u oooh.

He won't hear now. He's in love. His eyes will open after marriage

If the lady no get degree, no work, no skill, my nigga I can bet you, in few months time you will cry. Mark my words.

My, my my, save up to spend N2million on a wedding and then start out life broke. Mom was correct. Wait and get on sturdy, mature ground/footing in life.

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

If you are not earning at least 20k a day, hold on ooo

Why do you have to spend all your savings on your wedding? You can do a small wedding that wouldn't take all your savings as there are more expenses to cover in marriage than the wedding day.

thesicilian:
He won't hear now. He's in love. His eyes will open after marriage

I thought so too...it's why I didn't use more than two words to counsel him. Anything beyond that, he won't hear.

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Pls don't ever consider marriage.

You people don't listen.

On this platform especially,it's said over and over that marriage is not for men .
Marriage is for women
Men have nothing to benefit from getting married.

tunjijones:
No marry if you no get money o... Forget about the wedding, you get moni for the marriage? Marriage na after wedding o.

Bros you go regret am if you no get money and you marry.. life go taya u.

I know say you no go listen to this advise, but bodi go tell you before end of next year.

You even talk say your wife say she go support you financially... Na the funniest part be dat,... You dey go trust woman...

😂😂😂😂
This sound like a threat
But take this advise bro

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

If you are sure you have
1.The resources to cater to you and two more people after marriage.
2. The woman has been supporting you while in the relationship (not every woman earning money supports financially in the home)
3. You consider her an asset even when the love has washed from your face.
Then you should budget 1M for the wedding bearing in mind that some things may come up that will take part of the 500k
Save any other additional funds for use within the marriage.

mcfestgee:
Your mom may not be happy with your choice of as wife which she believes time will tell.

It is not about the choice of wife.

Sometimes a man is not financially fit for an endeavour. I have told 2 close guys to make money well first before adding a woman, they didn't listen and today their suffering knows bounds.

F

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

My Brother, Forget About Marriage Now

Please Go And Hustle For More Money, Marriage Na Expenses Full Inside, Take Note.

- How healthy is this your fiancée at the moment? Being in good health is extremely important. We are now seeing young people marrying people with chronic diseases such as Asthma, Cancer, Diabetes etc., and living with enormous regrets. Who you marry is the most important decision you will ever make in life. Don't be blinded by "love" lust or trends. No uncle or aunt is coming to save you when you find yourself in penury.

- Meanwhile, you haven't even started and you're expecting others to pick up some of your self-imposed bills? You're not ready for marriage, young man.

[quote author= post=135557745]My Brother, Forget About Marriage Now

Please Go And Hustle For More Money, Marriage Na Expenses Full Inside, Take Note.[/quote]- Any good news today?

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

This better be a birthday party. No wedding is 5m not to talk of 2m

Bro wedding is just an event...plan for your marriage...hw you want it to be and all.....invest that money forget ceremony....if u must marry... do am lowkey....no waste that money....

Cristlaw:
Good day Nairaland.

I will be brief.
I love this lady and I believe she loves me too because she is my dream woman.
we plan to get married by early next year, but the problem here is that my mom want me to hold on with the wedding because she feels I'm not buoyant enough for marriage.
My finance promise to support though.

By this year December, I should have saved 1.5M from my pocket and I believe family and friends will support as my total budget for the wedding is 2M.

Although I didn't tell her about my savings yet.
I don't want to enter a marriage without my parents support. Just few months left to new year and I'm so confused right now.

What should I do guys?

Listen to your mother, boy.

so, you want to use your entire savings for marriage?

I pity you