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Please I need honest advice abeg, no insults 🙏

I dated my ex for almost 2 years. He was caring and respectful, but he didn’t have money that time. I waited, encouraged him, but things weren’t moving forward.

Later, I met another man who was financially stable and serious about marriage. I accepted and got married. My husband works abroad, so he travels a lot and sometimes stays away for months.

Now out of nowhere, my ex came back into my life. He’s doing well — has a business, car, and looks even better than before. He said he never stopped loving me and wants me back.

Honestly, I still have feelings for him but I’m married. I don’t even know what to do anymore. Please Nairaland people, if you were in my shoes, what would you do? 😔

Abeg make una no insult me oooooo 🙏🙏

Ujunwaprince:
Abeg make una no insult me oooooo 🙏🙏

are you married to the man based overseas, if not consider it, meanwhile I feel you are in to your ex for the wrong reason. I believe you already have your plans all along. I just pity the Abroad man, but please be open to him. Meanwhile it's possible that your ex is back for a revenge, but because of hypergamy you may not know.

Simp of the year award should be given to your ex...

If I tell una say this girl here na very active and popular nairalander in Family section, will anyone doubt me. I know them and their modus operandi too well. Madam, use your original moniker before we can advise you.

Once an olosho always an olosho, gold digger and olosho in one combo I pity those werey men.

This story dey very similar to one of my friend brother own..
Women sabi use him head eh... E never sleep with girl once but him tear iphone 16 PM for and plus him open shop for her too, the guy dey claim Yankee based meanwhile homebase dey wreck am.

Meedon:
Simp of the year award should be given to your ex...

exactly what I wanted to say. Some men are just the problem of themselves. Woman leave you for hard time you work your life back to a better position. You still dey go meet her even when she's already married. Some type of pikin no be watin person dey pray to born oo. I spit

Ujunwaprince
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Abeg make una no insult me oooooo 🙏🙏

You're A Eleriibu OP

If the guy the snip of a human was still very broke and poor will you ever think of reconciling with him. I just dislike soft hearted men I just don't like soft men at all. Next please

You still have feelings for him because he now has money...


When he didn't have money I bet he looked like a monkey to you


Focus on your marriage. He would never love you the same way he used to and his coming back might just be to take his pound of flesh or to boost his ego that you damaged.


You will end up ruining your relationship with your husband and not getting him in the long run. Meaning you lost on two fronts.

Wait... what are you even considering leaving your husband to marry him or having him as a side gig?

Don't make me laugh.

You want to reap where you did not sow?WOMEN!

You guys are not even considering this plot twist; what if you leave your husband for him, and he went broke again?

Maybe you'd crawl back begging your present husband, since you have no shame!

Ujunwaprince:
Please I need honest advice abeg, no insults 🙏

I dated my ex for almost 2 years. He was caring and respectful, but he didn’t have money that time. I waited, encouraged him, but things weren’t moving forward.

Later, I met another man who was financially stable and serious about marriage. I accepted and got married. My husband works abroad, so he travels a lot and sometimes stays away for months.

Now out of nowhere, my ex came back into my life. He’s doing well — has a business, car, and looks even better than before. He said he never stopped loving me and wants me back.

Honestly, I still have feelings for him but I’m married. I don’t even know what to do anymore. Please Nairaland people, if you were in my shoes, what would you do? 😔

Temptations will always come, it’s left for you to fight it or make you over come you.
If I was in your shoes, I will remember I’m now married.
I’d appreciate what I have and focus on how to get fruits from my marriage.
If money is your priority, he will chop you and clean mouth.
You must learn to be contented and not be deceived

Meedon:
Simp of the year award should be given to your ex...

he will use her and dump. He wan just chop pension and move on.. Most guys that were shown shege during gathering (broke),days dey get sense most times....

I dated my ex for almost 2 years. He was caring and respectful, but he didn’t have money that time. I waited, encouraged him, but things weren’t moving forward.

Later, I met another man who was financially stable and serious about marriage. I accepted and got married.

Now out of nowhere, my ex came back into my life. He’s doing well — has a business, car, and looks even better than before.

No offence meant, but from all the bolded statements, all you care about is the money.

