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Tightpussy2024:
It has and will never come to that.but if (God forbi[/b]d) it happens that he ever needs to borrow money from me.i will give him because I know who I married.he will never relax because he established me.i don't even need him to ask(ego will never lead him to ask me). I will rather hide the money in his dresses of cabinet and he thinks he forgot it there.

This is what happens when you marry [b]right .gave me citizenship in a world power country ,gave me marriage and removed me out of the dating field at a very early age,established me in business and still provides.

Why should I refuse to give him money?

Hypergamy at work, so you don't even believe you can be bigger than what your husband is at the moment that will result in you funding a business he is interested in? Women, in your mind you will always be in a position to collect his money but not the reverse (hypergamy). See how you removed such possibility before even agreeing to help grudgingly. One could imagine if your business becomes so big compared to your husband's what will churn out from this your hypergamous brain.

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Now that you realize you did it with the mindset of being foolish and backward thinking what else do you want us to do

UniQue84:
Men eat like glutton you would have opened the business yourself if it was easy..your husband still has money that's why he hasn't seen your true colour..your giving to his relation is just to show him you are good wife simply because you know more we still come from there...manipulative tendencies.

I bet you the man will still be buying everything in that house ...and were the money you are making is going to only God knows..your lots are the type that will be building house in the village but the man will not know from the mentality of my money is my money and his money is our money. I pity the man sha ...he strike me as those men who will be saying am the man even when things are not so rosy upon suffocating.

Tell me what is the reason for giving back the money you gave to his relation from the business he open for you ..are you not all family, is your thing not his ..so it's still family purse .,but No masculine ego and pride has eaten him up and your own relation will come he will still be the one to give to her/him when leaving and you will not see reason to reimburse him you go lock up.

[b]It is some men that actually makes certain women become so entitled .,not knowing that true commitment in marriage from female angle is when she can let go of her financial resourc[/b]e.

Most men don't know this, any woman who hasn't spent her resources for the family is a ticking time bomb, i don't want to have that rubbish ego of me taking care of all financial responsibility even when i am very capable . I talked with one and she said my money is my money ..... Madam e don do i no do again

No just worry urself! They are all thesame, it's not peculiar to u. Just dey drag am with her often sha, make she no go go too far.thank God say the business boom.

FRANKOSKI:
it's time to leave her if you get that mind. you can get oussy anywhere but not peace of mind .

[b]LET HER KNOW THAT YOU HAVE SETTLED HER WITH THAT AND YOU WANT TO MOVE O[/b]N !

For doing exactly what? Then she dates another man and wants to be settled, is she an apprentice? Na men dey cause this entitled mentality from women

🌺

Its even gf not wife,op you deserve a better wotowoto shey you no won get sense abi??

GoodSpirit:
Na woman she be not a man...a man no fit reason like that....All her post has resemblance to anti men, always blaming men for issues.

Surely not up to half a woman in the true sense of the word - she be female.

Definitely not one gram of a man.

Kobojunkie:
Did OP walk a mile in his girlfriend's shoe before taking it on himself to assert he has a right to help run her business anyhow? Nonsense and eegridient!

Invoke commonsense when commenting, abeg!

Don't you have a wife or girlfriend? Sponsor her business and come back and give us testimony

id4sho:
When she never born for you, pet her and impregnate her. Her brain go reset 🤷

Dat d worst mistake a man ever make
Impregnate brain go rest ke
Don't ever try it ooo

Can you give me the business idea if I can try it with my wife over here?

saasala:
I opened a business for my wife worth over 10m and collected 30% from it. This is because I don't want to give her complete control of the business. She is a good woman who has proven herself over and over again. She has not done anything to warrant me doubting her but you never can tell

Made her sign an agreement regarding the sharing formula.

Whatever the business makes, I get 30% on it plus I get to make important decision on the business. We both own it even tho she owns the larger percentage and manages it.

