₦airaland Forum

A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

Why do you depend on a street sister to find you a girl you will date for marriage? Is it that there is a community where the world-best girls come from and only the street sister knows the community? So, you can't find a girl from your village, from the city where you live, from the schools you are attended, from your workplace and from other places you visit?

I suspect that you have a very bad reputation, especially with the way you treat women. If not, you could have attracted a good woman without the help of your street sister.

For the assistance, you even chose a street sister over your siblings or other relatives. It shows that you are probably harsh to most of the people around you.

brain54:
I don't understand some of the issues you raised...

You want her data to never get exhausted?

It’s an indirect way of asking for money to buy data. She mentioned similar thing yesterday in our conversation when I requested for a video call. She said she doesn’t have enough data.

In the first place, why would I have to hear such? I make video calls all the time and my data rarely gets exhausted and if it does, I don’t need to explain to the other person. I simply go my bank app, reload, and call back.

The one that give goosebumps is when she said N1m for just monthly expenses

Many Nigerians earn up to N200k per month.

Oga run,

She lied about the only she was bringing to the relationship. Apart from prayer, she would also bring kpekus

drehdinho:
It’s an indirect way of asking for money to buy data. She mentioned similar thing yesterday in our conversation when I requested for a video call. She said she doesn’t have enough data.

In the first place, why would I have to hear such? I make video calls all the time and my data rarely gets exhausted and if it does, I don’t need to explain to the other person. I simply go my bank app, reload, and call back.

Ok I see that...


The person that connected you to her ought to have gauged you and the standard you expected!

U re not as comfortable as u portray in ur story if not ur street sister won't find u a secondary school drop out as a potential wife

When they want to ask for urgent 2k, It's either my data will soon finish or I don't have data 😂

brain54:
I don't understand some of the issues you raised...

You want her data to never get exhausted?

So that is the only thing you picked from the trillion points he made?

She doesn't have any kobo to start a business right now but she is telling her would be husband that she will be needing 1m naira monthly for house upkeep hmmm. Very very dangerous level of thoughts for a broke lady.

flames007:
So that is the only thing you picked from the trillion points he made?

I said some...

It means there were other points. But that's what I felt like highlighting on.

He made trillion points?

Ok o. Baba agba!

Na I never chop girlfriend Dem matchmake for you bro😁

pdppower:
She lied about the only she was bringing to the relationship. Apart from prayer, she would also bring kpekus

Prayer + kpekus is a nice combo for our Nigerian women

Odogwu who are you leaving your achalugo for na?

These ladies are something else. God knows I'll be something else too when I want to get married.

He wants to invest and then you want to be 100% in ownership of the business?

Sadly most men would agree to this. Go on Facebook, all a girl even a single mother need say is I'm lonely or in need of a relationship and you'll see guys queuing up in her dm.

Alot of men act too desperately and with no goals.

Op, please structure your life.

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

i just noticed she is an illiterate
and would fail any intellectual questions

Why can’t you date another lawyer? Why rely on someone else to find you a spouse?

Honestly you're funny.

She was even genuine to you...just teach her on how to reason with people

Rexymania:
Honestly you're funny.

She was even genuine to you...just teach her on how to reason with people

As her father right?

Making my post with forty words

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

I understand with you completely why you don't need her, but not why you told the lady never to bring such girl your way again... Wasn't her fault coz she never asked the girl all these questions...

She's simply not your taste and class same way you are not someone's else taste and class in other terms...

Don't write her off, I have seen someone marry such lady and trained her to his standard and she's doing well today...

Nonexisting1:
As her father right?

Making my post with forty words

Yes na, you're like a father to herrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Her type full her for nairaland. I for like mention names, but for peace to reign I won't

Rexymania:
Yes na, you're like a father to herrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Simps who are yet to be completely finished have this line of thought until it's already too late. If her father no train am, no carry her put for house. It will end in premium tears after you done father her finish and she finally grow up.

Nonexisting1:
Simps who are yet to be completely finished have this line of thought until it's already too late. If her father no train am, no carry her put for house. It will end in premium tears after you done father her finish and she finally grow up.

Who tell you say I be simp? Me dey catch cruise
Wetin concern me?

Holding 100% ownership of a business somebody else invested heavily in is wickedness
Why do women behave somehow
Even the rich ones will still bill you 😕

Rexymania:
Who tell you say I be simp? Me dey catch cruise
Wetin concern me?

Real simps are never sarcastic so I knew you were catching cruise which was why I was not direct in my response.

pdppower:
She lied about the only she was bringing to the relationship. Apart from prayer, she would also bring kpekus

Not only kpekus, she's also bringing brezz to the table

Kai!! Una still dey look for woman for this great tinubulation? You beta tie your pri.ck join ur left thigh make u no go wound yourself.🥱

Asking a street sister to set you up already shows you are an unserious person.
The street sister too is just trying to run you street. Look for someone that has time to waste and see what they can cash out from you. Who your hand in marriage help??