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We have been together for 3yrs (2 in marriage). We’ve been having some patch ones lately due to finances. Which I told her I’ll sort it and get her the money she want to use. I’d have borrowed but no one did.

Lately, our landlord son is around. He just came back from the Netherlands as he’s been living there for years. My wife started moving very close to him (between we live in a large compound and my landlord has a whole section of the storey building to himself while the tenant share the other two storeys). She got his number and they started chatting on WhatsApp. Will see her giggles and she told me the guy is helping her find free school in Europe.

I had no idea they were sleeping with each other until the beginning of this month. When I knew and asked her about it, she got angry. But i saw a text where she was begging the guy and saying sorry he couldn’t penetrate well. That was the second time they were having sex from the chat. Now she’s angry and went back to her parent house saying I connived with the landlord son to ask her out and accuse her of infidelity.

Mind you it’s been months we last had sex. Which was mainly due to my financial condition.

Is it okay to call her parent and ask them to beg her, at least she can come back home

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isyourboy:
We have been together for 3yrs (2 in marriage). We’ve been having some patch ones lately due to finances. Which I told her I’ll sort it and get her the money she want to use. I’d have borrowed but no one did.

Lately, our landlord son is around. He just came back from the Netherlands as he’s been living there for years. My wife started moving very close to him (between we live in a large compound and my landlord has a whole section of the storey building to himself while the tenant share the other two storeys). She got his number and they started chatting on WhatsApp. Will see her giggles and she told me the guy is helping her find free school in Europe.

I had no idea they were sleeping with each other until the beginning of this month. When I knew and asked her about it, she got angry. But i saw a text where she was begging the guy and saying sorry he couldn’t penetrate well. That was the second time they were having sex from the chat. Now she’s angry and went back to her parent house saying I connived with the landlord son to ask her out and accuse her of infidelity.

Mind you it’s been months we last had sex. Which was mainly due to my financial condition.

Is it okay to call her parent and ask them to beg her, at least she can come back home

Yes. Please invite her family over. Go to the market and purchase those items you used for marriage introduction. Kneel down like your life depends on it and prostrate afterwards. Apologize to her and tell her you can't do without her. Please try to appear very very sorry. Don't worry everything would be fine.

Tenrack:
Yes. Please invite her family over. Go to the market and purchase those items you used for marriage introduction. Kneel down like your life depends on it and prostrate afterwards. Apologize to her and tell her you can't do without her. Please try to appear very very sorry. Don't worry everything would be fine.

@ isyourboy, I am not totally sure if you are cathing cruise or serious....so since you don't sound very sharp, I just wanted to point out that the bolded above is not an advice.....its ridiculous sarcasm on beast mode

I don't get this.

Are you saying that your wife is getting shagged by your Lord's son?

And that she is apologizing to the guy for not being able to penetrate her well....

If that's what happened....

Bear this in mind

A. Your role as a man in marriage is about

Respect and loyalty

B. Clearly you lack both of these.

C. Begging wouldn't do you any favours. It tells her she can break the covenant, run, and still have you scrambling. That erodes respect even more.

D. Stay calm and unbothered.

E. She has disrespected and wants to Gaslight you.....not good.

F. Do you want her based on love or based on fear of loss?

However, if she comes back, she would do it again....


You should let her feel the weight of your absence.

Fix your finances. If your woman cannot abase in times of lack.

You have a bigger problem on your hands that's bound to manifest later

Don’t do what will make you lose your sanity! If she is not repentant of the adultery you have proof she committed it is about time you let her be. You are in a better position in the matter.

Oluwa ooooo....

I thank God for all the men in my circle.

Jeezeeee .......

Should l tell you the real truth that nobody ever wanted to tell you, ur slut that u called ur wife has moved on except if the guy she's having fun with refused to date her and she going to her parents house is to discuss the new guy she just met and how they will find a silly mistake to terminate and divorce you, l don't want to go further more on this than for you to know how to plan ahead to find someone else or make.l ask u this question ❓ wetin una dey use woman do self ?

Yes!! Even when she brings home another man to ur matrimonial bed it's right to forgive her

Tufia!!!

Now she’s angry and went back to her parent house saying I connived with the landlord son to ask her out and accuse her of infidelity.

Reverse psychology/dark manipulation at its best.

Men that lack experience about woe-men are suffering in the hands of woe-men sha.

isyourboy it's well.

How old are you?

You see the reason why we tell you children to leave marriage for adults? But you people will never listen

Why are you shouting at a woman? Now you've scared her away. You see. See your life.

If someone treats you that way will you like it? Just small fvck o. Small fvck. Na wa o.

Write a letter of apology to her parents.

Tell her to come back.

Finally, try to ignore that landlord son, it is only temporarily. He won't stay in Nigeria forever. Afterall its just for a while.

Only fight the man if he trying to take her permanently . Don't let him take her out of this country.

