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The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by KillerOfCrackas(op): 8:59pm On Oct 13, 2025
I met this fine fair girl in Woji, Port Harcourt early last year. I went to visit one of my guys, and she was sitting outside her compound pressing her phone. At first glance, I just saw one quiet, decent-looking babe. You know those girls that look innocent and respectful? That was her.
We started talking that day, and she was surprisingly easy to relate with. Within a week, we were already close. Everything about her was calm no drama, no unnecessary talk, always composed. I even told my guy say I don finally jam wife material.
Even my parents liked her. The first time she came to visit, my mum couldn’t stop praising her. She helped in the kitchen, greeted everyone politely, and behaved like someone raised with good morals. My dad even joked that I shouldn’t waste time before she escapes.
At first, everything was smooth. She always knew what to say, how to behave, and how to make me feel comfortable. But over time, I began to notice some strange things.
This girl no get emotion. I’m serious. If I tell her something deep or painful, like when I lost my uncle, she’ll just say “Sorry dear,” with straight face and continue what she’s doing. No hug, no concern, nothing.
But if I do something small that hurts her ego maybe I forget to call her or delay reply she’ll suddenly act emotional, start crying small, saying things like “You don’t love me anymore.” I later realized it was all performance.
She also had this scary way of reading people. She’d meet someone once and already know what to say to get what she wanted. I saw her manipulate her friend one time without raising her voice just calm words and fake sympathy.
When we argued, she’d use things I told her when I was vulnerable against me. She remembered every little thing I said and turned it around perfectly to make me feel guilty. I go end up apologizing for something I didn’t even do wrong.
Outside, everybody thought she was perfect. My friends used to say, “Guy, no let that babe go o, she get sense.” Meanwhile, I was the one dying silently inside.
When I finally decided to leave, she didn’t beg, didn’t even look surprised. She just smiled and said, “You’ll come back. People like you always do.” That line shook me to my core.
This girl taught me something: not everyone who looks calm is peaceful. Some people are emotionally cold but know exactly how to pretend otherwise. They don’t feel emotions they study them and use them.
Since then, I’ve learned that love without empathy will drain you. Some people are not violent, but the way they play with your mind go humble you.
So when people talk about toxic relationships, I just laugh. Because not all toxicity comes from shouting and fighting. Some come quietly, in the form of peace that slowly destroys you.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by papiSNEH(m): 9:06pm On Oct 13, 2025
This one na real daughter of jezebel
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by RealityKings1: 9:07pm On Oct 13, 2025
You have to be the evil person so that the evil person will fear your own evil. They'll often come back
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Elect1neAtegun(f): 9:32pm On Oct 13, 2025
Chai undecided

Bros nah see finish o.. sha nor forget update for nl when you go back go beg your scary gal. Bad guy tongue
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by cyberbro: 9:42pm On Oct 13, 2025
LOL you dated a manipulator. grin

Na this kind thing dey make some men no dey ever dey emotional with women, dem don show dem shege! 😂
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by always247: 10:09pm On Oct 13, 2025
I prefer women who raise voice than those calm and always silent women
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Gbadugbakun(m): 10:16pm On Oct 13, 2025
So have you gone back to her like she predicted?

Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by DanseMacabre(m): 10:27pm On Oct 13, 2025
That one no be sociopath na. You never jamb the one wey her own na to dey provoke you to your tether end so that you go fit beat am small before una fvckhuh
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Starboytwo(m): 11:37pm On Oct 13, 2025
Na new one I just hear today so.

