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Clairvoyancy:
1. Because naturally she ought to be more than a wife... Some people don't even know about the potential in them until they are being placed in front of opportunities

2. There's nothing like the right one for you, you make the available one or let the one you choose the right one...

You made a great first point with your comment...

I agree with that totally but you got pressured to deviate your point/argument.

Some people's potential or interest is just that... to be a great house wife and they is nothing wrong with that!

Clairvoyancy:
➜I'm not sure you are typing based on what we saw in that SS....
A lady who will be a grad in one year time telling someone wooing her those things has shown a trait of submission... Meaning she wants to depends on the guys, well I'm saying, her submission is all I needed....
➜If she doesn't believe in herself that she can do more than what she stated, I'm willing to risk it all by pushing her to do more... Provided what attracted me is still intact.. I might loose, but I'm certain I won't miss... That's why I called it a risk....

Well, I am at least glad that you clearly comprehended the fact that what she wanted was to be a traditional wife in the deal.

2. Why are you dead set on creating a scenario different from that published in the OP? Again, you confirmed that this lady is looking to depend on a man, live as a traditional wife. Why do you continue to look for ways to argue about changing her after previously admitting she clearly wishes to be a traditional wife?

Does calling it a risk somehow make it OK in your mind that you are clearly only trying to force your ideas in this case? Are relationships no longer meant to be based on agreements between two individuals?

Chilipepper:
Man shares a lady's response after asking what she would bring to his life if they dated.

What kind of men are you? Seriously, what kind of men are you?

What has happened to this world? Where has the pride in being a man gone? Is this revenge for the humiliation rituals you call weddings or something?

You have to pay a bride price and suck up to parents grovelling so the women pay you back by paying the bills and making you feel like pretty pretty princess's?

Chilipepper:
Man shares a lady's response after asking what she would bring to his life if they dated.

Instead wearing the trousers, taking the lead and acting like a Knight in shining armor you want women to rescue you and make you feel like dainty princess wearing a shiny tiara?

Kobojunkie:
Well, I am at least glad that you clearly comprehended the fact that what she wanted was to be a traditional wife in the deal.

2. Why are you dead set on creating a scenario different from that published in the OP? Again, you confirmed that this lady is looking to depend on a man, live as a traditional wife. Why do you continue to look for ways to argue about changing her after previously admitting she clearly wishes to be a traditional wife?

Does calling it a risk somehow make it OK in your mind that you are clearly only trying to force your ideas in this case? Are relationships no longer meant to be based on agreements between two individuals?

If you check my post very well, you will notice I made mention of how some of these girls are too naive.... Majority just want the good life which is not bad... If you are to be real with yourself, you should admit that a 300level student should at least aspire for something to better her life instead of being a dependant... Again, if you will agree with me, 99.9% of women would choose the soft life, even the industrious one we hear their name today, but the only difference between her and them is that some strives to be were they are today, while some found themselves in front of opportunities that eventually shaped their lives, and this is the same opportunity I'm willing to offer in the name of risk, provided she's willing... So there's nothing like forcing her against her will like you are insinuating...

Zonefree:
I love her honesty.


"I don't have anything else to offer"

The first woman to attest she has nothing to offer humanity.

And are you shocked to actually learn the meaning of the word? I swear Nigerian men confuse humility with humiliate when you talk about this nonsense

Is there pidgin lagos dictionary thats the complete opposite to the Oxford English dictionary?

So instead of.....

Mandatory meaning
Required and compulsory by law

Humility meaning
A low and modest opinion of one's self, and accepting your way isnt the only way

Here mandatory means
Because i said so

Here humility means
Insult and humiliate to stroke my ego

Clairvoyancy:
➜If you check my post very well, you will notice I made mention of how some of these girls are too naive.... Majority just want the good life which is not bad...
➜ If you are to be real with yourself, you should admit that a 300level student should at least aspire for something to better her life instead of being a dependant...
➜ Again, if you will agree with me, 99.9% of women would choose the soft life, even the industrious one we hear their name today, but the only difference between her and them is that some strives to be were they are today, while some found themselves in front of opportunities that eventually shaped their lives,
➜ and this is the same opportunity I'm willing to offer in the name of risk, provided she's willing... So there's nothing like forcing her against her will like you are insinuating...

