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My childhood friend is 42 soon to be 43, never married and no kids.

While we were younger she insisted on not marrying anyone who's more than 5 years older than her. Most guys just hold, eat and leave. She was a devoted believer, unlike me then. She acts like she's better than all.

When I arrived Canada, i introduced 2 different men who were in their 50s then she was in her mid 30s, she engaged them but kept it cold, they walked away.

She later told me that her pastor whom she was very close too, lost his wife, I said eyahhh. Hopefully you can marry him if he likes you, at least you be church girl. She said lailai. Unknown to me, they've been extremely close. The man has been sponsoring her lifestyle, he's a lawyer but early 60s and she's already 40.

According to her, she goes to cook, clean the house do everything but nothing else. So the pastor officially asked her out and she refused. The man was shocked, he really liked her. Told her to go take a masters program which he paid for.

But, according to my friend, he's too old for her. Auntie you're 40 already. She attended my first wedding, now they 2nd one. I told her, Ore, you need to work on your character ooo.

The pastor complained to her that despite all he's doing for her, she has never for oneday buy him a gift. The pastor withdrew all his financial commitment and stop answering her calls. A year later, the man remarried and she was very angry and jealous. She claimed he never loved her and he wouldn't have stopped helping her if he did. I told her, I'm proud of the pastor. I will be angry at him of he didn't withdraw.

She doesn't call first, check in and all..
Another guy complained, she said its a man's duty to call first and those blabla......
Bible says: he that wants a friend must be friendly.
I've heard pastors told me that they have older sisters in their ministry never married, 40s 50s
Haba! Kilode!
Also, the supposedly financially stable ones, the same pastors told them to not give money to their men.
Once his finances is weak they won't commit to him.
E continue adura, una eye go clear.
LIFE IS ALL ABOUT RISK.

I hear alot of dont marry again but I CHOOSE MARRIAGE.
EVERYTHING ABOUT LIFE IS RISK, CHOOSE YOUR RISK WISELY.

Men dupe ladies, ladies dupe men too.
Whoever is struck down by a car, another car will pick him/her up to the hospital.
Don't sit around and set unrealistic standards....
Be easy, be loving, be approachable, respect a man. If you cant respect him, let him be.
Be open minded and stop wasting your own time.
Loneliness is Real! Sexual urge is real! A woman is created for a man so stop deceiving yourself. No woman is limited by marriage. If you're thinking such, you dont know your potential and life given purpose.
Pray and be ready to obey God not a pastor alone.
Follow biblical principles of marriage.
Ruth approached Boaz....
Be humble.
At the end of it all " Que sera sera" what will be will be!

Chilipepper:
Canada-based Nigerian Pastor recounts how her 42-year-old friend has remained single because of her strict policies and expectations from her partners.

Kobojunkie:
Your friend is probably luck she did not engage any of those men you introduced to her. Those Passport-brothers you introduced to her would have likely led to the death of her or her regret in marriage.

A woman should remain single rather than running around filled with regret in marriage. Africans still have not normalized divorce, so it is difficult for many to get out once they are imprisoned in such situations.

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On another note, something tells me that this woman telling this story is herself a single-married woman, seeing as she is all wrapped up on tales of Boaz and all that religious nonsense— religious delusions —, while openly demeaning her friend for having standards.

Nukilia:
When religion re-wires your brain and you do not take your time, you'll be stuck for a very long time...

Guide777:
Some Pastors are good storytellers sha! Is it not wonderful that a divorce is giving relationship advice to the singles?

headbasher96:
Nothing new here but what caught my fancy was she attended my first wedding and now the second one.
Our sister really the poach men overseas.

ednut1:
Many use religion to hide their lack of social skills

Chilipepper:
Canada-based Nigerian Pastor, Temmy Omoileri recounts how her 42-year-old friend has remained single because of her strict policies and expectations from her partners.

