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UniQue84:
Men eat like glutton you would have opened the business yourself if it was easy..your husband still has money that's why he hasn't seen your true colour..your giving to his relation is just to show him you are good wife simply because you know more we still come from there...manipulative tendencies.

I bet you the man will still be buying everything in that house ...and were the money you are making is going to only God knows..your lots are the type that will be building house in the village but the man will not know from the mentality of my money is my money and his money is our money. I pity the man sha ...he strike me as those men who will be saying am the man even when things are not so rosy upon suffocating.

Tell me what is the reason for giving back the money you gave to his relation from the business he open for you ..are you not all family, is your thing not his ..so it's still family purse .,but No masculine ego and pride has eaten him up and your own relation will come he will still be the one to give to her/him when leaving and you will not see reason to reimburse him you go lock up.

It is some men that actually makes certain women become so entitled .,not knowing that true commitment in marriage from female angle is when she can let go of her financial resource.

This is why poor men are not loved. True colors? We have been together for almost 10 years..
Poor men and monitoring of rich men pocket and what they do with their lives..

Just like how men will always love submissive and feminine women,women will always love provider men.

Make peace with this,else you become bitter and unfulfilled and revengeful like emmaodet and ediko5.

I didn't make the rules.

100k a month is nothing. She’s proud for nothing and you’re stressing over nothing. Stay neutral & patient while you focus solely on yourself.

Oga she mustn't respect you because you opened business for her if you respect yourself she will respect you forget the business you opened for her

Tightpussy2024:
You asked if I will borrow him money if he asked.i said yes.

Love starts with attraction then blossoms into love.most men love start from sexual attraction and lust.so why shame me if my love started from attraction of his pocket?

You men are moved by your eyes first,then later on it blossoms. Me too,I was moved by how he cared and his kindness then it blossomed into love.

Did I do wrong?

Why do you always question a woman loyalty when the man is rich but never question a man loyalty and motive when it's a young fresh virgin beautiful woman?

Will you go and propose or fall in love with a single mom or hooker or divorced woman? No. So why is it evil if I don't fall in love with a struggling man?

We have been married for almost a decade and nothing shake

Fair point. You know what? You're right. Both men and women can't love unconditionally. Men are moved by beauty, women are moved by action. There's always a condition. Only God can love agape, or unconditionally.

Social media has got me jaded these days.

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Your major problem is this t_shirt in the picture. First burn am then your sense go com back.

UniQue84:
All we have been reading is he gave me this, gave me that, gave, give is all about you, you what have you done for him ..tangible that you can boast of ...you will hear I gave him children , is like I knew this in my earlier comment I said I smell pride and egoistic man ...he must be from one tribe I know of ...let's flip the coin around if the table were turned and you were the one that has that empowerment will you have done those stuff for him he did for you ...you will hear he is not in my level...talk is cheap.

It is now you know you married right because he is doing heaven and earth for you ,,,typical of a women, other women whose husband are not doing it married wrong . We have seen through your gender already men are getting wiser and no longer falling for those cheap manipulative BS your gender dish out except for some few whose unwarranted pride have blinded their eyes.

God forbid he reduces financially your hidden true colour and nature will surface ..Red pill movement was right from day one.

He is caucasian,not African.

Sour grapes is not good. Why are you so sore? Is he complaining? Why are you complaining on his behalf? Is it your money?
You want me to sieve akamu with scarf or pound yam or use grounding stone to grind pepper before you are satisfied?

Why must suffering be your only proof of love?

I know you want my soft life for your sisters. Tell them to marry right. Sadly okcupid and those good dating apps are messed up. Back in those days,all of us that used them had white men export us from naija and are doing fine.

The "good ones" that married one brother kunle in church are the ones begging us for loan to start importation business and their kids in universities are always sending me happy new month message so that something will drop

Problem is...you still luv her

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

When they tell men to watch and listen to red pill, they allow the society to brainwash them that red pill is bad. Most women and I mean not all but a large percentage view men are helpers nothing more.

unless you want to take her to court with necessary documents and size control of the business since you own 90% of the capital. Might be wrong since I'm not a lawyer.

Stephen0mozzy:
The poster above.

Na wah o.... You just enjoy the mentions that come from being controversial sha - especially controversial submissions that don't require reasoning.