1. Some of these girls are naive? Sounds more like your particular excuse to use in pushing your own agenda on them. If what they tell you they want is a good life, why do you feel they should be denied that by you?

2. Wrong! A 300-level girl is literally saying that what she wants is to become a traditional wife. Why are you dead set on having that desire invalidated?

3. What you have there makes absolutely no sense to me. All women are not cut from the same cloth, so this statement of yours amounts to a desperate attempt to suggest your view of women is what should matter more than the individual desires women have regarding what is their own lives.

4. Again, this gal did not ask for an opportunity but rather stated clearly that she is looking to become a traditional housewife in this particular setup with the man. For the umpteenth time, why are you desperate to show you know what is better for her than she does?

Kobojunkie:
Well, I am at least glad that you clearly comprehended the fact that what she wanted was to be a traditional wife in the deal.

2. Why are you dead set on creating a scenario different from that published in the OP? Again, you confirmed that this lady is looking to depend on a man, live as a traditional wife. Why do you continue to look for ways to argue about changing her after previously admitting she clearly wishes to be a traditional wife?

Does calling it a risk somehow make it OK in your mind that you are clearly only trying to force your ideas in this case? Are relationships no longer meant to be based on agreements between two individuals?

I must admit I like this fella
Were you born here and raised in europe or something? You're not the typical narcissistic Nigerian male, you see both sides and both perspectives

Especially that last part except its slightly wrong, relationships and marriage are an agreement between two individuals not 2 individuals and irrelevant families that wont be living in the marital home

Kobojunkie:
1. Some of these girls are naive? Sounds more like your particular excuse to use in pushing your own agenda on them. If what they tell you they want is a good life, why do you feel they should be denied that by you?

2. Wrong! A 300-level girl is literally saying that what she wants is to become a traditional wife. Why are you dead set on having that desire invalidated?

3. What you have there makes absolutely no sense to me. All women are not cut from the same cloth, so this statement of yours amounts to a desperate attempt to suggest your view of women is what should matter more than the individual desires women have regarding what is their own lives.

4. Again, this gal did not ask for an opportunity but rather stated clearly that she is looking to become a traditional housewife in this particular setup with the man. For the umpteenth time, why are you desperate to show you know what is better for her than she does?

You are made up for arguments.... Honestly I don't know what to tell you or how to explain to you that my offer is for a willing heart....

Drogba wanted to be a defender, Deschamps saw a potential striker and a willing heart, and Drogba was converted, today he is a living legend....

Same story goes for Mikel and Mourinho

Same story between Olamide and Adekunle gold...

I can go on and on like that... I just hope you understand.... Goodnight...

Pompoma:
We bring only pussiii and bweast. That's all. Anyone who don't like it should remain celibate.

Havana holina huziva.
Flat booobs

Clairvoyancy:
➜You are made up for arguments.... Honestly I don't know what to tell you or how to explain to you that my offer is for a willing heart.... Drogba wanted to be a defender, Deschamps saw a potential striker and a willing heart, and Drogba was converted, today he is a living legend.... Same story goes for Mikel and Mourinho. Same story between Olamide and Adekunle gold...
I can go on and on like that... I just hope you understand.... Goodnight...

How old are you for Pete's sake?

Kobojunkie:
How old are you for Pete's sake?

I should be asking you that....

Pompoma:
We bring only pussiii and bweast. That's all. Anyone who don't like it should remain celibate.

You guys are becoming very bold and that’s pisses me off, don’t we have dvk and muscle

What the heck

Clairvoyancy:
➜I should be asking you that....

