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Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

You have given access to the pot, he has tasted the meat, now you demand will be low, he is on to another lady. In case of another time don't allow a man to get access to your candy without marrying if your interest is marriage

Please hold a conversation with your partner.

Tell him why you tried to stop. He is showing you who the boss is. You want no, he is giving you your no. He may not be getting it anywhere but trying to humble you.

Hold a conversation with your partner and free yourself.

What do you women really want sef??

You said you don't want sex, he stopped asking for it.....now you come here complaining he is no longer asking for sex!!

Allow the man to breathe na...haba

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

Sister please look for a new relationship asap, you’ve been misused.

Okay be like say person go dey write rubbish on top this yeye 40 characters

Amotolongbo:
Sister please look for a new relationship asap, you’ve been misused.

How has she been misused? Can you explain? I don’t get

You can't weaponize sex and expect him not to look for it elsewhere... He's probably found another woman who's always ready meet his sexual needs.

And how is he your fiance when you guys are not even engaged?

Women are confused beings for real. Your second paragraph sold you out. Using something basic as sex to think you can (hold, command or compel ) a man, is the biggest draw back . He was begging (and I know he also cried too) just to hit the ground running, and you were giving excuses. Now he is no longer begging, not only begging, but he is no longer interested in how sexy and hot you think you may be and now you're the one crying, lol OMG

Girl if you feel he is cheating, better let him be or move out.

Sex is not love . They are many things you can bring to the table beyond sex. Don't stress yourself overthinking things, if someone loves you their presence is enough joy for you.

Women and manipulation.

You weaponize the sex intentionally and the man stopped asking. You are still the one complaining.

You are denying the man the only thing you have to offer while enjoying all the benefits he has to offer and still complaining.

Continue ooo. You will soon be thrown out of that house and you can kuku close your legs in peace and pay your own bills too in peace.

What do you people really want? You no wan give the guy, you no wan still make the guy rest as e no dey ask again.🥱

It is very difficult to understand a woman. And for ages, there have always been an unanswered question; What do women truly want?

You weaponised sex and even restricted your man from having access to you because you feel he's just into you for the sex. And now, he's chosen to do your bidding by not initiating sex, you feel he's cheating?

What do you really want?
Him begging for sex every time?
No nau.

Not all men are simps.
And it will surprise you that he ain't cheating. He just can't beg you again for sex. Feels like you're doing it under duress.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed.

Any man that agrees to this, there is something he is not telling you.

You can't be wiser than your ancestors

You are not a virgin but he should propose before sex lol. Some of you always think you are the smartest, but your smart will end up showing your level of foolishness. Women weaponizing sex have nothing more valuable to offer.

Men, Any woman that start giving you conditions discard her fast. A woman will always have conditions for a man she doesn't love.

He is not married to you now, why then are you worried if he is cheating.
If i have a girlfriend and I try to initiate sex and she declines, I will also assume she is cheating. And you can't play that game with a guy we are the best at dishing it back.

This is a situationship
Imma say it again; this is a situationship

Otilor

He has seen the limitations of what is between the legs, and that over 50 million people have it. Thus, he musn't worship one!

Some low life boys will come out now and throw their weight on the lady.


Among them who enjoy the act. Men sex for ego, women sex for pleasure.

Using sex to do a guy longer throat is a turn off for me.

Amotolongbo:
Sister please look for a new relationship asap, you’ve been misused.

You don't have to quote everything. Just go to reply' and put your comment. Everybody knows the thread you are reacting to

The most thing here is his future plan for you. Has he done the necessary to show he wants to wife you

When we tell you to say capital NO to premarital sex alias fornication and its elder sibling adultery, una go call all manners of names. Now he has collected everything from you. What will make your husband or marriage special?

Avoid premarital sex and extra marital sex. Be sincerely and truth in all your dealings during courtship.

ayoncox:
You have given access to the pot, he has tasted the meat, now you demand will be low, he is on to another lady. In case of another time don't allow a man to get access to your candy without marrying if your interest is marriage

This is the truth and the best advice on this matter. Now you have nowhere to run. What is your plan now?

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

You have to sit him down and tell him your concern. But you have to stick to the no sex, if he loves you he'd stay without it. However how do you guys stay in a direction less relationship

There are different things here.

First you are using sex as a weapon which men like me hate with passion. Maybe him as well.

On the other hand, you feel cheated because he's getting what he wants and you're not.

Admittedly, it's hard to have no sex in a long term relationship among non virgins or non -celibates. It's even harder to stop when you've started.

Yes, he wants it. He's only proving tough with you and he's not enjoying the treatment .I can tell you that.

To even the field, you need to guage his trajectory. How do you see your relationship? Is he serious and honest with you? If you have doubts, then perhaps stop giving him altogether and put the relationship on pause until you're certain you guys are on the same page.

If you're confident about his intentions, then you need to ask him straight. Women need to add the pressure too because young men aren't usually ready to ponder on marital topics.

In addition, men in committed relationships do not want to be put in an honest yes or no position. Ask him straight what his intentions are and he has to give a straight answer. If he turns you left and right, save yourself the stress and move on.

Legs wey you dey spread like butter when you were in your prime...now, you want to pussy whip him.

"Since the start of May...." yen yen yen!
So, konji sef dey hook you eh? Abi you've lost your grip on the whip

I hope your new year resolution of stopping intimacy includes stopping to ask him for money? Tell your boyfriend that a man here is so proud of him for not giving in to a weaponized pussy.

'told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it'. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.


'At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there'


When will Nigerian ladies be smart enough? Whenever you mention i don't want to have sex and you are not w virgin i immediately see you as a scammer as well as a manipulator, I usually run from such ladies because they don't usually offer much but only looking to put marriage only in front it's w big red flag.

For ladies in this shoes, I always advise whenever you tell a man about withholding sex because you want to get to know his character traits excluding sex also tell him money will also be excluded because he should know your character traits excluding money. In such a situation you guys have the rare opportunity to understand yourself well without sex and money

N/B this isn't about you but for every lady who has the opinion of withholding sex while expecting the man not to withhold his money

Aa regards to your mans indifference, talk things out

First of all, don't weaponize sex in your relationship or marriage. I understand that premarital sex is sin and all that but since we are being practical, don't weaponize sex.

Secondly, you are not a virgin but suddenly you don't want to have sex before marriage? Well, that doesn't work for me. If a girl is proposing no sex relationship, she has to be a virgin. All those area boys cannot eat free cookie and then you want to form decency with me.

Thirdly, I initiate sex, but I will never beg for sex. When I initiate sex and the girl gives me dull vibes, we ain't having that sex again, if it happens three times, I ain't initiating any sex unless she does with reasonable apology.

The best thing to do is sit his ass down and honestly talk to him about how sorry you are, and don't mean to treat him this way.

I no go talk my mind, I know what she doesn't know.
I ain't pointing finger