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AngelSlay:
You're free to live how you want. But understand:

Relationships built on manipulation rarely lead to anything meaningful.

Constantly being a “side guy” might seem fun now, but it often leaves people empty in the long run — because there's no trust, no depth, just cycles of use and escape.


If that’s all you want — cool. But don't pretend it's something noble or wise. It's just one way to live. It has its pros and cons.

You’re not wrong that many “main boyfriends” get played.
But being the side guy doesn’t make you immune — it just makes you a different kind of tool in the game.

Be real with yourself about what you're offering, what you're getting, and what this lifestyle costs you in the long run.

Doesn't make him immune to what?. And would cost him what in the long run?.

The side guy is honest with what he wants and she also replicates such honesty to also playing along and giving him what he wants with little or no strings attached....Should either want out it'll happen without anyone being bitter or vengeful...so what exactly are you driving at?. .

udemzyudex:
Lol... If main bf no too get, na you wey dey form bestie go carry the load.

If him wan carry be that ba?.

Luckysbab:
Is he your side guy, make we know how to join mouth yab am?

He's your sister's side guy, I'm helping her ensure he does his work without too much shalaye.

This O.P. is a novice. Some girls are from marine kingdom while others are possessed by demons. They destroy the lives of boys and men that have intimate.acy with them. They tampered with their destiny from the spiritual realm.

Give your life to God and avoid fornication/adultery.

A word is enough for the wise.

Mattswaggz:
If him wan carry be that ba?.

He go definitely.

SpencerForbes:
Never ask a girl to be your girlfriend

The dey any guy asked a girl to be his gf, that day she immediately loss interest in everything.

Silentgroper:
Gbam!!


Una just dey cast format this days .....

This format has gotten to more cunts than anyone can imagine .

Funny enough, she gives as much attention she gives boify..

But once once, you go drop something like that Sha but it's not definitely as much as boify not even close too ..

Wetin U go drop no reach 0.1% of what her main guy dey drop for her

Goo0dHardDick:
Main boyfriend is another name for "mugu".

I prefer being the side guy in a girl's life or relationship (another name for side guy can be term as "bestie". My job is to just do my thing and leave. The main boyfriends carries all the loads on his head, bills, payments, her feeding etc, while the side guy just keeps satisfying her konji on a steady. This is my story with several girls I have met. They all have boyfriends but yet kept coming to my house on a steady. Mind you they'll be at my place and bill their boyfriends for either anything and the guys won't hesitate to make transfer.

I feel main boyfriends are suffering. It is far better to be the side guy than to be the main boyfriend.

Remember one of my female friend like that , the real boyfriend calls her 247 while she’s in my house.

Thank God I never fall for such girls or have one as my girlfriend

udemzyudex:
He go definitely.

Nope...he might just refuse to and jump to the next available ship that's if not doing so will wreck his "friendship with benefits" relationship with her.

I can relate. She gives me the thing more than she gives her boyfriend. Some guys dey suffer sha.

folake4u:
He's your sister's side guy, I'm helping her ensure he does his work without too much shalaye.

Okay, Folake. Pele dear.

Luckysbab:
Okay, Folake. Pele dear.

Yes, Lucky. Pele mai deer.

folake4u:
Yes, Lucky. Pele mai deer.

Emi ni deer abi? Kare, omore bi iyan.

Steveagro:
It goes both ways it could be the main guy feasting on the side guy cumm

Makes sense! You're right!!

You can only be a side guy for a girl that is from the gutter. No respecting women who value her relationship will be doing this side guy thingy.

This is another crucial point why men should have strong boundaries in a relationship. If she cheat, fling her off like trash. Don’t ever accept cheating from a woman.

Forgive her, understand why she cheat, even assure her that everything will be okay, but don’t accept her.

Your boundaries are deterrence. When they know the repercussions of entertaining such thoughts, then it orient their steps to do the right thing.

