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Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by jaxxy(m): 5:12am On Aug 30, 2025
Clairvoyancy:
From the screenshot, it shows this one is still naive and innocent (not vouching for her tho)... It's understandable if she begs for money, cos she's a student, not all students have legit side hustles...

This girl have potential of becoming a good wife, girls like this can turn 100k capital to 300k in short period.. forget the fact that she said she has nothing else to offer, her honesty alone is an asset, she just needs someone to guide her...

For me, for the fact that she begs from family and friends alone, I can risk it all and marry her and then change her orientation.... Her peers probably have side hustle (olosho), begs from their sugar daddies, or date multiple men to earn a living an live large in school.... For me oo, I still fit risk this kain girl if all is in that SS is true...
Begs from Family and friends, is very wide, open and unspecific. Some girl consider their toasters as friends.

I personally cannot say if she's honest by her statement but she is diplomatic. undecided
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by BreakingNews21: 5:15am On Aug 30, 2025
Sharing screenshots of a private chat is classless but some need to invest their valuable time in such non-productive nonsense.
Over to you spam bot. cheesy
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Amarachieze(m): 5:16am On Aug 30, 2025
The girl offers you peaceful home and children and you trivialize it. You must be a toddler. A woman that is ready to build a peaceful home with you will definitely be with in thick and thin situations. She is a veritable potential asset. By the way what are you looking for?
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Fenrir(m): 5:32am On Aug 30, 2025
mysticwarrior:
Our Greatgrand mothers were all farmers, they plant and harvest crops at their backyard to support the family, please kindly show some respect to our grandmothers and Greatgrand mothers
And what did your great grandfather's and grandfather's get most of the time? They got what your wedding traditions (humiliation rituals) are for

Virgins, your great grandfather's and grandfather would not be asking these things

The fact that you ask these questions in the first place is irrefutable that there is no such thing as traditional values in Nigerian society today and there hasn't been since your civil war

Would your grandfather's or great grandfather's say even 10% of the things you say about women?

Would your grandfather's and great grandfather's have done youe humiliation ritual weddings for women that had been pre efed because the parents and extended family said its mandatory because they want it?

The truth is you men don't what you and it wouldn't shock me if in the next few years you said wanted the wives to become the husbands
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Teejaney88(m): 5:34am On Aug 30, 2025
Nonexisting1:
I don't know why you are complaining. If I see a Nigerian girl that will give me all she promised you, I will marry her. She said she will bring you joy and peace, give you children, be a good wife, do her rites and obligations as wife. What else do you want a woman to offer you? Men are providers so don't expect a woman to give you money but if she does, it is okay too. Brother, if she can do all that she said, then I don't see the need for your complaint.
Gbam!
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Teejaney88(m): 5:36am On Aug 30, 2025
Zonefree:
A SIMPle man would try to upgrade the girl, thereby bringing chaos into his life.
so how many lady ladies can actually offer more than what this one is offering?
🤔
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by BRATISLAVA: 5:39am On Aug 30, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Probably the very same thing your grandmother, great-grandmother, and maybe even your mother also brought to their tables. She is basically auditioning to be a traditional wife to the man. Why is that not good enough? undecided
It's not good enough because most lazy, young, primitive men want to have their cake and eat it.

She's pretty clear with what she's bringing, though it's dumb to ask a student what they are bringing. To show you the perspective of the average dumb Nigerian misogynist, he's asking what someone who is probably still schooling and is 18 is bringing to the table for him. What was he doing at her age? What do 90% of kids whose parents send them to school do for a living while in school?

The slowpoke is asking what she brings. You'd be surprised he's only bringing money. And misogyny.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by benqo01(m): 5:43am On Aug 30, 2025
Nonexisting1:
I don't know why you are complaining. If I see a Nigerian girl that will give me all she promised you, I will marry her. She said she will bring you joy and peace, give you children, be a good wife, do her rites and obligations as wife. What else do you want a woman to offer you? Men are providers so don't expect a woman to give you money but if she does, it is okay too. Brother, if she can do all that she said, then I don't see the need for your complaint.
For the fact that she mentioned PEACE,JOY,HER BEING A GOOD WIFE For me is already a PASS MARK
To sum it up adding respect is also key.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Fenrir(m): 5:44am On Aug 30, 2025
BRATISLAVA:
It's not good enough because most lazy, young, primitive men want to have their cake and eat it.

She's pretty clear with what she's bringing, though it's dumb to ask a student what they are bringing. To show you the perspective of the average dumb Nigerian misogynist, he's asking what someone who is probably still schooling and is 18 is bringing to the table for him. What was he doing at her age? What do 90% of kids whose parents send them to school do for a living while in school?

