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If you are really good looking and earn the figure you quoted you shouldn’t have problem getting ladies offline and online, maybe you lack self confidence and you don’t have necessary OT, even someone who isn’t good looking and earn well don’t have problem getting girls, check yourself and focus on one lady at a time

Tekashi89:
Even the Mr nice, broke guy or shy girl will still see a girl that'll choose him

Honestly, if this dude is not lying then there's something fundamentally wrong with him.🥱

All the advice I've red to this dude is super dupe mehn. Just relax no rush to get any girl, when ladies sense desperation they start acting funny, toast one girl at a time ( the one u like or not) just train yourself anyhow anyhow to change pattern of approach. Talk to them like you're talking to a guy no fidgeting, nor mixing word , feel free enjoy Ur conversation. And you still guide join Omo👊

LIVINGICONREBOR:
Honestly, if this dude is not lying then there's something fundamentally wrong with him.🥱

I'm not lying bro this what I faced

Kaido:
How do you walk or carry yourself?
Women can smell a man that lacks confidence. Build your confidence. If you the type that flaunts cash stop it.

Church is not the only place to find a wife.
Learn to converse intellecting with ladies without even collecting numbers.
Stop telling women they look beautiful but instead compliment their hair, clothes..."you smell so good."

I work with confidence, I'm fit , maybe because I don't joke around too much

Hypnotise:
Probably you may seem too excited or formal,see them as men and just rapour naturally with them, not will you be my gf

this one na the best advice be that brof

1STCREATURE:
Please I really need genuine advice.

I’ve collected the numbers of more than 12 girls in my church — and every single one rejected me. Not even friendship, just straight rejection.

I know I’m not bad-looking — I’d rate myself above 7/10, no exaggeration. I dress well, I keep myself neat, I have curly hair and a good physique. I also earn over ₦500k monthly, so money is not my problem.

I don’t even live in the city — just a town here in the Southwest — by local standards, I know I’m doing well for my age.

I’ll be 30 next month, and honestly, I’m mentally tired. I’ve never even had a serious relationship — marriage talk is far.

The funny part is, I don’t even talk too much in church. I’m not loud, but when I try to approach someone, it never works out.

Please, I really want to know — what could be my problem?


I’ll appreciate real advice, please no insults. 🙏

Thank you all.


CAN I BE TOO INTIMIDATING?

asking if you're "too intimidating" shows you have a touch of arrogance in your character which is a huge turn off for women as it's a close companion of immaturity, boastfulness and emotional abuse. This is just my analysis and I may be wrong but going by what I've observed, I suggest you genuinely learn to be humble and start your dating pursuits in a company neutral location maybe a gym or another branch of your church. Don't show yourself or brag even jokingly. Just remain friendly with all and if there's one you like, focus on her alone and invite her out to lunch or a drink across the road after fellowship or workers meeting etc. Don't say anything about relationship o but once in a while, press her airtime of 1k or 2k and be observing her to see her deeper qualities and if she passes your test, get her a small gift like a perfume or tshirt. Something thoughtful but doesn't say romance while she gets comfortable being around you. You can say "I went shopping and thought this would look nice on you" THEN if you guys are still comfortable around each other, you can invite her for a friend's occasion. If she passes their test, casually invite her to that of your family's. Buy her aso ebi and give her money for tailor.
You have to go about love the old school way instead of like a Hot rabbit which they'll see easily. Let me know if you need more expo

1STCREATURE:
I work with confidence, I'm fit , maybe because I don't joke around too much

I don't talk much but when I do, people listen.

Earlier this morning I thought of something & was smiling alone. A lady saw me & asked why am I smiling, naso I jokingly told her something that also made her smile. When you become free & happy, ladies would always want to be around to know what's making you happy.

Never be a clown, tell her something funny and continue with whatever activity you doing.

1STCREATURE:
Please I really need genuine advice.

I’ve collected the numbers of more than 12 girls in my church — and every single one rejected me. Not even friendship, just straight rejection.

