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This one is for the babes who are starting to question their worth because of what they see online. I turn 30 next Sunday, so I believe I’m in a good place to write this, not from a place of fear, but from experience and sense.

Over the last few months, I’ve seen some wild comments from men on Nairaland. Things like “after 7”, “evening newspaper”, “depleted ovaries”… you name it. But let me tell you: that’s not on you. That’s on them.

If you're feeling down because of these words, pause and breathe. . These men; the ones who use these terms. I’ve studied them. Yes, I went through their old posts. The youngest among them is about 43. 😂 Imagine a 43-year-old man online calling women expired. God forbid my own future husband is wasting his time typing such rubbish on a forum.
One even replied me once saying I should "rest". This is someone struggling to pay N150k school fees for his 8-year-old child and rent somewhere in the bush in Ikorodu. 😭 Another one, sleeping in the office Monday to Friday because transport to Ajah will eat his entire salary. We already had our third degree by 23 but one man from Ogbomosho thinks he would be doing me a favour by marrying me. These same people shouting “in saner climes” but the only airport they have seen is from watching James Bond movies. 😭😭😭

And these are the same ones screaming "I can't marry a 25+ year old, they’re too old." At 40+? You’re not even ashamed. Ato ole.

Ladies, these are the ones calling you evening newspaper. Do you now see that it has nothing to do with you? If you’re here and you’re worried about these people, don’t be.
This message is not for the real men who respect women and are just struggling financially. My message for you is: it’ll be okay soon, amen.

Now for the rest of us baby girls 👸🏽:
There’s a flawed logic these same men like to push. This idea of "100 women to 1 man". It’s a lie. Statistically, there are more men than women in Nigeria and in the world. You can Google it. They just use that flawed stat to make women feel desperate.
Let me say this clearly girls:
If you are not earning your own money, you have no business dating.
Once you start making money, your standards go up naturally. That’s why you’ll see Regina Daniels with a Ned Nwoko, but you’ll never see Temi Otedola with Dangote. 😏
I saw a thread the other day. One Nairaland uncle asking for advice on dating an 18-year-old. By page 2, he had mentioned giving money to her mother.
So please, work. Even if it’s small. Take yourself on mini-vacations within Nigeria. Join clubs. Play sports. I play chess. In fact, there’s no antichess player in Africa better than me. Just recently, I came 3rd out of 2,500 players globally in the Antichess World Championship . 💅🏽
I’m also starting Pilates with my girls, and I’m going to take standard chess seriously again. I want to become Nigeria’s first grandmaster by age 37.
So please my girls:
1. Buy good skincare.
2. Learn how to do your makeup — Mac, Fenty, Lancôme… get at least one.
3. Look younger, stay fresh.
4. Don’t ever beg for transport fare to go on a date. 🙅🏽‍♀️


Don’t settle because some man with a “Akungba university 1984” ID is calling you names online. 😭
Look at Asa Asika. Look at Davido. Look at Toolz and Tunde. Real rich kids marry close in age because they’re not looking for desperation, they’re looking for a match.
Take your time. Don’t lower your crown. Someone will love you fully with money, respect, maturity, and peace of mind.
There’s someone for everyone. Just don’t rush because of what these agbado philosophers are saying on Nairaland . 😂
Remember:
When they say “You’re too old,” just remember, The only thing outdated is their mindset which expired after Jonathan’s first tenure. Stop explaining your standards to people who’ve never met them.
There’s a man for every woman and yours will see your worth without needing you to shrink or beg for it.
So to every woman reading this: You’re not behind.
Evening newspaper still has breaking news.
Bye baby girls

Seems like a book of lamentations to me. Well wish you ladies the best

Pelanowire:
Seems like a book of lamentations to me. Well wish you ladies the best

Your description is already up there.

Taquin:
Your description is already up there.

You are funny. All this rants because you clocked 30?

Pelanowire:
You are funny. All this rants because you clocked 30?

