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Guestmale:
Then children too should take care of their lives on their own, many parents are sacrificing their savings and comfort to send their children to not just any school but a standard and good school and to train them.

Did the children bring themselves into the world? Is it not irresponsible and reckless for two adults to have sex without protection, bringing a child into the world without a means to take care of the children.

Help me make it make sense.

Nnamdipapa:
Did the children bring themselves into the world? Is it not irresponsible and reckless for two adults to have sex without protection, bringing a child into the world without a means to take care of the children.

Help me make it make sense.

It's a commandment from God for children to take care of their parents if they want to live long and do good in life
Deuteronomy 5:16 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Omalicious1:
I don't subscribe to such crap....my parents are my responsibility and I must make sure that they enjoy life to the fullest...because they sacrificed alot for me

God bless you, there is a great joy and fulfilment when we take care of our aged parents.

Guestmale:
It's a commandment from God for children to take care of their parents if they want to live long and do good in life
Deuteronomy 5:16 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

I don't care about God. I am God myself, I care about common sense and what works in real lufe.

Nnamdipapa:
I don't care about God. I am God myself, I care about common sense and what works in real lufe.

You are going too far, this is a great blasphemy, retrace your step and ask for forgiveness before it's too late.

Nnamdipapa:
Did the children bring themselves into the world? Is it not irresponsible and reckless for two adults to have sex without protection, bringing a child into the world without a means to take care of the children.

Help me make it make sense.

Nigerians have a long way to go, maybe religion and culture has removed logical common sense thinking ability. This is so simple scenario to analyze yet many nigerians out of emotion or lack of enlightenment cannot choose the correct way.

In a society where children are placed as financial providers for their parents will experience a disordered, corrupt, crime infested, retrogressive result BECAUSE it will breed more irresponsible parents (older generation) who are supposed to be the elders/leaders of the society.


Our Education in this country is indeed useless. (Taking care physically of an aged parent is different from providing financially for the same parent)

[quote author= post=136128742]Nigerians has a long way to go, maybe religion and culture has removed logical common sense thinking ability. This is so simple scenario to analyze yet many nigerians out of emotion or lack of enlightenment cannot choose the correct way.

In a society where children are placed as financial providers for their parents will experience a disordered, corrupt, crime infested, retrogressive result BECAUSE it will breed more irresponsible parents (older generation) who are supposed to be the elders/leaders of the society.


Our Education in this country is indeed useless. (Taking care physically of an aged parent is different from providing financially for the same parent)[/quote]Responsible parenting is the reason why the retrees are the the richest demographics in western world. They marry and plan the kids accordingly, ssve and invest over a long hime, pay off their homes snd are never a burden or dependent on their kids.

Guestmale:
It's a commandment from God for children to take care of their parents if they want to live long and do good in life
Deuteronomy 5:16 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Ok, bye. Thought I was discussing with a human.

Guestmale:
It's a commandment from God for children to take care of their parents if they want to live long and do good in life
Deuteronomy 5:16 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

What does the bible say?

1) Proverbs 13:22 - A good man (/woman) leaves an inheritance for their children’s children - Do you know what this means, a man makes so much provision even his childen’s children could benefit from it.

2) 1 Timothy 5:8 - If anyone does not provide for his own, and especially his own household (family), he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

It is your parents responsibility to care for you and not the other way round.

Nnamdipapa:
It is the parents responsibilities to provide resources for their own old ages. I have seen lots of old people who are happier in nursing homes, I will prefer nursing homes when I grow old as I never want to be a burden to.mh kids.

I don't understand what you mean by burden at old age becoming an issue to the children!!!!

Nnamdipapa:
They don't understand how obligations work. I have kids who don't owe me a dime. I owe them to be successful in life because I brought them into this. I wonder how this simple concept is hard for the average Nigerian to grasp.

That does not mean you don't help your parent but it is not a debt.

It is not a debt. But it is still an obligation, as long as you are able to help them and as long as u can see that they need your help.

