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She Mentions Other Men to Gauge Your Insecurity
She'll casually drop names, like it's no big deal – "My trainer was saying something like that...", "My boss is super sharp...", "Jason used to take me to this place...". She's not praising these guys; she's probing you. To see if you get jealous, if your vibe shifts, or if you start competing. Most guys trip up here, getting insecure without realizing it. To pass? Stay chill. Be confident and unbothered.

She Holds Back Sex to Check Your Strength
As Chanakya once said, "Women are twice as hungry, four times as shy, six times as daring, and eight times as lustful as men." If you think she's just "not in the mood", you've already missed the point. She's testing your stability – will you beg, do favors, act like you need to "earn it"?

She Pulls Away to See If You'll Chase or Lead
She goes cold – less texts, distant vibe, says she "needs space". Not 'cause she's out, but 'cause she's watching you. Most guys freak out, texting nonstop, over-explaining. That just proves she thought: you need her more than she needs you; your worth's tied to her attention; you're reactive and easy to steer.

She Flirts with Other Men to Test Your Confidence
Like a lioness testing her lion by circling his turf's edge. She'll playfully interact with others – enough for you to notice, not enough to cross a line. She's checking if you'll stand your ground. Not looking for another guy; testing you.

She Disrespects You in Public to Check If You're a Leader
She mocks you, disses your take, or shows disrespect in front of folks. And most guys? Laugh it off, keep peace, act like it doesn't matter. But it does. She's testing your authority – will you correct her, or slide to avoid clash?

She Cries to See If You'll Apologize (When You Did Nothing Wrong)
Tears have stopped kings at war – today, she still uses this, not for affection but to test your grit. Most guys fold, apologizing to ease tension. But tears aren't always hurt; can be power plays disguised as feels.

She Starts Drama to Check If You Handle Heat
Like blacksmiths testing weapons with fire, pressure. She provokes drama, ramps up issues – testing your emotional toughness. Not comfy testing; she's putting you in emotional "fire".

She Plays Hard to Get to See If You'll Beg for Attention
As Robert Greene said, "Absence builds respect... when it feels earned." But many guys fall hard, chasing when she pulls back. She slows responses? They speed up. She takes her time? They rush to prove it. She makes them work for scraps, and they give it all.

Or maybe she's lost interest and you need to respect yourself more, end the relationship and move on.

That's ninety percent more likely. But most men aren't ready to have this conversation.

Cybertroll:
Or maybe she's lost interest and you need to respect yourself more, end the relationship and move on.

Moving on is cool, but suppose every sign is pointing to breakup - what is the point of being in a relationship, right?

Unless you are not ready to live with a woman, but if you are going to cohabit, you gotta learn to spot the signs. Some signs mean she wants to leave, some mean she is testing you. If you can read them both, you are above their games, man.

Women are like grown babies - throwing tantrums sometimes. But if you are a solid dude, you laugh it off, do not play into their emotional vibes. Stand above that mess, and she will likely give you respect.

In relationships, respect is way better than love

I don't really have any fantasies for any girl or ladies no matter how beautiful you are, l don't love and neither will l be like those weak men who will kneeling down to give you ring or flowers for you to marry them, it's absolutely a bullshit to me, since the day I came across Bible is when I've known that if someone start sleeping with your married woman, take it or leave it, the man is already a dead man

Pupanchie:
I don't really have any fantasies for any girl or ladies no matter how beautiful you are, l don't love and neither will l be like those weak men who will kneeling down to give you ring or flowers for you to marry them, it's absolutely a bullshit to me, since the day I came across Bible is when I've known that if someone start sleeping with your married woman, take it or leave it, the man is already a dead man

Nice take. If you've trained yourself and mastered escaping seduction, that's top-notch mastery right there. There's gotta be a reason behind your emotional detachment.