No. It was because of this topic. I finally had the time to create a thread for it. https://www.nairaland.com/8446166/ladies-aged-30-38-years-how

I am a man. I admit that the men you refer to are irrational, arrogant and stupid.

But your write up doesn't portray you as someone better than those men. In all you wrote, you didn't mention any mistakes you have made in your relationships with men. Are you indirectly saying you are perfect? Is there nothing you have done and won't encourage your fellow women to do?

Maybe you are married. Maybe you are single by choice. What about your fellow women who have crossed the age of 30 and are still single because they mistakenly or stupidly rejected good men? How does your post address their situations? Does your post try to save younger females from making those mistakes? Or, are you claiming that no single lady regrets being single? Are you saying that marriage is not necessary for any above-thirty-and-single lady? Even if marriage is not for everyone, is being single good for everyone?

No gender is better than the other. Every gender has good and bad people. In your case, I think you are just a female version of the men you condemn. Your writeup does not teach women how to be good. Your writeup only encourages women to be comfortable with being single for lifetime.

Taquin:
No. It was because of this topic. I finally had the time to create a thread for it. https://www.nairaland.com/8446166/ladies-aged-30-38-years-how

Okay I see. The fact is not everyone will get married.

immortalcrown:
I am a man. I admit that the men you refer to are irrational, arrogant and stupid.

But your write up doesn't portray you as someone better than those men. In all you wrote, you didn't mention any mistakes you have made in your relationships with men. Are you indirectly saying you are perfect? Is there nothing you have done and won't encourage your fellow women to do?

Maybe you are married. Maybe you are single by choice. What about your fellow women who have crossed the age of 30 and are still single because they mistakenly or stupidly rejected good men? How does your post address their situations? Does your post try to save younger females from making those mistakes? Or, are you claiming that no single lady regrets being single? Are you saying that marriage is not necessary for any above-thirty-and-single lady? Even if marriage is not for everyone, is being single good for everyone?

No gender is better than the other. Every gender has good and bad people.

I understand you but my post is specifically for the "evening newspaper term". I created it in response to this thread. https://www.nairaland.com/8446166/ladies-aged-30-38-years-how. I already struggled to make this topic short. Yes. These categories of women exist. Maybe I would create a topic for that another time but I do not have enough experience to talk about it. Maybe some introspection would give me some new insights. Thank you for your contribution.

Taquin:
I understand you but my post is specifically for the "evening newspaper term". I created it in response to this thread. https://www.nairaland.com/8446166/ladies-aged-30-38-years-how. I already struggled to make this topic short. Yes. These categories of women exist. Maybe I would create a topic for that another time but I do not have enough experience to talk about it. Maybe some introspection would give me some new insights. Thank you for your contribution.

I'm surprised you didn't insult him. That shows you are actually cool headed and you got the point he made. You have my respect already baby girl.

Can I email you?

Nice thread…your diary though 😀😀😀
Good luck xxxxxxx

@OP Jokes apart, you need to start getting serious with guy(s).
Let's say you had about 5 guys on your case at 22 - 28yrs, expect the number to reduce to 3 or 2 or even 1 after 30yrs.
Guys at 30 - 35 yrs find it easier to get girls than ladies of the same age range.

You're right, I support you on this, everybody s.🙏🙏🙏. Good morning

Taquin:
This one is for the babes who are starting to question their worth because of what they see online. I turn 30 next Sunday, so I believe I’m in a good place to write this, not from a place of fear, but from experience and sense.

Over the last few months, I’ve seen some wild comments from men on Nairaland. Things like “after 7”, “evening newspaper”, “depleted ovaries”… you name it. But let me tell you: that’s not on you. That’s on them.

If you're feeling down because of these words, pause and breathe. . These men; the ones who use these terms. I’ve studied them. Yes, I went through their old posts. The youngest among them is about 43. 😂 Imagine a 43-year-old man online calling women expired. God forbid my own future husband is wasting his time typing such rubbish on a forum.
One even replied me once saying I should "rest". This is someone struggling to pay N150k school fees for his 8-year-old child and rent somewhere in the bush in Ikorodu. 😭 Another one, sleeping in the office Monday to Friday because transport to Ajah will eat his entire salary. We already had our third degree by 23 but one man from Ogbomosho thinks he would be doing me a favour by marrying me. These same people shouting “in saner climes” but the only airport they have seen is from watching James Bond movies. 😭😭😭

And these are the same ones screaming "I can't marry a 25+ year old, they’re too old." At 40+? You’re not even ashamed. Ato ole.