This is not negotiable. If u have money, help your parents. If they had not raised you, u won’t be alive not to mention having this weird opinion

Nnamdipapa:
They don't understand how obligations work. I have kids who don't owe me a dime. I owe them to be successful in life because I brought them into this. I wonder how this simple concept is hard for the average Nigerian to grasp.

That does not mean you don't help your parent but it is not a debt.

No good parent will expect you to help them financially if u can’t afford it or if they clearly don’t need the help. But if the reverse is the case, bros take care of your parent

Sirchiboy:
Parenthood is responsibilty not an avenue to breed kids in the hope of making them your retirement plan.
This is very common in African culture where parents make their kids their life time retirement.
Every parents should plan for their future retirement.
You can decide to support them once in a while but not a most it is your reponsiblity to cater for them in their old age.

your parents for born you n dump U on d streets..it's not their responsibility to cater for U too as U came because of sex not because you added anything to them..you rather drained them of what they were used to enjoy their youth

[quote author= post=136128742]Nigerians have a long way to go, maybe religion and culture has removed logical common sense thinking ability. This is so simple scenario to analyze yet many nigerians out of emotion or lack of enlightenment cannot choose the correct way.

In a society where children are placed as financial providers for their parents will experience a disordered, corrupt, crime infested, retrogressive result BECAUSE it will breed more irresponsible parents (older generation) who are supposed to be the elders/leaders of the society.


Our Education in this country is indeed useless. (Taking care physically of an aged parent is different from providing financially for the same parent)[/quote]Family values bro. Pure and simple.

If u have and ur parents don’t have, then u have to give them. It is an obligation. If u don’t get this simple logic, then I am so sorry for you

Sirchiboy:
Parenthood is responsibilty not an avenue to breed kids in the hope of making them your retirement plan.
This is very common in African culture where parents make their kids their life time retirement.
Every parents should plan for their future retirement.
You can decide to support them once in a while but not a most it is your reponsiblity to cater for them in their old age.

That’s for you, but for someone like me, my parent are my top priority 💯💯

66uvie:
...old age does not necessarily means invalidity, Buhari that died at 82 never needed anyone to change pampers for him, OBJ is still going strong

Buhari at 82 is a very good example. How did you know no one was changing diapers for him? You think he was in London all by himself. Even while he was sick in power, he had his nephew Tunde with him in the hispital. Dey play!

FreeIgboho:
We obviously mean FINANCIAL burden! We're NOT talking of them coming to visit you or showing they care!

One day you will get rich and discover money isn't everything. Since you have the money you will pay for a space in the home for the elderly na! After all you guys say children don't owe their parents anything, let your money do it for you.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
One day you will get rich and discover money isn't everything. Since you have the money you will pay for a space in the home for the elderly na! After all you guys say children don't owe their parents anything, let your money do it for you.

Yeah, money is NOT everything - until you don't have it and you need it to save a life!
Point is, don't plan to be a financial burden on your children - because they may not have themselves and may actually be looking to you for help

DeepSight:
May heaven help you.

Life is a cycle.

If they raised and took care of you when you were small and vulnerable.

you certainly owe it to them, to your conscience, and to all goodness to take care fo them when they are vulnerable.

This does not mean I support the idea of having kids as retirement plan. I dont.

I trust you are aware that at the bolded is where some if not many nigeriaan parents stopped catering for their offsprings. This is exactly where the problem lies.

Most of you are just emotional and not getting Op's point. He has a valid point.

I will emphasize on this again, It's very hard to see children whom their parents groomed well into Adulthood and yet the children wouldn't return the favor to them. It's hard to see.

Jonathan:
Speak for yourself

Always put in my opinion

No be everybody dey reason like you


Not all parents are like yours...

GBAM!!!

Simple as ABC.

FreeIgboho:
Yeah, money is NOT everything - until you don't have it and you need it to save a life!
Point is, don't plan to be a financial burden on your children - because they may not have themselves and may actually be looking to you for help

Unfortunate that after a father educates a child the child grows up to have the guts to think the father did it because he wanted to leech on him in old age. Have you ever spoken to an orphan? Do you even know the oppression, exploitation and neglect they live with? If your parent died early leaving you as a child with no parents, you think random people will take care of you so you can pay them back when they are old. What kind of bitterness will make anyone to regard their parents as liabilities? Kai!

