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MrHandsome2013:
I met this girl online based on parole and I fell in love with her.

fake story fabrication industry

Make her your baby mama, simple no marry her please for your sanity.

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MrHandsome2013:
I met this girl online based on parole and I fell in love with her.
We started dating and everything is fine.
When I asked her why she was doing OS.
She told me that she is the one sponsoring her self in school and none of her family members are supporting her.
I intend to wife but scared of her past.
I have listened to many online counseling videos that a woman’s past matters a lot.
She had told me she is now changed person.
Then I came up with lies that in our culture that if a woman cheat outside marriage that she will run mad immediately that if she can cope with that.
She told me it is fine , that she did os to support her school

Congratulations 🎉 for using your hand to light the 🔥🔥 that will burn you later.

Abeg read this short post: https://www.nairaland.com/8456524/past-operating-system-not-passed

The OS tell you say her reason for running street Na based on say Na she dey sponsor herself for school, She no see other suffer and husstle like buying and selling ? Make una no dey fall for this cock and bull story, OS na OS.

For your mind she don change Abi? Dey play.
You know Wetin be addiction ?

The bolded, for your mind you want scope a typical Naija OS with traditional repercussions? This guy you dey learn work o

Hmmm, let him try his luck, because experience is the best teacher.

yyba:
Make sure your high blood pressure drugs are always with you, E get why. If you know you know

fyneboi79:
Look let me tell you something about women, I was married for 10years before I opted for a divorce because I knew she would never change.I have dated several single mothers and one thing they all have in common is zero loyalty with unhindered expectations. Just have it in mind that she will never change,she will act good till she sees a bigger target.

So because yours ended badly means every script would play out same way, right?

Bro,Ur mind no go rest,trust issues!!!

MrHandsome2013:
I met this girl online based on parole and I fell in love with her.
We started dating and everything is fine.
When I asked her why she was doing OS.
She told me that she is the one sponsoring her self in school and none of her family members are supporting her.
I intend to wife but scared of her past.
I have listened to many online counseling videos that a woman’s past matters a lot.
She had told me she is now changed person.
Then I came up with lies that in our culture that if a woman cheat outside marriage that she will run mad immediately that if she can cope with that.
She told me it is fine , that she did os to support her school

Just let her go if you cannot forget about these thoughts and see her for who she is now. Do you doubt your sense of judgement? You've been with her for a while,right? Is she showing any signs of genuine repentance from her past?


Instead of marrying a woman that you would torture for life for your lack of trust, you should consider dating and marrying a virgin who would CERTAINLY never cheat on you.

Samantha125:
But you guys would still do anything to settle down with SA street girls while shaming your women for doing the same things your SA wives would've been doing... There's this one unapologetic SA street girl called Wandile Ndlovu, she moved to Nigeria last year and there have been rumours of her getting engaged to a rich Nigerian man... ... She has always been outspoken about how she was selling herself, but allegedly a Nigerian man saw a wife in her...

And it's like those SA street girls are always the type you want to settle down with here in SA...

This your SA street-girl love story sounds fabricated, similar to imaginary fantasies that a lot of street girls like to dream about.

Juliearth:
Just let her go if you cannot forget about these thoughts and see her for who she is now. Do you doubt your sense of judgement? You've been with her for a while,right? Is she showing any signs of genuine repentance from her past?


Instead of marrying a woman that you would torture for life for your lack of trust, you should consider dating and marrying a virgin who would CERTAINLY never cheat on you.

Why should I let her go after spending much on her

MrHandsome2013:
Why should I let her go after spending much on her

LOL!
Why spend so much on her when you have your doubts?

Why doubt her after spending so much on her?

My initial comment reeked of sarcasm, by the way? Seems you didn't get the point.

Juliearth:
LOL!
Why spend so much on her when you have your doubts?

Why doubt her after spending so much on her?

My initial comment reeked of sarcasm, by the way? Seems you didn't get the point.

Sorry to ask are you a married man

MrHandsome2013:
Sorry to ask are you a married man

No!

Juliearth:
No!

You have a woman you intend to marry

MrHandsome2013:
You have a woman you intend to marry

I'm not gay.

Honestly , some people are the architect of their problem.

fyneboi79:
Sorry for you in advance. A street girl will always be for the streets.

Juliearth:
I'm not gay.

Are you a feminine or masculine person in disposition

MrHandsome2013:
Are you a feminine or masculine person in disposition

Where is the camera?

Juliearth:
Where is the camera?

Can you decipher on your affirmation for easy assimilation

Juliearth:
So because yours ended badly means every script would play out same way, right?

Don't forget he said specifically that she is from the "streets" which translates to easy girl life of transactional sex. Please lets be real here J girl
Still in Niger state?

fyneboi79:
Don't forget he said specifically that she is from the "streets" which translates to easy girl life of transactional sex. Please lets be real here J girl
Still in Niger state?

Smiles! Your points are valid, but I am a strong advocate for second chances and genuine repentance. We all ain't saints.

Samantha125:
From my observation, it seems like most decent career women here in SA don't want to associate themselves with you guys because they also consider their future to be as important as the past is important for you guys with your sisters, hence you mostly end up settling for less and making noise about it as if you've made a big achievement.

