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I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by ramselly(m): 6:14am On Nov 09, 2018
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.


I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by ednut1(m): 6:35am On Nov 09, 2018
shocked she is a useless girl. Better japa. What if u took loan. When i see broke gal or gal with fam ish. I japa st8 up. Dats how a man i know married dat kind gal. He spons all her bros and step bros abroad neglecting his own fam. Today baba is broke wife don japa grin

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by MhizzAJ(f): 6:44am On Nov 09, 2018
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by IamD18: 6:47am On Nov 09, 2018
Another lover-boy scammed.

On no account should you invest on any woman aside your female siblings[Mum, sisters, wife and daughters].

Girfriend are hoes and epitome of problems, they don't worth the stress and investment.

The only thing you should invest on a girlfriend is nothing but your sperm, because that's the only thing that will yield something good. Anything other than that will be a big WASTE.

I'll to advice you flee from that lady if you want to be successful and live long.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by JONSYN7154: 6:50am On Nov 09, 2018
MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man
Why the insult?

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Pureety(f): 6:52am On Nov 09, 2018
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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Kastonkastroll(m): 6:57am On Nov 09, 2018
MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man
This is a dumb comment. So because she is his gf, he should waste all his money on her and turn himself to her slave abi? Nonsense. Doesn't she have two hands, two legs, a brain, one nose, two ears, two eyes and a tongue? Why can't she hustle for her own money? It is only hungry Nigerian girls like you that see relationship as a poverty alleviation program. You don't want to work and even if you work, you still want your bf to take care of all your endless materialistic needs.

Haba hanty , u no get shame ni

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Blakjewelry(m): 6:59am On Nov 09, 2018
MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man
please reread what you wrote, and this time think with your brain

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by donbachi(m): 6:59am On Nov 09, 2018
Call it a quit,now that it's still morning...so you don't end up marrying a mismanager as a future wife.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by DanDeeBoss(m): 7:00am On Nov 09, 2018
MhizzAJ .... Well-done

Smh

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by chidekings(m): 7:01am On Nov 09, 2018
Make hay while the sun shines

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Liliyann(f): 7:01am On Nov 09, 2018
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

MODIFIED!!!
See dem broke ass niggas quoting me!!!
103 quotes in one post and still counting!!!
Its only the broke ones that wail coz of money!!
Real guys spend lavishly on their girl without crying online!!!

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by DanDeeBoss(m): 7:02am On Nov 09, 2018
Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Blakjewelry(m): 7:03am On Nov 09, 2018
Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!
too many sentiments here

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by DanDeeBoss(m): 7:04am On Nov 09, 2018
Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!
I know you will always come and give this type of a comment.... Thinking outta the box cheesy

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Blakjewelry(m): 7:06am On Nov 09, 2018
Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!
too many children here.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by waleyp(m): 7:07am On Nov 09, 2018
Since September 2017? More Than A Year AGo, This Is 2018, Did Your Eyes Just Opened Or What? What Has Happened Between You Two Since That September 2017? Did She Tell You She Spent It On Family Or You Got To Know?

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Kastonkastroll(m): 7:08am On Nov 09, 2018
Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!
so family comes first abi? But if the guy had earlier said he won't give her the money because he wants to resolve some of his own family issues, I'm very sure the girl will object to it. She would have accused him of putting his family first before her. U see una selfishness abi

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by ogasharpsharp: 7:13am On Nov 09, 2018
OP you know why I like you? Because your spirit man is strong, and it is this spirit man in you that is urging you to quit the relationship and run while you still can.

No matter how much I love a girl I can never drop up to 100k (even 50k, I don't give cash I rather spend) at once on her but you dropped a whopping 500k. Now, take a look at how the ladies on this thread are trying to trivialise that large sum of money, that's half a mil right there!

Trust me when I say most of them have never seen that amount of money in one go. Their account balance will testify. But they will tell you that "How much is even 500k sef?" Never encourage stùpidity in a woman because that is their default settings and it is your job as a man to correct that otherwise you bounce.