You are the one not making any sense at all. You litterally sugggested that because some person called Drogba allowed himself be influenced by another person and that magically turned out for him— conveniently ignoring the mountain of evidence out there which indicates that the vast majority who allow others influence their dreams and desires end up regretting it—, this woman in the OP should allow the man or any man influence her desires.... are you eff-ing kidding me?

Why are you lot so judgemental? You cannot have it both ways

You either want a woman to be a housewife and submissive OR you want her working and contributing

But you dont seem to understand if shes helping you pay the bills and contributing why would she be submissive as well? You are literally telling her you are not man enough to take care of her

Things like this , you just adjust to the plans you have after she have made or given you a answer, because my guy am sorry for you if you made a mistake by saying let me manage, no manage any life time marriage my nigga 😁

Kobojunkie:
You are the one not making any sense at all. You litterally sugggested that because some person called Drogba allowed himself be influenced by another person and that magically turned out for him— conveniently ignoring the mountain of evidence out there which indicates that the vast majority who allow others influence their dreams and desires end up regretting it—, this woman in the OP should allow the man or any man influence her desires.... are you eff-ing kidding me?

Jesus Christ..... Between my offer and her desires which is more better.... So you suggest that she be a dependant than making a life for herself? You never cease to amaze me honestly....


See, you better forget all these unnecessary wokenesss. this is Africa oo... I'm telling you things that are happening that many can relate with, you are bringing in western ideology... I'm being practical with you and not just assumptions... Many Nigerian girls will say the same thing with that girl, but in actual sense, they are great asset when guided.... Real life talk, not all those unnecessary wokenesss you are saying here

Pompoma:
We bring only pussiii and bweast. That's all. Anyone who don't like it should remain celibate.

If they remain celibate, you would be celibate by their choice of celibacy.

Better add value to yourself, any hookup babe can provide possii and bwest. He nacks and off he goes to mind important issues in his life.
man are not marrying for marrying sake. Especially if she is not a contributor/helper, na OYO oo.

Harddiskng:
If they remain celibate, you would be celibate by their choice of celibacy.

Better add value to yourself, any hookup babe can provide possii and bwest. He nacks and off he goes to mind important issues in his life.
man are not marrying for marrying sake. Especially if she is not a contributor/helper, na OYO oo.

Same, if Nigerians were traditional people like you claim all fathers and uncles would make sure all women were virgins until marriage and their humiliation ritual weddings

But the attitude here is beg the father to marry a woman thats been pre efed and be grateful

You are all hypocrites to be honest
The same women you marry have been tricked and ran through by other men like you before you even met her

Clairvoyancy:
➜Jesus Christ..... Between my offer and her desires which is more better.... So you suggest that she be a dependant than making a life for herself? You never cease to amaze me honestly....
➜See, you better forget all these unnecessary wokenesss. this is Africa oo... I'm telling you things that are happening that many can relate with, you are bringing in western ideology... I'm being practical with you and not just assumptions... Many Nigerian girls will say the same thing with that girl, but in actual sense, they are great asset when guided.... Real life talk, not all those unnecessary wokenesss you are saying here

1. So, your intention in a relationship is not to literally ignore what the woman says she wants instead to impose your will on her?

2. The very same decision that was made by your great-grandmothers, grandmothers, and maybe even your mother is now to be viewed as foreign ideology? Ya !!

Kobojunkie:
1. So, your intention in a relationship is not to literally ignore what the woman says she wants instead to impose your will on her?

2. The very same decision that was made by your great-grandmothers, grandmothers, and maybe even your mother is now to be viewed as foreign ideology? Ya !!

I rest my case please... Goodnight

Clairvoyancy:
I rest my case please... Goodnight

You should change your name on here bob
You're the greedy and selfish type that wants the "best of both" and doesn't care about anyone else

Fenrir:
You should change your name on here bob
You're the greedy and selfish type that wants the "best of both" and doesn't care about anyone else

How? Do you even know what my arguments are at all?

