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It's no longer new of how men these days are tasting the bitter pill of marital betrayal. The most recent is the one who went to the UK as a dependant with his wife only for her to try to get rid of him the moment she got to the UK. Sadly, both were deported. Sadly most of these men ignored the glaring red flags in the relationship and went on to marry the women in question.

Without wasting much time blabbing, I've put together a list of 7 red flags you must not ignore if you want to have a Happy marriage. (note some of them are from my personal experiences)

1. The materialistic woman. This one is easy to spot but hardly ever admits that she's materialistic. The materialistic woman doesn't love you, she loves what you can provide. Her loyalty is tied to your lifestyle, your wallet, your ability to keep her entertained with things. At first it feels harmless, you buy her gifts, she's excited, you take her out, she's smiling...but brother watch her closely, notice how her mood changes when you don't spend. Notice how she suddenly becomes too busy when you don't fund her wants.

Here's the hard truth. If her love is tied to money, she'll leave you the moment another man flashes something bigger. And don't think for a second that you can out give her appittie. That appittie is endless. If she loves what you give more than who you are, she'll never truly love you.


2. The woman still on dating apps Imagine this, you meet her, you click, things are going well; but weeks - even months into the relationship, she's still on Tinder, still swiping, still just looking. Now ask yourself this, if she truly wanted you why is she still shopping, why is she still entertaining strangers?

The answer is simple, because she's keeping her options open. And if she's keeping her options open, her loyalty was never sealed. Don't let her excuse it with oh it's just for fun or I don't even use it that much. Bro, the moment she leaves that door open, it's only a matter of time before someone walks through it.

If she's still swiping, she's still searching and if she's still searching, you were never enough for her in the first place. Unfortunately most men ignore it, they tell themselves it's not serious. But ignoring the red flag doesn't turn it green. It just makes the betrayal hit harder when it comes.


3. The secretive woman. Pay attention bro. If her phone has become her second boyfriend, she's already slipping away. She never leaves her phone lying around, screen always facing downwards, notifications always silenced. She guards it like a vault. When you ask...who's texting you, she's says oh nobody, you're being paranoid. You walk into the room, she quickly swips out of an app.

When she smiles at her phone more than she smiles at you, that's not innocence that's secrecy. And here's the truth. Secrecy is the soil where cheating grows - loyalty doesn't need hiding. If she can't show you what's on her phone, it's because she doesn't want you to see what's inside her life. If her phone is a mystery, so is her loyalty.

Unfortunately most men don't trust their gut. They confuse secrecy with privacy. Privacy is healthy but secrecy is betrayal in disguise. They know something's off, but they let her words calm them down. You're being childish she says. Bro, your gut is your oldest defensive system. If it whispers, listen.


4. The girl who is still cool with her ex. If she's still friends with her ex, who do you think she runs to when you upset her, who do you think still has emotional access to her? She'll say oh we're just friends - it's nothing. But let me tell you, if she respects you, she cuts off the past, if she doesn't love you she keeps it alive. And when things get rocky she already has a backup plan.

And if she's still looking back bro, she's not fully moving forward with you. If her past is still alive, your future with her is already dead. Sadly, most men feel staying silent makes them look confident - they think ignoring it is being secure. Silence is permission and permission leads to betrayal.

5. The girl who only has male friends. Be careful here. If every single one of her friends is a man, you're not dating in peace - you're dating in competition. She'll tell you oh they're just like brothers to me. But you and I both know the truth - most men don't hang around women for brotherhood. They're waiting....waiting for her guard to drop, waiting for a fight between you two, waiting for an opening.

And the more she entertains these friendships, the more blurred the bond between you two become. He's just a friend has been the last line before cheating more times than I can count. Sadly most men these days are too afraid to set standards, they think it makes them insecure; bro standards don't make you weak. They protect you. If she can't respect them, she doesn't respect you.

6. The girl who has slept with many men Here's what most men don't like to admit. History matters - the more partners she's had, the harder it is for her to bond deeply...why? Because everytime she gave herself casually, she trained her heart to detach - she taught herself how to move on quickly, so when you come along and think you're special and think you'll be the one she'll finally commit to....bro you're not the exception.

You're just another chapter in the same book. Yes it might feel exciting in the beginning, she's adventurous, passionate, you both connect very well... But over time that excitement turns into emptiness for her. If intimacy was cheap for her, loyalty would be expensive for you. Sadly most men would hang on believing they can change her, they think they'll be the man who finally makes her settle down. Unfortunately, they fail 9 times out of 10.


7. The girl who doesn't love you She clearly doesn't love you. She just likes the attention you give her, the gifts, the company, the safety net...but not you. And when a woman isn't emotionally invested, she isn't morally anchored. That's the part most men miss - without real love, there's no deep respect, without respect, boundaries become optional. Cheating stops feeling wrong and starts feeling justified.

Here's how it plays out in real life. She enjoys what you bring, but she's still hungry for a feeling she doesn't get with you, so she leaves the door open. This is why you see a girl dump a guy who trained her fron year 1-finals in the university.

This is because she has outsourced her emotions to other men, secret conversations, private meetups. And while you're busy proving yourself, someone else won't have to.