Ladies, these are the ones calling you evening newspaper. Do you now see that it has nothing to do with you? If you’re here and you’re worried about these people, don’t be.
This message is not for the real men who respect women and are just struggling financially. My message for you is: it’ll be okay soon, amen.

Now for the rest of us baby girls 👸🏽:
There’s a flawed logic these same men like to push. This idea of "100 women to 1 man". It’s a lie. Statistically, there are more men than women in Nigeria and in the world. You can Google it. They just use that flawed stat to make women feel desperate.
Let me say this clearly girls:
If you are not earning your own money, you have no business dating.
Once you start making money, your standards go up naturally. That’s why you’ll see Regina Daniels with a Ned Nwoko, but you’ll never see Temi Otedola with Dangote. 😏
I saw a thread the other day. One Nairaland uncle asking for advice on dating an 18-year-old. By page 2, he had mentioned giving money to her mother.
So please, work. Even if it’s small. Take yourself on mini-vacations within Nigeria. Join clubs. Play sports. I play chess. In fact, there’s no antichess player in Africa better than me. Just recently, I came 3rd out of 2,500 players globally in the Antichess World Championship . 💅🏽
I’m also starting Pilates with my girls, and I’m going to take standard chess seriously again. I want to become Nigeria’s first grandmaster by age 37.
So please my girls:
1. Buy good skincare.
2. Learn how to do your makeup — Mac, Fenty, Lancôme… get at least one.
3. Look younger, stay fresh.
4. Don’t ever beg for transport fare to go on a date. 🙅🏽‍♀️


Don’t settle because some man with a “Akungba university 1984” ID is calling you names online. 😭
Look at Asa Asika. Look at Davido. Look at Toolz and Tunde. Real rich kids marry close in age because they’re not looking for desperation, they’re looking for a match.
Take your time. Don’t lower your crown. Someone will love you fully with money, respect, maturity, and peace of mind.
There’s someone for everyone. Just don’t rush because of what these agbado philosophers are saying on Nairaland . 😂
Remember:
When they say “You’re too old,” just remember, The only thing outdated is their mindset which expired after Jonathan’s first tenure. Stop explaining your standards to people who’ve never met them.
There’s a man for every woman and yours will see your worth without needing you to shrink or beg for it.
So to every woman reading this: You’re not behind.
Evening newspaper still has breaking news.
Bye baby girls

Anty there are more women than men in Nigeria.

That's why most women especially newly married want a son rather than daughters.

In the world it's 1.01 ratio male/female

everywhere in the world where there's conflict the ratio of male to female further reduces.

If you're 30+ what you should do is make yourself marriageable like you tightly said

They should invest in knowledge and how to fatten their purse.
Not depending on men to give them money...hard for most Nigerian ladies.

Ladies if you get nothing going on for yourself it'll be hard to see any man to take you serious.

Truth be told a 30+ lady is at a disadvantage because of the biological clock of women.

Our women should learn how to earn their own coins

Taquin:
This one is for the babes who are starting to question their worth because of what they see online. I turn 30 next Sunday, so I believe I’m in a good place to write this, not from a place of fear, but from experience and sense.

Over the last few months, I’ve seen some wild comments from men on Nairaland. Things like “after 7”, “evening newspaper”, “depleted ovaries”… you name it. But let me tell you: that’s not on you. That’s on them.