Sometimes it's just a phase, and down the line you might realise you still need them. I dig that you don't 'express' love – good sign. In any relationship, the real demands are respect and loyalty, not love. That's what sets genz apart from the ancestors. Women don't really need all that lovey-dovey stuff; they need a man who leads, provides, and cares for them proper.

SpencerForbes:
Moving on is cool, but suppose every sign is pointing to breakup - what is the point of being in a relationship, right?

Unless you are not ready to live with a woman, but if you are going to cohabit, you gotta learn to spot the signs. Some signs mean she wants to leave, some mean she is testing you. If you can read them both, you are above their games, man.

Women are like grown babies - throwing tantrums sometimes. But if you are a solid dude, you laugh it off, do not play into their emotional vibes. Stand above that mess, and she will likely give you respect.

In relationships, respect is way better than love

Bless Up 🤗😊

The key is to give them drama or little wahala from time to time, to keep them occupied and contemplating. Make she sef dey analyse her Oga. Later ask for forgiveness. Why should man always be the one on the receiving end.

xtianchris:
Bless Up 🤗😊

Thanks 🙏

Hypnotise:
The key is to give them drama or little wahala from time to time, to keep them occupied and contemplating. Make she sef dey analyse her Oga. Later ask for forgiveness. Why should man always be the one on the receiving end.

That's on point. Keeping a relationship spicy means staying mysterious – don't give it all away. Unpredictability is key; once they can read you like a book, you're done. They crave adventure, so keep them guessing.

Play that push-pull game: hot one day, a bit chill the next. Keep sparking her curiosity, make her wonder what's next, and she'll be drawn in. That's the bad boy magic.

But don’t be as emotional as a lady.

She should keep it up until the man lands in the hands of who values him more

Authoreety:
She should keep it up until the man lands in the hands of who values him more

Crazy part is all ladies sh*T test. So even the ones that love him will still test him- for stability, protection etc. if you don’t pass the test, you’ll lose even the ones you love; But if pass the test (comportment) she won’t only love you but respect you more for seeing through her BS.

SpencerForbes:
Crazy part is all ladies sh*T test. So even the ones that love him will still test him- for stability, protection etc. if you don’t pass the test, you’ll lose even the ones you love; But if pass the test (comportment) she won’t only love you but respect you more for seeing through her BS.

That's cool until it isn't cool anymore ... Men have more to worry about than women BS

Authoreety:
That's cool until it isn't cool anymore ... Men have more to worry about than women BS

Relationships come in all forms, but if you're looking to take things further, showing a bit care towards the other person is good.

If you've managed to reach a point where you're emotionally detached, that's impressive – but be aware of the long-term implications. She might move on to someone else because you've given her space and excuse, and that's not necessarily bad unless you start losing your cool over it.

Bottom line: if you can keep your composure when she cheats, you're golden. Emotional detachment has its perks in relationships, but if you're serious about commitment and taking on a patriarchal role, having some emotional investment helps – keeps you grounded and stops you from coming off as an irresponsible parent.

Just be sure to draw the line between ‘a little care’ and simping.

The reason women have an advantage over men when it comes to relationship is because while we were focusing on engines and construction, they were focusing on how to be a good wife and partner – learning how to cook, dress to attract, and so on.

Some people might question why we should study about women; yet later they end up marrying newspapers or single parents, and within 5 years, the relationship collapses because they didn't grasp dating dynamics.

Some of us grew up without having proper discussions with our parents about the dating sphere, leading us to think women are mysterious. If we had done our homework, we would have understood the game and maybe navigated it better

But we're seeing lots of young men hurting from heartbreak because of it.

Hypnotise:
The key is to give them drama or little wahala from time to time, to keep them occupied and contemplating. Make she sef dey analyse her Oga. Later ask for forgiveness. Why should man always be the one on the receiving end.

God bless you for saying this!

Personally, na my favourite tactics be this! Ladies shouldn't think they alone have the monopoly of messing with our heads. Sometimes, meself dey whyne dem like steering.