And as for the side guy, just make sure you’re not the side guy for the wrong man babe. FAFO (fork around and find out)

Remember that Revenge or aggression based on relational infringement is not proportional. If you veered into another man's territory, then you must accept whatever outcome therein.

You might only kiss her, but pay with your life. Some men no just get joy.

Emeka71:
I simply enter any woman I like at random even without know8ng her; I tell you that thing works better when you touch the people who you don't know; I am more comfortable when I'm with a babe that doesn't know me.

bro how you dey take approach? You stop them on the road ? How...aren't you scared of embarrassment

Tenrack:
bro how you dey take approach? You stop them on the road ? How...aren't you scared of embarrassment

It's simple, bro.
You just have to make the lady feel comfy around you.
If she's someone you often see, don't be in a hurry to get her number. Never ask any girl out. Make her feel extremely comfortable with you and then you withdraw. Do On and Off with her.

Don't feel too attached to her no matter what. Don't be too excited around her. Once once, ignore her. Just be mysterious 😁

Get her number and start acting like her husband or bf... If you are doing it well enough, sooner you'll start hearing stuffs like "you didn't even ask me out" "are we dating?" "What are we"

Continue being the side guy until your time pass you by and those girls will still settle down with other men, you'll keep having trust issues with women and your daughter will be side chick too.

Go build your life with a woman whom all these flashy things doesn't impress.

Goo0dHardDick:
Main boyfriend is another name for "mugu".

I prefer being the side guy in a girl's life or relationship (another name for side guy can be term as "bestie". My job is to just do my thing and leave. The main boyfriends carries all the loads on his head, bills, payments, her feeding etc, while the side guy just keeps satisfying her konji on a steady. This is my story with several girls I have met. They all have boyfriends but yet kept coming to my house on a steady. Mind you they'll be at my place and bill their boyfriends for either anything and the guys won't hesitate to make transfer.

I feel main boyfriends are suffering. It is far better to be the side guy than to be the main boyfriend.

Because you are weak and low-quality.
It’s the same as if a woman wrote why she prefers being a mistress rather than a wife.
You are weak. You cannot offer anything more than what any biological man can. Your genetic legacy is not fit for use or continuation of the species. You have no character. You have no values. What kind of offspring would you leave behind? What qualities would that offspring inherit from you?
Not even in my worst nightmare can I imagine myself in that humiliating role.

goran3310:
Because you are weak and low-quality.
It’s the same as if a woman wrote why she prefers being a mistress rather than a wife.
You are weak. You cannot offer anything more than what any biological man can. Your genetic legacy is not fit for use or continuation of the species. You have no character. You have no values. What kind of offspring would you leave behind? What qualities would that offspring inherit from you?
Not even in my worst nightmare can I imagine myself in that humiliating role.

I am also surprise that a man will feel comfortable in such scenario.
It speaks of low quality and a man who has been pushed down the sexual ladder by mother nature.
In all my dealings, have never seen a lady who feels comfortable playing the second role. They may accept it but believe me, on the long run, they don't like it and will ask where is this relationship heading to? or what will be my end benefit.
No quality man will be comfortable in that role and i repeat it again.
If a rich man likes a woman, he will totally snatch it away from the main man instead of hiding to sleep with her.
He doesn't mind adding her as the second or third wife at home but he won't be sneaking in or out of her apartment. That is left for the men down the sexual ladder.
Quality men have ego and high self esteem. A senator or army general will not hide in the wardrobe or toilet or sneak out through the windown for another man, it is a bruise on his ego but a low quality man will gladly do that while boasting about it.

emmaodet:
I am also surprise that a man will feel comfortable in such scenario.
It speaks of low quality and a man who has been pushed down the sexual ladder by mother nature.
In all my dealings, have never seen a lady who feels comfortable playing the second role. They may accept it but believe me, on the long run, they don't like it and will ask where is this relationship heading to? or what will be my end benefit.
No quality man will be comfortable in that role and i repeat it again.
If a rich man likes a woman, he will totally snatch it away from the main man instead of hiding to sleep with her.
He doesn't mind adding her as the second or third wife at home but he won't be sneaking in or out of her apartment. That is left for the men down the sexual ladder.
Quality men have ego and high self esteem. A senator or army general will not hide in the wardrobe or toilet or sneak out through the windown for another man, it is a bruise on his ego but a low quality man will gladly do that while boasting about it.