If you're feeling down because of these words, pause and breathe. . These men; the ones who use these terms. I’ve studied them. Yes, I went through their old posts. The youngest among them is about 43. 😂 Imagine a 43-year-old man online calling women expired. God forbid my own future husband is wasting his time typing such rubbish on a forum.
One even replied me once saying I should "rest". This is someone struggling to pay N150k school fees for his 8-year-old child and rent somewhere in the bush in Ikorodu. 😭 Another one, sleeping in the office Monday to Friday because transport to Ajah will eat his entire salary. We already had our third degree by 23 but one man from Ogbomosho thinks he would be doing me a favour by marrying me. These same people shouting “in saner climes” but the only airport they have seen is from watching James Bond movies. 😭😭😭

And these are the same ones screaming "I can't marry a 25+ year old, they’re too old." At 40+? You’re not even ashamed. Ato ole.

Ladies, these are the ones calling you evening newspaper. Do you now see that it has nothing to do with you? If you’re here and you’re worried about these people, don’t be.
This message is not for the real men who respect women and are just struggling financially. My message for you is: it’ll be okay soon, amen.

Now for the rest of us baby girls 👸🏽:
There’s a flawed logic these same men like to push. This idea of "100 women to 1 man". It’s a lie. Statistically, there are more men than women in Nigeria and in the world. You can Google it. They just use that flawed stat to make women feel desperate.
Let me say this clearly girls:
If you are not earning your own money, you have no business dating.
Once you start making money, your standards go up naturally. That’s why you’ll see Regina Daniels with a Ned Nwoko, but you’ll never see Temi Otedola with Dangote. 😏
I saw a thread the other day. One Nairaland uncle asking for advice on dating an 18-year-old. By page 2, he had mentioned giving money to her mother.
So please, work. Even if it’s small. Take yourself on mini-vacations within Nigeria. Join clubs. Play sports. I play chess. In fact, there’s no antichess player in Africa better than me. Just recently, I came 3rd out of 2,500 players globally in the Antichess World Championship . 💅🏽
I’m also starting Pilates with my girls, and I’m going to take standard chess seriously again. I want to become Nigeria’s first grandmaster by age 37.
So please my girls:
1. Buy good skincare.
2. Learn how to do your makeup — Mac, Fenty, Lancôme… get at least one.
3. Look younger, stay fresh.
4. Don’t ever beg for transport fare to go on a date. 🙅🏽‍♀️


Don’t settle because some man with a “Akungba university 1984” ID is calling you names online. 😭
Look at Asa Asika. Look at Davido. Look at Toolz and Tunde. Real rich kids marry close in age because they’re not looking for desperation, they’re looking for a match.
Take your time. Don’t lower your crown. Someone will love you fully with money, respect, maturity, and peace of mind.
There’s someone for everyone. Just don’t rush because of what these agbado philosophers are saying on Nairaland . 😂
Remember:
When they say “You’re too old,” just remember, The only thing outdated is their mindset which expired after Jonathan’s first tenure. Stop explaining your standards to people who’ve never met them.
There’s a man for every woman and yours will see your worth without needing you to shrink or beg for it.
So to every woman reading this: You’re not behind.
Evening newspaper still has breaking news.
Bye baby girls

You are right dear , even in the western world , woman hardly talk about marriage, but money and financial statuses

What they would not tell you is that there are more failed marriages or embittered single women in same Western world compared to African countries....Hence the word KAREN.

I have come to the realisation that most people born in the month of June are insufferable introvert, have poor social skills and most importantly SUPER LOYAL if they believe in a cause or someone.

Most importantly, I think they are realist, and arranged marriage works out far better for them than when they seek out love for themselves.

PS. I caught a glimpse of your diary, and it looks cool. Keep writing.

Seems you really pained, don't you? Lolz, you are a very good in writing nonsense ooh😁

Taquin:
This one is for the babes who are starting to question their worth because of what they see online. I turn 30 next Sunday, so I believe I’m in a good place to write this, not from a place of fear, but from experience and sense.

Over the last few months, I’ve seen some wild comments from men on Nairaland. Things like “after 7”, “evening newspaper”, “depleted ovaries”… you name it. But let me tell you: that’s not on you. That’s on them.