Na this Nigeria this one take happen 🤔
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by ReacherSaidNoth:
You're not qualified to diagnose sociopathy, nothing truly outrageous in your post.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by judatech: 11:53pm On Oct 13, 2025
It reminds me of this quote; Never be amongst those who believe that Quiet and Peaceful is unskilled at war
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by seanery: 1:55am On Oct 14, 2025
Hope you sha sleep with her?
Cus na tht one go vex me
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Came4amod: 2:12am On Oct 14, 2025
KillerOfCrackas:
I met this fine fair girl in Woji, Port Harcourt early last year. I went to visit one of my guys, and she was sitting outside her compound pressing her phone. At first glance, I just saw one quiet, decent-looking babe. You know those girls that look innocent and respectful? That was her.
We started talking that day, and she was surprisingly easy to relate with. Within a week, we were already close. Everything about her was calm no drama, no unnecessary talk, always composed. I even told my guy say I don finally jam wife material.
Even my parents liked her. The first time she came to visit, my mum couldn’t stop praising her. She helped in the kitchen, greeted everyone politely, and behaved like someone raised with good morals. My dad even joked that I shouldn’t waste time before she escapes.
At first, everything was smooth. She always knew what to say, how to behave, and how to make me feel comfortable. But over time, I began to notice some strange things.
This girl no get emotion. I’m serious. If I tell her something deep or painful, like when I lost my uncle, she’ll just say “Sorry dear,” with straight face and continue what she’s doing. No hug, no concern, nothing.
But if I do something small that hurts her ego maybe I forget to call her or delay reply she’ll suddenly act emotional, start crying small, saying things like “You don’t love me anymore.” I later realized it was all performance.
She also had this scary way of reading people. She’d meet someone once and already know what to say to get what she wanted. I saw her manipulate her friend one time without raising her voice just calm words and fake sympathy.
When we argued, she’d use things I told her when I was vulnerable against me. She remembered every little thing I said and turned it around perfectly to make me feel guilty. I go end up apologizing for something I didn’t even do wrong.
Outside, everybody thought she was perfect. My friends used to say, “Guy, no let that babe go o, she get sense.” Meanwhile, I was the one dying silently inside.
When I finally decided to leave, she didn’t beg, didn’t even look surprised. She just smiled and said, “You’ll come back. People like you always do.” That line shook me to my core.
This girl taught me something: not everyone who looks calm is peaceful. Some people are emotionally cold but know exactly how to pretend otherwise. They don’t feel emotions they study them and use them.
Since then, I’ve learned that love without empathy will drain you. Some people are not violent, but the way they play with your mind go humble you.
So when people talk about toxic relationships, I just laugh. Because not all toxicity comes from shouting and fighting. Some come quietly, in the form of peace that slowly destroys you.
Bro you left .. you were expecting her to beg you .. and she didn't .. it doesn't mean she is a psychopath.. she is just deeper than you . And fact is .. you can't even comprehend her ..
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Came4amod: 2:14am On Oct 14, 2025
And going back to her will only destroy your ego further and she might not even accept you .. she has strong character.. and understand Humman emotions on a deeper level .. amongst the few humans with a well developed sixth sense .. intuition.. not manipulation just intuition
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Ekeneegwu(m): 5:38am On Oct 14, 2025
KillerOfCrackas:
I met this fine fair girl in Woji, Port Harcourt early last year. I went to visit one of my guys, and she was sitting outside her compound pressing her phone. At first glance, I just saw one quiet, decent-looking babe. You know those girls that look innocent and respectful? That was her.
We started talking that day, and she was surprisingly easy to relate with. Within a week, we were already close. Everything about her was calm no drama, no unnecessary talk, always composed. I even told my guy say I don finally jam wife material.
Even my parents liked her. The first time she came to visit, my mum couldn’t stop praising her. She helped in the kitchen, greeted everyone politely, and behaved like someone raised with good morals. My dad even joked that I shouldn’t waste time before she escapes.
At first, everything was smooth. She always knew what to say, how to behave, and how to make me feel comfortable. But over time, I began to notice some strange things.
This girl no get emotion. I’m serious. If I tell her something deep or painful, like when I lost my uncle, she’ll just say “Sorry dear,” with straight face and continue what she’s doing. No hug, no concern, nothing.
But if I do something small that hurts her ego maybe I forget to call her or delay reply she’ll suddenly act emotional, start crying small, saying things like “You don’t love me anymore.” I later realized it was all performance.
She also had this scary way of reading people. She’d meet someone once and already know what to say to get what she wanted. I saw her manipulate her friend one time without raising her voice just calm words and fake sympathy.
When we argued, she’d use things I told her when I was vulnerable against me. She remembered every little thing I said and turned it around perfectly to make me feel guilty. I go end up apologizing for something I didn’t even do wrong.
Outside, everybody thought she was perfect. My friends used to say, “Guy, no let that babe go o, she get sense.” Meanwhile, I was the one dying silently inside.
When I finally decided to leave, she didn’t beg, didn’t even look surprised. She just smiled and said, “You’ll come back. People like you always do.” That line shook me to my core.
This girl taught me something: not everyone who looks calm is peaceful. Some people are emotionally cold but know exactly how to pretend otherwise. They don’t feel emotions they study them and use them.
Since then, I’ve learned that love without empathy will drain you. Some people are not violent, but the way they play with your mind go humble you.
So when people talk about toxic relationships, I just laugh. Because not all toxicity comes from shouting and fighting. Some come quietly, in the form of peace that slowly destroys you.
YEAH SHES MY SPEC .. two cold ass beings moving with purpose ..
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Blazebond(m): 7:31am On Oct 14, 2025
You need to make sure you wife her,she has a very strong personality and you are just acting up because sadly you are weak.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Mcslize: 7:46am On Oct 14, 2025
The one that invests the most is the one that finds it hard to leave, while the one that invests the least is the one that finds it so easy to leave without looking back.