Note this: The more you fight to get her, the more you'll fight to keep her, and while you're fighting, she'll be exploring. If love isn't there - cheating wouldn't be a question of if. It would be a question of when and with whom.

Stop auditioning and trying to prove yourself to her. If she doesn't choose you clearly and freely, walk away early. Real love isn't complicated


Finally, this thread isn't about hating women as some people might feel. It's about protecting men. Cos the wrong woman can cost you years of your life. She can drain your confidence, wreck you financially and steal your focus. But the right woman....she multiplies everything. So stop chasing the wrong ones, stop making excuses for red flags. Protect your peace, protect your mental health, protect your future.

Hmmm...a man should not be bereft of knowledge of the "fair sex". Many unsuspecting men have fallen prey to their wiles!

As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

what do ve to offer aside your inbetween

rampage101:
what do ve to offer aside your inbetween

Good question no man too wants to marry liability her money is her money while her husband money if for the whole,while that can buy petty petty things for house to support her husband,some even to the smallest maggi na the Man go do everything.why won't he quickly wiped out

@OP Don't spread confusion.. it's possible for ladies to still be friends with their exes, it's also possible that some of them like male company.. doesn't mean they will automatically turn cheats.

I think emphasis should be on the society and social media promoting material things and luxury lifestyle. Those videos and images we watch on SM apps have a way of sticking around in the mind, making people set high standards and sometimes unrealistic targets for their spouse.

I stop dating 3 years ago.have not knacked in 2years. Lost interest in toasting naija ladies .we chat on whatsapp.after a few moments later.i loose interest.i delete and block. Can't be stressing myself when I'm higher than u

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

wetin ur papa and brothers no fit do
date ur class please. a broke woman should have nothing to do with a rich man
na only broke girls dey know men wey stingy

Walezy2020:
Good question no man too wants to marry liability her money is her money while her husband money if for the whole,while that can buy petty petty things for house to support her husband,some even to the smallest maggi na the Man go do everything.why won't he quickly wiped out

one of the major reasons men die early.

Wisdom no dey hide. When you share it, people go always show up.

This na Nazgul University of Relationship and Marital Affairs, and na me be the 100L Course Rep. No registration fee is required, just come with your pen and jotter.

[quote author=Jennyclay post=137116765]As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

From bro to bro any lady that’s says all this is a financial liability

The earlier men make peace with the fact that last last na imperfect woman we must end up with, the better for our mental health. This na just ur redflags for the current stage u are.

As a man just avoid anything call relationship, just carry olosho and have baby mama

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

If shamelessness was a person..

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

Please answer this question, How old are you?

What of a girl who doesn't like calling u nko

That won’t stop them from committing paternity fraud

Run from. girls. that are tied to the apron strings of. their pastor

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

Hope u also have money....cos u can't be broke and be looking for man with money....

FitCorper:
The earlier men make peace with the fact that last last na imperfect woman we must end up with, the better for our mental health. This na just ur redflags for the current stage u are.

you still have the choice of a free agent lifestyle.

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

In other words, the highest bidder wins your heart

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

I feel pity for your vagina.

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

but you two can chase thousand

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

This your standard is selfish. you are a human being, not a pet

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

Your phrase "You must be capable of taking very good care of me" is quite disconcerting, as it perpetuates the notion that you are akin to a "pet" and financial burden. This perspective fails to recognize women as autonomous beings with the ability to care for themselves and make meaningful contributions to the lives of their partners, beyond sexual and reproductive roles. Such a narrative ultimately undermines the inherent value and potential that women possess within relationships and society at large.

For the sake of fairness, it is important for you to change your mindset. This involves discarding traditional gender roles and expectations that portray women as helpless or dependent. Instead, you should embrace your capabilities and strive for autonomy, understanding that your worth extends beyond the confines of a romantic or reproductive role.

Peace!

2cribz:
I stop dating 3 years ago.have not knacked in 2years. Lost interest in toasting naija ladies .we chat on whatsapp.after a few moments later.i loose interest.i delete and block. Can't be stressing myself when I'm higher than u

LoL at when I am HIGHER THAN YOU......... hahaha 😂

1. A feminist with western ideology —- don’t wait for any explanation, run far away from her

2. Any girl telling you she can’t cook for you!

3. Any girl that ever mention the statement or supports the idea that anybody should be able to enter the kitchen to cook and cooking is not her role—— Run away!!!

4, feminist again

5. Feminist

6. Any girl that hates her father —-

7. Any girl that her mother hates their father

8. Feminist

9. If she can’t cook

10. Any girl that hates her father


If you let beauty confuse you or her temporary niceness to you confuse you to ignore these red flags… you are bound to suffer the most insufferable pain ever as a man

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

As long as you are ready to do woman duties..

Cook, be submissive and be faithful …
Can you do any of these?

Jennyclay:
As for me, my major red flag is a man who is broke and poor

No finance, No romance my dear.

You must be capable of taking very good care of me and also show me true love

This is my standard and I believe everyone has their standard.

Lolzzzzz 🤣

Money for hand, back for ground