#Picks_tooth

SpencerForbes:
Relationships come in all forms, but if you're looking to take things further, showing a bit care towards the other person is good.

If you've managed to reach a point where you're emotionally detached, that's impressive – but be aware of the long-term implications. She might move on to someone else because you've given her space and excuse, and that's not necessarily bad unless you start losing your cool over it.

Bottom line: if you can keep your composure when she cheats, you're golden. Emotional detachment has its perks in relationships, but if you're serious about commitment and taking on a patriarchal role, having some emotional investment helps – keeps you grounded and stops you from coming off as an irresponsible parent.

Just be sure to draw the line between ‘a little care’ and simping.

Is like u studied romantic relationship in school, kudos

Africanwardrobe:
Is like u studied romantic relationship in school, kudos

I’m still learning the ropes and I believe the more I teach, the more knowledge I get. Self experience and experience from others have always been my greatest teacher.

Thanks.

Immature women play games. Children. A sensible woman who has any iota of sense in her head does not play these so-called games.

So as I dey so, one woman go do all this, and I have to look out for all of this? She go wait tayah o. I do not wait to set boundaries against these signs of childishness and feminine idiocy. From the beginning, the Standards and boundaries are set. The full circle of masculine attraction starts with self-respect, expands through leadership, radiates through confidence, matures into boundaries, heightens with mystery and touch, stabilizes through emotional safety, and culminates in purpose - Very strong purpose. No woman's vagina is worth all this wahala.

Anyway, to the men that have any iota of self-respect in them...A healthy woman doesn’t need to flirt with others, withhold sex, start drama, or disrespect you just to “see what you’ll do.” That’s not femininity. That’s poor communication and, to simply put it, a very foolish woman.Only low-quality men tolerate those behaviors and call it “a test.” High-quality men don’t decode them. They don’t chase them. They don’t excuse them. They simply step back, set standards, and choose better. Sometimes she mentions people in her life because… they exist. Sometimes she pulls back because she’s is not interested and her true nature is showing. And sometimes, too, she’s emotional because she lacks zero emotional intelligence and self-regulation.

Last last sha men will learn. Learn that at the end of the day, strong relationships aren’t built on childish otakara jeleosimi mind games. They’re built on two people who don’t need to test each other to feel secure. But just know, that to some men, you play these games and you are out. Their world does not revolve around a particular woman's vagina. They have better purpose(s) to chase in life than indulge your stupidity and play these games.

10thTenthMan:
Immature women play games. Children. A sensible woman who has any iota of sense in her head does not play these so-called games.

So as I dey so, one woman go do all this, and I have to look out for all of this? She go wait tayah o. I do not wait to set boundaries against these signs of childishness and feminine idiocy. From the beginning, the Standards and boundaries are set. The full circle of masculine attraction starts with self-respect, expands through leadership, radiates through confidence, matures into boundaries, heightens with mystery and touch, stabilizes through emotional safety, and culminates in purpose - Very strong purpose. No woman's vagina is worth all this wahala.

Anyway, to the men that have any iota of self-respect in them...A healthy woman doesn’t need to flirt with others, withhold sex, start drama, or disrespect you just to “see what you’ll do.” That’s not femininity. That’s poor communication and, to simply put it, a very foolish woman.Only low-quality men tolerate those behaviors and call it “a test.” High-quality men don’t decode them. They don’t chase them. They don’t excuse them. They simply step back, set standards, and choose better. Sometimes she mentions people in her life because… they exist. Sometimes she pulls back because she’s is not interested and her true nature is showing. And sometimes, too, she’s emotional because she lacks zero emotional intelligence and self-regulation.

Last last sha men will learn. Learn that at the end of the day, strong relationships aren’t built on childish otakara jeleosimi mind games. They’re built on two people who don’t need to test each other to feel secure. But just know, that to some men, you play these games and you are out. Their world does not revolve around a particular woman's vagina. They have better purpose(s) to chase in life than indulge your stupidity and play these games.

Nice take 👍