You do not think gratitude should be shown to someone who risked his own money to set up the biz? You didn't read where the op is actually helping her with sales? Where he has 90% of capital amd inflow?

I hope no girl takes you serious in forming their reasoning.

anyone who takes Kobojunkie seriously is a junkie for bad advice

Empower someone who you have married.

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

.why did you open a business for a lady you have not yet married..it's risky..she can dump you

Boyfriend of the year
Well done
Hope ur mommy is comfortable?

This what InDiscov is preaching on Facebook
Opp
follow him on FB and get sense
No happy Ending for simple shall

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

In life, you either learn the smart way or the hard way. It's obvious you’ll continue to learn the hard way... Girl wey you supposed employ as staff or sales girl, you go make her madam... You never see anything yet...

ibechris:
Girl...

U no get sister to sponsor or even mama to give such money?

Men like u are the reason why some ladies who are very poor call some of us broke men because we decided to respect ourselves.

See,where ur kindness has landed u. Well,ur own even better,my own brother bought generator,TV,rented a shop for the lady,even relocated the lady to Lagos,fed her with his money. When she started doing well,she now realised he wasn't good for him.

Before u know it ,my brother refused to believe his eyes,the lady started dating a police man...na so my brother matter come worse pass before. He used his new found boyfriend to arrest my brother on three different occasions before he realised his mumuness and eventually left the lady.

Don't train ur girl friend nor open any business for her...u are only setting her up for another guy to marry tomorrow.

I’ve lost count on the number of times we’ve be preaching this very thing but will these simps ever listen?!
They are only making life harder for hardworking young men out there.
To the OP, carry your cross squarely since you’ve all sworn to be unrepentant simpsons. I don’t know the kind of weak men people keep birthing into our society these days; men who can’t entice women with their aura and mouths. They now believe spending like thieves is the only way to get women.
Again, when you spend heavily to upgrade a woman above yourself, you are ultimately preparing her for other men who are bigger than you because once a woman starts earning more than you, she naturally starts thinking you aren’t in the same league anymore. Men don’t think this way. We don’t discriminate against women from lesser financial backgrounds when we start making money. We hope and pray y’all have sense someday 😏
Topics like this Dey vex me enter body

You go dey open business for gf.. nawa for you o. Small time now you go rent house for am

shibyc

Firstly, If she continues like this, it's best you dump her. She's going to be very entitled when you're married. She's the type that will be sending your kids to you any time they ask her for money.

Secondly, let her keep the business. Accept that as a loss. It's the honorable thing to do.

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Geh Geh has already warned you but you pour am spit for face... had I known, the last cry of a fool!!

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

it's time to leave her if you get that mind. you can get oussy anywhere but not peace of mind .

LET HER KNOW THAT YOU HAVE SETTLED HER WITH THAT AND YOU WANT TO MOVE ON !

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

People will say this isn't right but I believe to a woman you aren't married to you don't go the extra mile except she is now the wife then she is your responsibility. If I'm to give a woman that isn't my wife fund for business maybe cause she might get more traction on the business I feel it should be more transactional. We cut a deal on partnership with dividends divides and these wil be legally documented. Or I invent the money myself on other things and just give her upkeeps when necessary. But when she is wife she is my responsibility so I can do anything for her( with a pinch of salkt: if her head de house ) else I'll still get the limit I can do cause some women are baskets when it comes to business but champion other activities well in the house.

Stephen0mozzy:
The poster above.

Na wah o.... You just enjoy the mentions that come from being controversial sha - especially controversial submissions that don't require reasoning.

You do not think gratitude should be shown to someone who risked his own money to set up the biz? You didn't read where the op is actually helping her with sales? Where he has 90% of capital amd inflow?

I hope no girl takes you serious in forming their reasoning.

Na woman she be not a man...a man no fit reason like that....All her post has resemblance to anti men, always blaming men for issues.

saasala:
I opened a business for my wife worth over 10m and collected 30% from it. This is because I don't want to give her complete control of the business. She is a good woman who has proven herself over and over again. She has not done anything to warrant me doubting her but you never can tell

Made her sign an agreement regarding the sharing formula.

Whatever the business makes, I get 30% on it plus I get to make important decision on the business. We both own it even tho she owns the larger percentage and manages it.