She might be right. You might end up going back to beg her cuz you are the one investing in the relationship.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by MrBroke(m): 8:19am On Oct 14, 2025
Blazebond:
You need to make sure you wife her,she has a very strong personality and you are just acting up because sadly you are weak.
Exactly. Na my type b dat self
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Pwaco(m): 8:30am On Oct 14, 2025
Please my Brother, run away from that Girl.

Please, run. I have one like that in the past, the first day her eyes clear it was the day I also play her game perfectly well. Just end everything.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by nigeriaposter:
I m currently married to one. My Dad even adopted her as a daughter, even included her in his will. Until she showed him her real character.

That girl will first you marry, if she wants to. They are highly likable.

As a mother, she is very good to her children. But I have being training the boys not to give in the manipulative nature of their mother.

As for wife, she has nothing on me. The only power she gets is s*xx, and I get alternatives for that.

I told her once, if I must carried you go abroad, I would not do mistake go UK or USA, it is Afghanistan we will go.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by zoghys: 9:44am On Oct 14, 2025
papiSNEH:
This one na real daughter of jezebel
Don't be quick to judge.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by cr7lomo: 12:36pm On Oct 14, 2025
Your father said " be quick to do the needful b4 she escapes "... seems like she herself escaped from mental institution
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Sammy101111(m): 2:22pm On Oct 14, 2025
Mcslize:
The one that invests the most is the one that finds it hard to leave, while the one that invests the least is the one that finds it so easy to leave without looking back.