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Unfortunate that after a father educates a child the child grows up to have the guts to think the father did it because he wanted to leech on him in old age. Have you ever spoken to an orphan? Do you even know the oppression, exploitation and neglect they live with? If your parent died early leaving you as a child with no parents, you think random people will take care of you so you can pay them back when they are old. What kind of bitterness will make anyone to regard their parents as liabilities? Kai!

You miss the point!!! Don’t COUNT ON your children being wealthy enough to financially take of you. They'd definitely take of their own children and family just as you took care of yours (which included the child)

Double0h7:
This is such a dumb argument! Tell me which human since humans became human who brought themselves into the world?

If you don’t want to love on the people who loved on you, sacrifice for the people who sacrificed for you, protect the people who protected you, then there’s something profoundly wrong with your relationships with others. Life is a cycle. Humans need each other. When you were vulnerable, you protected so it’s only right to protect the vulnerable.

How is it a dumb argument ? Do you understand what an argument is, the structures and rules of arguments?

If you have taken any course in logic at the University level, you will realize the premises of my argument support the conclusion and my logic, sound.

I am on a journey to change lots of cultural practices holding us back as a country. The first place to start is to force our people to think properly. This is what the whites do and a reason we are killing ourselves to go to their countries.
Our culture believe we cannot hold adults or our parents accountable and that narrative has to be changed.

Look around you and you will see thousands of irresponsible parents bringing kids into thw world to suffer. The existing kids are still suffering and yet, these stupid adults who call themselves parents are still getting pregnant and bringing more kids into the world.

People like you will tell me, oh, they sacrificed for the kids, they suffered a lot to raise the kids which is totally wrong. I have a lot yo say but I will stop here.

Manculated:
I trust you are aware that at the bolded is where some if not many nigeriaan parents stopped catering for their offsprings. This is exactly where the problem lies.

Most of you are just emotional and not getting Op's point. He has a valid point.

I will emphasize on this again, It's very hard to see children whom their parents groomed well into Adulthood and yet the children wouldn't return the favor to them. It's hard to see.

That I understand.

It's obvious that this guy is frustrated

Nnamdipapa:
How is it a dumb argument ? Do you understand what an argument is, the structure and rule of argument ?

If you have taken any course in logic at the University level, you will realize the premises of my argument support the conclusion and my logic is sound.

I am on a journey to change lots of cultures practices holding us back as a country. His first place to start is to force our people to think properly. This is what the whites do and a reason we are killing ourselves to come to their country.
Our culture believe we cannot hold adults or our parents accountable and that narrative has to be changed.

Look around you and you will see thousands of irresponsible parents bringing kids into thw world to suffer. The existing kids are still suffering and yet, these stupid adults who call themselves parents are still getting pregnant and bringing more kids into the world.

People like you will tell me, oh, they sacrificed for the kids, they suffered a lot to raise the kids which is totally wrong. I have a lot yo say but I will stop here.

Leave these people they have being brainwashed and can't think for themselves. One daft fellow above called it family values imagine. That's why some of our girls are into hookup because their parents can't do the needful.

[quote author= post=136136438]Leave these people they have being brainwashed and can't think for themselves. One daft fellow above called it family values imagine. That's why some of our girls are into hookup because their parents can't do the needful.[/quote]I was a victim of such culture and its not funny at all, most of them refusing to think with their God given brain which is sad. It is time to hold everyone to account.

Nnamdipapa:
I was a victim of such culture and its not funny at all, most of them refusing to think with their God given brain which is sad. It is time to hold everyone to account.

The Bible even made it clear but they will ignore it because it doesn't sit well with their long brainwashed minds. Parents should leave inheritance for their grandchildren. No where in Bible that was written children should take financial responsibility for their parents instead it was written children must obey and respect their parents. Everything is always upside down once it enters Nigeria.