₦airaland Forum

Adesolomon2014:
Until one woman/gal test ur IQ before u go realize....though not all woen/gal but they are 2/10

I believe you are capable of rational thinking, so I would put this out here. There are real women out there who are working hard to carve a niche for themselves, but the false narrative being championed by yours likes won't give these women the visibility and the credit that they need because it is fueled by defeated men or men with mummy issues or men with narcissistic tendencies or men who are just ignorant enough to join the slander campaign to prove a point.

There are good and bad people and it is not gender specific. We have as many male jigolos as we do hookup girls... The good thing is that the signs are always there.

This may come off as rude, but I will say it, anyways. Use your head and not your "head" to vet your women.

Nnamdipapa:
Start with a road trip, there is a bus in Bene that goes through Ghana to Gambia. Most Nigerians don't travel and never enjoy their lives before carrying liabilities under guise of settling down.
I am married and have kids and I would give everything to be single with no kids. Do road trips first before flying and you will be surprised what lays out there.
Most Nigerian married me with kids have never really settled down, do not fall for the societal scam.

road trip to Gambia will cost like how much?

Why?

Tolu2024:
Forget the moniker

pocohantas:
The day I see a single Nigerian man admit he might be the cause of his inability to marry like they assume for women, I will share 57 crocodiles on Nairaland.

Hian , 57 crocodiles , like seriously, l know you are joking but continue 😂
Meanwhile, l am the one who called your house assistant to WORK SMART otherwise you will sack her , l have her contact and cell phone number 😜

CTee1:
Settle with who bro…

Ur girlfriend's, those you grow up together or those you have known for years. Tell your sisters, close family friends to link you up with their single sisters and cousins who are matured and ready to settle down. Where is your location? And what job or business are you into

RichIgboBoy:
I meet one nurse recently but she no fine

make we tok?

Bukola94:
Ur girlfriend's, those you grow up together or those you have known for years. Tell your sisters, close family friends to link you up with their single sisters and cousins who are matured and ready to settle down. Where is your location? And what job or business are you into

instead of telling him to go out and approach girls. Nawa for you

Juliearth:
Compatibility doesn't necessarily connote a 100 percent match. In my opinion, it means both parties have an understanding of their strengths and weakness and one person's weakness is complimented by the other's strength. For instance, a man who hates eating out partnering with a woman who loves cooking, a woman who hates laundry partnering with a man who loves laundry...

are you married

Samantha125:
As women, it's our duty to be entitled to your money the same way it's your duty to be entitled to our submission... You provide and we submit...🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

so what happens in situations that he's not able to provide financially? Who has been providing for you before you met the man? This position of yours buttresses the narrative that the majority of women are not looking for life partners but burden bearers and providers. Marriage becomes transactional in these scenarios.

I'm in the toilet and something just came up in my head, now this is not directed at the OP.

Despite my extensive knowledge of female psychology, I have avoided contributing to the rot in the society, I'm not perfect but at least I have done well compared to others.

Some men would waste their youth fúcking around, teaching and encouraging moral decadence amongst our women; and just like worn-out feminists, they begin to look for a "good fearing" partner when it's time to "settle down."

There's a heavy price for stupidity and if we do not pay for ours, someone else would — it could even be our children.

JobAndVacancies:
what of us wey don pass 37 but with salary of 40k.
No hope for us be that

No be today this setup start e no fit end tomorrow… tired

Gerrard59:
Children raised in the two parent household have better prospects than those raised in single parent homes. That's the global result. So all these baby-mama comes across as irresponsibilty. It's hard to see a responsible man intentionally state he wants to have a baby-mama arrangement.

Which lane are you actually Gerrard?
You always support women being financially independent and mostly don't need men again nowadays since their is intimacy gadget and they can finance their own lifestyle. You also support not shamming women for sexual liberation because it is their body and they can use it how they feel without men breeding down on them.
Then, somehow you are worried the same men shouldn't go the babymama way because kids raised under this condition are mostly social misfit and such men are dead-beat dads.
Let me tell you a truth - The moment we accept women sexual liberation aka women can be shameless without been judged, the "dead-beat dad" statement too goes out of the window.
There are no more dead beat dads because you can't use a metric for a man while exonerating the woman.
There can't be a jailer, if there are no prisoners.
The same law that apply to a masquerade apply to a person using hijab because they are both covered.
Nature will always find it's balance irrespective of human's sentiment or biasness.
Lastly, no reasonable person invests where their interest is not protected. The men of olden days were not just responsible (this is debated anyway), ready to die for their women and fight for the village to protect their women and kids. They did that out of the personal conviction that the women are their properties. It is the same way you will fight to the end the land you buy and someone wants to take it away from you.
But when you have properties that can be taken away from you easily without you saying love-vendor, that property becomes a risky investment to do.
If investing my sweat on a lady/relationship, sometimes send her to school, put her on monthly payment, take her abroad etc and she can just wake up to say she is not doing again or give me a bastard or just cheating on me without any repercussion, rather am been laughed at to move on, then it is only natural that survival instinct will kick-off relationship-wise. It will never be about what the kids will turn out to be or whatnot, my survival, sweat, investment is on the line and nothing else people say or gaslighting or emotional blackmailing will do.