She might be right. You might end up going back to beg her cuz you are the one investing in the relationship.
Bro you too wise on of my ex show me Pepe she will do something wrong when I tell her I don't like what she did she will say let go for break in relationship oh she did that several times to me one day I found out that break was her not to pick my call act busy and to be with another guy later when I found out I ghosted her in the relationship I just ended the relationship silently he pain because she thought she can control my emotion she will make me happy today make me feel sad the next day. BUT NOW MY EMIONTION ARE STRONG NOW ANYTHING WAY WOMAN DO NO NEW TO ME AGAIN
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by EmperorIsaac(m): 7:39pm On Oct 14, 2025
KillerOfCrackas:
I met this fine fair girl in Woji, Port Harcourt early last year. I went to visit one of my guys, and she was sitting outside her compound pressing her phone. At first glance, I just saw one quiet, decent-looking babe. You know those girls that look innocent and respectful? That was her.
We started talking that day, and she was surprisingly easy to relate with. Within a week, we were already close. Everything about her was calm no drama, no unnecessary talk, always composed. I even told my guy say I don finally jam wife material.
Even my parents liked her. The first time she came to visit, my mum couldn’t stop praising her. She helped in the kitchen, greeted everyone politely, and behaved like someone raised with good morals. My dad even joked that I shouldn’t waste time before she escapes.
At first, everything was smooth. She always knew what to say, how to behave, and how to make me feel comfortable. But over time, I began to notice some strange things.
This girl no get emotion. I’m serious. If I tell her something deep or painful, like when I lost my uncle, she’ll just say “Sorry dear,” with straight face and continue what she’s doing. No hug, no concern, nothing.
But if I do something small that hurts her ego maybe I forget to call her or delay reply she’ll suddenly act emotional, start crying small, saying things like “You don’t love me anymore.” I later realized it was all performance.
She also had this scary way of reading people. She’d meet someone once and already know what to say to get what she wanted. I saw her manipulate her friend one time without raising her voice just calm words and fake sympathy.
When we argued, she’d use things I told her when I was vulnerable against me. She remembered every little thing I said and turned it around perfectly to make me feel guilty. I go end up apologizing for something I didn’t even do wrong.
Outside, everybody thought she was perfect. My friends used to say, “Guy, no let that babe go o, she get sense.” Meanwhile, I was the one dying silently inside.
When I finally decided to leave, she didn’t beg, didn’t even look surprised. She just smiled and said, “You’ll come back. People like you always do.” That line shook me to my core.
This girl taught me something: not everyone who looks calm is peaceful. Some people are emotionally cold but know exactly how to pretend otherwise. They don’t feel emotions they study them and use them.
Since then, I’ve learned that love without empathy will drain you. Some people are not violent, but the way they play with your mind go humble you.
So when people talk about toxic relationships, I just laugh. Because not all toxicity comes from shouting and fighting. Some come quietly, in the form of peace that slowly destroys you.
Why do I suddenly get drawn to that Babe...I just love composed people....I mean people who know how to manage impression in public. grin
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by tanigororo: 7:41pm On Oct 14, 2025
Smart and Intelligent
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by EmperorIsaac(m): 7:42pm On Oct 14, 2025
Blazebond:
You need to make sure you wife her,she has a very strong personality and you are just acting up because sadly you are weak.
No..
He's nor her type...she'd ruin him. He's weak.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by KillerOfCrackas(op): 10:13pm On Oct 14, 2025
Came4amod:
Bro you left .. you were expecting her to beg you .. and she didn't .. it doesn't mean she is a psychopath.. she is just deeper than you . And fact is .. you can't even comprehend her ..
Bro it’s not about her not begging. I didn’t expect that. It’s the way she acted like nothing ever happened no emotion at all. She no just strong, she empty. There’s a big difference between being calm and being cold.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Came4amod: 10:17pm On Oct 14, 2025
KillerOfCrackas:
Bro it’s not about her not begging. I didn’t expect that. It’s the way she acted like nothing ever happened no emotion at all. She no just strong, she empty. There’s a big difference between being calm and being cold.
Bro did you expect her to cry or what ?
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Mcslize: 10:58pm On Oct 14, 2025
Sammy101111:
Bro you too wise on of my ex show me Pepe she will do something wrong when I tell her I don't like what she did she will say let go for break in relationship oh she did that several times to me one day I found out that break was her not to pick my call act busy and to be with another guy later when I found out I ghosted her in the relationship I just ended the relationship silently he pain because she thought she can control my emotion she will make me happy today make me feel sad the next day. BUT NOW MY EMIONTION ARE STRONG NOW ANYTHING WAY WOMAN DO NO NEW TO ME AGAIN
That's it. Once you can control your emotions as a man and have some levels of self dignity and respect, no woman on this earth can manipulate you.
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by Sammy101111(m): 11:16pm On Oct 14, 2025
Mcslize:
That's it. Once you can control your emotions as a man and have some levels of self dignity and respect, no woman on this earth can manipulate you.
But a woman can think she is manipulating you but you just act like that sometimes to make her think she is on line in marriage a woman most manipulate you because you have to give her what she want .so my brother if you marry woman go manipulate you small but na you go wise up . Men can't escape woman manipulation only if you don't want to marry
Re: The Girl I Once Dated Who Is A Sociopath by gerizzim: 7:50am On Oct 15, 2025
KillerOfCrackas:
I met this fine fair girl in Woji, Port Harcourt early last year. I went to visit one of my guys, and she was sitting outside her compound pressing her phone. At first glance, I just saw one quiet, decent-looking babe. You know those girls that look innocent and respectful? That was her.
We started talking that day, and she was surprisingly easy to relate with. Within a week, we were already close. Everything about her was calm no drama, no unnecessary talk, always composed. I even told my guy say I don finally jam wife material.
Even my parents liked her. The first time she came to visit, my mum couldn’t stop praising her. She helped in the kitchen, greeted everyone politely, and behaved like someone raised with good morals. My dad even joked that I shouldn’t waste time before she escapes.
At first, everything was smooth. She always knew what to say, how to behave, and how to make me feel comfortable. But over time, I began to notice some strange things.
This girl no get emotion. I’m serious. If I tell her something deep or painful, like when I lost my uncle, she’ll just say “Sorry dear,” with straight face and continue what she’s doing. No hug, no concern, nothing.
But if I do something small that hurts her ego maybe I forget to call her or delay reply she’ll suddenly act emotional, start crying small, saying things like “You don’t love me anymore.” I later realized it was all performance.
She also had this scary way of reading people. She’d meet someone once and already know what to say to get what she wanted. I saw her manipulate her friend one time without raising her voice just calm words and fake sympathy.
When we argued, she’d use things I told her when I was vulnerable against me. She remembered every little thing I said and turned it around perfectly to make me feel guilty. I go end up apologizing for something I didn’t even do wrong.
Outside, everybody thought she was perfect. My friends used to say, “Guy, no let that babe go o, she get sense.” Meanwhile, I was the one dying silently inside.
When I finally decided to leave, she didn’t beg, didn’t even look surprised. She just smiled and said, “You’ll come back. People like you always do.” That line shook me to my core.
This girl taught me something: not everyone who looks calm is peaceful. Some people are emotionally cold but know exactly how to pretend otherwise. They don’t feel emotions they study them and use them.
Since then, I’ve learned that love without empathy will drain you. Some people are not violent, but the way they play with your mind go humble you.
So when people talk about toxic relationships, I just laugh. Because not all toxicity comes from shouting and fighting. Some come quietly, in the form of peace that slowly destroys you.
you see that line "you will come.back" any lady that utters dt statement is saying so because she knows you like her too much and also assume she is too fine or too good for you to have her.

you know this mindest of "I have dated guys that are way good looking and beta off than you and I drop them so your own case wont move me at all."

I was in a relationship with one like that. she finds it difficult to apologize when she is wrong. Likes to rationalize why she is right and I am wrong in almost every discussion.

The day she told me "you will come back" Na that day i make a detour Frm her.

Even if you try to continue the relationship with her, she will keep treating you as if she is doing you favour by accepting to date you.

Let her go. there are other girls that are much more beta dan her.
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