She was reacting to a viral video of unmarried women wearing wedding gowns in a church event.





https://x.com/Temmy_omoileri/status/1967618692860317826?t=sM0QoMwf0Ya-mtjrUxwIrA&s=19[/quote]A very good write up and testimony with good advice for those who want to learn. However it is not like a taking a risk of gambling. It is about waiting upon the Lord no matter what.

Chilipepper:
Canada-based Nigerian Pastor, Temmy Omoileri recounts how her 42-year-old friend has remained single because of her strict policies and expectations from her partners.

She was reacting to a viral video of unmarried women wearing wedding gowns in a church event.


My childhood friend is 42 soon to be 43, never married and no kids.

While we were younger she insisted on not marrying anyone who's more than 5 years older than her. Most guys just hold, eat and leave. She was a devoted believer, unlike me then. She acts like she's better than all.

When I arrived Canada, i introduced 2 different men who were in their 50s then she was in her mid 30s, she engaged them but kept it cold, they walked away.

She later told me that her pastor whom she was very close too, lost his wife, I said eyahhh. Hopefully you can marry him if he likes you, at least you be church girl. She said lailai. Unknown to me, they've been extremely close. The man has been sponsoring her lifestyle, he's a lawyer but early 60s and she's already 40.

According to her, she goes to cook, clean the house do everything but nothing else. So the pastor officially asked her out and she refused. The man was shocked, he really liked her. Told her to go take a masters program which he paid for.

But, according to my friend, he's too old for her. Auntie you're 40 already. She attended my first wedding, now they 2nd one. I told her, Ore, you need to work on your character ooo.

The pastor complained to her that despite all he's doing for her, she has never for oneday buy him a gift. The pastor withdrew all his financial commitment and stop answering her calls. A year later, the man remarried and she was very angry and jealous. She claimed he never loved her and he wouldn't have stopped helping her if he did. I told her, I'm proud of the pastor. I will be angry at him of he didn't withdraw.

She doesn't call first, check in and all..
Another guy complained, she said its a man's duty to call first and those blabla......
Bible says: he that wants a friend must be friendly.
I've heard pastors told me that they have older sisters in their ministry never married, 40s 50s
Haba! Kilode!
Also, the supposedly financially stable ones, the same pastors told them to not give money to their men.
Once his finances is weak they won't commit to him.
E continue adura, una eye go clear.
LIFE IS ALL ABOUT RISK.

I hear alot of dont marry again but I CHOOSE MARRIAGE.
EVERYTHING ABOUT LIFE IS RISK, CHOOSE YOUR RISK WISELY.

Men dupe ladies, ladies dupe men too.
Whoever is struck down by a car, another car will pick him/her up to the hospital.
Don't sit around and set unrealistic standards....
Be easy, be loving, be approachable, respect a man. If you cant respect him, let him be.
Be open minded and stop wasting your own time.
Loneliness is Real! Sexual urge is real! A woman is created for a man so stop deceiving yourself. No woman is limited by marriage. If you're thinking such, you dont know your potential and life given purpose.
Pray and be ready to obey God not a pastor alone.

Follow biblical principles of marriage.
Ruth approached Boaz....
Be humble.
At the end of it all " Que sera sera" what will be will be!

https://x.com/Temmy_omoileri/status/1967618692860317826?t=sM0QoMwf0Ya-mtjrUxwIrA&s=19[/quote]When I arrived Canada, i introduced 2 different men who were in their 50s then she was in her mid 30s, she engaged them but kept it cold, they walked away.

She later told me that her pastor whom she was very close too, lost his wife, I said eyahhh. Hopefully you can marry him if he likes you, at least you be church girl. She said lailai. Unknown to me, they've been extremely close. The man has been sponsoring her lifestyle, he's a lawyer but early 60s and she's already 40.

According to her, she goes to cook, clean the house do everything but nothing else. So the pastor officially asked her out and she refused. The man was shocked, he really liked her. Told her to go take a masters program which he paid for.

But, according to my friend, he's too old for her. Auntie you're 40 already. She attended my first wedding, now they 2nd one. I told her, Ore, you need to work on your character ooo.