The slowpoke is asking what she brings. You'd be surprised he's only bringing money. And misogyny.
Can you really 100% put the blame on gen z men? Who did they it learn from? What kind of positive masculine influences were the fathers? The truth is boys only grow to be like this if men of the generation before were complaining about it and this a black man, an African man and all American men phenomenon

Show me any evidence you can of European men saying any of this or asking this question at all? Show me evidence of Asian men asking this question? Australian men, 🤢🤢 the men of a particular belief system in the middle east?
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by benqo01(m): 5:45am On Aug 30, 2025
For me she is being very honest,with all she said it is already a PASS MARK!!!
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Jeezuzpick(m): 5:48am On Aug 30, 2025
Zonefree:
I love her honesty.


"I don't have anything else to offer"

The first woman to attest she has nothing to offer humanity.
She doesn't want the guy.

If she did, even if it was true that she had nothing to offer, at least she would lie about it.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by FRANKOSKI(m): 5:50am On Aug 30, 2025
TAKING CARE OF CHILDREN IS NOT AN EASY TASK OO. THAT'S A HUGE TASK. I DON'T EXPECT ANY WOMAN TO BE A HOUSE WIFE BUT E NO EASY OOO
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Gerrard59(m): 5:51am On Aug 30, 2025
I saw the post on Instagram.

This dating thing should be simple: date within your social circle/class. I find it odd that a working class man would ask a student what she brings to the table. In every part of the world, students aren't classified as workers. If you want your woman to be a working class contributor, date a working class woman. There are many women out there who earn their own money. Don't expect the same from a student.

It seems most men don't know what they really want. You cannot date a student and not expect immediate billing. Women generally are billers. So many confused young men these days.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by chiboyjohn: 5:52am On Aug 30, 2025
Clairvoyancy:
From the screenshot, it shows this one is still naive and innocent (not vouching for her tho)... It's understandable if she begs for money, cos she's a student, not all students have legit side hustles...

This girl have potential of becoming a good wife, girls like this can turn 100k capital to 300k in short period.. forget the fact that she said she has nothing else to offer, her honesty alone is an asset, she just needs someone to guide her...

For me, for the fact that she begs from family and friends alone, I can risk it all and marry her and then change her orientation.... Her peers probably have side hustle (olosho), begs from their sugar daddies, or date multiple men to earn a living an live large in school.... For me oo, I still fit risk this kain girl if all is in that SS is true...
are u sure she is not doing the same on code
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by BRATISLAVA: 5:53am On Aug 30, 2025
Fenrir:
Can you really 100% put the blame on gen z men? Who did they it learn from? What kind of positive masculine influences were the fathers? The truth is boys only grow to be like this if men of the generation before were complaining about it and this a black man, an African man and all American men phenomenon

Show me any evidence you can of European men saying any of this or asking this question at all? Show me evidence of Asian men asking this question? Australian men, 🤢🤢 the men of a particular belief system in the middle east?
It's why they are lazy, Young, primitive men. I didn't want to add that it is only poverty that births that stupid question they create threads about and post for 9 pages on it.

It's appalling how they follow teachings online and all start bleating the same thing. This what are you bringing question is something they were all taught to ask some years back, and because they don't think for themselves, they ask it always and in the dumbest situations possible. It makes them sound like gold diggers and exposes the average IQ of poverty.

Their fathers never asked that dumb question, yet they have mothers.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Fenrir(m): 5:55am On Aug 30, 2025
Gerrard59:
I saw the post on Instagram.

This dating thing should be simple: date within your social circle/class. I find it odd that a working class man would ask a student what she brings to the table. In every part of the world, students aren't classified as workers. If you want your woman to be a working class contributor, date a working class woman. There are many women out there who earn their own money. Don't expect the same from a student.

It seems most men don't know what they really want. You cannot date a student and not expect immediate billing. Women generally are billers. So many confused young men these days.
Nonsense look at royal families
If a king marries any woman from any class or social level shes automatically a queen

If a queen marries any man from any lower class or social level the highest he will ever be is a prince or a Duke

Thats just proof for this point being irrelevant, take the uk, king Charles he had a woman the world adored in princess diana and he left her for a literal swamp donkey, proving most men dont they want at all
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by blacksam01: 5:56am On Aug 30, 2025
The guy asking a student this is very unreasonable....

My ex gf, was a broke as girl back then in skl, only held on to books... Sh could offer you nothing, she begs aunt's and parents for money...

Las las, sh came out first class, finished her service, got a job , did it and resigned after 2 yrs, set up hers ND made it big, so big that sh was worth about 24m at age 26...


So u see, life is not about the now now, a student should not have side huzle, they should face thier books... Their is also a success route through education, everything is not about , huzle huzle....