If you're feeling down because of these words, pause and breathe. . These men; the ones who use these terms. I’ve studied them. Yes, I went through their old posts. The youngest among them is about 43. 😂 Imagine a 43-year-old man online calling women expired. God forbid my own future husband is wasting his time typing such rubbish on a forum.
One even replied me once saying I should "rest". This is someone struggling to pay N150k school fees for his 8-year-old child and rent somewhere in the bush in Ikorodu. 😭 Another one, sleeping in the office Monday to Friday because transport to Ajah will eat his entire salary. We already had our third degree by 23 but one man from Ogbomosho thinks he would be doing me a favour by marrying me. These same people shouting “in saner climes” but the only airport they have seen is from watching James Bond movies. 😭😭😭

And these are the same ones screaming "I can't marry a 25+ year old, they’re too old." At 40+? You’re not even ashamed. Ato ole.

Ladies, these are the ones calling you evening newspaper. Do you now see that it has nothing to do with you? If you’re here and you’re worried about these people, don’t be.
This message is not for the real men who respect women and are just struggling financially. My message for you is: it’ll be okay soon, amen.

Now for the rest of us baby girls 👸🏽:
There’s a flawed logic these same men like to push. This idea of "100 women to 1 man". It’s a lie. Statistically, there are more men than women in Nigeria and in the world. You can Google it. They just use that flawed stat to make women feel desperate.
Let me say this clearly girls:
If you are not earning your own money, you have no business dating.
Once you start making money, your standards go up naturally. That’s why you’ll see Regina Daniels with a Ned Nwoko, but you’ll never see Temi Otedola with Dangote. 😏
I saw a thread the other day. One Nairaland uncle asking for advice on dating an 18-year-old. By page 2, he had mentioned giving money to her mother.
So please, work. Even if it’s small. Take yourself on mini-vacations within Nigeria. Join clubs. Play sports. I play chess. In fact, there’s no antichess player in Africa better than me. Just recently, I came 3rd out of 2,500 players globally in the Antichess World Championship . 💅🏽
I’m also starting Pilates with my girls, and I’m going to take standard chess seriously again. I want to become Nigeria’s first grandmaster by age 37.
So please my girls:
1. Buy good skincare.
2. Learn how to do your makeup — Mac, Fenty, Lancôme… get at least one.
3. Look younger, stay fresh.
4. Don’t ever beg for transport fare to go on a date. 🙅🏽‍♀️


Don’t settle because some man with a “Akungba university 1984” ID is calling you names online. 😭
Look at Asa Asika. Look at Davido. Look at Toolz and Tunde. Real rich kids marry close in age because they’re not looking for desperation, they’re looking for a match.
Take your time. Don’t lower your crown. Someone will love you fully with money, respect, maturity, and peace of mind.
There’s someone for everyone. Just don’t rush because of what these agbado philosophers are saying on Nairaland . 😂
Remember:
When they say “You’re too old,” just remember, The only thing outdated is their mindset which expired after Jonathan’s first tenure. Stop explaining your standards to people who’ve never met them.
There’s a man for every woman and yours will see your worth without needing you to shrink or beg for it.
So to every woman reading this: You’re not behind.
Evening newspaper still has breaking news.
Bye baby girls

only thing that caught my interest is starting chess again...if you need a sparring partner...

I have always maintained my stand that the best age range to marry a lady is from 27 years and above, that is the age Nigerian ladies becomes valuable and more reasonable.


Marrying girls below 25 years is a risk, only uninformed young men embark on such high risk journey.


Unless you are already married and financially buoyant and looking to marry a second wife just for paparazzi, then you can go for girls between the age of 19 years to 25 years and you should be prepared that they won't bring any form of value.



To the op, focus on your goal of finding a worthy partner, don't let nl forum rants distract you or affect your emotion, most times our opinion on relationship matters online are far different from the reality on ground.


Thank you all for your attention to this matter

immortalcrown:
I am a man. I admit that the men you refer to are irrational, arrogant and stupid.