Love is not a crime.

Fools everywhere

If the Netherlands thing will favor you too then beg her, when you get to Netherlands look for another wife. This one is not wife, remove the "W" replace it with "Kn".

But wait o , ebi like say your thing dey small o, how come landlord thing couldn't enter.

isyourboy:
Is it okay to call her parent and ask them to beg her, at least she can come back home

What Exactly are you waiting for?

Don't call... go to her parents house in person with a big bowl of ashes and knee down in front of all the family. Give them the bowl of ashes to pour on your head to show you really mean the apology. Don't fail to do this today before it is too late because good women are very hard to find these days. save your marriage.

And if the begging doesn't work, go to someone that she respects very well. From your story I can see she respects the landlord son. Go and meet him with all humility and beg him to help you talk to her for her return. You need to be patient and allow him talk to her in the language she will understand. Offer him a fresh bottle of vaseline or baby Oil so that the communication can go SMOOTHLY and you will see how she will run out from her parent's house.
Don't give up on love my brother.

You are a wise man, but not as wise as my dog

Afriifa:
You are a wise man, but not as wise as my dog

Dats an insult to dogs, u for use goat rather than dog.

If you are truly a man and this story you just typed is what truly happened and you are asking us if it's okay to beg her to come back home

Then you are truly not a man

My friend will you disappear 🫥🫥🫥🫥🫥🫥

advanceDNA:
@ isyourboy, I am not totally sure if you are cathing cruise or serious....so since you don't sound very sharp, I just wanted to point out that the bolded above is not an advice.....its ridiculous sarcasm on beast mode

That's the whole idea! How can you beg a cheating spouse??
Please don't only prostrate, roll on the ground, pick pin and somersault too. That one go carry more weight. She'll definitely take you back.
FYI, Na you no sharp.

Listen to yourself,

she just earned herself a silent treatment from me....
until she leaves the house or kill herself.....
i would stop eating in the house but yet provide.
greetings wont be answered
wont sleep in the same room
and would always return late

isyourboy:
Is it okay to call her parent and ask them to beg her, at least she can come back home

my brother,

don't allow societal pressure, pride and ego to make you lose a good woman in your life.

Phone call? That is not what an adult should do. A real adult should know that going in person to the parents house is the matured thing to do.
Go there with someone your wife respects in the society and from your note, we can see she respects your landlord's son very much. Go there with him. Give him a new bottle of olive oil so that he can use it to communicate with your wife and the begging can ENTER VERY WELL.
Love is a powerful thing and a good woman is hard to find. Do all you can to keep your marriage.
I wish you and your wife can resolve this and you can learn not to offend her by minding your business next time.

What did I just read? Your wife cheated on you and was even apologising to the G man for not being able to penetrate her properly. Still she is doing the victim mentality, here you are asking if you should apologize to her. You need serious mass beating to remove that simp spirit from you.

I just don't know what to say ....



Let the females give him a word of advice or two


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Yes, there's nothing wrong in begging your wife when she cheats on you.

You're a definition of a weak man.
No disrespect but na mumu you be
Just keep begging

There is no need to beg, I'm sure she will regret her actions soon,

Thunder fire poverty.....

AllBlack:
my brother,

don't allow societal pressure, pride and ego to make you lose a good woman in your life.

Phone call? That is not what an adult should do. A real adult should know that going in person to the parents house is the matured thing to do.
Go there with someone your wife respects in the society and from your note, we can see she respects your landlord's son very much. Go there with him. Give him a new bottle of olive oil so that he can use it to communicate with your wife and the begging can ENTER VERY WELL.
Love is a powerful thing and a good woman is hard to find. Do all you can to keep your marriage.
I wish you and your wife can resolve this and you can learn not to offend her by minding your business next time.

I agree with some part of your statement but I want to clarify some of it. Do you think it’s okay to go with the landlord son? He was the one sleeping with my wife. They were also seen together yesterday and ever since she left and after she accused me of badmouthing her she’s not picking my calls. Send her messages everyday yet no reply. I know I made a mistake by asking her too many questions about sleeping with him but I was just pained .

Maybe it’s okay to call one of her friends so we can go together?

You absolutely must apologise to your wife. If you had money, she wouldn’t have to look outside. You should know the rule that broke men can’t have elections so she had no other option than to find a financially viable alternative to change her oil. I mean you were broke for so long that the hole nearly sealed up! Do you want your wife to die? Just apologise for your selfish actions and clear the house daily so she can have her oil changed peacefully.

Sirhush:
There is no need to beg, I'm sure she will regret her actions soon,

I pray so. At least she should come home so I can apologize properly

isyourboy:
I pray so. At least she should come home so I can apologize properly

I think is better that way

Rage bait.

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If this is not a rage bait, then you deserve such a woman, after all, we all get what we deserved.