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Ab025:
What do you women really want sef??

You said you don't want sex, he stopped asking for it.....now you come here complaining he is no longer asking for sex!!

Allow the man to breathe na...haba

Ab025:
What do you women really want sef??

You said you don't want sex, he stopped asking for it.....now you come here complaining he is no longer asking for sex!!

Allow the man to breathe na...haba

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

nwirinedu:
This is someone you expect proposal from yet you wont give him sex. What a joke.

You expect him to propose without sleeping with you? What are you hiding? Its obvious he has moved on from the relationship.

Maybe you re not compatible, or you do not really engage in the act with all your mind, you probably don't wash, keep an untidy appearance of smell.

Sex is one of the most valuable things you can give in the relationship. If you have trouble doing it now better end the relationship, obviously he has moved on.

Know that there are other girls willing to give him what you are withholding, you are not a scarce commodity.

Come down from your imaginary high horse.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

Teymanhenry:
So every relationship should lead to marriage? She didn't even mentioned that she loves him. She just want to marry him. If the man is so much concerned about sex, he can have it multiple times elsewhere. Remember, sex is the cheapest commodity you could sell

Akalia:
I feel for the OP.
A serious man won't keep a woman waiting for that long, I swear down.
When I met my wife we connected and our first time seeing face to face sex happened ,over and over again.

Married her in the space of 6 months.

Ab025:
What do you women really want sef??

You said you don't want sex, he stopped asking for it.....now you come here complaining he is no longer asking for sex!!

Allow the man to breathe na...haba

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

lendahand:
did you meet her a virgin?

Helpout12345:
Women and manipulation.

You weaponize the sex intentionally and the man stopped asking. You are still the one complaining.

You are denying the man the only thing you have to offer while enjoying all the benefits he has to offer and still complaining.

Continue ooo. You will soon be thrown out of that house and you can kuku close your legs in peace and pay your own bills too in peace.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

ayoncox:
You have given access to the pot, he has tasted the meat, now you demand will be low, he is on to another lady. In case of another time don't allow a man to get access to your candy without marrying if your interest is marriage

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

Akalia:
I feel for the OP.
A serious man won't keep a woman waiting for that long, I swear down.
When I met my wife we connected and our first time seeing face to face sex happened ,over and over again.

Married her in the space of 6 months.

And you think what worked for you should be the golden rule

Every man can’t be like you and every woman can’t be like your wife

DrFunmisticGlow:
what you are doing is dumb.

You lock shop and he decided to respect the boundary, now you are suspicious of him cheating.

What exactly is your problem? You are playing stupid games are you not happy with the silly prize you are getting?

Anyway I cannot say that your fiancé is cheating, but he might be losing attraction for you. Is this how you will weaponize sex after marriage? Is this what he is to look forward to with you? If I were a man, I would lose interest and arousal quickly too and start thinking of the way forward.

What exactly did you want when you uniamously withheld what you both were previously enjoying? Attention? Worship? His simping?

Women really like to complicate things for themselves.

If I were you, I would buy fastum gel or any affordable diclofenac cream( not with menthol o) and offer to massage his back for pain after the workout. Offer to follow him to hospital to check his health and yours, make sure you don't have diseases, check your genotype.

Then go home and seduce him back, then after the activity ask the questions? Is he still interested in marriage? Is he seeing other ladies? Air out all the petty reasons you decided to close shop and ask him why he withdrew. If anyone is angry they should Apologize and promise to improve behavior.


All these small children sef

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

themanderon:
You have been used and he no longer has any need of you as he is getting it from another loose girl somewhere. When will ladies be wise? Why do you girls always fall for this trick. He has gotten what he wants from you and has moved onto another mugu.
Keep yourself till marriage una no go ever gree. You cannot keep a man that is not married to you with sex. He will eventually get tired and seek elsewhere to get his treat.
Now an innocent man will be left to deal with his leftover. That's how girls rack up body counts well into their thirties.
If a man really loves you he will wait for you. This one is a hit and run. No commitments, nothing just empty promises while using the lady to fulfill his pleasures. Ladies be wise.

What’s this nonsense about being used

Sex is the least of factors to consider when making decisions concerning marriage.

It’s only empty vessels that have no other value to offer that weaponize sex in order to get married.

It’s even funny when the lady is not a virgin. No sex till marriage is reserved exclusively for virgins not tokunbos

IbrahimSola:
First point is sooooo invalid. 2nd point very valid and i was thinking in that direction too. What if he is thinking that you're the one cheating and he's just waiting for the right moment to confront you?

The thing is that most guys cannot afford to not taste what they're getting. So what happens after the tasting cannot be controlled by you or him. It's an intense power play that if you have a simp in your hand, you're good to go.

My advice is: If sex is not all that you can offer in that relationship, if you have real value that you're bringing to the relationship...whether now, or in prospect, then you have nothing to worry about. He will stick around because of your value. If sex is the only thing that you bring to the table, please look for another simp. The thing about sex and commitment is that they're worlds apart. Sex can be gotten from any woman, but wives are scared. Since marriage is the biggest decision a man should make in his life, no matter how sweet the sex is, or no matter how dexterous a woman is on bed, sex alone cannot make a man marry you. Anyway, some simps can marry because of sex but real mean will not.

So, find a way to figure out what is in his mind. Follow him to the gym, or check up on him accidentally.

I tell women everywhere, show confidence, don't be clingy but let your man know that you're following up on him. Show up unexpected at his house. If you're living with him, sorry for you.

God bless you for this.

This is one thing these ladies need to understand.

No man with an intact thinking faculty would marry in order to have sex with a woman…

That’s one hell of a shallow thinking

themanderon:
If a man really loves you he will wait for you.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

jackals:
Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.