What you consider as a downgrade becomes an upgrade when you get abroad.

I sometimes appreciate some of your posts on here but I notice you appear subtly unfair or maybe biased on gender and national issues. Unfortunately this discredits your intellectual rating and objectively IMO.

This is a faceless forum so would be needless if I proceed to share certain information on cross-cultural marriages between both countries at the Professional level. This happens based on personal biases and preferences. I can speak to this elaborately but needless at this time.

Sometime back, I met an SA lady (escort) on a Dana flight from Abj to Los. She was my sit partner and really attractive. Unfortunately, I didn't get to further with her though my intent was just for a one off thing. I may not speak for all Naija guys but the best we seek from the average other African sisters who don't measure up is the fun, cultural exchange and some ego, after which we cut the deal. Not the same case with those we consider to be decent, professional and responsible.

What do you think she was doing in Abj?

dammie4j:
I sometimes appreciate some of your posts on here but I notice you appear subtly unfair or maybe biased on gender and national issues. Unfortunately this discredits your intellectual rating and objectively IMO.

This is a faceless forum so would be needless if I proceed to share certain information on cross-cultural marriages between both countries at the Professional level. This happens based on personal biases and preferences. I can speak to this elaborately but needless at this time.

Sometime back, I met an SA lady (escort) on a Dana flight from Abj to Los. She was my sit partner and really attractive. Unfortunately, I didn't get to further with her though my intent was just for a one off thing. I may not speak for all Naija guys but the best we seek from the average other African sisters who don't measure up is the fun, cultural exchange and some ego, after which we cut the deal. Not the same case with those we consider to be decent, professional and responsible.

Samantha125:
What do you think she was doing in Abj?

She just flew in from O'Tambo and first touch down in Abuja. Her end location was Lekki, Lagos. And of course in Nigeria for fun. She never kept it secret.

Oh! She was even headed to Lekki? This just proves my point... She was obviously looking for a rich Nigerian Oga who'll upgrade her into a trophy wife so that she can start making noise on social media about how Nigerian men are better than SA men when she'd have slept with half those SA men before deciding to settle for Mr Oga.

Sometimes I don't get these sisters of mine, I'm married to a foreign national myself even though he's now a South African by naturalisation since he was raised here... He treats me like his Queen and everything, but I'd never in my life ridicule my own SA brothers just to prove some ridiculous point.

I wouldn't be surprised if she's engaged or married to one rich Nigerian Oga right now... Even you should've given her a chance... ... Don't you want a passport sis as a wife?

dammie4j:
She just flew in from O'Tambo and first touch down in Abuja. Her end location was Lekki, Lagos. And of course in Nigeria for fun. She never kept it secret.

Samantha125:
Oh! She was even headed to Lekki? This just proves my point... She was obviously looking for a rich Nigerian Oga who'll upgrade her into a trophy wife so that she can start making noise on social media about how Nigerian men are better than SA men when she'd have slept with half those SA men before deciding to settle for Mr Oga.

Sometimes I don't get these sisters of mine, I'm married to a foreign national myself even though he's now a South African by naturalisation since he was raised here... He treats me like his Queen and everything, but I'd never in my life ridicule my own SA brothers just to prove some ridiculous point.

I wouldn't be surprised if she's engaged or married to one rich Nigerian Oga right now... Even you should've given her a chance... ... Don't you want a passport sis as a wife?

Lol. Wife ke That's where you're wrong. We prefer to have them just for the fun and immediate moment. I speak for not all but lots. Unfortunately, they really don't get it and delusional and cry foul in the end.

Even those who even get married to them do so for personal, business or diplomatic reasons so still a win.

In my case, I just wanted a one off hit. I had to let go cos I assumed she'll be much of a burden on setting and integrating at that time, i no be "tour guide."

It's never a bad idea to marry for other interests like dual citizenship. I'm opportuned to work with expatriates that did. You may not want to ask why

IMO, I don't consider SA as attractive for a dual citizenship But, it's a fun destination for the brotherhood

You can't tell me that I'm wrong when your brothers always make sure to show these ladies off... And those ladies would also be all over social media making noise about it, when they're ready to retire, most of them would look for a Nigerian man to settle down with... I dare you to go and check the backgrounds of most of those SA ladies married to Nigerian men and you'll see what I'm talking about.

dammie4j:
Lol. Wife ke That's where you're wrong. We prefer to have them just for the fun and immediate moment. I speak for not all but lots. Unfortunately, they really don't get it and delusional and cry foul in the end.

Even those who even get married to them do so for personal, business or diplomatic reasons so still a win.

In my case, I just wanted a one off hit. I had to let go cos I assumed she'll be much of a burden on setting and integrating at that time, i no be "tour guide."

It's never a bad idea to marry for other interests like dual citizenship. I'm opportuned to work with expatriates that did. You may not want to ask why

IMO, I don't consider SA as attractive for a dual citizenship But, it's a fun destination for the brotherhood

How that one take concern us now, just give me one reason why I should give a shot,

MrHandsome2013:
But I don give her belle after we do the thing and plan to do introduction next month

Then why did you open this thread when your mind is already made up?