I know I’m not bad-looking — I’d rate myself above 7/10, no exaggeration. I dress well, I keep myself neat, I have curly hair and a good physique. I also earn over ₦500k monthly, so money is not my problem.

I don’t even live in the city — just a town here in the Southwest — by local standards, I know I’m doing well for my age.

I’ll be 30 next month, and honestly, I’m mentally tired. I’ve never even had a serious relationship — marriage talk is far.

The funny part is, I don’t even talk too much in church. I’m not loud, but when I try to approach someone, it never works out.

Please, I really want to know — what could be my problem?


I’ll appreciate real advice, please no insults. 🙏

Thank you all.


CAN I BE TOO INTIMIDATING?

just chill bro. Go and check my new post. I just clocked 30 and all my life i never had any serious relationship. I felt like maybe i was alien. Confidence gone.

But while keep trying, i met this girl o, a virgin sef. Very respectful and understanding and pretty too

So just keep trying

KillahPriest:
asking if you're "too intimidating" shows you have a touch of arrogance in your character which is a huge turn off for women as it's a close companion of immaturity, boastfulness and emotional abuse. This is just my analysis and I may be wrong but going by what I've observed, I suggest you genuinely learn to be humble and start your dating pursuits in a company neutral location maybe a gym or another branch of your church. Don't show yourself or brag even jokingly. Just remain friendly with all and if there's one you like, focus on her alone and invite her out to lunch or a drink across the road after fellowship or workers meeting etc. Don't say anything about relationship o but once in a while, press her airtime of 1k or 2k and be observing her to see her deeper qualities and if she passes your test, get her a small gift like a perfume or tshirt. Something thoughtful but doesn't say romance while she gets comfortable being around you. You can say "I went shopping and thought this would look nice on you" THEN if you guys are still comfortable around each other, you can invite her for a friend's occasion. If she passes their test, casually invite her to that of your family's. Buy her aso ebi and give her money for tailor.
You have to go about love the old school way instead of like a Hot rabbit which they'll see easily. Let me know if you need more expo

more expo bro

You don't approach women , you attract them. Once they are attracted to you then everything becomes easy from there. Learn how to attract women. It's not about how much you make , how good you look or how well you dress.

KillahPriest:
press her airtime of 1k or 2k and be observing her to see her
You have to go about love the old school way instead of like a Hot rabbit which they'll see easily. Let me know if you need more expo

you were getting it till a point you lost it.
This right here..

Don't say anything about relationship o but once in a while, press her airtime of 1k or 2k

you press a woman 2k worth of airtime, and the next thing she tells you is that she have a crush that tops her with 10k card every week. some won’t even regard your gift. op never do this in the initial stage.

get her a small gift like a perfume or tshirt. Something thoughtful but doesn't say romance while she gets comfortable being around you.

Common man, why you would advise him to do that? this is just hilarious.
what if after doing all this and she hits him with the rejection line? “ sorry i like you as friend but i’m not looking for a relationship now” all those investments and time gone down the drain.

women are only loyal to their emotion. hence whenever they loses interest in a man, they just work away like he never existed, disregarding every investment he had made on them.. if you like a lady declare your interest from the start by having interest to get laid with her. don’t act like a fool writing Shakespeare epistle to her.

Buy her aso ebi and give her money for tailor.
You have to go about love the old school way instead of like a Hot rabbit which they'll see easily

Another hilarious point. since you want to turn your pocket to her personal atm, how then do you get her invested in you? if she can’t get aso ebi and sew it with her own money then she’s not investing in your affairs.
our women have so evolved in character, following them the old school way won’t just cut it in the dating world.

The right way to go about women isn’t too complex.
1. After your first date with her just for the sake of familiarity.

2. Next date with her should be at your house, this’s where you get laid.

3. make her invest in you monetarily. Directly or indirectly. ever noticed a beautiful young woman stuck with one broke jobless handsome guy? and you keep asking why can’t she just walk away from the r/ship

You have a low swlf esteem and are mentally insecure, these ladies can sense these from very far away reasons for giving you the rejections.