Your own is Good .
My wife of 2 kids from 6 years of marriage . I observed she’s been moody for a week now and I found out she’s owing Soemone about 43k. On Fridays here , I was having about 80k left on me, I told boldness to send her the 43k to pay off her debt . Out pumping machine got spoilt , I paid 20k then gave my wife another 10k to prepare stew . Lo and behold , she came back home that night with an old android phone despite her haveing an iPhone sxmax with her . She said someone wants to sell it for 40k. I told her to return it but she refused .
Now, money I was suppose to receive on Saturday didn’t come but was assured this week and my wife has been giving me attitude and calling me
All sort of name because I couldn’t give her money she requested for . Today is Monday, she I have receive many strong comments. This is same woman I gave money on Friday and incured expenses for. Am really hurt brothers .

Tightpussy2024:
It has and will never come to that.but if (God forbid) it happens that he ever needs to borrow money from me.i will give him because I know who I married.he will never relax because he established me.i don't even need him to ask(ego will never lead him to ask me). I will rather hide the money in his dresses of cabinet and he thinks he forgot it there.

This is what happens when you marry right .gave me citizenship in a world power country ,gave me marriage and removed me out of the dating field at a very early age,established me in business and still provides.

Why should I refuse to give him money?

May your pussy continue to be tight... I think this kind of mentality only exists for women who haven't become jaded before marrying....as you hv just said....he married you at a young age...
U guys had d time to pair bond.... suppose u had done so much hoeing before meeting him...u probably wldve gotten so destroyed that u become unable to be this sensible anymore....

I'll always say d key thing is to avoid scarcity amd poverty mentality females in general...women who hv become too destroyed before you meet them..... in the end...people shd do what works best for them I'd say...

bluebay:
Your own is Good .
My wife of 2 kids from 6 years of marriage . I observed she’s been moody for a week now and I found out she’s owing Soemone about 43k. On Fridays here , I was having about 80k left on me, I told boldness to send her the 43k to pay off her debt . Out pumping machine got spoilt , I paid 20k then gave my wife another 10k to prepare stew . Lo and behold , she came back home that night with an old android phone despite her haveing an iPhone sxmax with her . She said someone wants to sell it for 40k. I told her to return it but she refused .
Now, money I was suppose to receive on Saturday didn’t come but was assured this week and my wife has been giving me attitude and calling me
All sort of name because I couldn’t give her money she requested for . Today is Monday, she I have receive many strong comments. This is same woman I gave money on Friday and incured expenses for. Am really hurt brothers .

U dont need to tell her to return it in my opinion....I think u shd try n see if there's sense in her buying d phone...and if u dot hv d moni at hand...let her know u don't....anywhere she now likes..she can go n collect moni for her phone..na she sabi.... women are just funny many times tho

bluebay:
Your own is Good .
My wife of 2 kids from 6 years of marriage . I observed she’s been moody for a week now and I found out she’s owing Soemone about 43k. On Fridays here , I was having about 80k left on me, I told boldness to send her the 43k to pay off her debt . Out pumping machine got spoilt , I paid 20k then gave my wife another 10k to prepare stew . Lo and behold , she came back home that night with an old android phone despite her haveing an iPhone sxmax with her . She said someone wants to sell it for 40k. I told her to return it but she refused .
Now, money I was suppose to receive on Saturday didn’t come but was assured this week and my wife has been giving me attitude and calling me
All sort of name because I couldn’t give her money she requested for . Today is Monday, she I have receive many strong comments. This is same woman I gave money on Friday and incured expenses for. Am really hurt brothers .

Haaaaaa!!!

As in....una be strong men oooo....how do you guys live with a person that clearly makes life more difficult than it is??

GoodSpirit:
Hypergamy at work, so you don't even believe you can be bigger than what your husband is at the moment that will result in you funding a business he is interested in? Women, in your mind you will always be in a position to collect his money but not the reverse (hypergamy). See how you removed such possibility before even agreeing to help grudgingly. One could imagine if your business becomes so big compared to your husband's what will churn out from this your hypergamous brain.

