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You suspected that your girlfriend was cheating on you. You noticed this based on her utterances and attitude.

You asked her, she denied. For months, she kept denying. Later, your own male friend confirmed it that your babe was actually seeing someone else. Your suspicion was now confirmed.

You had an altercation, a heated argument with her, and in the process, she sent you a message telling you that she actually cheated. She went further to put the blame on you for not being emotionally absent at some point in the relationship.
She apologized, you forgave her. After a week when the dust had already settled, you brought the matter Back. You asked about the guy she was cheating on you with and she said a few things about the guy.
You asked her to choose either you or the guy and she chose you. You then asked her to breakup with same guy and show evidence that she's indeed broken up with him. She said okay. After a week, you asked if she had done so, but she said she hadn't and was yet to.

How would you handle this?

Meanwhile, this is someone you've been dating for two solid years and both parents are even aware of your relationship. She's someone you both had agreed to marry in the next two to three years from now. This is a lady you're six years older than. A lady her friend told her to dump me simply because her friends felt that I'm too handsome for her and my level pass her own. She was the one that told me this.

It is really painful hearing your own woman telling you that she cheated while having an altercation with her. It hurts deeply, especially as a man. This is a lady you have never cheated on and she is aware.

I told her, I'm not ready to share my woman with anyone else. I don't double date, so I don't expect my woman to double date either. And since she's reluctant to leave the guy, I have signed out of the relationship. I told her on WhatsApp, I blocked her on same WhatsApp and Facebook. It's being four days now, and she will not allow my phone to rest with her incessant calls. I already gave her enough time to do what I asked her to do. To leave that guy, but she downplayed it. I'm not a Simp and will never be, no matter how much I love a woman. I was even lenient enough to forgive her in the first place, but the deal breaker was her reluctance to do the needful.

Brahamimo:
You then asked her to breakup with same guy and show evidence that she's indeed broken up with him. She said okay. After a week, you asked if she had done so, but she said she hadn't and was yet to.

The new guy she found is better than you that is why she hasn't ended things with him
From your story I can tell you are the only one holding the relationship if you continue with her know that you will always be sharing her with the guy if you can afford to lose her now then break up with her if not just be sharing her with him with protection for now while looking for a better option then break up with her later

JAOS:
The new guy she found is better than you that is why she hasn't ended things with him
From your story I can tell you are the only one holding the relationship if you continue with her know that you will always be sharing her with the guy if you can afford to lose her now then break up with her if not just be sharing her with him with protection for now while looking for a better option then break up with her later

No the guy isn't better than me. I already got details of him.

Think about anything, in all ramifications, I'm better than him. Remember, a cheat is always a cheat. You can satisfy a woman sexually, care for her, gift her, respect her, yet she would still cheat

Brahamimo:
No the guy isn't better than me. I already got details of him.

You are not hearing!

She is telling you the guy is better than you, whether you or the details and the evidence and the facts agree with her or not!

You a SIMP bro…

Dzzzz:
You a SIMP bro…

Baba said he forgave her despite finding out she cheated. Lmao. You're wrong. He's no simp. He's a whole SIMPOsium

Dzzzz:
You a SIMP bro…

A very mighty and annoying one at that. H
Who brings up such weak men in today's harsh cold world? Probably a single mother. I felt disgust reading the nonsense he typed

Her refusal to dump the other guy shows he's giving her things you don't (good dìck, emotional connection & support, attention etc. Whatever it is.)

However, you should have dumped her since. Once you knew she cheated, block her and keep it moving.

You forgiving her reinforced her belief that you're NOT the man for her. Remember, women will NEVER respect a man that takes her back after cheating.

From the look of things she lost respect and love for you long ago. She's just enjoying you and the guy till she manipulates one of you into taking care of her children or dumps both of you entirely

Your next move? Keep it moving and find new girls. Let your family know that things have ended

Throw her away. She doesn't deserve you. I love your attitude. Calm down ND look for another malaria. Good luck

Brahamimo:
No the guy isn't better than me. I already got details of him.

Think about anything, in all ramifications, I'm better than him. Remember, a cheat is always a cheat. You can satisfy a woman sexually, care for her, gift her, respect her, yet she would still cheat

I believe you that he is not better than you.

She slept with the guy because he is less than you, someone on her own level unlike you whom her friends are all confirming her inner thoughts, that she is not worthy of you which makes her feel inferior.