You have to work on yourself and focus on yourself 100%.

peanutbutterr:
you were getting it till a point you lost it.
This right here..


you press a woman 2k worth of airtime, and the next thing she tells you is that she have a crush that tops her with 10k card every week. some won’t even regard your gift. op never do this in the initial stage.



Common man, why you would advise him to do that? this is just hilarious.
what if after doing all this and she hits him with the rejection line? “ sorry i like you as friend but i’m not looking for a relationship now” all those investments and time gone down the drain.

women are only loyal to their emotion. hence whenever they loses interest in a man, they just work away like he never existed, disregarding every investment he had made on them.. if you like a lady declare your interest from the start by having interest to get laid with her. don’t act like a fool writing Shakespeare epistle to her.



Another hilarious point. since you want to turn your pocket to her personal atm, how then do you get her invested in you? if she can’t get aso ebi and sew it with her own money then she’s not investing in your affairs.
our women have so evolved in character, following them the old school way won’t just cut it in the dating world.

The right way to go about women isn’t too complex.
1. After your first date with her just for the sake of familiarity.

2. Next date with her should be at your house, this’s where you get laid.

3. make her invest in you monetarily. Directly or indirectly. ever noticed a beautiful young woman stuck with one broke jobless handsome guy? and you keep asking why can’t she just walk away from the r/ship

there are different styles to everything. Some are slow while some are fast. Is getting laid the primary intention of his dating a girl from his church ? My process is meant for him to properly gauge her character while pretending he's of modest means with marriage as the end goal. Getting laid when you have money is the easiest thing in the world, finding true love especially from a responsible lady isn't hence the need to showcase her to friends and family via social functions so they can see what he doesn't

KillahPriest:
there are different styles to everything. Some are slow while some are fast. Is getting laid the primary intention of his dating a girl from his church ? My process is meant for him to properly gauge her character while pretending he's of modest means with marriage as the end goal. Getting laid when you have money is the easiest thing in the world, finding true love especially from a responsible lady isn't hence the need to showcase her to friends and family via social functions so they can see what he doesn't

getting laid seems to be among the easiest of things especially now se*x is transactional these days. let’s not digress, i’m writing in reference to op encounter with women.
everything in life has a template, life itself has a blueprint so as women, and what i stated earlier are just few guidelines every man should have on his sleeves.

so let’s say op decided to gauge every woman he came across with money and in his write up, he spoke to 12 women.

out of his generosity he sent 5k airtime to each, and let’s say the least, a perfume worth 30k for each encounter.
man is already down 420k in the hole. i’m not an economist but that’s a nonyielding investment.

1STCREATURE:
Please I really need genuine advice.
I’ve collected the numbers of more than 12 girls in my church — and every single one rejected me. Not even friendship, just straight rejection.
I know I’m not bad-looking — I’d rate myself above 7/10, no exaggeration. I dress well, I keep myself neat, I have curly hair and a good physique. I also earn over ₦500k monthly, so money is not my problem.
I don’t even live in the city — just a town here in the Southwest — by local standards, I know I’m doing well for my age.
I’ll be 30 next month, and honestly, I’m mentally tired. I’ve never even had a serious relationship — marriage talk is far.
The funny part is, I don’t even talk too much in church. I’m not loud, but when I try to approach someone, it never works out.
Please, I really want to know — what could be my problem?
I’ll appreciate real advice, please no insults. 🙏
Thank you all.
CAN I BE TOO INTIMIDATING?

My response is addressed to the OP, but to ANY man that has experienced loneliness as a result of rejections from women they approached.

When I broke up with a long term girlfriend a couple of years ago, I went through a rough time of getting rejected by one woman after the other, and those failures to connect sent me on a quest to decode the female mind, with a view to understanding how best to approach the beautiful women I yearned to connect with, in a manner that assured success and minimized instances of rejection.

