₦airaland Forum

Kobicove:
She remained in the marriage because she wanted to after all she was not tied to the man with a rope

Or maybe because of what people will say.

Kaczynski:
the most reasons for divorce is when a woman no longer love her man or feel anything.


when it comes to nigerian marriage, most men drink alchol and start getting aggressive on their wife , most men dont help out in the house they only care about paying the bills nothing else , most nigerian women go to work and still take care of the house when they come back, 70% of nigerian men stop being romantic to their wife when they clock 50,
tell me whats the last time you gave your wife a back rub or feet, cook dinner for the family,
some nigerian men cant even change their baby pampers or feed their baby.


marriage is about partnership, love and support, its all scratch my back i scratch yours


its sad most nigerian men think money runs the family , tell me why women are divorcing billionailires for guys with nothing but camry lite in his drive way

Hmmm... Marriage! Marriage!!

Marriage is not a case of one size fits all and no man or woman sets out to get married and walk out few years later despite having kids or become abusive...

These days, marriages need prayers as we are having more broken homes, bitter wives and husbands, partners turning on each other and even children hating parents...

Marriages break between couples and this leads to the family eventually getting scattered.

This is a wake up call and truely something is wrong!!

Sandralight:
It's always funny to me when people think "physical abuse" is the only reason women should leave marriage, what about "Mental and emotional abuse," or are women not humans too, mental abuse even kills more than physical abuse because you can't see it but it will be chipping away your very essence until you become a walking corpse.

There was an Aunty that died in our area some years ago, she was 44 years old and very beautiful, she died in her sleep due to high blood pressure, we all know the husband was a very big cheat, he sleep around with anything in skirt and many people told her to leave but she didn't when she died her husband got married 2 months later and it was her sister that was very angry that start exposing all the secrets in the marriage.

So apparently the husband was infertile and the husband mum and everyone was blaming the Aunty of been barren and the husband didn't support her, just told her to bear it because it will be an embarrassment if they find out the blame was on him.

So for years and years this Aunty kept the blame for their lack of children while the husband tried his luck outside with multiple women to see whether he can impregnate anyone of them and for years this Aunty developed HBP, Stress from years of been a good wife. From years of abuse from Mother in law that even knows the truth, from years of family and friends calling her barren and one day she slept and didn't wake up

So tell me if it's worth it to remain in a marriage like that but of course the man wasn't physically abusing her so everything is good right??
99% of married men will never stay with wives cheating on them so why do you expect wives to stay with husband cheating on them, women are humans too with emotions, if as a husband or wife you can't remain faithful than live the marriage and stop putting your partner in mental torture, we only have one life to live so shouldn't spend the limited time we have to be miserable.

If is mental and emotional abuse....nah man dey suffer am pass for marriage.

It cos most men don't speak up ......many women curse and deny there husband sex once he isn't able to provide.....so men even there kids disrespect them cos there mother tell them to.

But we know who always play the victim in marriage all the time.

Jozilinn:
It mustn't be physical abuse alone, mental and verbal abuse is also part of it.

Nobody supports separation of any kind, some women are married and are still the ones paying rent, children fees and feeding while most of their husbands are doing nothing.

I know of someone whose brother abroad sponsors the daughter's education she's in year 2 now in the university,her husband doesn't know and he has never asked the child how do you do in school with feeding or anything he feels the wife can handle this.

I'm not against what you said but I feel they can actually do better alone depending on the type of job the woman is doing.

Nobody supports separation of any kind, some women are married and are still the ones paying rent, children fees and feeding while most of their husbands are doing nothing.
How many women Give us the stats let compare ratio.

Last I checked in Nigeria, 95% of men are the bread winners of family and are the one driving the economy.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

Nna na wa ooo! 🥱🥱🥱

Bobodee09:
➜Nobody supports separation of any kind, some women are married and are still the ones paying rent, children fees and feeding while most of their husbands are doing nothing.
How many women Give us the stats let compare ratio. Last I checked in Nigeria, 95% of men are the bread winners of family and are the one driving the economy.

Stop lying! 🥱🥱🥱

Not long ago, your government released stats reporting that about 50% of breadwinners in married homes across Nigeria are women.