But your write up doesn't portray you as someone better than those men. In all you wrote, you didn't mention any mistakes you have made in your relationships with men. Are you indirectly saying you are perfect? Is there nothing you have done and won't encourage your fellow women to do?

Maybe you are married. Maybe you are single by choice. What about your fellow women who have crossed the age of 30 and are still single because they mistakenly or stupidly rejected good men? How does your post address their situations? Does your post try to save younger females from making those mistakes? Or, are you claiming that no single lady regrets being single? Are you saying that marriage is not necessary for any above-thirty-and-single lady? Even if marriage is not for everyone, is being single good for everyone?

No gender is better than the other. Every gender has good and bad people. In your case, I think you are just a female version of the men you condemn. Your writeup does not teach women how to be good. Your writeup only encourages women to be comfortable with growing old without marriage.

Op please take this guy's comment very seriously and consider addressing the solid points he raised in your next edition to help young and older ladies hoping to get married and build their own happy family.


Thank you for your attention to this matter

franchasng:
I have always maintained my stand that the best age range to marry a lady is from 27 years and above, that is the age Nigerian ladies becomes valuable and more reasonable.


Marrying girls below 25 years is a risk, only uninformed young men embark on such high risk journey.


Unless you are already married and financially buoyant and looking to marry a second wife just for paparazzi, then you can go for girls between the age of 19 years to 25 years and you should be prepared that they won't bring any form of value.



To the op, focus on your goal of finding a worthy partner, don't let nl forum rants distract you or affect your emotion, most times our opinion on relationship matters online are far different from the reality on ground.


Thank you all for your attention to this matter

Yiu are saying all Nigerian ladies become senseless under 27 qnd begin to have sense above 27? Una dey talk trash sha. Person wey no get sense below 27 no go get sense above 27, that person na big pretender wey go unleash mayhem after she get man.

There are beautiful souls below 25, you are interested in those ladies who usually sing my past doesn't matter when they say they have turned a new leave when older, I want to meet ladies in their present so i know how they behave while young and not meet them later in their life when they begin to hide their attitude just to get married.

This thread is funny as the people it was addressed to aren't given the chance to comment but the highly desired gender (allegedly) have hijacked it. While some are throwing tantrums and accusing, some are making insightful comments.
OP well done.

immortalcrown:
I am a man. I admit that the men you refer to are irrational, arrogant and stupid.

But your write up doesn't portray you as someone better than those men. In all you wrote, you didn't mention any mistakes you have made in your relationships with men. Are you indirectly saying you are perfect? Is there nothing you have done and won't encourage your fellow women to do?

Maybe you are married. Maybe you are single by choice. What about your fellow women who have crossed the age of 30 and are still single because they mistakenly or stupidly rejected good men? How does your post address their situations? Does your post try to save younger females from making those mistakes? Or, are you claiming that no single lady regrets being single? Are you saying that marriage is not necessary for any above-thirty-and-single lady? Even if marriage is not for everyone, is being single good for everyone?

No gender is better than the other. Every gender has good and bad people. In your case, I think you are just a female version of the men you condemn. Your writeup does not teach women how to be good. Your writeup only encourages women to be comfortable with growing old without marriage.

I no wan talk before.

I guess the intent of her write-up was to elevate herself but it just fall flat. I actually felt pity for her.

Whether we want to admit it or not, no lady wants to be unmarried at 30 by choice except she is a nun.

Being unmarried at such an advanced age, points to a something very hard to admit to oneself; No man wants you enough to get married to you it would be a hard pill to swallow myself if i were a lady.

Haven said that biko let’s ease off on the whole gender thing abeg and show yourselves a little kindness.

Taquin:
I understand you but my post is specifically for the "evening newspaper term". I created it in response to this thread. https://www.nairaland.com/8446166/ladies-aged-30-38-years-how. I already struggled to make this topic short. Yes. These categories of women exist. Maybe I would create a topic for that another time but I do not have enough experience to talk about it. Maybe some introspection would give me some new insights. Thank you for your contribution.

Now you have earned respect from right thinking men already with this response.
Am married oooohhh. Keep these virtues up, your comfort zone is within the horizon.