Clairvoyancy:
How? Do you even know what my arguments are at all?

I can read

You want a submissive housewife and a working wife bob

This is a polygamy country so you could have that just dont force an innocent woman that doesn't want to do it

Let a woman like her find a man that wants the same as her and only her

You trick 2 women and marry them
1 can submit and the other can be your husband

So many GheGhe graduate on the street right now... Every man, boy don dey wise up. Think about yourself first before Opueh

On this one, action speaks louder. Some people would say this and that and still end up giving you more trouble.

But this lady didn't try. The effort was too low.

If you want something you have to work for it.

Fenrir:
I can read

You want a submissive housewife and a working wife bob

This is a polygamy country so you could have that just dont force an innocent woman that doesn't want to do it

Let a woman like her find a man that wants the same as her and only her

You trick 2 women and marry them
1 can submit and the other can be your husband

You are not making any sense at all.... And I'm not sure you follow my post from the beginning... I guess you take your time to read again, from the beginning please.... So as to stop sounding incoherent

Samajogs:
So many GheGhe graduate on the street right now... Every man, boy don dey wise up. Think about yourself first before Opueh

Thats a good point lots of you marry runs girls that were doing sod knows what for years before you married them, this is Nigeria you all do whatever ever it takes and sometimes ruthless stuff to get what you want or need

Do any of your wives ever get embarrassed in public, get all shy and coy hiding behind you to cover their faces? Never know, they could be hiding from past customers

You hypocrite men

Though she's honest but trust me with these days economy you dont want a woman that will be fully dependent on you 100 percent. It is tiring even if you have the funds. You will reach a point the thing go just tire you.

Clairvoyancy:
You are not making any sense at all.... And I'm not sure you follow my post from the beginning... I guess you take your time to read again, from the beginning please.... So as to stop sounding incoherent

Whatever you say Bob
You literally made it clear you would push her to be more than a submissive housewife as long as you dont lose the submission

You want a woman thats submissive to you but you her doing more than a housewife does

She is the type of woman that wants to be devoted to her man, raise a family and be a full time mother and wife

Whats wrong with that? If you dont want that then leave that type of woman alone, simple

There over 230 million of you, its easy to find one who's goals align with yours

Im an extremely weird man and I found it twice

1 died of cancer and a few years of grieving then back here and found another so you have no excuse you are just being petty for no reason

Fenrir:
Whatever you say Bob
You literally made it clear you would push her to be more than a submissive housewife as long as you dont lose the submission

You want a woman thats submissive to you but you her doing more than a housewife does

She is the type of woman that wants to be devoted to her man, raise a family and be a full time mother and wife

Whats wrong with that? If you dont want that then leave that type of woman alone, simple

There over 230 million of you, its easy to find one who's goals align with yours

Im an extremely weird man and I found it twice

1 died of cancer and a few years of grieving then back here and found another so you have no excuse you are just being petty for no reason

You are the one who is petty here, cos you are accusing me of what is not....


No where in my post did I force my opinion on anyone.... I saw many comments condemning and asking the op to dump the lady for having nothing else to offer according to that SS, and I said my opinion is different, that I can take a risk of marrying her if everything she said in that SS are true, and I clearly stated it that provided she's willing, so I don't know where all you are saying is actually coming from....

I think you have issues with comprehension....

Clairvoyancy:
You are the one who is petty here, cos you are accusing me of what is not....


No where in my post did I force my opinion on anyone.... I saw many comments condemning and asking the op to dump the lady for having nothing else to offer according to that SS, and I said my opinion is different, that I can take a risk of marrying her if everything she said in that SS are true, and I clearly stated it that provided she's willing, so I don't know where all you are saying is actually coming from....

I think you have issues with comprehension....

Yes but the point is, shes obviously not willing so you are being petty and should leave that type of woman alone