May your wife be greater than you. May she feed you.may she be the bread winner. Let me hear a amen.

I will wear my hypergamy with pride

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Omo people sabi dey take risk oo

GoodSpirit:
Yiu are right, one even told me if i gave her money to cook when i visited her, i said told madam if she has food at home that I'm very hungry, i could have eaten at the restaurant along my path but since na my girlfriend i say make i reach her place chop. That day was the alarm clock i needed to start discussing finances with her which i was never wrong. This is a girl that i give five start treatment anytime she comes around not been able to give me common food? Later i then understood her mindset after discussing finance with her. Its surprising to note this lady doesn't even earn upto 5% of my earnings at the time though she wasn't aware because i wanted to see through her skin.

As a guy, if I had someone who has invested in me previously ask me for money, even if I no get, I would borrow, even if I can’t borrow, I would make the person feel my effort, that I really do care, because I can’t joke with a potential partner. But most guys are stupid, they keep giving and giving till they go through hard times and the girl ends up leaving. She wasn’t looking for a partner, na investor she dey find. If I dey with woman for 3 months and I keep giving without seeing 5 naira, I would break up, I can’t have a weakling raise my kids, what if I died as a provider, how she wan take raise my pikin. Don’t get me wrong, the girl being broke isn’t the issue, her mindset is the issue. As a guy normally I go still press small funds when relationship starts but just know I would test if you would do the same. I would test her according to her financial strength. All my life I’ve only had one woman who came through for me financially, that girl, I still dey regret losing her, even after break up, I still gats fund am, she was kinda being pressured by her family to marry and me I just dey start life that time, she was like older than me with like 3-4 years then but looked younger and beautiful, her friends thought I was a playboy, she was stupid to always tell her friends about us, those ones kom dey jealous, they told her to fake a break up to see my reaction, naso she write break up for me, I was so devastated, girl wey I love die, I fit kill her parents if them touch her, girl wey I fit love pass my own life dey write me break up, how could someone I loved that much do that to me? abeg na only me my mama born abeg, I was depressed for days, I couldn’t work, na that time I really understand say heartbreak be like say kidnapper cut your head o. I had to break up for my sanity, I can’t be giving you 100 while you’re listening to your friends, like I really love this girl pass anything that time, azin I liked her to the point that she was the only one my dick could stand for, She loved me too because I showed loved , no doubt, but she couldn’t keep her happiness from friends, those ones dey tell am say boys my age na Bleep boy, I was way ahead of my peers, I still made funds, still apologized and asked for us to be together, I had to leave for my sanity, she had too much control over my happiness, that’s a dangerous thing to give a woman. Plus she was relocating and that was a major deal breaker, me wey like sex. But lowkey I still regret breaking up, I’ve not met a girl like her, if I dey with that girl, I for don make am, I swear, but she would have forced me into marriage

Wrackcityoffici:
As a guy, if I had someone who has invested in me previously ask me for money, even if I no get, I would borrow, even if I can’t borrow, I would make the person feel my effort, that I really do care, because I can’t joke with a potential partner. But most guys are stupid, they keep giving and giving till they go through hard times and the girl ends up leaving. She wasn’t looking for a partner, na investor she dey find. If I dey with woman for 3 months and I keep giving without seeing 5 naira, I would break up, I can’t have a weakling raise my kids, what if I died as a provider, how she wan take raise my pikin. Don’t get me wrong, the girl being broke isn’t the issue, her mindset is the issue. As a guy normally I go still press small funds when relationship starts but just know I would test if you would do the same. I would test her according to her financial strength. All my life I’ve only had one woman who came through for me financially, that girl, I still dey regret losing her, even after break up, I still gats fund am, she was kinda being pressured by her family to marry and me I just dey start life that time, she was like older than me with like 3-4 years then but looked younger and beautiful, her friends thought I was a playboy, she was stupid to always tell her friends about us, those ones kom dey jealous, they told her to fake a break up to see my reaction, naso she write break up for me, I was so devastated, girl wey I love die, I fit kill her parents if them touch her, girl wey I fit love pass my own life dey write me break up, how could someone I loved that much do that to me? abeg na only me my mama born abeg, I was depressed for days, I couldn’t work, na that time I really understand say heartbreak be like say kidnapper cut your head o. I had to break up for my sanity, I can’t be giving you 100 while you’re listening to your friends, like I really love this girl pass anything that time, azin I liked her to the point that she was the only one my dick could stand for, She loved me too because I showed loved , no doubt, but she couldn’t keep her happiness from friends, those ones dey tell am say boys my age na Bleep boy, I was way ahead of my peers, I still made funds, still apologized and asked for us to be together, I had to leave for my sanity, she had too much control over my happiness, that’s a dangerous thing to give a woman. Plus she was relocating and that was a major deal breaker, me wey like sex. But lowkey I still regret breaking up, I’ve not met a girl like her, if I dey with that girl, I for don make am, I swear, but she would have forced me into marriage