Here's a faceless forum. Remove your photo madam.

So are we to feel sorry for you. My advice is go find a new broke guy to stick with him till he blow.

Ujunwaprince:
Please I need honest advice abeg, no insults 🙏

I dated my ex for almost 2 years. He was caring and respectful, but he didn’t have money that time. I waited, encouraged him, but things weren’t moving forward.

Later, I met another man who was financially stable and serious about marriage. I accepted and got married. My husband works abroad, so he travels a lot and sometimes stays away for months.

Now out of nowhere, my ex came back into my life. He’s doing well — has a business, car, and looks even better than before. He said he never stopped loving me and wants me back.

Honestly, I still have feelings for him but I’m married. I don’t even know what to do anymore. Please Nairaland people, if you were in my shoes, what would you do? 😔

you should go and hang yourself, once you betrayed a man, he can never trust you again . He will just Bleep you till he find better replacements, men forgive but can never forget how you make them feel...

Cum4me:
exactly what I wanted to say. Some men are just the problem of themselves. Woman leave you for hard time you work your life back to a better position. You still dey go meet her even when she's already married. Some type of pikin no be watin person dey pray to born oo. I spit

don't judge the booked by the cover , he might be seeking for revenge, some men go patiently waste your time for 10 years and dumb her just like Annie and Idibia.. some revenge takes years so she won't heal easily and that time she go don pass evening newspaper

Men are the problem of themselves, the ex need serious talk

Ujunwaprince:
Please I need honest advice abeg, no insults 🙏

I dated my ex for almost 2 years. He was caring and respectful, but he didn’t have money that time. I waited, encouraged him, but things weren’t moving forward.

Later, I met another man who was financially stable and serious about marriage. I accepted and got married. My husband works abroad, so he travels a lot and sometimes stays away for months.

Now out of nowhere, my ex came back into my life. He’s doing well — has a business, car, and looks even better than before. He said he never stopped loving me and wants me back.

Honestly, I still have feelings for him but I’m married. I don’t even know what to do anymore. Please Nairaland people, if you were in my shoes, what would you do? 😔

Where are those women defenders.. others bashing the other bro for downplaying marriage? Let them hop on this thread please. Make dem come tell me why (with good reasons) men should still take women seriously. Like I always say, I pity any man that believes his wife cannot do him dirty. Onto the next...

ayoncox:
are you married to the man based overseas, if not consider it, meanwhile I feel you are in to your ex for the wrong reason. I believe you already have your plans all along. I just pity the Abroad man, but please be open to him. Meanwhile it's possible that your ex is back for a revenge, but because of hypergamy you may not know.

Why are you advising her? Let her satisfy her curiosity in peace. She needs to explore further to discover who she wants to be with. She's a woman after all, they are always confused.

OKOATA:
Here's a faceless forum. Remove your photo madam.

Wetin concern you? Captain save a...you can complete it. Btw, she's too old to be sounding this naive.

Tenrack:
Why are you advising her? Let her satisfy her curiosity in peace. She needs to explore further to discover who she wants to be with. She's a woman after all, they are always confused.

you are right sha

OKOATA:
Who be this one, who wants to safe such an old madam.. abi you know hear me call am madam?

no vex. ROTFL

Ujunwaprince:
Abeg make una no insult me oooooo 🙏🙏

But you asked for insults

The gold digger and the dilemma of two shovels. Women will forever disappoint.

Meedon:
Simp of the year award should be given to your ex...

Some men deh mumu, imagine coming back to a leftover op... Anyways is cock and bull story

Honestly I think the former broke guy has something up his sleeves. Cus I would do same thing of coming back to wreck her emotionally

Cum4me:
If the guy the snip of a human was still very broke and poor will you ever think of reconciling with him. I just dislike soft hearted men I just don't like soft men at all. Next please

Soft-hearted men didn't create themselves! Many of them have tried to become hard hearted but it didn't work! Some guys even resort to drugs and substances in a bid to toughen up but it still didn't work for them.

Me I believe nature didn't make a mistake in her creations. He created the Soft-hearted people to balance up the hard hearted ones. Life is a duality!

You are an adult. Do what's best for you