₦airaland Forum

Ab025:
What do you women really want sef??

You said you don't want sex, he stopped asking for it.....now you come here complaining he is no longer asking for sex!!

Allow the man to breathe na...haba

They want a man to be begging for it every now and then. No man has time for that anymore even in marriage.

Blessed4sure:
✓ Why bother if your relationshipis going fine?
Having sex while unmarried is very wrong in the first place. Sex is designed to be exclusively between two people fully committed to each other, in marriage. Even many species of animals (swans, penguins, owls, wolves etc.) get this.

You folks and speaking through both sides of your mouths is unbelievable! How can the relationship be going fine if according to the same you, sex while unmarried is wrong? 🤔🙄🙄

ayoncox:
You have given access to the pot, he has tasted the meat, now you demand will be low, he is on to another lady. In case of another time don't allow a man to get access to your candy without marrying if your interest is marriage

We go still chop outside even with the ring on the finger. Let that sink in.

Geesaintagape:
✓ Why do women believe that men's life revolve around sex?
✓ U decided to keep off sex till marriage or whatever,the guy decided to cooperate now u are worried. I don't understand.

1. Because the average Nigerian man talks about sex as though it is food for living. 🤔

2. Don't gaslight her, abeg! She probably has food reason to be concerned since at this point, she is sort of forcing him into a sexless situation.

ShenTeh:
✓ Please hold a conversation with your partner.
Tell him why you tried to stop. He is showing you who the boss is. You want no, he is giving you your no. He may not be getting it anywhere but trying to humble you.
Hold a conversation with your partner and free yourself.

Better still, she should exit the relationship altogether. She is literally forcing a change on him -- going form unrestricted to no sex at all. At this point, the relationship might as well be forced.

Nonexisting1:
I hope your new year resolution of stopping intimacy includes stopping to ask him for money? Tell your boyfriend that a man here is so proud of him for not giving in to a weaponized pussy.

Meerkat 101 for relationships

People still dey do this kind relationship?
Well well well!!!
Bro dey give you and your cookie space and you dey here dey complain
So begging for sex is now commitment, i didn't know ooh..
Some females dey purposely do this thing

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

upon all the problems wey dey this country see the kind nonsense wey dey worry you.

You and who are speaking from both sides of the mouth? Where did I equate having a working relationship to being religious or being right on every single point?

Relationships do work well even if some aspects are wrong, such as pre-marital sex. No one said you have to know or please God before your relationship goes fine. Pagans, atheists, and non Christians have working relationships and marriages, from a secular perspective.

Also, the guy could have realized his faults and decided to change.

Kobojunkie:
You folks and speaking through both sides of your mouths is unbelievable! How can the relationship be going fine if according to the same you, sex while unmarried is wrong? 🤔🙄🙄

As in !!!! That gender would always turn your brain to Dj turn table, now the music is too slow, no it too fast, no ita too high, no its too low and Hell why did you stop the music. Never know what that want.

Ab025:
What do you women really want sef??

You said you don't want sex, he stopped asking for it.....now you come here complaining he is no longer asking for sex!!

Allow the man to breathe na...haba

Sex doesn't keep a man. If you like, give a man sex for fear of loosing him; when he's done with you, he would ditch you still.

Be chaste, una no go hear word thinking say una wise pass God

ayoncox:
You have given access to the pot, he has tasted the meat, now you demand will be low, he is on to another lady. In case of another time don't allow a man to get access to your candy without marrying if your interest is marriage

This assertion of yours is baseless. If he really wants to marry her, he will marry her, with or without premarital sex. If he doesn't love her before marriage, he wouldn't love her in marriage.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

For that guy to have stayed with you for 1 year and haven't proposed then he's not serious with you. With that in place don't give in again. Stay on your no sex resolution. If he really take you serious he'd stick around and put effort for the relationship to work. If he's indifferent then sister you need to start looking for other baskets for your precious eggs. I repeat, for him to stay for one year without proposal then he's not serious with you yet and you need to start making alternatives

Fornication is a destroyer of destiny. It's a dangerous thing to be having sex to an unmarried partner and still be praying against the demon of your Destiny. God is merciful.

Remove sex from your relationship and seek after God with all your heart. This life is very dangerous and spiritual. May God give you understanding.

Are you ‘wifeable’? If your answer is 100% YES, he would marry you. But if not, I doubt if things can go your way.
Your man is out there, sampling women with his energetic gym fitness, which makes him lasts longer in bed. You too can confirm he lasts longer. And there are women out there who only want that long lasting man. They don’t care if he doesn’t marry them. It’s either they are not ready for marriage or they are single moms or divorcées, married, widowed etc. He may end up with one of them who he feels is more ‘wifeable’.

You are being used as a test sample for his home.

There will be someone better than you who will give him all the sex he wants. Have you considered the fact that he may not enjoy sex with you? You may be boring and lacking in that dept?

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

/

He found a better replacement. What's there not to understand?
Everyone is expendable! If he dumps you, what will he miss? You both enjoyed each other.

/

How can you be in same bed with a man and deny him of pleasure. Don't expect a child not to eat outside if you fail to provide for him at home. I'm in full support of him cheating.

How can adults be sleeping with themselves that place is dirty..disgusting

Ab025:
What do you women really want sef??

You said you don't want sex, he stopped asking for it.....now you come here complaining he is no longer asking for sex!!

Allow the man to breathe na...haba

Honestly the guy seems to have been tired of begging al the time hence he decided that well it’s your choice probably you might has said something that really pain him so seat him down and ask him but I guess you have made a statement that really hit him and he decided never to initiate sex again except you requested for it only because Nigeria girls overestimate themselves which is very bad

There is a proverb in Yoruba language that says, if someone is found of being stinging with his or her food, learn to use avoidance of that food to humble him or her. It is likely that he is using your own medicine to humble you. You don't boss a man with anything in a relationship. Don't start what you can not continue. The same way you are suspecting him to be cheating now because he stopped demanding is the same way he has been looking at you as a cheating partner when you stop giving

ayoncox:
You have given access to the pot, he has tasted the meat, now you demand will be low, he is on to another lady. In case of another time don't allow a man to get access to your candy without marrying if your interest is marriage

u be comedian u think a man would like to marry a lady that has not given him sex? ,I don't think is possible in this generation

Ab025:
What do you women really want sef??

You said you don't want sex, he stopped asking for it.....now you come here complaining he is no longer asking for sex!!

Allow the man to breathe na...haba

No mind dem, very confused lots..

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

Baba don get person wey dey manage him 😊

Best of luck o

To please a woman is a very big task very soon woman will start complaining of not been raped
Pleasing a woman is nearly impossible

ayoncox:
You have given access to the pot, he has tasted the meat, now you demand will be low, he is on to another lady. In case of another time don't allow a man to get access to your candy without marrying if your interest is marriage

A man will only buy this idea if she has never had $ex and she's intact as a virgin.

If she has had $ex before.....and you meet a new guy but wants to stay off $ex till marriage is a bull-talk.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

You don't need to concludes he is cheating, it's obvious he is getting tired of begging , if he still taken care of you it means the love is still there. Otherwise he wouldn't honour any request for favor from you as a way of retaliation

You really need to submit yourself for the relationship to work, and do away with fear that he may leave if he had enough of you. After all, there is nothing without risk, we only hope and pay that secceed

The main reason men are still crazy about women is because men don't understand them. The day you fully understand women, you will hardly love them

She knows what to do. She's not a baby

Samantha125:
You can't weaponize sex and expect him not to look for it elsewhere... He's probably found another woman who's always ready meet his sexual needs.

And how is he your fiance when you guys are not even engaged?

Good question.