You are right

vision202020:
Can you give me the business idea if I can try it with my wife over here?

She is a hair stylist.

I opened a fine salon for her.

Na mumu you be

You went and set a biz for a girlfriend, wait, the end go shock you

bluebay:
Your own is Good .
My wife of 2 kids from 6 years of marriage . I observed she’s been moody for a week now and I found out she’s owing Soemone about 43k. On Fridays here , I was having about 80k left on me, I told boldness to send her the 43k to pay off her debt . Out pumping machine got spoilt , I paid 20k then gave my wife another 10k to prepare stew . Lo and behold , she came back home that night with an old android phone despite her haveing an iPhone sxmax with her . She said someone wants to sell it for 40k. I told her to return it but she refused .
Now, money I was suppose to receive on Saturday didn’t come but was assured this week and my wife has been giving me attitude and calling me
All sort of name because I couldn’t give her money she requested for . Today is Monday, she I have receive many strong comments. This is same woman I gave money on Friday and incured expenses for. Am really hurt brothers .

Bros,men got learn somethings for this life.This is where you bleeped up.No dey rush to solve women problem.e no dey end well.as you see am dey moody,you for avoid her. It's not your duty to make her happy.when you found out she was owing someone,you shouldn't have paid that money.let her pay her debt by herself. You have to understand that when you do more for this gender,they regard it less.

Tightpussy2024:
This is why poor men are not loved. True colors? We have been together for almost 10 years..
Poor men and monitoring of rich men pocket and what they do with their lives..

Just like how men will always love submissive and feminine women,women will always love provider men.

Make peace with this,else you become bitter and unfulfilled and revengeful like emmaodet and ediko5.

I didn't make the rules.

Nairaland bot dey make me vex with unnecessary ban even without any toxic word I dey try response to one bra-in - less guy.

Back to the topic, the fact is you guys have failed to understand the poster from the side of love, sympathy, compassion and human feeling.

A man is also a human for heaven's sake and deserve show of love and compassion. The young man said he opened the business and also gave her almost 90% of her existing customers, so what's wrong if the lady render a 'lending' help to man in times of emergency need? Ladies should quit this mentality of thinking it's only a man that's should help a woman financially. If a lady can do this during courtship or dating then what will she do during marriage? Anyway, the guy should be wise to see the red flag that the lady doesn't want him.

Back to your diss, you said I'm being revengeful, 😁😁 funny enough I lady have never used me before in my life. I'm not a traditional boyfriend/girlfriend kinda guy. I started dating at 28 and before then I've already learned the street OTs about women. My post comes from the happenings and true life stories around me

I knew this two orientation before I entered the dating game and it's what have helped me be on top of the game:

1. As a young man, the greatest way to impress a lady is to build and develop yourself. You will attract ladies without spending much to prove points when you invest in yourself. That's what happened to me - I don't date liability ladies.

2. As a young man, never give a girl the impression that she's all over your head, never give a girl the impression that she's your last hope and you can't get another girl, never invest in a girl, never place a girl above you etc.