Investing money on a girl is like pouring water in a basket, it will never be enough. And these girls never have to make such sacrifices so they don't know what it takes and how it hurts when an agreement between two parties is reneged upon. Abi you no get family wey need half a mil? Abi you dey crase ni?

End the relationship as your spirit being is telling you, she will still do more as the relationship progresses, especially if she gets away with this criminal act of hers without any consequences. Yes, what she did is criminal but being a woman (synonym for stùpidity) she will try to shame and blame you for it (Baby you are not understanding, you don't really love me, etc).

A REAL man must always train his babe to know that for every transgression against him there will always be dire consequences otherwise see-finish will occur. Shalom!

PS - Never spend such money again on a woman unless she is your wife. They don't have sense!

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by highqueen(f): 7:13am On Nov 09, 2018
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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Kastonkastroll(m): 7:17am On Nov 09, 2018
Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!
welfare of your family at heart indeed!!! grin you don't have brothers and uncles that will cater for that your family's welfare? Why should he shoulder your family's responsibility simply because of a lame boyfriend tag on his head, not even husband ooh, just boyfriend!!! Why don't you urge your oldman to include your bf's name in his will since he his that important to your family....

Una well so? So if your paths with your current bf didn't cross, who'd you expect to finance your family's needs? Your future boyfriend?

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by HeWrites(m): 7:19am On Nov 09, 2018
Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

Your family did a bad job.

I also blame your dad because ordinary Vaseline would have make you a waste!

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Bloooody(m): 7:19am On Nov 09, 2018
MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man
These days I wonder if women on naria land are actually dull or just men.
Dude sent her 500k you hoe and she spent it.
You must work as a hoe at the streets at night you pig.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Nobody: 7:19am On Nov 09, 2018
ramselly:
Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.


I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.
quit the relationship, what are ya waiting for? undecided

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by Pubichairs(m): 7:20am On Nov 09, 2018
who are these girls commenting trash and calling the bro' stingy, the girl was some how unreasonable for not telling him what he wanted to do with the money at first, Nigerian girls should go get a life starting from the ones spewing trash here

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by MetroBaba1(m): 7:22am On Nov 09, 2018
Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

Love does not have a bedding over Stupidity. If this is how you define love, you need more Brains.

Dear Op, Personally, I think you've tried your best. Put an end to that relationship and enjoy relative peace.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by HeWrites(m): 7:23am On Nov 09, 2018
Kastonkastroll:
welfare of your family at heart indeed!!! grin you don't have brothers and uncles that will cater for that your family's welfare? Why should I shoulder your family's responsibility simply because of a lame boyfriend tag on my head, not even husband ooh, just boyfriend!!! Why don't you urge your oldman to include me in his will since am that important to your family....

Una well so? So if our paths didn't cross, who'd you expect to finance your family's needs? Your future boyfriend?

She will Bleep different dick to rise the money

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by ogasharpsharp: 7:24am On Nov 09, 2018
Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

Stop using love to scam men. Abi women no dey love?

What she did was criminal!

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by MetroBaba1(m): 7:24am On Nov 09, 2018
MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

You and your comment is brainless.
I Dey cry for your boyfriend.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by MetroBaba1(m): 7:28am On Nov 09, 2018
IamD18:
She spent that money on another guy

Obviously, but covered her track with family needs.

Please guys, Stop dating broke and hungry girls.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by ogasharpsharp: 7:34am On Nov 09, 2018
JjBankys:
quit the relationship, what are ya waiting for? undecided

Lol the thing has been paining the guy for over a year. You sef check am na, is it beans? Every great sacrifice is an act of love. You take that sacrifice for granted then anything you see you take am. And we all know that if the tables were turned his babe would never return the favour.

For real mehn, women are scum.

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Re: I Sent N500k To My Fiancée To Open A Shop, She Used It To Settle Family Issues by ednut1(m): 7:39am On Nov 09, 2018
MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man
yen yen yen. She is fraudulent. So imagine if it was a loan he took for her business nko. Family problems never end for pple who have dem. A sensible gal would set up d business and use some of d profits to settile family prob. I never date broke gals. Tufiakwa. If i am that guy she must refund my money. If Op marries her just knw u don buy prob.

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