Would be better without the overly personal attacks at the men. We don't have to play their games, no matter how low they go.

Other than that, I endorse this write-up.

Lol... everyone is actually aging
Why care about one any other person says. It's you females that stress over things that are needless sha

Beautiful write up....Babe I so much love your write up.



Kikikikiki

Bad guys might waste your youthful days and leave you, and many guys have sense not to follow ladies looking for "escape".

Taquin:
This one is for the babes who are starting to question their worth because of what they see online. I turn 30 next Sunday, so I believe I’m in a good place to write this, not from a place of fear, but from experience and sense.

Over the last few months, I’ve seen some wild comments from men on Nairaland. Things like “after 7”, “evening newspaper”, “depleted ovaries”… you name it. But let me tell you: that’s not on you. That’s on them.

If you're feeling down because of these words, pause and breathe. . These men; the ones who use these terms. I’ve studied them. Yes, I went through their old posts. The youngest among them is about 43. 😂 Imagine a 43-year-old man online calling women expired. God forbid my own future husband is wasting his time typing such rubbish on a forum.
One even replied me once saying I should "rest". This is someone struggling to pay N150k school fees for his 8-year-old child and rent somewhere in the bush in Ikorodu. 😭 Another one, sleeping in the office Monday to Friday because transport to Ajah will eat his entire salary. We already had our third degree by 23 but one man from Ogbomosho thinks he would be doing me a favour by marrying me. These same people shouting “in saner climes” but the only airport they have seen is from watching James Bond movies. 😭😭😭

And these are the same ones screaming "I can't marry a 25+ year old, they’re too old." At 40+? You’re not even ashamed. Ato ole.

Ladies, these are the ones calling you evening newspaper. Do you now see that it has nothing to do with you? If you’re here and you’re worried about these people, don’t be.
This message is not for the real men who respect women and are just struggling financially. My message for you is: it’ll be okay soon, amen.

Now for the rest of us baby girls 👸🏽:
There’s a flawed logic these same men like to push. This idea of "100 women to 1 man". It’s a lie. Statistically, there are more men than women in Nigeria and in the world. You can Google it. They just use that flawed stat to make women feel desperate.
Let me say this clearly girls:
If you are not earning your own money, you have no business dating.
Once you start making money, your standards go up naturally. That’s why you’ll see Regina Daniels with a Ned Nwoko, but you’ll never see Temi Otedola with Dangote. 😏
I saw a thread the other day. One Nairaland uncle asking for advice on dating an 18-year-old. By page 2, he had mentioned giving money to her mother.
So please, work. Even if it’s small. Take yourself on mini-vacations within Nigeria. Join clubs. Play sports. I play chess. In fact, there’s no antichess player in Africa better than me. Just recently, I came 3rd out of 2,500 players globally in the Antichess World Championship . 💅🏽
I’m also starting Pilates with my girls, and I’m going to take standard chess seriously again. I want to become Nigeria’s first grandmaster by age 37.
So please my girls:
1. Buy good skincare.
2. Learn how to do your makeup — Mac, Fenty, Lancôme… get at least one.
3. Look younger, stay fresh.
4. Don’t ever beg for transport fare to go on a date. 🙅🏽‍♀️


Don’t settle because some man with a “Akungba university 1984” ID is calling you names online. 😭
Look at Asa Asika. Look at Davido. Look at Toolz and Tunde. Real rich kids marry close in age because they’re not looking for desperation, they’re looking for a match.
Take your time. Don’t lower your crown. Someone will love you fully with money, respect, maturity, and peace of mind.
There’s someone for everyone. Just don’t rush because of what these agbado philosophers are saying on Nairaland . 😂
Remember:
When they say “You’re too old,” just remember, The only thing outdated is their mindset which expired after Jonathan’s first tenure. Stop explaining your standards to people who’ve never met them.
There’s a man for every woman and yours will see your worth without needing you to shrink or beg for it.
So to every woman reading this: You’re not behind.
Evening newspaper still has breaking news.
Bye baby girls

Why everytime Ogbomoso. What has Ogbomoso done to Nigerian youths ?

