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Tightpussy2024:
➜Una don start again. Attention seeking crew.lets pretend the story is true.just because you gave her the money you must monitor and choke mouth? Why can't you stay out of her business? If I were her, immediately I realize the capital you gave,I will pay you off so that you don't control it .
My husband sponsored my wig and cosmetic store business.his niece came to visit .I gave her one ombre wig (blend quality)and some makeup .the stuff will not pass $70. And when she left he immediately transfered the money to me,I told him I dash her besides she helped babysit our son .But he insisted and sent me $100,insisting business is business.
This is how you people ruin women's business.especially food sellers.husband will gather his friends (you know men eat alot like gluttons) bring to canteen and he will tell the friends no need to pay.some men visit their wives canteen everyday. If the business flop na una go still complain that she is unproductive. This is if the story is true sha

I saw a lot of that nonsense growing up! And when the business eventually goes kaput, na the woman dem go talk say no know how to do business! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Change am for am!!!

Omo I no get anything to talk again oh... make I aha dey type make the 40 letters complete

Hezzyluv:
Funny enough, maybe your sister needs this business.


If you sponsor your girlfriend to school or open a business for her, whatever you see afterwards, you carry it

I will rather invest and sponsor my younger sister than a random girlfriend.
Atleast I know she's my family and her growth will benefit my family, even if it doesn't benefit me directly

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

money when I go take sponsor woman for school or open business for her,I go gather the money set fire on am. E pay me make I burn that money than to use am elevate woman.You are enhancing her hypergamy by elevating her. It's female nature. It's ingrained in their DNA.

Tightpussy2024:
➜Don't mind them.check how alot of canteen owners are crying.even the ones that their husbands aren't the ones that sponsored it!some men will visit their wives canteen everyday and eat like gluttons and will gather their friends there and tell them no need to pay . God help you if you dare frown

Na so! And when the business goes bust, dem go come here dey complain say the woman doesn't know how to run a business. Dem no go confess the part wey dem play in helping ruin the business.

I no get simple advice for u

But let me say. If I am in your shoe. I WL collect everything back from her and send her to where she belongs.

In whatever u do in life. It's not advisable for your woman to be above you in any sphere of life

If no be mumu wea u be . Maybe your sister or mom needs money oo. But u choose to empower a Lady.

Well. I no blame you shaa, na love. Hopefully everything goes well for you guys

ovie8200:
As you some mem not dey learn, you lean by force! Only do things to a woman who is you wife.

bros even wife is not exempted from female hypergamy.always deal with this people with caution.

Fekumzi123:
➜Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoe. Try and sponsor a woman business, and then you can comment. No be every topic you go chooke your mouth

Did OP walk a mile in his girlfriend's shoe before taking it on himself to assert he has a right to help run her business anyhow? Nonsense and eegridient!

Invoke commonsense when commenting, abeg!

Kobojunkie:
<sub><sup>You give someone something only to turn around and wan useless the thing for that person?

2. Helping her with sales by giving people discounts? Do you think businesses can easily give discounts at any time without checking to be sure they can even afford them first? Why him no open the business for himself and run am entirely on his own? Nonsense!</sup></sub>

...controversial submissions that don't require reasoning

Kobojunkie:
1. You opened a business for her, meaning you gave it to her, right? Why not remove your hand entirely from the gift which you claim you gave to her? Or are you instead a partner in the business, meaning you both own the business together?

2. Your action is wrong since the business DOES NOT belong to you. Even as a partner in the business, you do not dip your hands into business funds without approval from your partner.

3. Did she forget, or is she trying desperately to protect her business even from your entitled self?

4. Get away! When you give someone something, so long as you are not partnering with the person or sharing that something with that person, lean to remove your hand completely from it.

Can you even pretend to understand people sometimes?

Wimkeh:
So you're telling me if your husband tries to borrow money from you, you will not give him?

It has and will never come to that.but if (God forbid) it happens that he ever needs to borrow money from me.i will give him because I know who I married.he will never relax because he established me.i don't even need him to ask(ego will never lead him to ask me). I will rather hide the money in his dresses of cabinet and he thinks he forgot it there.

This is what happens when you marry right .gave me citizenship in a world power country ,gave me marriage and removed me out of the dating field at a very early age,established me in business and still provides.

Why should I refuse to give him money?

Stephen0mozzy:
The poster above.

Na wah o.... You just enjoy the mentions that come from being controversial sha - especially controversial submissions that don't require reasoning.

You do not think gratitude should be shown to someone who risked his own money to set up the biz? You didn't read where the op is actually helping her with sales? Where he has 90% of capital amd inflow?

I hope no girl takes you serious in forming their reasoning.

That poster is like that with his upside down reasoning.
It is likely a psychological issue for him. Maybe even a fetish because no normal logical thinking person will reason like he does.


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Kobojunkie

Since she is giving you her kpekus, she owes you no respect.
She believes she has earned and owned the business fully.
Let her be!!!

stuffs2002:
➜Can you even pretend to understand people sometimes?

I vehemently refuse to understand eejits, no way! 🙄

Stephen0mozzy:
➜...controversial submissions that don't require reasoning

Stop bothering me wth your nonsensical posts, o'jare!