YouTube is full of so-called dating coaches, but only a small percentage of them offer advice that actually works in real life. The one dating coach that revolutionized my thinking and changed my life profoundly, is a man called Dan Bacon from Australia. Dan Bacon's book entitled "The Flow" is costly at $100 or 160K naira, BUT that cost proved worthwhile for me because the message in that book cannot be found anywhere else online. More importantly, the eBook called "The Flow" works ANYWHERE in the world, and in ALL cultures.

https://www.themodernman.com/blog/the-flow-ebook.html

For those unwilling to spend 160K naira on a single book, the good news is that Dan Bacon has uploaded dozens of video tutorials on how men can drastically improve their success meeting young and beautiful women, and those video tutorials are absolutely FREE, at this link below. The content of those FREE videos is covered in the eBook called "The Flow", but those video clips are absolutely free to watch.

https://www.youtube.com/@DanBacon_

In a nutshell, the key word that is repeated multiple times in ALL Dan Bacon's presentations, AND in his eBook, is CONFIDENCE when approaching women. To my amazement, I learned from Dan Bacon that most of the assumptions that we men have about women are NOT as valid as society would have us believe.

Specifically, it is NOT great wealth, huge gym-built muscles, flashy cars, trendy clothes or boasting that are required to succeed with women. Matter of fact, this world is full of wealthy men who are profoundly lonely and who wind up settling for prostitutes or isolation because they simply have NO idea how to approach women the right way.

Watch Dan Bacon's video library for free, or better still, buy his eBook called "The Flow" and prepare to be amazed at the number of stunningly beautiful women that grace your bedroom once you unlock the mysteries of the female mind under the tutelage of Dan Bacon, the reigning Generalissimo of Seduction.

peanutbutterr:
you were getting it till a point you lost it.
This right here..


you press a woman 2k worth of airtime, and the next thing she tells you is that she have a crush that tops her with 10k card every week. some won’t even regard your gift. op never do this in the initial stage.



Common man, why you would advise him to do that? this is just hilarious.
what if after doing all this and she hits him with the rejection line? “ sorry i like you as friend but i’m not looking for a relationship now” all those investments and time gone down the drain.

women are only loyal to their emotion. hence whenever they loses interest in a man, they just work away like he never existed, disregarding every investment he had made on them.. if you like a lady declare your interest from the start by having interest to get laid with her. don’t act like a fool writing Shakespeare epistle to her.



Another hilarious point. since you want to turn your pocket to her personal atm, how then do you get her invested in you? if she can’t get aso ebi and sew it with her own money then she’s not investing in your affairs.
our women have so evolved in character, following them the old school way won’t just cut it in the dating world.

The right way to go about women isn’t too complex.
1. After your first date with her just for the sake of familiarity.

2. Next date with her should be at your house, this’s where you get laid.

3. make her invest in you monetarily. Directly or indirectly. ever noticed a beautiful young woman stuck with one broke jobless handsome guy? and you keep asking why can’t she just walk away from the r/ship

God will bless u with this writeup here, this s just the best way to follow, don't follow that ESO ebi man oooo, if you follow am you don start waiting you no go fit finish be that and you go cry tired

Same shit I'm going thru nw,I attract girls before,but now I'm going thru rejection.

cutecommend:
Let me help you.

Pray midnight for 4 days, from 12am to 2am.

Prayer point: I break every covenant with the spirit of rejection and I destroy the mysteries and yoke of rejection in Jesus name. Amen.

When you are done it will be easy for you.

Seems you're talking from experience.

Jakumo:
My response is addressed to the OP, but to ANY man that has experienced loneliness as a result of rejections from women they approached.

When I broke up with a long term girlfriend a couple of years ago, I went through a rough time of getting rejected by one woman after the other, and those failures to connect sent me on a quest to decode the female mind, with a view to understanding how best to approach the beautiful women I yearned to connect with, in a manner that assured success and minimized instances of rejection.