This is a powerful reminder that your worth isn't tied to someone else's insecurity. Keep growing, glowing, and choosing yourself every day. True value never expires—neither do real dreams. ✨

If indeed you are turning 30 and you have this experience of this many men..... then I respect you.... your eyes have seen shege..it's good to encourage oneself if not,no one will do.

Taquin:
This one is for the babes who are starting to question their worth because of what they see online. I turn 30 next Sunday, so I believe I’m in a good place to write this, not from a place of fear, but from experience and sense.

Over the last few months, I’ve seen some wild comments from men on Nairaland. Things like “after 7”, “evening newspaper”, “depleted ovaries”… you name it. But let me tell you: that’s not on you. That’s on them.

If you're feeling down because of these words, pause and breathe. . These men; the ones who use these terms. I’ve studied them. Yes, I went through their old posts. The youngest among them is about 43. 😂 Imagine a 43-year-old man online calling women expired. God forbid my own future husband is wasting his time typing such rubbish on a forum.
One even replied me once saying I should "rest". This is someone struggling to pay N150k school fees for his 8-year-old child and rent somewhere in the bush in Ikorodu. 😭 Another one, sleeping in the office Monday to Friday because transport to Ajah will eat his entire salary. We already had our third degree by 23 but one man from Ogbomosho thinks he would be doing me a favour by marrying me. These same people shouting “in saner climes” but the only airport they have seen is from watching James Bond movies. 😭😭😭

And these are the same ones screaming "I can't marry a 25+ year old, they’re too old." At 40+? You’re not even ashamed. Ato ole.

Ladies, these are the ones calling you evening newspaper. Do you now see that it has nothing to do with you? If you’re here and you’re worried about these people, don’t be.
This message is not for the real men who respect women and are just struggling financially. My message for you is: it’ll be okay soon, amen.

Now for the rest of us baby girls 👸🏽:
There’s a flawed logic these same men like to push. This idea of "100 women to 1 man". It’s a lie. Statistically, there are more men than women in Nigeria and in the world. You can Google it. They just use that flawed stat to make women feel desperate.
Let me say this clearly girls:
If you are not earning your own money, you have no business dating.
Once you start making money, your standards go up naturally. That’s why you’ll see Regina Daniels with a Ned Nwoko, but you’ll never see Temi Otedola with Dangote. 😏
I saw a thread the other day. One Nairaland uncle asking for advice on dating an 18-year-old. By page 2, he had mentioned giving money to her mother.
So please, work. Even if it’s small. Take yourself on mini-vacations within Nigeria. Join clubs. Play sports. I play chess. In fact, there’s no antichess player in Africa better than me. Just recently, I came 3rd out of 2,500 players globally in the Antichess World Championship . 💅🏽
I’m also starting Pilates with my girls, and I’m going to take standard chess seriously again. I want to become Nigeria’s first grandmaster by age 37.
So please my girls:
1. Buy good skincare.
2. Learn how to do your makeup — Mac, Fenty, Lancôme… get at least one.
3. Look younger, stay fresh.
4. Don’t ever beg for transport fare to go on a date. 🙅🏽‍♀️


Don’t settle because some man with a “Akungba university 1984” ID is calling you names online. 😭
Look at Asa Asika. Look at Davido. Look at Toolz and Tunde. Real rich kids marry close in age because they’re not looking for desperation, they’re looking for a match.
Take your time. Don’t lower your crown. Someone will love you fully with money, respect, maturity, and peace of mind.
There’s someone for everyone. Just don’t rush because of what these agbado philosophers are saying on Nairaland . 😂
Remember:
When they say “You’re too old,” just remember, The only thing outdated is their mindset which expired after Jonathan’s first tenure. Stop explaining your standards to people who’ve never met them.
There’s a man for every woman and yours will see your worth without needing you to shrink or beg for it.
So to every woman reading this: You’re not behind.
Evening newspaper still has breaking news.
Bye baby girls