₦airaland Forum

Kaido:
The world would have been more chaotic and extremely disoriented , if the women were to lead. Most women are irrational, and also lacks the curiosity of a man like exploring the world.


95% of stuffs that people use today were invented and created by men.

We would have been back in stone age era, if not for men.

We ain't equal, woman!

Karleb:
On this one, action speaks louder. Some people would say this and that and still end up giving you more trouble.

But this lady didn't try. The effort was too low.

If you want something you have to work for it.

Clairvoyancy:
Being diplomatic by shooting herself on the leg? Or didn't you notice she actually wanted the relationship? I believe she could have lied about the whole thing instead of her wasting her diplomatic reasoning to eventually sound f**lish....

horlahwaley:
Though she's honest but trust me with these days economy you dont want a woman that will be fully dependent on you 100 percent. It is tiring even if you have the funds. You will reach a point the thing go just tire you.

Zonefree:
@bolded

This "change her orientation" is the major reason many men are suffering in marriage.

No matter what or who you are, you can NEVER change a female adult.

Pompoma:
We bring only pussiii and bweast. That's all. Anyone who don't like it should remain celibate.

Clairvoyancy:
You are the one who is petty here, cos you are accusing me of what is not....


No where in my post did I force my opinion on anyone.... I saw many comments condemning and asking the op to dump the lady for having nothing else to offer according to that SS, and I said my opinion is different, that I can take a risk of marrying her if everything she said in that SS are true, and I clearly stated it that provided she's willing, so I don't know where all you are saying is actually coming from....

I think you have issues with comprehension....

Clairvoyancy:
I'm not sure you are typing based on what we saw in that SS....

A lady who will be a grad in one year time telling someone wooing her those things has shown a trait of submission... Meaning she wants to depends on the guys, well I'm saying, her submission is all I needed.... If she doesn't believe in herself that she can do more than what she stated, I'm willing to risk it all by pushing her to do more... Provided what attracted me is still intact.. I might loose, but I'm certain I won't miss... That's why I called it a risk....

Ashawoman82:
mentality of a simp, she contributes, does it mean she does 50:50? Why then shouldn't she submit..

Lovelyperson:
Who make men the automatic provider?

shaybebaby:
I think he means that since her goals do not align with your values, do not bother risking anything. Recognise that it is not for you and keep it moving.

She did not state that she looking for otherwise, so why are you framing it like you could still be with her on the proviso that she changes to what you want?

When it is clear from the outset that you both want different things. Why not let it at that point?

Clairvoyancy:
You both are just twisting and making the whole conversation in that SS complex for yourself....


The fact that she even wanted to be a housewife is what got me attracted in the first instance.... I only went further to say even at that, she can still be more if she's willing, cos ladies like her got potentials.... What is hard to understand in this for crying out loud?

shaybebaby:
Submit to what please?

Fenrir:
Yes, men and women are equal
All human life is equal, its just were not the same

No matter who the woman is every man she knows is holding back with her
The average man is bigger, stronger, faster, tougher and more physically resilient

The average man can easily over power 2 or 3 women in a fair fight

Thats why men work in hard labour industries and women don't its not about equality its about who's built for a particular role

We are all equal we just built to contribute to society in different ways

Men build the world and women raise the world
But equally needed just different

shaybebaby:
And if she is unwilling to be more, then what next?

Kaido:
I respect the fact that women have their own strength in some areas.

But thing is, we are different.

jaxxy:
Diplomatic means neither saying the truth or lie. A toaster or friend with benefits might also be a friend. Lol

So yes she's honest only to an extent.

udemzyudex:
If no be say country don hard now,na em make man dey ask woman what are you bringing to the table.

I dey very sure say Ned no ask Regina what are you bringing to the table.
I'm very sure that if it is possible,most men will prefer their wife to be a sit at home mum but omo life don hard to live comfortably na war so woman got work too.

Clairvoyancy:
In this context... You wrong....

shaybebaby:
When you want submission, you take up the provider mantle with it.

With rights comes responsibilities.

You can not eat your cake and still have it.

Clairvoyancy:
So why should you be here mouthpiece? Kai! Nairaland and wahala na 5&6

shaybebaby:
No cogent response. Got it!

I'll leave you to reflect on my initial question. Maybe at some point, you will recognise the exercise in futility.

Fenrir:
And what did your great grandfather's and grandfather's get most of the time? They got what your wedding traditions (humiliation rituals) are for

Virgins, your great grandfather's and grandfather would not be asking these things

The fact that you ask these questions in the first place is irrefutable that there is no such thing as traditional values in Nigerian society today and there hasn't been since your civil war

Would your grandfather's or great grandfather's say even 10% of the things you say about women?

Would your grandfather's and great grandfather's have done youe humiliation ritual weddings for women that had been pre efed because the parents and extended family said its mandatory because they want it?

The truth is you men don't what you and it wouldn't shock me if in the next few years you said wanted the wives to become the husbands

Zonefree:
I love her honesty.


"I don't have anything else to offer"

The first woman to attest she has nothing to offer humanity.

mysticwarrior:
Bring your mind down kobo, I mentioned you because your talked about "our Great grand mothers and grandmothers" why you come suddenly switch to Great grand fathers? I am not understanding, could you please, kindly help me to understand.

Fenrir:
In a marital sense "submit and submissive" are not the same

To submit is to be dominated by one side in a marriage

Submissive just means to follow your mans lead, but why would a woman automatically do it if the man continually proves hes incapable of taking the lead and needs her to be the husband

Kaido:
This right here is the reason I always tell men that marriage is war. If you ain't built for the war, sign a deal with a woman...you get the child after you pay her off.

Fenrir:
Or just wish Bob luck finding the female husband of his dreams

shaybebaby:
Isn't that just describing the same thing?
One a verb, the other an adjective but still respect to the same scenario -Marriage.

And brings to mind a power imbalance, one party being obedient to the other. Like in parent child dynamic " Listen to me because I am your parent and I know best" rather than one of mutual respect.

abbey621:
So God forbid if you kpai now, how the woman go survive and take care of the kids? She go return to begging or she go find another man to take care of things? The reason women in advanced countries advocate for self dependency is because of the many tragedies of life......Are you willing to risk the welfare of your kids on a woman that has nothing else to offer than to bear children? Reason am!