Not even your wife or sisters or brother, you're sponsoring a girl you're yet to formalize
This is the biggest mistake you have made...

The earlier you quickly make amend the better for you.....

This is 2025 not 1990, you better use your head before is too late for you.....

Tightpussy2024:
This is what happens when you marry right. gave me citizenship in a world power country ,gave me marriage and removed me out of the dating field at a very early age,established me in business and still provides.

Why should I refuse to give him money?

is the bolded what you call love? Could you love him in the absence of all that? Does it mean your "Love" came with a condition?

Kobojunkie:
I vehemently refuse to understand eejits, no way! 🙄

don’t you get tired of saying nonsense this man/woman?

My precious advice to you as I’m also in this same shoes of yours, take all your money and every other things given to her and send her back to her family or street to get the financial support she needed. If you do not the the above and eventually she makes it, trust me she will dump you for another guy then you will be pained to the extent of committing suicide. She’s with you because of what she’s gaining from you. Never date a broke girl again, that’s their way.

Tightpussy2024:
Una don start again. Attention seeking crew.lets pretend the story is true.just because you gave her the money you must monitor and choke mouth? Why can't you stay out of her business? If I were her, immediately I realize the capital you gave,I will pay you off so that you don't control it .

My husband sponsored my wig and cosmetic store business.his niece came to visit .I gave her one ombre wig (blend quality)and some makeup .the stuff will not pass $70. And when she left he immediately transfered the money to me,I told him I dash her besides she helped babysit our son .But he insisted and sent me $100,insisting business is business.

This is how you people ruin women's business.especially food sellers.husband will gather his friends (you know men eat alot like gluttons) bring to canteen and he will tell the friends no need to pay.some men visit their wives canteen everyday.

If the business flop na una go still complain that she is unproductive.

This is if the story is true sha

Men eat like glutton you would have opened the business yourself if it was easy..your husband still has money that's why he hasn't seen your true colour..your giving to his relation is just to show him you are good wife simply because you know more we still come from there...manipulative tendencies.

I bet you the man will still be buying everything in that house ...and were the money you are making is going to only God knows..your lots are the type that will be building house in the village but the man will not know from the mentality of my money is my money and his money is our money. I pity the man sha ...he strike me as those men who will be saying am the man even when things are not so rosy upon suffocating.

Tell me what is the reason for giving back the money you gave to his relation from the business he open for you ..are you not all family, is your thing not his ..so it's still family purse .,but No masculine ego and pride has eaten him up and your own relation will come he will still be the one to give to her/him when leaving and you will not see reason to reimburse him you go lock up.

It is some men that actually makes certain women become so entitled .,not knowing that true commitment in marriage from female angle is when she can let go of her financial resource.

Wimkeh:
is the bolded what you call love? Could you love him in the absence of all that? Does it mean your "Love" came with a condition?

You asked if I will borrow him money if he asked.i said yes.

Love starts with attraction then blossoms into love.most men love start from sexual attraction and lust.so why shame me if my love started from attraction of his pocket?

You men are moved by your eyes first,then later on it blossoms. Me too,I was moved by how he cared and his kindness then it blossomed into love.

Did I do wrong?

Why do you always question a woman loyalty when the man is rich but never question a man loyalty and motive when it's a young fresh virgin beautiful woman?

Will you go and propose or fall in love with a single mom or hooker or divorced woman? No. So why is it evil if I don't fall in love with a struggling man?

We have been married for almost a decade and nothing shake

Your judgment is 100% correct... She's obviously too money conscious...

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Those of us that took our wives to the UK are now regretting it.

I have no advice jare.

Tightpussy2024:
It has and will never come to that.but if (God forbid) it happens that he ever needs to borrow money from me.i will give him because I know who I married.he will never relax because he established me.i don't even need him to ask(ego will never lead him to ask me). I will rather hide the money in his dresses of cabinet and he thinks he forgot it there.

This is what happens when you marry right .gave me citizenship in a world power country ,gave me marriage and removed me out of the dating field at a very early age,established me in business and still provides.

Why should I refuse to give him money?

All we have been reading is he gave me this, gave me that, gave, give is all about you, you what have you done for him ..tangible that you can boast of ...you will hear I gave him children , is like I knew this in my earlier comment I said I smell pride and egoistic man ...he must be from one tribe I know of ...let's flip the coin around if the table were turned and you were the one that has that empowerment will you have done those stuff for him he did for you ...you will hear he is not in my level...talk is cheap.

It is now you know you married right because he is doing heaven and earth for you ,,,typical of a women, other women whose husband are not doing it married wrong . We have seen through your gender already men are getting wiser and no longer falling for those cheap manipulative BS your gender dish out except for some few whose unwarranted pride have blinded their eyes.

God forbid he reduces financially your hidden true colour and nature will surface ..Red pill movement was right from day one.

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Most people who grew up in poverty end up with this type of do-or-die attitude toward money, as adults

It isn't really her fault, but don't allow her grow too big i.e. financially if you plan/want to keep her...otherwise you can just let her go now, because if her hand touch real money she go surely betray you

Beyond gold-digging, this is usually why extremely rich people never want their kids to marry the poor, the brains have already been wired too differently it's just impossible to cohabit without serious conflict