Farrason:
➜Hmmm... Marriage! Marriage!! Marriage is not a case of one size fits all and no man or woman sets out to get married and walk out few years later despite having kids or become abusive...
➜ These days, marriages need prayers as we are having more broken homes, bitter wives and husbands, partners turning on each other and even children hating parents...
➜ Marriages break between couples and this leads to the family eventually getting scattered. This is a wake up call and truely something is wrong!!

1. While we would like to believe no one wants that, the fact remains that some abusive men and women go into marriage fully intending on continuing their abusive behavior in marriage, expecting their partner to tolerate it until death. Is it your expectation that the victimized partner should condone such abuse without walking away because of marriage?

2. Marriage has never needed prayer but common sense. The ones who told you all to pray are the ones primarily responsible for the deplorable state of marriage as it is today. Their acts of urging you all to endure in marriage through prayer is what has led up to what you see of marriage today.

Families that don't need to scatter when a man and woman with children decide to dissolve the union. It simply takes a different form unless one partner is no longer interested and would rather ghost the other members completely. The children raised in many of those abusive, damaged, and toxic marriages are the ones today resolving never to have that happen to them again. If praying for marriage was a novel idea, the children who are the products of those marriages that endured on prayer would not have had to turn away from that supposedly good idea now, would they?

3. Nah! Marriages break because they should rightly break. That is why divorce has been around for as long as marriage has.

Jozilinn:
➜It mustn't be physical abuse alone, mental and verbal abuse is also part of it. Nobody supports separation of any kind, some women are married and are still the ones paying rent, children fees and feeding while most of their husbands are doing nothing.
I know of someone whose brother abroad sponsors the daughter's education she's in year 2 now in the university,her husband doesn't know and he has never asked the child how do you do in school with feeding or anything he feels the wife can handle this. I'm not against what you said but I feel they can actually do better alone depending on the type of job the woman is doing.

You forgot to mention financial abuse, where the woman gains no financial benefit from the marriage in all of the years she devotes to providing her time and labor to it.

A man can be a provider, but that money he brings, the woman should also get a share of it; otherwise, she is not a wife but a glorified baby-mama/bang maid/house maid in that house. That is financial abuse of a wife.

Sandralight:
It's always funny to me when people think "physical abuse" is the only reason women should leave marriage, what about "Mental and emotional abuse," or are women not humans too, mental abuse even kills more than physical abuse because you can't see it but it will be chipping away your very essence until you become a walking corpse.

You forgot to mention financial abuse — when a man deprives his woman of access to an agreed portion of what he earns as her share from the dividends of the marriage. A man as a provider means his wife is entitled to a share of his earnings — apart from that used in tending the household — to cover all her labor that goes towards the marriage.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

Dey read well na

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

Dey read well na

Let them continue to leave their marriage so that men can live longer. Marriage is a trap that has frustrated and trapped so many men

duduade:
➜If as a married man you know you are very irresponsible then let your wife go

I should add that any woman who finds herself supposedly trapped in marriage with an irresponsible man should look for the closest door out to her freedom. Marriage has never been by force, and divorce has always been available to all married folks from the beginning.

Tenrack:
➜smiles. Well, you have a point. But it takes two to tango, other times olojukokoro no dey allow certain spouses concentrate on their marriage.

How?

Tenrack:
➜ you conveniently deleted the part where it is said "unless in the case of a domestic abuse" 😀 wth has been going on with you lately? Our sweetest Dominique? E ro ra o. Good morning to you.

Domestic abuse has never been the only legal/acceptable reason why a woman should seek divorce from a man with whom she no longer sees a future. The same applies to men.

Complete waste of advice. The modus operandi for ladies now is to get married, have like two kids and start praying for their husbands to die so they can continue olosho work as a widow. When guy man refuses to die they claim domestic violence and leave anyway.

Ashawo work pays more when you are a single mother. Dey play.

SeverusSnape:
He said "unless it's case of physical abuse". He has a very good point.

Emotional abuse is even worse than physical abuse. Nobody, man or woman should remain in a marriage they are unhappy in because unhappiness hampers growth and productivity.

oglalasioux:
➜Complete waste of advice. The modus operandi for ladies now is to get married, have like two kids and start praying for their husbands to die so they can continue olosho work as a widow. When guy man refuses to die they claim domestic violence and leave anyway.
Ashawo work pays more when you are a single mother. Dey play.