So the guy sit park well
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by BRATISLAVA: 5:57am On Aug 30, 2025
Gerrard59:
I saw the post on Instagram.

This dating thing should be simple: date within your social circle/class. I find it odd that a working class man would ask a student what she brings to the table. In every part of the world, students aren't classified as workers. If you want your woman to be a working class contributor, date a working class woman. There are many women out there who earn their own money. Don't expect the same from a student.

It seems most men don't know what they really want. You cannot date a student and not expect immediate billing. Women generally are billers. So many confused young men these days.
You were right, until your penultimate sentence.

What would you say to "Men generally are greedy". Men want a home body and still want the person to bring them money, because the only thing men bring is getting money, but they can't even do that alone so create unrealistic expectations to make women fulfill their responsibilities for them and keep wanting more.

It's why a supposedly thinking man will want the body and full services of a teenager in university and still want her to give him money.

Then shame her publicly without addressing his greed. And get support from other dunderheads.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Fenrir(m): 6:00am On Aug 30, 2025
BRATISLAVA:
It's why they are lazy, Young, primitive men. I didn't want to add that it is only poverty that births that stupid question they create threads about and post for 9 pages on it.

It's appalling how they follow teachings online and all start bleating the same thing. This what are you bringing question is something they were all taught to ask some years back, and because they don't think for themselves, they ask it always and in the dumbest situations possible. It makes them sound like gold diggers and exposes the average IQ of poverty.

Their fathers never asked that dumb question, yet they have mothers.
Its not a poor country or poor lifestyle phenomenon, almost all American men black and white are asking this question, as well as black men anx African men all over the world, the Philippines is considered a poor country are they asking this question? Thailand? Vietnam? Are Asian men at all asking this question? Its not about rich or poor, are Europeans? Some European countries are poor, Australians do you hear Europeans or Australians say any of this?
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by BRATISLAVA: 6:03am On Aug 30, 2025
Fenrir:
Its not a poor country or poor lifestyle phenomenon, almost all American men black and white are asking this question, as well as black men anx African men all over the world, the Philippines is considered a poor country are they asking this question? Thailand? Vietnam? Are Asian men at all asking this question? Its not about rich or poor, are Europeans? Some European countries are poor, Australians do you hear Europeans or Australians say any of this?
For Nigerians it is poverty. Their young men are poor, dumb and will ask students this question to prove a point that doesn't even exist. Why? Because in Nigeria that's not the culture, so when trying to be western they ask this dumb question meanwhile poverty is their way of life. I'm yet to see a rich Nigerian man ask it. One who was born rich. Not the poor misogynists who got lucky.

Ask why he doesn't approach a working woman.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Pompoma(f): 6:07am On Aug 30, 2025
Factcheck0001:
this boy

What do u gain from creating account on nairaland everyday?
Who's a boy? I'm a lady and besides,stop sending me emails because I won't reply you.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by UrgentNeeds(m): 6:09am On Aug 30, 2025
Mental Laziness + Honesty = ?
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Fenrir(m): 6:11am On Aug 30, 2025
BRATISLAVA:
You were right, until your penultimate sentence.

What would you say to "Men generally are greedy". Men want a home body and still want the person to bring them money, because the only thing men bring is getting money, but they can't even do that alone so create unrealistic expectations to make women fulfill their responsibilities for them and keep wanting more.

It's why a supposedly thinking man will want the body and full services of a teenager in university and still want her to give him money.

Then shame her publicly without addressing his greed. And get support from other dunderheads.
All men can bring is money? Thats just proof that you know nothing about traditional marriage only the humiliation rituals you call traditional weddings

In most countries, why did men get to vote before woman? Answer = because the men agreed that in the event of war they fight it so women and children stay at home safe, if you think all a man brings is money that kind of speaks volumes about your character and what you can personally bring but in a true traditional society that values TRADITIONAL MARRIAGES not humiliation ritual weddings

The man brings.......

Provision
Protection
Hes safety and security
There is a traditional reason worldwide why men take a particular side of the bed (whatever side os closest to the door) so if anyone breaks in they go through the husband before they can get to the wife

You seem to forget that traditionally worldwide women were the gatekeepers to sex and children. Marry her or you get neither

But men were always the gatekeepers to marriage, the family unit, protection, Provision no woman can get married unless a man wants to ask her to marry him
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Fenrir(m): 6:16am On Aug 30, 2025
BRATISLAVA:
For Nigerians it is poverty. Their young men are poor, dumb and will ask students this question to prove a point that doesn't even exist. Why? Because in Nigeria that's not the culture, so when trying to be western they ask this dumb question meanwhile poverty is their way of life. I'm yet to see a rich Nigerian man ask it. One who was born rich. Not the poor misogynists who got lucky.