Even your forgiving her is causing her pain because she would say "I don't blame you na, is it not because you are better than me which is why you can forgive?"

So being with someone you are better than carries serious issues, same also with one who is better than you.

You did the right thing by blocking her. And please stay true to your stand, and if you value your mental health, don't go back to her.

You forgive a lady that cheats on you?

Most of you live life with zero principles. No dos and donts for those coming into your life.

Just cruise.

And if you try to justify this, it means you're just a ba-by in a adult bo-dy

Tho it's painful but you gotta move on with your life bro ..

The thought of your woman being fvcked by another nigha will forever leave an ache in any man's heart so long they're're still together...So it'd be better if you just let her go and be with the other guy . .....She ain't worth all these stress you're subjecting yourself to..

….Never go back to the lady who cheated…

Brahamimo:
No the guy isn't better than me. I already got details of him.

Think about anything, in all ramifications, I'm better than him. Remember, a cheat is always a cheat. You can satisfy a woman sexually, care for her, gift her, respect her, yet she would still cheat

I pity you premium tears loading

Girls or women r pigs bro, I can understand from ur perspective and for ur peace of mind, l can only advice you to cut all ties with the lady for your own peace of mind and let her family knows you r no longer dating just in case the new man will eventually use her for sacrifices, do not forgive a cheating woman, and never ever take back a cheating woman as if you do, just believe you are digging soon to ur grave, shilom

Nazgul:
You did the right thing by blocking her. And please stay true to your stand, and if you value your mental health, don't go back to her.

Thanks a lot Sir

EvilMerodack:
You forgive a lady that cheats on you?

Most of you live life with zero principles. No dos and donts for those coming into your life.

Just cruise.

And if you try to justify this, it means you're just a ba-by in a adult bo-dy

Hummmmmm

Sonnobax15:

Tho it's painful but you gotta move on with your life bro ..

The thought of your woman being fvcked by another nigha will forever leave an ache in any man's heart so long they're're still together...So it'd be better if you just let her go and be with the other guy . .....She ain't worth all these stress you're subjecting yourself to..

Thanks so much brother. I appreciate deeply

Pupanchie:
Girls or women r pigs bro, I can understand from ur perspective and for ur peace of mind, l can only advice you to cut all ties with the lady for your own peace of mind and let her family knows you r no longer dating just in case the new man will eventually use her for sacrifices, do not forgive a cheating woman, and never ever take back a cheating woman as if you do, just believe you are digging soon to ur grave, shilom

Thanks so much brother. God bless you for your kind words. I appreciate

What happened to standards!!!!
What happened to real men.

Are you afraid of finding someone else who will respect her own body and your relationship so much that infidelity is not even an option?

You should heal from whatever makes you feel that you don't deserve better.

Btw, if I'm the one. We stopped dating already.
Infidelity is a red flag so big, it soils everything else.

The girl has already seen you finish that you are a SIMP, it better you let her go and never return, you even have the mind to tell her to chose between you and the guy...

You really messed up, because you have looked down on yourself in her presence as if you can't bagged another girl if she leaves you...

Nah you really need this gheghe university

You are dating yourself. Forget the time you have been together, this should be a red flag you should not ignore.

The guy involved is an ozu or.

Fling her away, except you wanna use her for style practicals.

A girl cheated on you.. and you are asking her to choose between you and the guy she cheated with..

Do you have value for yourself at all?

She is emotionally blackmailing you,by saying you were not there. And you want to consider her?

If you weren't there,why didn't she break up and go find who will be there for her?

Oga where did you throw away your self worth?

If the man forgives her ,he is a sisi and not an Alpha

Brahamimo:
No the guy isn't better than me. I already got details of him.

Think about anything, in all ramifications, I'm better than him. Remember, a cheat is always a cheat. You can satisfy a woman sexually, care for her, gift her, respect her, yet she would still cheat

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Get a life. Jeeez!

Are you for real?

This is your major concern in 2025?

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Dzzzz:
You a SIMP bro…

Gbsmsulotey hahahahahahaha Muchechecheche Hehehehehe haha 😂

Who in their right senses forgives a cheating woman ?
Come on bro .

Forgiving a cheat is the greatest simp culture man. Your suspicion should have been enough for you to relegate her for recreational use only.

What kind of nonsense is this dame who's this okoko

What a nonsense simp okoko you must learn the hard way