YouTube is full of so-called dating coaches, but only a small percentage of them offer advice that actually works in real life. The one dating coach that revolutionized my thinking and changed my life profoundly, is a man called Dan Bacon from Australia. Dan Bacon's book entitled "The Flow" is costly at $100 or 160K naira, BUT that cost proved worthwhile for me because the message in that book cannot be found anywhere else online. More importantly, the eBook called "The Flow" works ANYWHERE in the world, and in ALL cultures.

https://www.themodernman.com/blog/the-flow-ebook.html

For those unwilling to spend 160K naira on a single book, the good news is that Dan Bacon has uploaded dozens of video tutorials on how men can drastically improve their success meeting young and beautiful women, and those video tutorials are absolutely FREE, at this link below. The content of those FREE videos is covered in the eBook called "The Flow", but those video clips are absolutely free to watch.

https://www.youtube.com/@DanBacon_

In a nutshell, the key word that is repeated multiple times in ALL Dan Bacon's presentations, AND in his eBook, is CONFIDENCE when approaching women. To my amazement, I learned from Dan Bacon that most of the assumptions that we men have about women are NOT as valid as society would have us believe.

Specifically, it is NOT great wealth, huge gym-built muscles, flashy cars, trendy clothes or boasting that are required to succeed with women. Matter of fact, this world is full of wealthy men who are profoundly lonely and who wind up settling for prostitutes or isolation because they simply have NO idea how to approach women the right way.

Watch Dan Bacon's video library for free, or better still, buy his eBook called "The Flow" and prepare to be amazed at the number of stunningly beautiful women that grace your bedroom once you unlock the mysteries of the female mind under the tutelage of Dan Bacon, the reigning Generalissimo of Seduction.

nigga shut tf up
U wan use scope sell book
Op don't listen to this mf

1STCREATURE:
Please I really need genuine advice.

I’ve collected the numbers of more than 12 girls in my church — and every single one rejected me. Not even friendship, just straight rejection.

I know I’m not bad-looking — I’d rate myself above 7/10, no exaggeration. I dress well, I keep myself neat, I have curly hair and a good physique. I also earn over ₦500k monthly, so money is not my problem.

I don’t even live in the city — just a town here in the Southwest — by local standards, I know I’m doing well for my age.

I’ll be 30 next month, and honestly, I’m mentally tired. I’ve never even had a serious relationship — marriage talk is far.

The funny part is, I don’t even talk too much in church. I’m not loud, but when I try to approach someone, it never works out.

Please, I really want to know — what could be my problem?


I’ll appreciate real advice, please no insults. 🙏

Thank you all.


CAN I BE TOO INTIMIDATING?

I don't believe you have this qualities and girls will still be rejecting if you need help u need to be brutally honest with urself and nairaland is not the best place to come for dating advice

U said u make 500k monthly and girls still reject you u said u are good-looking and girls no dey look urside Omo na lie oo
I no believe

If you have this qualities and u have no bitches Omo it means ur self esteem is low and u don't have a social life
Are you always indoors do u have an interesting personality coz is not all about looks and money because money can't buy love
Are you a virgin,do you have friends have u been in a serious relationship how interesting is ur social group all these are questions u should ask urself ok
Because I've seen loosers get laid Even an introverted person like me still gets laid once in a while hmmm
Bro work on urself oo

🌺

You wey no get #30k for account

Marc3500:
I don't believe you have this qualities and girls will still be rejecting if you need help u need to be brutally honest with urself and nairaland is not the best place to come for dating advice

U said u make 500k monthly and girls still reject you u said u are good-looking and girls no dey look urside Omo na lie oo
I no believe

If you have this qualities and u have no bitches Omo it means ur self esteem is low and u don't have a social life
Are you always indoors do u have an interesting personality coz is not all about looks and money because money can't buy love
Are you a virgin,do you have friends have u been in a serious relationship how interesting is ur social group all these are questions u should ask urself ok
Because I've seen loosers get laid Even an introverted person like me still gets laid once in a while hmmm
Bro work on urself oo

I don't really go out like that though majorly to church and I wasn't even thinking maybe is because of age because I approach girls in there 20's mostly

1STCREATURE:
I don't really go out like that though majorly to church and I wasn't even thinking maybe is because of age because I approach girls in there 20's mostly

Good man. You have the right taste. I cannot understand why any man would go after a woman over the age of 25, because after the age of 30, women start to embody those restless spirits of anger, jealousy and hate. Stay with women in the 20 to 23 age bracket, and the world will turn.