Ask why he doesn't approach a working woman.
Stop using poverty as an excuse, you are suffering a literal brain drain as a country your best and brightest minds are leaving the country because you hold them down from jealousy instead of seeing them as a resource to the country and using them to improve the country

You literally value religion over education, show me any country in the world that has dragged itself out of poverty valuing religion over education? In this country in today's world children have been abandoned and the family calling it witchcraft because the child was too clever to young

The majority of the time religion over education = poverty especially a particular religion where women are second class

Now remind me what particular religion is 52% of your country?
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by DeeScan: 6:17am On Aug 30, 2025
Kobojunkie:
A stay-at-home wife is instead what she means. Ask any stay-at-home husband, and they will explain to you how much of a sacrifice that is in a relationship. undecided
. A stay at home husband 😕😕😕

Is that even a thing ☹️☹️☹️
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by harmonyglobal: 6:19am On Aug 30, 2025
Trust me
That's a good response
Do u want her to promise heaven and earth?
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by BRATISLAVA: 6:19am On Aug 30, 2025
Fenrir:
All men can bring is money? Thats just proof that you know nothing about traditional marriage only the humiliation rituals you call traditional weddings

In most countries, why did men get to vote before woman? Answer = because the men agreed that in the event of war they fight it so women and children stay at home safe, if you think all a man brings is money that kind of speaks volumes about your character and what you can personally bring but in a true traditional society that values TRADITIONAL MARRIAGES not humiliation ritual weddings

The man brings.......

Provision
Protection
Hes safety and security
There is a traditional reason worldwide why men take a particular side of the bed (whatever side os closest to the door) so if anyone breaks in they go through the husband before they can get to the wife

You seem to forget that traditionally worldwide women were the gatekeepers to sex and children. Marry her or you get neither

But men were always the gatekeepers to marriage, the family unit, protection, Provision no woman can get married unless a man wants to ask her to marry him
You're off on a tangent. I know what i responded to there.

In Nigeria, men don't work on themselves. They believe all they need is money. But they want the world from women, and condemn women so that women will take up their responsibilities as men. On other words, they want to become women.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by BRATISLAVA: 6:20am On Aug 30, 2025
Fenrir:
Stop using poverty as an excuse, you are suffering a literal brain drain as a country your best and brightest minds are leaving the country because you hold them down from jealousy instead of seeing them as a resource to the country and using them to improve the country

You literally value religion over education, show me any country in the world that has dragged itself out of poverty valuing religion over education? In this country in today's world children have been abandoned and the family calling it witchcraft because the child was too clever to young

The majority of the time religion over education = poverty especially a particular religion where women are second class

Now remind me what particular religion is 52% of your country?
Based on the topic of the thread, I'll bet you the person who had that conversation is or was poor. It's the only constant in misogyny. Poor men hate women.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by DeeScan: 6:21am On Aug 30, 2025
They all bring peace is what they say just like one of my guys wife , now he comes to work every morning with headache cause of incessant flimsy naggings ...



I definitely need more than a peace if I"d myself entangled in this kinda situation...
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Talismann: 6:22am On Aug 30, 2025
some guys are just too petty. Bro even posted a private conversation for all the world to see. How childish.

From the convo, the girl appears young and inexperienced.

Obviously she's an undergraduate with no concrete direction and pathway yet in life. Aside those she mentioned, I wonder what more he was expecting her to be offering him at that point in her life.

Her kidneys or lungs??

Like I always say, as a man, if you have got no money and maturity, it's best you leave women alone.

As a man, you're like a daddy to your woman. She looks up to you. It's common sense to expect some things from your partner in a relationship but these men of this generation are becoming girls.

You are designed to be a provider. Nobody will teach you that in school.

Get a good girl nonetheless but you will still provide for life.
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by Mcslize: 6:23am On Aug 30, 2025
naijapikin2:
This girl seriously needs to be GEH-GEHRIZED😃😃😃

She needs orientation sharperly what manner of girl reasons like this. Her fellow girls should borrow her brain.
Which fellow girls? The ones that have common sense and good thought process are not many.

Fellow girls that will even corrupt her the more?
Re: Man Shares A Lady's Response After Asking What She Would Bring To His Life by DeeScan: 6:24am On Aug 30, 2025
Fenrir:
And are you shocked to actually learn the meaning of the word? I swear Nigerian men confuse humility with humiliate when you talk about this nonsense

Is there pidgin lagos dictionary thats the complete opposite to the Oxford English dictionary?

So instead of.....

Mandatory meaning
Required and compulsory by law

Humility meaning
A low and modest opinion of one's self, and accepting your way isnt the only way

Here mandatory means
Because i said so

Here humility means
Insult and humiliate to stroke my ego
Can the mods do something about this clown

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