You are protecting your family, moat women aren't good with money aka hypergamy so it's a good check you put in place. Don't know why most men are naive about women nature, it's pathetic. Just as you have asserted no man should just go opening a business for a woman if she has not proven herself but unfortunately men do it even while they say hi to her the first day.

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

For your self respect, since you are the one that raised her business up, she has forgotten so soon and at the same time she doesn't want to hear any stories on any penny

So what do you do,
Remove eys from her business, don't introduce any customers to her let her source it herself
Dont ask for a penny, it brings so much insult even if you have

Just be watching her let's see if she will realise that, everything about the business comes from you

By the time she comes to her senses and she comes to you for assistance, first of all demand for the capital you gave her to return it

Start from there let's see if she has been prudent with the business

jericco1:
Bro I will not say you made a mistake you are just unlucky.

They are tons of women that will forever be grateful for such investments

If you have good heart. I think you should just let it go and move forward.

Then the next man meets thesame fate as his and the cycle continues, the essence of taking som cases to Court isn't because of self profits but to set q precedence for others to enjoy if you don't get it forget about it. Someone who doesn't have a good heart won't do this in the first place so take that good heart manipulation out

Father4all:
If she knew you would actually pay back, she wouldn't have complained. The story is still not clear

You don't know women

I asked my girlfriend questions regarding finances in relationships and marriage and one of it is what if i opened business in the family name for her to manage what happens to the finances of the business ? Her response was i should remove my eyes in her money that her money is her money and that whatever she wants to use the money to do is non if my business , that was the day i turned her to nacking tool. Another thing she added is the business is not family business but her business, tell me will such mindset won't be result in the above narrated by the OP? I pity nen who don't discuss finances with their potential partners.

Tightpussy2024:
Una don start again. Attention seeking crew.lets pretend the story is true.just because you gave her the money you must monitor and choke mouth? Why can't you stay out of her business? If I were her, immediately I realize the capital you gave,I will pay you off so that you don't control it .

My husband sponsored my wig and cosmetic store business.his niece came to visit .I gave her one ombre wig (blend quality)and some makeup .the stuff will not pass $70. And when she left he immediately transfered the money to me,I told him I dash her besides she helped babysit our son .But he insisted and sent me $100,insisting business is business.

This is how you people ruin women's business.especially food sellers.husband will gather his friends (you know men eat alot like gluttons) bring to canteen and he will tell the friends no need to pay.some men visit their wives canteen everyday.

If the business flop na una go still complain that she is unproductive.

This is if the story is true sha

If men have your kind of mindset they won't use their money to fund the home, do you know how many businesses that has failed because men fund the home? Is your husband a glutton? Is it how you knew men are gluttons? Una dey takk sha

Wrackcityoffici:
Please avoid this idiot. A woman is badly behaved when you’re courting, it would get worse when you have a child. Plus leave her business alone, you also wouldn’t want a partner interfering with your business, she’s also not a reliable person or perhaps you’re not credit worthy in the past using the guise of “I invested in this”. Plus you don’t just hand over assets to a woman like that, you test them with 1k before you give them 100k… There’s two sides to the story and I’m not inclined to support you because you posted your own side, Nigerian women are mostly like baskets, when you see a woman that you would give the world but she can hardly give you her own 2k, run o. I had to breakup with my girl for the same reason, she would come to my house, na me go dey cook, I would buy stuffs for her and sometimes I would collect foodstuffs on debt, I bill am 1k, she just dey pretend say her bank get problem, person wey I go enter bokku do shopping of 10k snackings for when I’m coming from work sometimes, I told her to bring food for me from her place, she would come empty handed saying she forgot, these things are nothing, I just dey test am o, but if me and person dey for 3 months wey I just dey spend and I no see 5 naira…omo na better red flag be that one, some guys would ignore these red flags thinking it’s because she’s not too sufficient or because she’s a woman till they spend millions on her and he happens to be broke for a short while, na that time him eye go clear

Yiu are right, one even told me if i gave her money to cook when i visited her, i said told madam if she has food at home that I'm very hungry, i could have eaten at the restaurant along my path but since na my girlfriend i say make i reach her place chop. That day was the alarm clock i needed to start discussing finances with her which i was never wrong. This is a girl that i give five start treatment anytime she comes around not been able to give me common food? Later i then understood her mindset after discussing finance with her. Its surprising to note this lady doesn't even earn upto 5% of my earnings at the time though she wasn't aware because i wanted to see through her skin.