Jakumo:
Good man. You have the right taste. I cannot understand why any man would go after a woman over the age of 25, because after the age of 30, women start to embody those restless spirits of anger, jealousy and hate. Stay with women in the 20 to 23 age bracket, and the world will turn.

Hang on good and noble sire. Are you not contradicting yourself? You have famously preached that these escapades are strictly for academic inquiry into sexual science. Not for any relationship-ish things which can release the aforementioned anger, jealousy and hate.

Thus if it is for sexual studies alone, leave that thing. It will shock you just how juicy older women can be. Women in their 20s are still mostly kids, I insist.

1STCREATURE:
YEs bro i don't knw wat I'm doing wrong honestly bro

You aren’t showing off. On Sunday go to pulpit donate 50K for fake thanks giving . Problem solved, and start talking people with money never say anything stupid.

DeepSight:
Hang on good and noble sire. Are you not contradicting yourself? You have famously preached that these escapades are strictly for academic inquiry into sexual science. Not for any relationship-ish things which can release the aforementioned anger, jealousy and hate.

Thus if it is for sexual studies alone, leave that thing. It will shock you just how juicy older women can be. Women in their 20s are still mostly kids, I insist.

Your wry sense of humor is an appreciated rarity in this forum where swords are drawn over the most trivial of disagreements, Ogaawa Barrister DeepSight.

In pondering over your insistence that older women offer tangible pleasures to some men, I readily confess to having been brainwashed in my formative years by the standard of nubile feminine beauty that is to be found in the centerfold pages of Playboy Magazine, whose nude models are rarely above the age of 25.

Firm, gravity defiant, perky yet supple and jiggly breasts, toned midriffs, and grab-sized derrières that only women in their early twenties sport, were in those early years etched permanently in my mind as the essential triggers for sexual attractiveness in women, from my perspective as a man whose taste remains fixed and unwavering despite the passage of time.

Concurrent with the inexorable waning of physical beauty as gravity and age take their toll on a woman over 25, their fundamental character traits also devolve away from the fun-loving, cheerful demeanor of youth that women in their twenties are blessed with, into an unforgiving, bitter, jealous, and calculating nature, as all women age past that 30-year milestone. Given that I seek female company to relax and relieve stress, I naturally gravitate to younger, sleeker models, just as my interest in the older specimens fades until they become essentially invisible from my highly selective perspective.

In short, E get as e be.

Jakumo:
Your wry sense of humor is an appreciated rarity in this forum where swords are drawn over the most trivial of disagreements, Ogaawa Barrister DeepSight.

In pondering over your insistence that older women offer tangible pleasures to some men, I readily confess to having been brainwashed in my formative years by the standard of nubile feminine beauty that is to be found in the centerfold pages of Playboy Magazine, whose nude models are rarely above the age of 25.

Firm, gravity defiant, perky yet supple and jiggly breasts, toned midriffs, and grab-sized derrières that only women in their early twenties sport, were in those early years etched permanently in my mind as the essential triggers for sexual attractiveness in women, from my perspective as a man whose taste remains fixed and unwavering despite the passage of time.

Concurrent with the inexorable waning of physical beauty as gravity and age take their toll on a woman over 25, their fundamental character traits also devolve away from the fun-loving, cheerful demeanor of youth that women in their twenties are blessed with, into an unforgiving, bitter, jealous, and calculating nature, as all women age past that 30-year milestone. Given that I seek female company to relax and relieve stress, I naturally gravitate to younger, sleeker models, just as my interest in the older specimens fades until they become essentially invisible from my highly selective perspective.

In short, E get as e be.

They don,t know your worth
yet. Don't ask them to be your girl friend instead show them your worth by talking about your business a little, invite her to your apartment for her to see how comfortable you are. dress like a nigga and not a church man. Don't show despiracy by ignoring are bad behavior rather confront her. If she likes you, she will vibe with you, then pick up from there. You will be surprise she will be the first to call you her boy friend. But if she is making things difficult, don't border asking her to be your girl friend, rather move on to the next available woman who has given you green light.