This does not add up at all. Why marry when they could get those two kids while single?

PerfectStranger:
He said unless there's domestic violence.

Yes, he did mention physical abuse, but no reference was made to mental abuse. Contrary to the opinion that most people hold, mental abuse is more deadly than physical abuse. So I believe that any woman who isn't happy in her marriage and the situation is irredeemable should seek separation.

The irony of situations like this is that the woman may stay put for the mental health of her children, but kids who grow up in such environments would grow up to be either people pleasers/pick me or narcissists.

donogaga:
Married woman, before you exit your marriage, you should know that those women telling you to divorce your husband are unhappy, bitter and angry. They want to ruin your life. Unless it is a case of physical abuse, don't listen to them. Life as a single mother is HARD.

They are not 'single mothers' per se, they are divorced women. There is a difference. There is a connotation 'single mothers' have that should not be used to describe this class of women.

They will not listen until they experience it, one lady sent me message some wicks ago asking if she should divorce her husband, till tomorrow i didn't even reply her message, because i have given her lots of advises prior to that message. Last week she messaged me again that she's going to egypt. I know she's trying to escape the man.

Kaczynski:
the most reasons for divorce is when a woman no longer love her man or feel anything.


when it comes to nigerian marriage, most men drink alchol and start getting aggressive on their wife , most men dont help out in the house they only care about paying the bills nothing else , most nigerian women go to work and still take care of the house when they come back, 70% of nigerian men stop being romantic to their wife when they clock 50,
tell me whats the last time you gave your wife a back rub or feet, cook dinner for the family,
some nigerian men cant even change their baby pampers or feed their baby.


marriage is about partnership, love and support, its all scratch my back i scratch yours


its sad most nigerian men think money runs the family , tell me why women are divorcing billionailires for guys with nothing but camry lite in his drive way

You are so right, but most women make men to think money runs the family and money is what makes a good and responsible men...

Kobojunkie:
You forgot to mention financial abuse — when a man deprives his woman of access to an agreed portion of what he earns as her share from the dividends of the marriage. A man as a provider means his wife is entitled to a share of his earnings — apart from that used in tending the household — to cover all her labor that goes towards the marriage.

Your head is not correct!

Kobojunkie:
You forgot to mention financial abuse — when a man deprives his woman of access to an agreed portion of what he earns as her share from the dividends of the marriage. A man as a provider means his wife is entitled to a share of his earnings — apart from that used in tending the household — to cover all her labor that goes towards the marriage.

I agreed with you, they should get a portion of earnings

haabaaa,thats a loveless marriage

oglalasioux:
Complete waste of advice. The modus operandi for ladies now is to get married, have like two kids and start praying for their husbands to die so they can continue olosho work as a widow. When guy man refuses to die they claim domestic violence and leave anyway.

Ashawo work pays more when you are a single mother. Dey play.

There is a woman in Houston that a pastor has tried to talk to several times to stay in her marriage. She refused and always coming up with flimsy excuses about her husband.

The day she asked for my advise about her marriage was the day she got it.

I just told her "men go knack you tire for this Houston if you become a single mother".

Helpout12345:
➜There is a woman in Houston that a pastor has tried to talk to several times to stay in her marriage. She refused and always coming up with flimsy excuses about her husband. The day she asked for my advise about her marriage was the day she got it. I just told her "men go knack you tire for this Houston if you become a single mother".

Will the men in Houston have to rape her to accomplish that? What is wrong with a woman choosing to be knacked on her schedule by other men than rather than having to endure just one man for life? Do men not do the same thing, even many of the married ones among them? Nonsense!

Mistersolar:
haabaaa,thats a loveless marriage

A lot of men settle for women in much the same way while they continue to kick away games outside. Both men and women,abeg, can practice loveless marriage! What I don't understand is why some men are convinced that their slutty behavior is somehow better than that of some women.

dominique:
And if a woman dies in a marriage, it's still this same sets of people gaslighting women to stay in bad marriages that will berate her for dying because of marriage. Not all marriages are worth fighting for. Al

Oya join tiwa savage na 😅