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emmaodet:
I am also surprise that a man will feel comfortable in such scenario.
It speaks of low quality and a man who has been pushed down the sexual ladder by mother nature.
In all my dealings, have never seen a lady who feels comfortable playing the second role. They may accept it but believe me, on the long run, they don't like it and will ask where is this relationship heading to? or what will be my end benefit.
No quality man will be comfortable in that role and i repeat it again.
If a rich man likes a woman, he will totally snatch it away from the main man instead of hiding to sleep with her.
He doesn't mind adding her as the second or third wife at home but he won't be sneaking in or out of her apartment. That is left for the men down the sexual ladder.
Quality men have ego and high self esteem. A senator or army general will not hide in the wardrobe or toilet or sneak out through the windown for another man, it is a bruise on his ego but a low quality man will gladly do that while boasting about it.

Exactly. Just like that.

Her main bf stays behind my apartment and have been dating him for 3 years but she sneaks to my apartment to collect some dike...

Last time I overheard her telling her bf she loves him more than words can 😆

that is simply the reason success run far away from them. they've redesigned their lives to be of zero responsibilities. that mindset seat their ass on a spot and settling for worthless lifestyle on account of 'I have nothing to worry about'. mind you, the woman is growing financially and otherwise, her kids are growing, the emotional support she gets from the side guy is much valued than the s3xx the side guy thought he was getting for free. he is being used but thought he was actually using the woman. 3 things are relevant in every human's life. (1) Financial/career growth (this is termed fulfilment depending on our various choice) (2.) Family Uprightness and (3.) Emotional stability.

A woman sensibly checkmate herself irrespective of how senseless men perceived them to be, and use what she set out as value in that checklist she prepared a long time ago for her choice of partner. this tells you they are never carried away nor 'loose guard as you guys always think.

for as long as a woman's career is not affected, her family is upright, and her finances is stable, every other thing that happened is just a spice in her growth. she is using you but u on the other side think you used her..

think about it, how is it easy for men to settle with intimacy gadgets compared with how heavy demand for vibrators has gone in our society today.. thats to tell you that women needs that s3xx more than you do and if you think you are winning by settling to be a side guy, you might end up using your precious life time as a guy to spice up and complete that emotional needs of many women without you growing.

Emotional stability is golden. many people would pay any amount to have it. that is just what they lack, and seeing you as a donkey who would jump at anything painted differently is a big opportunity..

they only use you guys to complete their lives and exercise their se3xxual fantasies. her kids are growing, her business is booming, her marriage or relationship is intact, but the side guy on the other side have nothing to point at as you would constantly focus on being a nice dude and pretend to feel her pains.. (emotional services to make her life whole and complete).

AngelSlay:
You're free to live how you want. But understand:

Relationships built on manipulation rarely lead to anything meaningful.

Constantly being a “side guy” might seem fun now, but it often leaves people empty in the long run — because there's no trust, no depth, just cycles of use and escape.


If that’s all you want — cool. But don't pretend it's something noble or wise. It's just one way to live. It has its pros and cons.

You’re not wrong that many “main boyfriends” get played.
But being the side guy doesn’t make you immune — it just makes you a different kind of tool in the game.

Be real with yourself about what you're offering, what you're getting, and what this lifestyle costs you in the long run.

kpankpangolo:
Welcome to Nairaland: anything makes front page. We got rid of trolls only to realize their presence stimulated engagement.

Seun caused this. Very weak content on FP. Who are the mods

That life... it's fun sometimes