God loves 💕 u

Nnamdipapa:
Get a girlfriend pregnant and move on, settling down is a scam and most married men with kids are never really settled. You are lucky to be single and have no k8d at 3 and you dont know what you have until you lise it. Most married people in Nigeria are suffering and smiling and, will always lie about their experiences. Do not fall for it.

I’m confused… free or banned. Single or married. everything comes with a price. I want my own family bro

Bukola94:
Ur girlfriend's, those you grow up together or those you have known for years. Tell your sisters, close family friends to link you up with their single sisters and cousins who are matured and ready to settle down. Where is your location? And what job or business are you into

Construction company Lagos…
Abeg help me

SuperOnyi:




I'm in the toilet and something just came up in my head, now this is not directed at the OP.

Despite my extensive knowledge of female psychology, I have avoided contributing to the rot in the society, I'm not perfect but at least I have done well compared to others.

Some men would waste their youth fúcking around, teaching and encouraging moral decadence amongst our women; and just like worn-out feminists, they begin to look for a "good fearing" partner when it's time to "settle down."

There's a heavy price for stupidity and if we do not pay for ours, someone else would — it could even be our children.

If you’re lucky you’d have a chance to set things right. The world has a balance system

pocohantas:
The day I see a single Nigerian man admit he might be the cause of his inability to marry like they assume for women, I will share 57 crocodiles on Nairaland.

Please give me like 10 of the crocodiles, I want to use it for prayers.

Rexnegro:
Are you in Lagos ? Should we plan to try other African countries in search of wifey ? Honestly I'm older than you single and tired ... My prob is I don't go to church anymore maybe just maybe I would have met one to settle down with. Bro to see a core decent girl now ehn hmmm 🤔. Simply put I don tire and no want give birth out of wedlock. Not my wish.

Two good head better pass1…. Lets connect bro

Guest2008:
Look no further.. Here am I

Patiently waiting

CTee1:
Seriously, I’ve tried several relationships to no avail. It’s now hungership… 90% of them dey hustle u…

flokii:
Nowadays, na who wan chop your money full outside.. majority of them are vendors doing home delivery.

Olachase:
The only advice I have for you

Don't settle for a single mom

According to what one poster said look out Nigeria try Ghana or Kenya 400k as income is something bro

Nigerian girls don't love they're just after the money

I know what my sister did to her husband

Gbaunss!!

mjuvey3:
My dear brother,I'm in your shoes

I'm 37,single with no kids but I keep meeting money hungry women....Even the decent ones who comes from good homes and have high paying jobs are money hungry and entitled.

There are still few good women out there but the problem is,they don't go out much and they don't reply DMs on Social media....You can only get them through connections or if you're lucky to meet them on the road or at a particular spot like eateries,malls, church,salon,markets etc

It is well

Amen . That not replying DM is so annoying

Rexnegro:
Simply put I don tire and no want give birth out of wedlock.

Baba, not wanting to give birth out of wedlock has made a lot of men rush to marry a lady who got pregnant for them only to find out a few years into the marriage that they were not compatible.

So, Baba, enjoy your singleness 'cos a large percentage of married folks are not happy and they feel trapped.

Samantha125:
As women, it's our duty to be entitled to your money the same way it's your duty to be entitled to our submission... You provide and we submit...🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

God bless you for this comment.
You will live long...

RichIgboBoy:
meaning, her back side big? IKEBE

Be descent 😎

CTee1:
Let’s connect plz 🙏

If you are that serious, it's okay for me.
How do we go about it?

Samantha125:
As women, it's our duty to be entitled to your money the same way it's your duty to be entitled to our submission... You provide and we submit...🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

But do u now submit despite the man playing his role of providing? Most married women contest headship of the home with their husband, a major reason why marriages are crashing. Women want to eat their cake and have it. Confused beings

Picking a partner is not that black and white bro so, lower your so called standard and look at things from another perspective, then you'll find a partner!!

Meanwhile, who u wan leave all those u don damage for street for

CTee1:
Looking for someone who shares my values: family oriented and God centered

MrMcJay:
People outside marriage want to get in.

People in marriages want to get out.

Oga McJay,

Where have you being?

Its good to have you back.

Hope you good boss?

CTee1:
Time to settle down but nothing full outside…
Single at 37yrs, I’m tired.

My advice is, don't look too hard or too far, because the wife material is usually closer than you think.
Listen more than talking when you are with female friends or colleagues, you will hear the statement of a wife material. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
Na so I take find my wife.