Tightpussy2024:
May your wife be greater than you. May she feed you.may she be the bread winner. Let me hear a amen.

I will wear my hypergamy with pride

Typical Woman seeing relationship and marriage as a poverty eradication scheme created by the government or society to help women. I pity you, what is wrong for my wife to be rich as i am or be even richer? Comprehension os far from you, i am a multi millionaire and what is wrong for her getting richer than i am? I am self sufficient and doing excellently well for myself raking in millions monthly. You think everyone is q liability like you that only takes but doesn't give? What is wrong for her been richer than i do? If you like don't remove that parasitic mindset that you see relationship and marriage as empowerment scheme for women , you are an adult, reason like one.

Wrackcityoffici:
Please avoid this idiot. A woman is badly behaved when you’re courting, it would get worse when you have a child. Plus leave her business alone, you also wouldn’t want a partner interfering with your business, she’s also not a reliable person or perhaps you’re not credit worthy in the past using the guise of “I invested in this”. Plus you don’t just hand over assets to a woman like that, you test them with 1k before you give them 100k… There’s two sides to the story and I’m not inclined to support you because you posted your own side, Nigerian women are mostly like baskets, when you see a woman that you would give the world but she can hardly give you her own 2k, run o. I had to breakup with my girl for the same reason, she would come to my house, na me go dey cook, I would buy stuffs for her and sometimes I would collect foodstuffs on debt, I bill am 1k, she just dey pretend say her bank get problem, person wey I go enter bokku do shopping of 10k snackings for when I’m coming from work sometimes, I told her to bring food for me from her place, she would come empty handed saying she forgot, these things are nothing, I just dey test am o, but if me and person dey for 3 months wey I just dey spend and I no see 5 naira…omo na better red flag be that one, some guys would ignore these red flags thinking it’s because she’s not too sufficient or because she’s a woman till they spend millions on her and he happens to be broke for a short while, na that time him eye go clear

Women are just pretenders, that's why one should be very careful around them

jericco1:
Bro I will not say you made a mistake you are just unlucky.

They are tons of women that will forever be grateful for such investments

If you have good heart. I think you should just let it go and move forward.

Honestly am Lucky..
I trained my gf.. I only did introduction then.
Now she has federal job and earns way higher Dan me, yet she still remains faithful a d let me know before taking any decision. I married her Feb this year

Interesting thread filled with eye-opening responses.

To be fair, though, a business is a different entity from its owner.

StreetFight:
Those of us that took our wives to the UK are now regretting it.

I have no advice jare.

Tell me more

vision202020:
Can you give me the business idea if I can try it with my wife over here?

Interesting.


Despite what your colleagues are advising here, why do you want to do this?

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

Empowering her isn't the problem the problem is the person you don't really know the true nature of a person until he or she gets sufficient money or attains a certain position.
Always ensure that you are improving yourself while you are improving your woman under no circumstance should you be stagnant while advancing your woman instead the reverse should be the case.

1Sharon:
Interesting.


Despite what your colleagues are advising here, why do you want to do this?

E shock you abi. Who e never happen to go think say na him lucky pass.

Tightpussy2024:
You asked if I will borrow him money if he asked.i said yes.

Love starts with attraction then blossoms into love.most men love start from sexual attraction and lust.so why shame me if my love started from attraction of his pocket?

You men are moved by your eyes first,then later on it blossoms. Me too,I was moved by how he cared and his kindness then it blossomed into love.

Did I do wrong?

Why do you always question a woman loyalty when the man is rich but never question a man loyalty and motive when it's a young fresh virgin beautiful woman?

Will you go and propose or fall in love with a single mom or hooker or divorced woman? No. So why is it evil if I don't fall in love with a struggling man? We have been married for almost a decade and nothing shake

You na strong woman o

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I'm curious, like other women, what do you spend the money you earn on? How do you spend the money if the man is meant to spend his money entirely on the family?